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Prisonmate

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  1. Did you get a letter stating that your wife's LPR card has been extended for 48 months until they process your case?
  2. She found a job in a "call center" and is living with her clubbing friends. She said she will continue to go to the college on her own but I don't see how she can do it with her new lifestyle and working at the Call Center. Where will she find time to sleep and study and go to school after working the night shift at the call center. Her clubbing activities are important to her so I think she will give up on schooling. It's just funny how other girls her age would love to have someone sponsor them to go to college. Yet, this cousin threw away this opportunity away because her clubbing friends are more important than an education for a better life.
  3. Just an update regarding my wife's cousin. To make a long story short, we had to ask the cousin to leave and we will stop supporting her and paying her college expenses. My wife's family caught the cousin clubbing and not telling the truth of her whereabouts. The cousin was also disrespecting my wife's mom by talking behind her back. Apparently, the cousin's social friends are more important than the family that is supporting her financially. It is sad that others would appreciate financial support to go to school but this cousin rather take a different path.
  4. Thanks to all for your responses. My wife and her family decided to give her one more chance. However, if she gets caught doing it again, she will be kicked out of the house.
  5. Her grades are very good in High School. But I don't trust the grading system there. Teachers give out good grades not on merit but if they like the students. Their education level is not the same as here. She went to a public high school not a private high school. Thank you for your reply.
  6. This is for members that are from the Philippines: We need your opinion on this situation My wife and her family (Mother and sister) in the Philippines are supporting her female cousin ("Maria"). Maria lives with them and has been part of the family for several years now. They treat her very well and supported her schooling all the way to her recent graduation from High School. The plan is to send to her college in the Philippines. Everything was fine until Maria got caught posting photos of herself in her underwear with her face cutoff in a website call Pornview(?). At this point, my wife is upset and feel that Maria no longer deserves her financial help for college. There are other relatives that can use the financial assistance to go to college. Maria is 20 years old. Is my wife wasting her money supporting Maria? My question for other members that understands the Philippine Culture is my wife overreacting? Without college, Maria will have very few career choices in the Philippines. She probably end up doing laundry for others as a job with only a high school degree. What would other members from the Philippines advise in this situation?
  7. Good point. I am teaching her how to invest in ETF's and setting up a ROTH IRA for her.
  8. Thank you for taking the time to write your story. There are others out there that is similar. No matter what your relationship is with your parents now, you're a good daughter and person that took care of their parents as long as they could afford to. I would never impose on my children but other parents are different in their circumstances.
  9. Interesting viewpoint. Thank you for that input. Good question to ponder on.
  10. From my experience here in the USA and in the Philippines, Filipinas are the best workers and earning money for the family. I see too many cases where the Husband and Boyfriends are living off them but that is another subject we don't want to start.
  11. It won't destroy my relationship with my wife but I wonder how long my wife will put up with it. If my MIL live to hundred, my wife will be sending monthly remittance in her 70's. By then, I'll be dead and won't be able to help my wife financially. My wife won't be able to afford to send her Social Security checks to her mother. What will my wife live on then?
  12. I'm sure the monthly remittance is for other miscellaneous and unexpected expenses. My feeling is that we should help family members if they need it and if we can afford to do it. I wonder is it human nature that we are never satisfy with what we have instead of being just grateful.
  13. I've been told also in the Philippine's Culture, the men is suppose to provide everything. If the wife works, it will be nice but the main breadwinner is the man.
  14. Thank you for your input. Not all MIL are the same. Some do not need anything from their children and others depend on them for everything.
  15. Thank you for your reply and I agreed with you. I won't suffer but my wife will when I an "in heaven". At that point, if she has not learned, she will be the one suffering.
  16. Interesting. So what is the punishment for breaking this law? Who enforce this Family Code?
  17. If my wife stops sending even for a month or lower the amount, I know she not be able to handle the guilt. Her mother would not stay silence. There would be so much drama that it's not worth it. Sad to say.
  18. The monthly remittance is for food, utilities, miscellaneous, clothing for mother and two sisters. My wife will send extra when there is a birthday and more for Christmas.
  19. No offense taken. Thank you for taking the time to posting your views. It will certainly help others in similar situations. You're right about the cultural things being so ingrained in the children nature to take care of the parents no matter how difficult it is. I can rant on about this all day. LOL
  20. We won't split up but I will die first since I am older. And when that happens and if she has not learn by then, she won't be financially secure supporting herself in the USA and may move back to the Philippines. Her mother will live to an hundred and the daughters in their seventies will still be sending money back there.
  21. If this could only be true. The mother is grateful for whatever amount the daughter sends instead of saying it is not enough. The mother lays a guilt trip to the daughter that she cannot work due to her health.
  22. Yes, I hear you. The culture of supporting the parents is too strong in the Philippines. However, it is mostly the daughters that is supporting the parents and family members.
  23. After this latest event with the MIL, my wife will take pause from communicating with her mother. However, money has to be send as they need money to buy food and pay the utilities.
  24. Yes, they do live very well and they live in the southern part of the Philippines. Living well is fine. Just wish the MIL would appreciate her daughter's (my wife) effort in sending the monthly remittance.
  25. Yes, total agreement there. Emergencies always "seem" to happen. There is always an unexpected expenses. The exchange rate is lower now but prices in pesos are higher. Costs in the Philippines are higher due to inflation and Covid. Someone is sick, dying or died, a family member got admitted to a hospital, someone's house burned down, and on and on.
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