Marlita

Yeah, Ray told me that before because I'm a smart azz all the time. I wish is ####### would is what I tell him all the time... He thinks I'm crazy.

OMG!! This is too much. But I find that my husband aint used to a woman keeping up with the talking ish department either.

You see so much ignorance when this stuff happens, and the race card is almost always played - Black,white or purple, he had mental issues!

Whenever someone says "I'm not being rasicst but...." Likey they are racist and have no idea how ignorant their remarks are. I mean come on!!! How many crazy fools kill their family or wives and everybody was the same race?!! Its not a race thing but a CRAZY thing.

Dada is a sucker for Roc and she's about to get some......

Is this a REAL story? I'm confused.

FO REAL.. oh he's just adjusting to the US and to my fam, and WHATEVER

but you know what lita.. its so easy to be that STUPID!

my ex when things start getting bad, would go to his room and get his gun and run into another room and wanting me to run after him to stop him..YEESSS and i would DO IT!! and plead w/ him to put it down and talk him down,

after a while, i just started ignoring him.. my moms bf once laid down in front of her car!!!

i don't know how long they were married, but at one point you "think you know a person"

and i said the same thing she said.."he just wants attention"

dyam.. i just get shivers thinking of that stuff..

OMG!! That is some scary stuff!

it really is sunny..

the first part of the story sounded like so many ive heard before..even the being distant..i mean roger is not the most talkative around my folks even.. she prolly just attributed all the problems to culture shock or adjustment..

reminds me of how kimmy used to say..EVERYTHING is not adjustment.. sometimes them mofo's is just crazy and we need to leave it alone!!!

wow so this dude had mental tendencies before then..wow..

and his name is craig too

I almost died at this comment!! That is sooo true. Look at that fool with wide eyes when you meet him. Is he crazy....is he suspect?!! Cus I know if you come in my house sittin on the kitchen floor with a noose around yo neck and a knife in yo hand.....I ain't just going to bed.

That's crazy! Does your husband remember him as being violent?

Yeah, he said it did not surprise him at all to hear that story. How scary. I was so scared this woman was one of us on VJ.

It was in NY wasn't it? http://www.radiojamaica.com/content/view/25253/26/

Wow, was just searching and found this:

http://www.eagletribune.com/punewshh/local...eyword=topstory

Yeah, Craig Mulgrave.....thats the story. He worked at Samsara, as security guard and Evan was asking if I knew him. I said no. Evan said he was known for being "evil" and would beat women there too.

Marlita is this guy older?

No, should be in his 20's

Question for yall......

Did you all here of the Jamaican guy who moved to the states for his wife ended up stabbing her to death? It was in the news like a week ago. I think they were in Boston.

My husband new him. He worked at the same hotel as him in Negril.

I see most of yall on FB. Within the last couple months, FB got real popular. I am starting to get on there more and more. It sometimes confuses me and I'll have a friend request pending forever cause I forget to check the request area.

LITA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how are ya dawta????

im sooooo freaking happy for you and mista.. welcome to the mami club!!!

are ya'll in JA??? CA?? where in the WORLD is Marlita??

Hey there! We are still in Cali. We were talking about visiting JA the other day and I got all stressed, cause how are we supposed to travel with 2 babies/toddler/whatever age kids and bring all their stuff, pay for their plane ticket, pay for a hotel, or find a place to stay. Travel is gonna get crazy now. We really need to get on getting a house there....STAT!!

sus soon send u a message not feeling weell mi rass mi caan even type well...I don't know how people are addicted to MORPHINE u can't do a damn thing

Oh no, morphine is niiiiiccee!!!

Ok! Ok!

Who is still on VJ!!??

Hi ladies. I stopped in to see you guys and was surprised to see people I know. How is everyone?

I'm doing well. Had my baby girls a month ago and they are BEAUTIFUL and HEALTHY. I still cannot believe I am a mama. Its surreal. So whats been going on?

I didnt tell Louis he was going to have to get nekkid! I figured it would just irritate and get him annoyed before he even got there.

This is so funny. Evan has no problem being naked infront of a woman. If it was a male doc then maybe. U know this fool had the nerve to ask me if it felt good to have a vaginal ultrasound?!!! WTH!!!! He thinks that gynocologists have the best jobs. I told him aint nothing nice or sexual about looking at vajaja all day!!

Hey Marlita...not being nosey but I was just wondering did you get some kind of insurance since you said you got laid off and didn't have any? Just wondering how that works with having babies. And NO I didn't drink the Wata!

I have Medi-Cal...state insurance. I qualify cause I am pregnant. Otherwise I'd be in trouble. And I must say this is the BEST insurance I have ever had. If this is what we can expect with government funded insurance then I say lets go!!

See, I'm not sure if having twins make labor longer, but I plan on staying at home til I am soooo close to labor I cant wait anymore. I HATE docs and hospitals. They can be sooo rude and unnurturing that would stress me out. SO I am gonna labor in our hot tub for a few hours then go to the hospital. Its like 5 mins from my house.

Hi Marlita!!!!!!!!! Congrats on your little pickneys on the way! Twins does not neccesarily mean longer labor, however there are many more complications to worry about....i would imagine you may have to deliver in the OR "just in case".....once my water broke I started hard labor for about 15 minutes and then Patricj was ready to be here and Leighana was the ####### who took longest.....she was an hour and a half after her brother.....she flipped over and went breech after I delivered Patrick naturally....she was and emergency C-Section becasue of complications I was having which I would rather not go into details about and scare you.....Best of luck with your pregnancy chica and pray you have a better one than I did.....If you need anything please let me know.....I have a plethra of double things!

Thanks for the info! Your little ones are sooo adorable. I hope i am having a boy and girl.

the dr i had w/ my second..the c section was SOOOO good.. he would wipe the sweat from my forehead.. held my hand, rub my hair.. nice young sexy latino.. reminded me of prince.. YES... i like the shorty's LOL..

how is ur ob/gyn lita.. if he is a good one, u won't have any problems!!!

Girl I've had like 3. Finally like this one so far. The first was ridiculous. He would come into the room with the chart...where nothing changed on it since my last visit. And start saying "ok , everything looks good, pap good, bloodwork good, looks like ur having twins...did u know u were having twins?" WTH!!!??? I wanted to be like "didnt YOU know I was having twins...YOU"RE the one who told me you crazy fool!!" So....I had to drop him and get outta there. This doc now, told me he would do everything in my power to give me a vaginal birth....which is all I am hoping for.

I remember somebody else is having twins...whos is it. Cant think of her name.

jakeswife

Ah yes yes!! How is she doing?

I remember somebody else is having twins...whos is it. Cant think of her name.

See, I'm not sure if having twins make labor longer, but I plan on staying at home til I am soooo close to labor I cant wait anymore. I HATE docs and hospitals. They can be sooo rude and unnurturing that would stress me out. SO I am gonna labor in our hot tub for a few hours then go to the hospital. Its like 5 mins from my house.

tap chat bout giving birth....mek mi regret mi sexy weekend

u baxide...so it fi guh....(((((((((sending)))))))))) ++++++++++++++ vibes....TEST +++++++++++++

Ladies; I know they say you forget everything after all the pain is gone, but I remember every thing about the day I had my son and I mean everything from the day I was admitted until the day I left. I even remember what I wore, what I ate, we had a party in my room since I was there so long.

I agree Lawny... I remember EVERYTHING! Will never forget any of it... Good and Bad!

That's how I look at it too. I just remember my grandmother saying "when you have a child your life truly changes"....when they brought me my son after bathing him I took off all his clothes and just looked at him and said "GOD IS GOOD" -- of course my poor son was shivering....then I put him in my nightgown

ahaha!! How yuh freeze di poor pickney?

tap chat bout giving birth....mek mi regret mi sexy weekend

u baxide...so it fi guh....(((((((((sending)))))))))) ++++++++++++++ vibes....TEST +++++++++++++

Ladies; I know they say you forget everything after all the pain is gone, but I remember every thing about the day I had my son and I mean everything from the day I was admitted until the day I left. I even remember what I wore, what I ate, we had a party in my room since I was there so long.

I agree Lawny... I remember EVERYTHING! Will never forget any of it... Good and Bad!

Really?!! I hope I dont remember all the bad stuff. I am already starting to forget my horrible miserable time in JA the other month. That trip made me never want to return, but now that I am feeling better, I am thinking.....hmmmmm...i can do another trip back to JA. But I am def going to stay in an AI>>>>>no if ands or buts about it. And by the way...I am quite terrified of birth.

Oh my gosh were the twins hard for you? I am seriously calm about it, and I guess I am odd in that way cus I hear alot of people do freak out. But for some reason having twins seems more normal for me than if I was to have only 1. My grandmother told me I was going to have twins over a year ago....like she had a prophecy and so from then on I was like "OK". And like a week before I knew I was pregnant my mom was praying for me and said that God told her I would have twins. I was like "OK". So when I had the ultrasound at like 7 weeks and they saw 2 sacs instantly I was like...."well there's the twins!!" It wasnt even a surprise, but like a confirmation.

What a blessing I say...

I had a small amount of spotting about week 6 and I read that it is possible when carrying twins to spot when the second embryo implants, so we talked about it... he said "I bathe one, you bathe the other"

But alas, is just one baby in there

How is Evan doing adjusting??

Do you have any info on the marriage counseling you two went to? Maybe they have an affiliate in N.Cal??

Oh my marriage counselor was GREAT. I had to stop going cause I lost my job and no insurance (Health Care Reform Please!!) so I could no longer afford it. He was Belizian and lived in JA for awhile. Such a great connection that he had with that. Still talk to him every now and then. He's moving to Florida though so that sucks. He was just a private practice so no affiliates. Evan is adjusting very well actually. He misses friends and family being close, but loves my fam. And we plan to move closer to my older sis, so we can get together like everyday with her and her fam. He blends in very well with my fam and I love that.

my youngest was a csection..

Quana, did you have any trouble delivering vaginally after the c-section??

I am fraid of V-Back and almost want to just schedule another c-section although I was SO UNHAPPY they took my son that way...

My honey is afraid of the "knife" an want me to try the v-back...

v-back? wha dis?

sound like a sex position...

ahahahaha!! I almost snorted a Corn Pop outta my nose.

my youngest was a csection..

Quana, did you have any trouble delivering vaginally after the c-section??

I am fraid of V-Back and almost want to just schedule another c-section although I was SO UNHAPPY they took my son that way...

My honey is afraid of the "knife" an want me to try the v-back...

Girl you have to try the VBAC. If anything, the doc will stop you and then do C-Section if there is a problem. But I read that the problem rate with VBAC is like 4% or less. Those are great odds. It also depends on your Csect cut. If its the low horizontal then you are all good to VBAC.

Hi Marlita. Good to hear from you and hear things are going well.

Congrats!

Thanks JG!