CityCat

Let me get this correct, sending a woman back who charged me with DV falsely, costing me an enormous amount of money defending my good name, taking her and her children in my heart and taking care of their every need, oh and by the way, she is fluent in English, is mean, then color me the meanest man in the entire world !!

You aren't sending anyone back. All the claims you have made against your former spouse can be taken out in civil court. Defamation, Qui Tam (whistle blower statute for those who report federal false claims), breach of contract, breach of fidiciary duty, or better yet, how about a tort action, something old school like alienation of affection. Guess what, you don't have a leg to stand on any of these accusations especially when the Judge hears that all of this occurred while you were married.

So all you have is the USCIS to send the ultimate revenege, deportation. I am glad the government is doing the enforcement here, rather than private parties. Boy would be in trouble if it was otherwise.

nobody gets a free pass for fraud !!

I completely agree. The poor ladies have to tough it out at least three years before they can dump the:

disgusting fat smelly stupid and angry Yankee

Otherwise they can get themselves in the situation skinsfan has fiduciarydescrrevengeibed.

What? What does it mean?

Guys, be honest to yourself. Would your wife / fiancée still be with you if you were Russian, making a Russian wage, and living in Russia? For example if you met at a café. Ask them if you are not sure. That whole American thing lets the ladies overlook a lot of things. Like age, manners, lack of language, habits, culture, etc.

And again you are right! There is such a discrepancy between cultures that either a HUUUUGE love of an omnipotent $ can overcome it!

Sounds like you speak from personal experience.

Yep, it was first hand.

City, please share. I'm sure many here could benefit from your experience. Please elaborate on your "Visa Journey" from Russia to the USA. I know I'm curious and I'm sure others are too. How did you (a young Russian girl) get a visa to enter the USA (K visa, student visa)?

Cheers,

I prefer not to share personal experience with strangers. Opinion - maybe, info on legal and immigration stuff, papers and documents questions - yes, that's why I am here. But personal things like what my story is and how I came here and who framed me and how, are absolutely irrelevant and not helpful here.

You bothered to put a couple of posts of mine together - why? Are you up to something? What are you trying to prove?

Take a look at the Home Page City...

"Once again, we welcome you and encourage you to become a member of our growing community! Share your experiences and relax here knowing you are not alone! Make sure that you also take the time to add your information to our Immigration Timeline section! -The Visajourney Family"

There is a rather crude saying about opinions City, "Opinions are like a$$hole$, everybody has one". Perhaps it would be wiser to keep your opinions to yourself if you have nothing helpful to contribute.

Cheers!

This is also an opinion, isn't it? Well, besides, a tea-pot calling a cattle black - you didn't have a second thought about opinionating on a couple of other topics.

You are claiming I don't belong here if I don't want to put my privacy in front of a little hostile audience?

I am not, was not and will never put myself in a position of giving or taking any kind of advice that can be considered legal from other than a licensed professional.

False accusations are punishable.

Citycat, you should be very careful with your words. There are 1000s of members here who would argue with you.

I tend to agree with CityCat. If you are in a marriage described by CityCat and you disagree with her; simply put you are as blinded as skinsfan was. Good luck though, sure hate to see your post in a year or two saying my wife scammed me....

THANK YOU SAT!!! Nice to hear a logical voice!

Sounds like you speak from personal experience.

Yep, it was first hand.

City, please share. I'm sure many here could benefit from your experience. Please elaborate on your "Visa Journey" from Russia to the USA. I know I'm curious and I'm sure others are too. How did you (a young Russian girl) get a visa to enter the USA (K visa, student visa)?

Cheers,

I prefer not to share personal experience with strangers. Opinion - maybe, info on legal and immigration stuff, papers and documents questions - yes, that's why I am here. But personal things like what my story is and how I came here and who framed me and how, are absolutely irrelevant and not helpful here.

You bothered to put a couple of posts of mine together - why? Are you up to something? What are you trying to prove?

Let me get this correct, sending a woman back who charged me with DV falsely, costing me an enormous amount of money defending my good name, taking her and her children in my heart and taking care of their every need, oh and by the way, she is fluent in English, is mean, then color me the meanest man in the entire world !! Do you really believe that ####### that you are spewing ?? perhaps you should grow up ... and your description of American men is also a load of #######, i can assure you that is certainly not the case with me, and not knowing the appearance of the other men that have married FSU women and are living very happily together, i am sure their wives would have a large disagreement with you. It is not your business of how i accomplished what i did, i will save that for the people that may need it in the future... and i truely hope i will never be asked for this help....but little girl, nobody gets a free pass for fraud !! get a grip and join the real world.... i am quite certain that if what happened to me and others like me happened to you, you would scream like a stuck pig !! and yes, you offended me and all other American men. you either have a low opinion of American men, or an overly inflated opinion of yourself....and somehow think that FSU women who commit fraud should get a free pass....

Wow! Angry!.. Sorry! Didn't mean to push your buttons...

Ok, first of, false DV is bad and unforgivable, but do you really care what happens to her after the divorce? That's the part I don't understand. You divorce her, your assets are protected, what happens to her is not your care any more. She stays, she goes, how do you bother? That's what I don't get about reporting her.

My "description" of American men was basically a set of stereotypes, exaggerated and ridiculous, that I used to make a point. I love American men, I think they are strong, handsome, smart, great dads and usually good in bed. Now that's my official opinion on the matter.

I dare express my opinion on such situation because I myself have been through the whole drama of wrongful accusations, arrests, deportation threats, being scammed and other "pleasant" things like that. And guess what? I was the victim not the initiator. So I had my share fare of yelling like a stuck pig situations in spite being young.

I personally consider every marriage, international or local, a trade. Sometimes it's fair, sometimes it's not. Life is like this - you never know.

I can tell you also that amongst all my friends all over the country I can't name one that is happy with her American husband. I guess I am the only one who is ok.

I don't really have an opinion on the fraud. And you shouldn't either. You are not an immigration judge, so it's really up to them to decide who should pay for what.

At least she had a courage to leave. I know families where women live miserably with men they don't love till the day they die. Do you think it's better?

With all that said, I rest my case and apologize deeply to the topic starter - no offense was meant.

I gotta go now and give my great-looking and strong and smart and totally American stud a kiss!!!

Don't feed the Trolls.

Nice!

Correct me, if I am wrong, but calling people names is not exactly the most polite thing, whoever you mean by trolls... Please, let's stay civilized.

citycat, there is nothing to suck up, i am ok, but it was a total scam....i know everything completely, and my estranged wife has been ordered to leave the country immediately. i hope nobody else will have this happen, but unfortunately, i have found that my situation is not unique. my advice to anyone else that may encounter this situation is to protect yourself and act quickly with immigration...believe me, these women know how to work the legal system... there are many "how to" sites on the internet. it has been two months of hard work, but i refused to quit even when the odds seemed impossible.....

i am not suggesting that all FSU women are like the woman i married, but she was the best con i ever saw, i never had a clue until the day it happened. i simply will suggest that everyone keep their eye's wide open, and don't be blinded by love. Good luck to all, and i truely wish everyone happiness !!

Also, if it's possible, could you be more specific about the case? Why is she being removed? Did she have a GC? Conditional? You said, you had been married for a year and a half, right? So why would she be deported? She could remove conditions on her own.

Did you report her? That would be really mean...

I am just interested in the legal part of it.

Citycat, you should be very careful with your words. There are 1000s of members here who would argue with you. Please don't make a claim like "every international marriage is a bit of a scam", unless you can back it up. Perhaps you're only speaking about your own marriage.

That wasn't a claim. That was an opinion. I don't believe in international romance, so what?

My marriage is not international per se - we met here and I lived in the country for a while before I met him. More than that, my marriage is nobody's business!

Besides, I mean come on, be honest with yourself - the majority of those women don't even speak the same language with their husbands and I mean, not a word!!! Literary! What is that about? A crush, a lust is possible in this case, love and real marriage? I doubt it.

Again, it's my opinion. I can be wrong.

citycat, there is nothing to suck up, i am ok, but it was a total scam....i know everything completely, and my estranged wife has been ordered to leave the country immediately. i hope nobody else will have this happen, but unfortunately, i have found that my situation is not unique. my advice to anyone else that may encounter this situation is to protect yourself and act quickly with immigration...believe me, these women know how to work the legal system... there are many "how to" sites on the internet. it has been two months of hard work, but i refused to quit even when the odds seemed impossible.....

i am not suggesting that all FSU women are like the woman i married, but she was the best con i ever saw, i never had a clue until the day it happened. i simply will suggest that everyone keep their eye's wide open, and don't be blinded by love. Good luck to all, and i truely wish everyone happiness !!

Well, it is the easiest scam in the world - to stay married for 3 years and then walk with a permanent GC. What is there to know? A gal just gotta be patient enough to survive with a disgusting fat smelly stupid and angry Yankee (I am generalizing and exaggerating, no offense meant) But what surprises me is - how do you care if it was a scam or not? Were you happy with her? I presume you were. Was she a good wife? Yes, probably. Oh, well, she left. Big deal! Scam or no scam, she left. Why do you even need to bother with immigration and laws? To get back at her? Well, that's very manly!..

If you ask me, every international marriage is a little bit of a scam, especially if the country of an international spouse is less fortunate economically, and it's understandable - every girl wants a better pair of shoes, every mother wants a better future for her kids, even if they will never know their real father. So every "I do" agrees not only to love but also to a big sign of $ That's the way it is if women had a courage to admit it. Some of us are just more patient or really hopeless than the other.

russ, are you russian?

Большое спасибо! Нет, я американец. Я изучал русский язик на университете во флориде.

The best compliment I have gotten this year! I guess that I'm an advanced beginner. I still make plenty of mistakes, but don't run to a grammar book or dictianary anymore. My mistakes at least seem to be understandable by Russians now.

Wow, amazing! Good job, Russ! So as I see, you are capable of having a meaningful conversation with you wife, right? Great! She must be very happy!

One thing you may or may not be doing already is listening to Russian music and watching Russian movies/TV. Try something like YouTube and watch a few Via Gra videos. If they can't help (and motivate) you.... nothing can!

To the point, Slim! Motivation is the key concept of learning a language! And those girls can wake up a dead man!

To the topic starter:

you are up to a challenge a life long. Don't try to jump higher than you can - you will be able to understand each other on every day basis soon but for deeper conversations use the language of love! I am not being skeptical about your skills I am being pragmatic about the task - Russian has too much soul, and it takes much longer to grasp the soul than to learn grammar or drill words! Good luck with conversational, though!

Thanks very much!

Welcome! No biggy, any time!

I only had the word out of context in the beginning of a letter. Such as "Привет, подружайка"

Thanks

Yep, female friend, one of the forms of addressing to a friend. Like, "Hi, girl!" or "Hi, pal!"

Can one of the Russian speakers on this site tell me what this word means. I cannot find it in any translators

Are you sure you've spelled it correctly? If yes, it means some sweet way of calling a female friend, basically, a female friend. Also, are you sure it's a noun?

And the worst of the worst, pure smoked pig fat with garlic!

Yaam!! Salo! So nutritious and delicious (my Ukrainian grand-roots talking - it's a national icon there, almost) I miss the stuff, smoked with pepper and garlic with hard-boiled eggs and a piece of fresh-baked bread... Drooling - like Russ' wife I am low-carb, and salo by itself is a bit challenging, to put it mildly.

I found a cow's tongue in a supermarket once and wanted to make a tongue salad for my hubster, who always asks for some Russian food. He saw me cleaning it, sniffed the aroma in the air and I didn't see him for the next 6 hours! Apparently, the intermingling coexistence of Russian and American cuisines in our household almost irretrievably collapsed at that point!

Reading through here guys, I see what we need.

We need a "Guides" section specifically for the Russian visa process. I'm sure if we created one, we could have it pinned by Ewok or another Admin guy. We could also get the "Maps" pinned and things like "Required Documents", "Translations", etc.

Kind of like the generic "guides" section for everyone, but with specifics for people going through the Moscow embassy. Maybe we could do something like that this weekend. Or, we could all chip in and get a list going.

Thoughts..... Ideas.... is it even necessary?

Correct me if I am wrong, but these laws and rules change so often that this guide or list will be useless pretty soon!!! And with the way Russian international policy is going, there may be no point in the whole process what's so ever.

Anyone who claims to be a Steelers fan in a public forum should be on medication.

That aside, I believe what CityCat is saying is life by it's very definition is a struggle and happiness isn't something that just happens becuase you're blessed to be American (or lucky enough to get the visa to America) and living the American Dream. Even if things are going so great for you, according to the American Dream, it's still hard. It's a struggle, and you don't make yourself happy by getting the things you struggle for, you get happy by being happy about something that makes you happy. You have to find happiness somewhere, but guess what? The rest of life is hard. Struggle through it and don't expect to be happy so much!

Or, I can sum it up a lot easier than that - Set your standards a lot lower. You'll be happier when you exceed them. If you have the expectation that life is, by it's very nature, $#!t.... then when something good happens, you'll be happy with it.

Thank you! For this post I'll even ignore (and forgive) your Steelers strike!

Where were you guys when I alone was trying to explain to the confused poster how a translation is not required?

And believe it or not, this question has been popping up on the Russian form for at least the three years that I have been here! And aparently I have been the only one, yet unsuccessfully trying to convince those folks to do nothing with the police certificate except getting the right one.

Sorry, Sat! We should have come forward with it earlier. You did sound pretty convincing on your own, taking into consideration your background and your reputation here.

The police certificate DOES NOT need to be translated, unlike birth certificate, which requires the translation.

This is from first-hand experience and based on the experience to friends of mine. There has NEVER been an issue with it.

Provided it is a Russian police certificate. If it is from another country in another language then it must be translated.

Absolutely correct!!!

Sorry to hear your life sucks. From the facts about your life you have given it sounds like it sucks without reason. You might want to think about getting on some medications that may really help you a lot.

Life can be very beautiful. Enjoy it while it lasts. It doesn't last as long as you think it will. Happiness is a state of mind. Success is a journey not a destination. How could anything in life be a destination. We all end up the same place.

Ha-ha! Again, do I absolutely have to start a special topic and post some kind of certification there that proves that I am not depressed, or psycho (before you ask)?.. Dare to differ.

Life in general sucks, not mine or your, mine and yours, altogether. It's a bloody battle and nobody wins! Isn't it better to except it at the very beginning and be ready for all knives in the back it has for you?

But then again, who am I to be right or wrong? How can it be tested against the trite time proven set of phrases that is used in all appropriate and inappropriate situations and basically none of these phrases mean anything?

Right, as long as you wear your own helmet and cut your own whining and hysterics. But when you start parading your pessimism before depressed and struggling souls, it looks arrogant and unsensitive. "Life sucks" is the last thing they want to hear.

And the first thing they should pay attention to!!! Struggling and depressed souls need to be more struggling and less depressed, and that's where the pessimistic attitude helps.

Besides, if they didn't want to hear a response to their struggling and depressions they shouldn't have put it on a public forum...

Am I the only one in the whole country who realizes how hard life is and how difficult it is to survive, make ends meet, create reputation, build a fortune, do your job in the world of ruthless competition? How is it happiness, I am wondering?

I just have a gut to except it and be honest with the world, not trying to paint it pink no matter what.

Insensitive?.. Well, who would say...

Sounds like you have some strong opinions and you're entitled to them and thanks to the forefathers of this fine land you are even free to express them as distasteful as they may be to others.

Why almost every time somebody who is not American dares have a different perspective, it is shoveled into his/her face, that although his/her opinion is as insignificant and wrong (or, pardon me, distasteful) as it may be it is such a huge and undeserved privilege to be able to express these opinions on this blessed free land to the perfectly tasteful local inhabitants?

Just for the sake of reality check, who is not an immigrant here at some generation level?

With that in mind, national prejudice seems even less appropriate than race prejudice.

Also, I get paid and rewarded by my AMERICAN bosses and colleagues for my "distasteful" opinions, so I'd really appreciate it if you, respected poster, could define your idea of "distasteful" for me not to clutter the forum with them any more? Thank you kindly!

About the position on life:

I'd quote John Kenneth Galbraith: "We all agree that pessimism is a mark of superior wisdom"

So the attitude of "Life sucks, wear the helmet" pays back sometimes. It cuts down whining and hysterics at least by half. And that's exactly what I was trying to say.

The police certificate DOES NOT need to be translated, unlike birth certificate, which requires the translation.

This is from first-hand experience and based on the experience to friends of mine. There has NEVER been an issue with it.

WOW! City... You sound depressed.

Life is what you make of it. At least here in the USA almost anyone can have the opportunity to succeed (or fail). Here it's more of a choice than in some other countries.

Succeed in what? Fail in what? It's the deepest philosophical question: what is happiness?

I have a successful challenging career all lined up in front of me, I live in a great place, have a super sweet new ride, I am also socially successful and if you read my posts discussing some issues of beauty, you'd also know that I am considerably physically attractive (I posted under "noone" then) and relatively healthy. I have a husband that loves me and I love him dearly. Well, guess what?

LIFE STILL SUCKS!

I don't want to bore you with a clinical definition of depression, but I hope you'd take my word for it - I am not depressed.

It's just a stone cold fact - life is a misery by definition. And optimistic Americans try to cover it with glossy smiles on their family pictures.