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Thank you for your encouragement. I'm not sure that I will do that because, while I do not want to harm her, I also do not want to put here in a place to victimize another USC. This needs to put a red flag on her UCSIS immigration papers. I'm not vindictive but I am truly upset that we were played like this and my 15-year-old daughter got hurt. That is the worst thing of all. This has strengthened my stance on illegal immigration because I now see evidence of how it is harmful.

Her true feelings were confirmed when I came home to find all of her belongings gone; closets cleaned out without even saying anything. My 15-year-old daughter is hurt over it because she won her over. She would hug her every morning before school and yet, this person left without even as much as saying bye.

Here is an update. She was off work yesterday. When I got home, all of her clothes were gone, and she took her car. No texts. No responses. I have no idea where she went or where she is. But she obviously panicked when I mentioned court. None of this make sense. I am trying to work, I had trouble sleeping last night, and I am in a cloud of confusion. What's worse is that I am a pastor and nearly lost my church (and housing) over marrying her too quickly. I had to do a lot of convincing for them to allow me to stay. With this happening, I will surely have to leave (which means my 15-year-old daughter and I will lose our housing). It is adding to stress because I am now faced with holding off as long as I can from telling the church leaders (luckily, she never attends because she is always working. So, they will assume... but that can only go so long until they find out she left). So, I have to continue preaching on Sunday without telling anyone. I will tell them but I'm trying to scramble to make a plan. My 15-year-old daughter loved her, and she is really hurt over this because this woman just vanished without saying anything while leaving us holding the bag. This is an example how real lives can be affected by immigration fraud. When I file for divorce, they may end up having to find her to serve her. I have no idea but one would hope that a divorce judge will understand that and grant the divorce based on her going AWOL.

But if the petition is pulled, does is that considered as "sponsoring" her? Since it wasn't even reviewed?

Let me add that I have already sponsored one immigrant spouse while she was in her home country, and we were together 7 years. If I withdraw this petition (just filed in December), will that disqualify me from future petitions if I ever meet anyone else? Not looking but just wondering how that might go.

She is 42 and I am 54. So, we are both adults. I just feel that she has used excuses to avoid me since we met, which makes me highly suspicious. I know if I am suspicious then certainly an immigration officer will be suspicious. My last thread needs correction: she is talking about going back to Costa Rica but then said last night that she can't.

Greetings, Fellow VJers. I just posted a few days ago and I hope it is okay to post again (not the same topic). My wife and I married in July through the courthouse after only having met two weeks earlier. I am a UCS, and she is from Nicaragua but lived in Costa Rica since she was a kid. She applied for asylum at the border when paroled on the basis of her Nicaraguan citizenship. She lived in another state about three hours away. I admit marrying that quickly was a rash decision, and I did not know or understand the parole/asylum process. After we married, she did not want to move in with me immediately because her church told her that we weren’t really married until we married through the church (so she said). So, we had very little relations. When she came to visit my house, she would bring a friend and she and I would sleep in separate rooms. I spent 18,000 on the wedding pulled from my retirement. We got married through the church in September. It was a beautiful wedding. She proclaimed her love and even sang to me! She moved in and then quickly went to work that took her out of the home over 15 hours a day, four days a week. I’m a pastor of a church and she conveniently worked during church time (an English-speaking church). While away, she does not text me at all. 15 hours go by with radio silence. Even when she is home, she does not text me and often is slow answering my texts. I have noticed a pattern in her behavior. In front of my family, her church, or anyone else in public, she is affectionate but in private she doesn’t even want me to put my arm around her at night. She only gives me a peck when she kisses me, and it is usually limited to one or two a day. Last week, things finally came to a head. She literally said to me that she wants to be married for the sake of the church and my kids but in private, we are not mates and even invited me to go out and fill my needs elsewhere if I need it because we are not doing anything else. When I tell her I love her, she doesn’t respond and says it is not something that she says often – though she tells everyone else, family members including my daughter that she loves them without a problem. Then I found on an old Facebook page her proclaiming love for a man in Costa Rica who she has been with for over 15 years and that was only four months before she met me. She said that one day they will be back together, and their hearts will beat as one. She is not active on that page, and I gave her the benefit of the doubt that it was a past love. I don’t want to get so personal here and air out my laundry, but many of you have seen and experienced this type of thing. I told her today that I’m thinking about a divorce based on the lack of communication, the feeling that she has avoided me since we met and the lack of affection (no touching, no holding, no kissing, very limited physical contact). When I brought up the word court, instead of taking it in context of what I meant – divorce court – she immediately assumed that I meant immigration court and went into a whole tirade about how she doesn’t need (…) papers. I am a pastor, and we live in a parsonage. I have put my whole life, my retirement and even my housing on the line for her and I am getting suspicious because the evidence is beginning to point in that direction. What are your thoughts? I'll probably need therapy after this, but I know that you all are familiar with this sort of thing. Your thoughts are appreciated.

Greetings, fellow VJers. Last summer, my wife and I married here in the United States. I am a USC, and she was born in Nicaragua. I didn't fully understand her status at that time. Turns out, she crossed the border, was detained and paroled. She was given a parole stamp and an appointment. An attorney also helped her start an Asylum petition based on her Nicaraguan citizenship. I think that Nicaragua was on the list as one of the asylum countries (along with Cuba, Venezuela, Haiti, and a few others). If I understand correctly that asylum country list has been suspended under the present administration. I took her to her Master hearing appointment in her state and she petition for a change of address based on her being married to me (I indicated on the change of address form that I am a UCS) that she resides in our state. The judge approved it and extended her next hearing date for 2026. That gave us time to get the I-130 started. I filed the petition in December 2023. I also included a notarized bona fide affidavit to accompany the petition, because I knew that she was facing deportation while seeking asylum. However, I didn't know it fully- or understand it fully until after we married. We kept the asylum case open while applying for the CR-1 visa. We know quite well that we will likely face extra scrutiny because of her status. So, we are mentally preparing for it. The latest is that she just learned that her sister is terminally ill and has been hospitalized. She is now talking about self-deporting and for me to continue the petition from here because she knows that, once she leaves the USA, she will not be able to return unless approved. Quite frankly, I am not in favor of her leaving, but I do understand that family is important and also her being home and I'm even thinking that applying while she is in her home country might make thing go a little easier with UCSIS, though I'm not certain. Here is the question: I've already filed the petition. So, if she goes home, do I withdraw this I-130 petition and start a new one as filing to bring her back? Or is there any way to adjust the current petition already filed by indicating that she returned home? Either way, UCSIS will have to be notified that she is not in the USA. Or is it even necessary to make changes? Do we address them later as the case proceeds? Will her going home make things go smoother even given the fact that she did cross the border but was technically in the authorized since she was paroled with a pending asylum petition? We are also quite aware that those laws are quickly changing. I am a professional and a law-abiding citizen and I always want to do things the right way, which is why I am coming on here to ask for opinions based on your own knowledge.

Hello VJers. Is it better to file an I-130 online or by paper? Does it make a difference? They have changed a lot since I filed several years ago and I just want to make sure. Thanks for your input.

Hello. I am a USC and getting ready to file an I-130 for my wife. She was born in Nicaragua and later migrated to Costa Rica where she obtained dual citizenship betwen the two countries. The problem is that she is having trouble obtaining her birth certificate from Nicaragua because some recent changes in the government making it nearly impossible for anyone who left Nicaragua to obtain government issued documents. However, since she has citizenship with Costa Rica, her birth certificate is accessible through the Costa Rican government. The birth certificate indicates that she was born in Nicaragua. She also has unexpired passports from both Nicaragua and Costa Rica. So all the documents are in order with the exception of the birth certificate directly from Nicaragua. My question is if the birth certificate obtained from Costa Rica might be acceptable by USCIS? It seems that there are some guidelines for documents that cannot be obtained by certain countries due to external circumstances (corruption, missing records, etc) but I cannot find any information on it. We want to make sure everything is correct and in order before sending the petition so as to avoid an RFE. Thank you for any information you can provide.

Hello everyone. The USCIS website, one line reads, "If you are a U.S. citizen you may petition for unmarried sons and daughters (21 and over)... My understanding is that stepkids are piggy backed on the same petition as my spouse? Does this include stepkids of a USC or it in reference to biological children of a USC? Thanks.

No, I am not 100% certain. She crossed the border and she was processed at the port of entry. She then entered and does not have a work or travel permit. She is in process of seeking asylum. My question is simply if I can file the I 130 first then the I 485 or if they have to be filed concurrently.

Fingerprinted and pics. She is an asylum seeker.

She was processed. She goes to see immigration periodically. Do I file I-160 and I-485 together? Or can they be filed at separate times through the process?

Hello, I am a USC and my wife and I recently married. She is an asylum seeker, meaning that she has been processed (no work/travel permit) and she goes to routine immigration appointments. Which form do I file for a marriage based Visa? I-485 Adjustment of Status or I-130 Petition for Alien Relative Thanks for your help.

Greetings: I am a US citizen and my wife is an asylum seeker. We were married by the court on July 9 (civil ceremony) and we are having a church ceremony on Sept 14. We know that we are legally married as of Jine 9. So, should we mention the 2nd cermony in the petition? Would it hurt, help our case or not make any difference? Thanks for the input.