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I checked in the UCSIS site and the application has not been withdrawn as of yet. I sent the withdraw request in January. It says... Case Was Received and A Receipt Notice Was Sent On December 20, 2024, we received your Form I-130, Petition for Alien Relative, Receipt Number , and sent you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX receipt notice or acceptance notice. The notice describes how we will process your case. Please follow the instructions in the notice. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschange to give us your new mailing address.

I'm not sure what you mean by working on a VAWA claim. Another target? Explain? I don't like her showing up at my house unannounced. Luckily there were two people there with me.

Hello everyone! Thank you so much for walking with me through this mess. There aren't enough words to describe how much your advice and encouragement are appreciated. As an update, let me say that she showed up to meet me at my lawyer's office where she signed the divorce papers with the notary present. After signing the papers, she has tried to meet up with me. I told her no I'm not interested. She has been blocked from all communication except one (a phone line) and the only reason I left it open is for her to get her things. The divorce papers are signed by both of us and the only thing left to do is to have a date scheduled for the judge to sign off on them. My Concern: I discovered that she is now stalking me from across the street. She sits in her vehicle watching my house. And last night, I had a friend over where we with my daughter were watching a movie relaxing at home and she showed up out of the blue to pick up her things. I asked her to come back later because she was interrupting my evening. She was adamant about getting her things at that very moment. She was alone and the positive thing is that I had two witnesses there (my daughter and a friend). I will be contacting my lawyer. She texted me today to say that she hopes I'm happy and will never be back again.

My attorney said to keep her mail and offer to give it to her. She still has some things left behind (though she hasn't made an effort to pick it up). As per advice of my attorney, they are all stored in boxes. The attorney said do not get rid of anything until the divorce is finalized.

She has a pending Master Hearing for Deportation court date set for 2026. When the TPS terminates, will that court date be cancelled? The USCIS case status has not been updated. I haven't heard anything back about them cancelling the I-130. It was about three weeks ago when I sent it through certified mail. I did confirm that it was received.

The EAD was approved based on her having an active I-130? I'm confused. I was thinking it was because she had a Parole Stamp and a a Asylum Petition pending. I noticed that her EAD was approved quickly in 3 weeks of filing if my memory serves me correctly.

But can that come back on me in any way? What concerns me is that she could claim that I was part of it (not true) or that it could strengthen her VAWA (if that is what she is doing) because I understand that threats to call ICE is a basis for VAWA. Do I understand correctly? She needs to be deported because she is definitely acting on the level of criminal at this point (IMO). My lawyer said that they are not concerned with immigration but only with the divorce.

I'm confused. What does the I-130 cancellation have to do with the EAD?

So, I shouldn't report her? Just let her fall on her own sword? Because I would imagine that a VAWA claim will have to be supported with evidence (there is none).

What is interesting is about two hours before she supposedly "lawyered up", she sent a picture of some things at a store (backpack, etc) and asked me to buy them for her. My attorney's office said the fact that she used the phrase, "I'm going to court" is a dead giveaway that she probably doesn't have a lawyer because people don't go to court. They go to mediation. I would be surprised if she goes to court because of her immigration status unless she actually thinks having a SSN card and a work permit somehow grants her residency. My guess is that, if she does actually have a lawyer, then it is a friend of a friend calling himself a lawyer, as happens so often in the underground illegal immigrant community. They operate outside the system anyway. Sorry to vent. Just tired of the nonsense. I was the one defrauded and it continues.

Well the fact that she is still using my address is grounds enough for her to be deported. I will tell them that she has been out of the home since mid-January and I don't where she is though she is continuing to use my address. I'm truly considering reporting her. My lawyer fears that is could backfire. I'm not sure how. I have evidence upon evidence including her offering me 3000.

No proof. No evidence. No pictures. No police. Nothing but her claims. That is the reason that I did not allow her back into the house three weeks ago. And if she claims that then I can show them texts of her begging to spend the night (which was a set up). So, I'm trying to beat the temptation of reporting her for immigration fraud. I'm tired of this and I don't need her signature.

Thank you all so much for your help through this. Not only is this forum therapeutic, but it is helping me to avoid potential pitfalls. She texted me yesterday asking for my lawyer's number and was saying that she has a lawyer and that she is going to court. I contacted my lawyer and was told that, until they hear from her lawyer, we will proceed along the timeline (no response in 30 days, it goes toward default). They said that people say they have lawyers all the time but it is just a bluff. I'm tired of dealing with the games and I asked if I should just go ahead and call ICE but was told that I should wait because it could somehow backfire on me. How is calling ICE backfiring when she literally committed immigration fraud? Her Tik Tok showed up on my email. She has a picture of a pregnancy stick showing positive. It is real because it is on her bed (I recognize the blanket). Nothing was written. Just the picture and no comments. I'm quite concerned that she is going to try and claim that it is mine but that is impossible because we haven't had intimacy since December and even then it wasn't full intimacy (I won't disclose details). She has been out of the home since mid-January (who knows where she has been or what she has been doing). This is relevant because she tried to say she was pregnant back early December when we were still together after telling me that she could not have kids. Her youngest son is 18 and she had the operation when he was born, according to her. I was questioning even then because she was spending the largest percentage of time away from me and we were barely intimate and not even full on intimacy. As I could predict, she was negative as per her doctor. (What went through my mind at that time, even then, was "anchor baby"). But now she is suddenly posting a positive pregnancy stick? Statistically it is impossible and even so, it cannot be mine. On top of that, she is claiming that I am aggressive and yelled at her, pushed her, etc. None of it is true. No evidence. My question is what would happen if I just go ahead and report her to ICE? I'm not a vengeful person, I'm just trying to protect myself and my daughter from a woman who apparently will stop at nothing to stay in this country. I'm screenshotting all correspondence before blocking her because after you block someone, you can no longer access the texts. I just don't need any more of the stress because I was fine until she texted yesterday.

UPDATE: Thank you all for your words of encouragement and, quite frankly, without VJ, I may have stepped into a trap of a person who may or may not be trying to formulate a VAWA (something I would have never known had it not been for VJ). She was served with divorce papers, and we are no longer corresponding. I haven't heard anything from her. My lawyer said that she will have to be contacted regarding a court date, but he may be able to send it to her last known address at best. At worst, we may have to run a publication for 30 days, which will cost more money. The local church and I met yesterday, and they unanimously approved my remaining. They said they did not trust her from the beginning, and they see it as I have "righted a wrong." Much to my surprise, they are actually supporting this divorce. I did petition to withdraw the I-130 a little over a month ago and I went into to the case status with the IOE number, but it is not showing as updated from December (showing case received). I don't know if there is anything else I can do other than just wait it out. I only sent the I-130 and nothing else. So, I only assuming that it will drop automatically anyway. I can't be stressed over UCSIS because I'm just wanting to walk away from this entire mess and move on with my life.

What you are saying is sobering. I was wondering why she tried so aggressively yesterday to get me to meet with her. She never texts me but then she was texting nonstop from about 2pm until about 7pm trying to persuade me to meet with her. The strange thing was that she would not accept meeting in public. It had to be at home. She was using every excuse in the book by saying things like she wants to see me one last time before she leaves for good (she supposedly has a ticket waiting on her), promising intimacy, and then saying she could come to sign papers. I told her to meet me at UPS to sign in front of a notary. She refused by only agreeing to meet at the house. She said that she could either spent the night or leave after saying proper goodbyes. After being told no, she said she was coming anyway. I told her it would be a wasted trip because I wouldn't be home. I told her I would be out working, which was true. I do some independent work on the side, so I keep myself busy. It had me stressed because I had no idea why this odd behavior. In either case, I got home later and spent the night at home. Didn't hear anything else. It was very odd because this aggressive behavior was coming from the same woman who avoided me for months. She said she had a lawyer and would leave the papers signed with him before leaving.

Thank you so much for the advice but frankly, I'm not concerned with my USCIS reputation because I won't be sponsoring any more immigrants for two reasons. First, it's highly doubtful that I will marry again and second, I'm really only open to American citizens when I'm ready to date again.

What does she stand to gain by building a VAWA? Educate me because I do not understand. People don't do things unless there is something in it for them. I can't see her as a spiteful person. She has to have something in it for herself.

Saying no is one of the hardest things I've had to do in my life because I truly love this woman. But I just have too much to lose, my job as a teacher, my 15-year-old daughter, my life. I can't replace those things. A woman who cannot tell me where she is working/staying and willing to lie to the government about her address, place or origin (Nicaragua for TPS purposes instead of Costar Rica) is one who is quite capable of a lot. It's also interesting that she never texts me at all but over the past three days, the texts have been machine gun one after the other in increments.

I just told her no. I don't want to see her. She said, bye and she will sign the papers. Okay. I just have to remain firm.

I'm just curious and learning. How do immigrants know about VAWA? I really think that is what this is. Again, thanks for VJ for educating me on this; otherwise, I would not have any idea and would probably agree to see her.

You think I'm being baited?

She is proclaiming her love for me. I told her love is expressed by honesty and openness. If she loves me then she will prove it by telling me where she is staying and working. She would not. I even told her that if she will tell me where she is living/working, I will consider dropping the divorce and working toward reconciliation. She still refused to tell me. Then about 10 minutes later, she pressured me into seeing her in person today. She knows that I will be home alone. She made all kinds of promises and told me that she will tell me where she is staying and working face-to-face. I told her that I need to know where she is living/working before she comes. Then turning it onto me by saying that I am choosing not to see her. I really don't know what she is doing by trying too hard to come here. I can't understand what the big secret is. Why can't she tell me where she is living/working via text or phone? Why does it have to be face-to-face. She said I'll understand why she didn't tell me when she does in person. I don't know. It seems that she is trying awfully hard to see me in person. This is the same woman who avoided me for months. I'm truly concerned that there is a motive. She has also stated that she left because I threatened her with immigration (not true, I never mentioned immigration but divorce court). She said that she left out of fear because I yelled at her. I never did yell. It was a disagreement - not even an argument. It is beginning to smell like a VAWA. Would an uneducated immigrant know about VAWA? Just curious. I told her that I will not see her unless she first tells me where she is living/working, and I want an address. Says she'll tell me when she gets here and gave me 30 minutes to respond. Thanks to Visa Journey, I learned about VAWA because, before participating in these forums, I never knew about it.

I haven't blocked her because she still has some things that she needs to pick up (tax forms, etc and she is saying that she is willing to sign the divorce agreement, which would make things easier. My attorney said that, even though she was served, she still has to be informed of the court date. If we can't locate her, then it will still have to be a publication - 30 days, which can cost a few more hundred dollars. I'm trying to save time and money. So, keeping her unblocked helps with planning to end this.

T-Bone, thank you for your words of encouragement. I must be honest and say that I have had moments of weakness, especially when she is asking to come home because I look back wondering if I made a mistake by filing for divorce and canceling the I-30 petition. Did I overreact? Does she really love me? Am I throwing away a woman who really does love me? Those are questions that are needling at me. It seems that now we are at the point of no return because the petition has been cancelled, I have already told the church boards and now in process of them making decisions of my fate as pastor, which will involve locating housing if the vote doesn't go in my favor (that is what I'm expecting to happen). Tradition and polity normally take precedence over grace in this ecclesiastical system. The damage has already been done. I went as far as I could by giving her opportunity after opportunity to return but she waited too late. Things would never be the same now. It's as one suffered irreparable tornado damage. She seems so convincing. But in these moments of weakness, I have to remind myself that she left over a disagreement and then stayed away for 2 months, wanted "weekly Monday dinner dates" for 30 minutes -1 hour with little to no contact between. And the avoidant behaviors before her leaving. What's more is I still do not know where she is or what she has been doing all this time. When she started texting, I had an attack yesterday while at work - severe headache, dizziness to the point of fainting, and trouble staying awake as if my body was shutting down. It might have been the onset of a stroke, I don't know. I went home and slept the rest of the evening and a full night and now I feel better. I just think it is too convenient that she did not want to come back until she got her EAD/SSN cards and now that she was served, she has upped the ante of wanting to come back. This is a woman who barely texted me even when we were together who now machine gun texts. It is stressful to say the least. I only wish I didn't love her but that is what makes it so difficult.

Now that she was served divorce papers, she is asking to come home and reconcile. My attorney predicted this would happen. She says that I have until the end of the month and if I decide no, then she will sign the divorce papers. She doesn't know that I cancelled the marriage visa petition with USCIS. Not surprised. And saying that she is in bad health because of this. I didn't choose to leave. It was her. I told her that apparently, she thinks gringos are gullible. Too old for games. If she signs, then the process will be over quicker and easier.