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No, there are other reasons I know he is real but I won't discuss further. If you want to think he is fake, more power to you. I just know he is not.

It is all there. However, in his "regular" profile the fiances country is NOT Brazil. Maybe he used Brazil so people wouldn't recognize him under his real profile. In his real profile, he's got posts and other legit discussions.

Oh yes... and the last minute, no info, name only profile does not help verify the credibility of the OP. Where are the previous posts with questions about the process? Where is the timeline. Where is the "bragging" about the SO. (I know we don't all brag but we usually say something positive about our little success story.) Pick any profile at random and you will most likely see a fountain of misc. info that adds to one's credibility. It just isn't there for this OP. There is zero history.

It is all there. However, in his "regular" profile the fiances country is NOT Brazil although in some posts he states she is in Brazil. In his real profile, he's got posts and other legit discussions. He has been around since the summer of 06.

I don't understand why he wouldn't post this under his real username since his regular username is also pretty much anonymous - no pictures that you could take and spread all over the place. That would be my only concern.

Oh yes... and the last minute, no info, name only profile does not help verify the credibility of the OP. Where are the previous posts with questions about the process? Where is the timeline. Where is the "bragging" about the SO. (I know we don't all brag but we usually say something positive about our little success story.) Pick any profile at random and you will most likely see a fountain of misc. info that adds to one's credibility. It just isn't there for this OP. There is zero history.

He could simply have selected some other profile to mimic and pretend it's his "real" profile.

He has presented his story. He has been given good advice, and some viable options to select from (over and over again), yet he continues to drag this out. I have to wonder why.

It is all there. However, in his "regular" profile the fiances country is NOT Brazil. Maybe he used Brazil so people wouldn't recognize him under his real profile. In his real profile, he's got posts and other legit discussions.

Oh yes... and the last minute, no info, name only profile does not help verify the credibility of the OP. Where are the previous posts with questions about the process? Where is the timeline. Where is the "bragging" about the SO. (I know we don't all brag but we usually say something positive about our little success story.) Pick any profile at random and you will most likely see a fountain of misc. info that adds to one's credibility. It just isn't there for this OP. There is zero history.

It is all there. However, in his "regular" profile the fiances country is NOT Brazil although in some posts he states she is in Brazil. In his real profile, he's got posts and other legit discussions. He has been around since the summer of 06.

I don't understand why he wouldn't post this under his real username since his regular username is also pretty much anonymous - no pictures that you could take and spread all over the place. That would be my only concern.

Oh yes... and the last minute, no info, name only profile does not help verify the credibility of the OP. Where are the previous posts with questions about the process? Where is the timeline. Where is the "bragging" about the SO. (I know we don't all brag but we usually say something positive about our little success story.) Pick any profile at random and you will most likely see a fountain of misc. info that adds to one's credibility. It just isn't there for this OP. There is zero history.

It is indeed valid. I did some digging and the poor guy is going through this.

1. People seldom learn from their own mistakes. It would be foolish to think that they will learn from the mistakes of others. OP did not learn from the multitude of previous unfortunate bad stories, why on earth does OP feel that others might benefit from this story?

2. When asked a direct question relating to process (i.e. POE, Processing Office etc.), OP took awhile to answer the question. When asked a question regarding the story (i.e. who answered the phone or who was related to who) the question was answered very quickly. Verifiable answers = delay in answering. Non-verifiable answers = quick answers.

3. OP's SO is referred to in terms of general moral character (i.e. good person, honest person etc.) never in terms of "she ripped my heart from my chest and stomped on it and I can't go on any more". Where is the emotion?

4. Sincerity of the relationship seems to be based on virginity and sexual practices. Not much to base a lifetime of love and companionship on.

I carefully read this entire thread. I am in the process of bringing my fiancee to the USA and the topic of this thread is very important to me. My gut feeling on this particular thread is that there is 1) either much more to this story than we are being told, or 2) there is much less to this story than we are being told. My biggest problem with this is why are we being told? The question was asked in the first post about whether or not the SO could remarry or was there action that could be taken. That question was answered fully by subsequent posts yet the OP kept bemoaning the problem over and over. So where is the motivation? Why does this OP continue to worry about this thread instead of proceeding with the issues regarding the SO? Answer that and we will have an answer as to the validity of this thread.

I think my time will best be utilized reading other threads on the visa process. This one seems to be going nowhere.

I don't think so. I was able to find him by searching timelines and from info he gave in his post. he is REAL. Oh man ... I was hoping it was a troll even though I never thought it was.

I don't think writing style is the same. "Justagirl" makes too many typos and can't even spell.

justagirl and jonkam are the same poster...the same poster that was in the MENA forum awhile ago. Same writing style - she (I'm convinced it's a woman) would carry on conversations with herself that time as well.

Thanks Charles for giving this troll validity by saying they're legit.

I agree.

Maybe it's a BF-GF team.

Either way you want to do it. I did mine in Berlin on Dec. 19 2006 and had my interview Feb 2, 2007. I wanted to do it ahead of time so there would be no holdups! When I went to my interview in February, they already had all my exam papers there and my VISA got approved that same day.

Can you do your medical exam the day of your interview at the embasy or do you have to do it ahead of time at one of the doctors listed in packet three? If you can do your medical at the interview will it take longer for them to mail you your visa?

I had NO idea you speak German! Where in illinois are you? I am in Plainfield.

Wie schwer ist es ein tourist visum zu bekommen, fuer einen Afrikaner nach Deutschland ?

Ich bin Deutsch, aber USC und da es nicht moeglich ist fuer meinen Verlobten hier nach USA zu kommen

moechten wir vielleicht nach Deutschland uns wieder einmal zu sehen. Meine Mutter wohnt dort.

Hat jemand das so gemacht und hat das geklappt ?

Es ist unmoeglich fuer Afrikaner mit einem tourist visum nach hier zu kommen, besonders wenn ein

K1 im Gang ist.

What part of Germany? I came from Vilseck which is also in southern germany (bavaria)

As for cultural/customs/traditions changes ... I grew up in the US. I left back to Germany in 2002 and for me, adjusting to Germany again was a huge challenge.

Hallo everyone,

I am fairly new to VJ, and I am wondering about the other couples here who are German and American. Not wondering in a nosy way (well, ok, maybe a bit) but more just curious. I am the USC and my fiance is from southern Germany. He is fluent in English and I am...not fluent in German. I can say enough in German to have about a 10 minute conversation, but am desperately trying to learn more. Especially since my son is nearing fluency now (he's been studying it for 2 years). Language hasn't posed a problem for us since he speaks English fluently, but I was wondering if the other couples on here have a similar situation?

I was also curious if there are any customs or traditions that are new or different for the other couples?

Thanks for indulging me

~Jen

Gracias!

This should help.

http://ssa-custhelp.ssa.gov/cgi-bin/ssa.cf...php?p_faqid=315

I don't think writing style is the same. "Justagirl" makes too many typos and can't even spell.

justagirl and jonkam are the same poster...the same poster that was in the MENA forum awhile ago. Same writing style - she (I'm convinced it's a woman) would carry on conversations with herself that time as well.

Thanks Charles for giving this troll validity by saying they're legit.

justagirl and jonkam are the same poster...the same poster that was in the MENA forum awhile ago. Same writing style - she (I'm convinced it's a woman) would carry on conversations with herself that time as well.

Thanks Charles for giving this troll validity by saying they're legit.

How do you figure they are the same person?

Don't listen to her. Right now you do NOT know what happened at all. Pure speculation with no concrete facts. For all you know, she went to Arizona and planned on returning back to you .. however, she didn't know it was unsafe to hitchhike here and got picked up by a psycho. You NEVER know. As bizarre as it sounds, at this point you just don't know.

Also, her feelings could have been real at the time. Some people are able to change feelings like a drop of the dime. Don't be so hard on yourself - maybe at one point in time her feelings were genuine! There is no way in hell that i would have come here on a K-1 visa, leave and become illegal eventually. I would have at least waited to lift conditions on my visa if i had intentions on leading someone on to get me to the US. <------errr, not my plan BTW! LOL

She tried to mother you to get here- ...some warm home made food, a little home made drinks, a cross arround the neck and some praying at night...some display of unending affection and lovey-dovey smooches, some talks about the highly purpose of having children after children etc...this trick never fails-it's the oldest one in the book and here you go-another one bites the bait and is left starring at the sun.This girl might be in her twenties but she knows what she's doin'---i guess you were right not reporting her missin' after all(she's all there:)).

Your analysis is quite good. It does seem that she did do something like this.

Thanks for pointing it out for me in such a nice way. I had NO idea until you came along that this is what she did. Thanks very much, without your insightful vision I would never have come to this realization. You are so smart, your parents must be very proud.

Women, experienced in the sack or not, know what men like and how to play them. All they gotta do is watch TV. If she was some feminist type, I wouldn’t have been with her in the first place. Damn, to think about it, every girl I’ve had a relationship with did most of these things. They all must have been playing me. I’ll be more careful in the future, the next woman that wants to make me a hot meal and bring a cold drink, or expresses a desire to have kids or is nice, I’ll kick her A$$ to the curb cause this is the oldest trick in the book.

Any guys out there in VJ land, I hope you read this. If your girl has done any of these things; you better dump her now, cause she’s only playing you. If she does nothing for you and is a b.tch, she’s a keeper.

Nobody can say that for sure. It's possible and then again maybe it isn't. You can't say that without a doubt unless there is absolute proof. I believe in evidence and without it, you're innocent. Some of the speculations don't make sense. At this point he doesn't know where she is - she could have went to Arizona for whatever reason. Maybe she hitchhiked ... maybe she got picked up by a psycho. ANYthing is possible.

She tried to mother you to get here- ...some warm home made food, a little home made drinks, a cross arround the neck and some praying at night...some display of unending affection and lovey-dovey smooches, some talks about the highly purpose of having children after children etc...this trick never fails-it's the oldest one in the book and here you go-another one bites the bait and is left starring at the sun.This girl might be in her twenties but she knows what she's doin'---i guess you were right not reporting her missin' after all(she's all there:)).

If you "wee" that special? Are we speaking french now?

I forgot to add something to my post--the fake blood on the sheat she flonted in front of his mesmorising eyes. C'mon, a virgin...RU KIDDING ME? If you wee that special that she kept herself pure for her american in shining visa-sorry i ment armour--she'd be in the curch right now getting married TO YOU!!!

DUH! Do you know I just figured that out! OMG LOL. I thought it automatically changes when you change the timeline. DUH!

Oh, are you talking about the AOS pending under your avatar? That's in the control panel under profile.

I just read the AOS/medical exam thread on here which prompted this post. Time and time again people who are adjusting status are being hassled when trying to get their I-693A vaccination supplement form transferred. Most of the time people are getting told they need new complete exams.

I think it would be beneficial for VJ members if DR Arnold's information were posted somewhere easily accessible on here. It is simple and painless to get him to do this form for people. $10 and all you need to do is mail in your DS-3025 vaccination sheet. If his info were available on here, people would no longer have to deal with the hassle of overspending money OR having to drive miles and miles away for this.

Dr. L.E. Arnold

4534 Westgate Blvd., #106

Austin, Texas 78745

Tel: (512)444-3131

That's why Dr Arnold should be listed on here for people to easily find him. I think it's pretty convenient to be able to send in your documents and have him transfer the vaccination stuff for only $10! i was so happy i found him on here - it took me a day to find his information on here though so perhaps he should be added somwhere. I really think it would be beneficial for people who are getting hassled!

Probably not a bad idea but some civil surgeons won't do the supplemental without doing a physical, that is where they make the money

I have tried changing my timeline for my AOS process since I have been approved. I have tried changing it a million times but it still goes back to pending. Is anyone else having the same problem?

Wait til your baby starts kicking you in the bladder! LOL

I used to hate that. Oh, and when the baby has hiccups, you can see it!

What a sweet baby, AlienUKGirl! I think 36 weeks was enough! If he went to term he would have been over 14 lbs! OM! He sure is a cutie! I bet he will have little ripples on his legs! Congratulations! I hope everything is going well

Good news! First- I felt the baby!!! It feels like electric shocks. Real quick movements. No jolts or anything I can see on the surface, but I am sure that will come. It feels like I am going to have a very active baby!

Second- I heard the heartbeat again yesterday. it has gone from 166 to 168 to 152. Boy?

Third- My appointment for the big u/s is 9/25. Just 4 weeks from now we find out if we have a daughter or a son! This is all so amazing!

Christina--have you been feeling the baby?

Breastfeeding can become a challenge but when you master it, it's so rewarding. I tried nursing my daughter when she was a baby but could not get her to latch on. I tried for days and finally gave up. However, I did not want to be a quitter (i am very determined) so after a few days of giving up, I told myself I can do it. I tried again and this time her father helped me - he is a pediatric nurse so he was experienced. he actually gave nursing classes with fake breasts back in the day LOL. At first i had too much pride to ask him but in the end he showed me how to get my daughter to latch on.

It was painful for the first 2 weeks and I sometimes cried while breastfeeding her. later on as she got older I couldn't get her off the #######. LOL

Hey ladies, I was just wondering does anyone of you do the attachment parenting thing (cosleeping, babywearing, not letting them cry it out etc.) I'm getting more and more tree huggerish by the day, cloth diapering, making my own food, breastfeeding, NO PLASTIC BOTTLES or SIPPY CUPS etc. Does anyone of you have a babysling, wrap, Ergo carrier, MeiTai, MayaWrap etc (bjorns don't count, sorry).

I am not 100% sure what we will do yet, but so far I plan for the baby to be in a bassinet in the room with us for a few months, because of being right there when the baby wakes up. I think the slings look cool, but I don't know if I'd actually use it. I do want to b-feed, and just hoping it works out because I know for some it's very hard. No clothe diapers, so basically I guess I am not doing the attachment parenting with the more I list things, LOL. It matters how much time I would have if I could make food or not, we probably will use plastic bottles, etc.

I know this might be controversial but I don't like the idea of bf-ing in public. I'd rather go somewhere alone to do it, not in front of people. That's just me. I have friends who are bf-ing and they always go into another room. I think they like the privacy more than anything.

I am going to ask my mom a lot of questions is what I am 100% sure of. And I turned out pretty well so whatever she did with me seemed to have worked fine.

Breastfeeding can become a challenge but when you master it, it's so rewarding. I tried nursing my daughter when she was a baby but could not get her to latch on. I tried for days and finally gave up. However, I did not want to be a quitter (i am very determined) so after a few days of giving up, I told myself I can do it. I tried again and this time her father helped me - he is a pediatric nurse so he was experienced. he actually gave nursing classes with fake breasts back in the day LOL. At first i had too much pride to ask him but in the end he showed me how to get my daughter to latch on.

It was painful for the first 2 weeks and I sometimes cried while breastfeeding her. later on as she got older I couldn't get her off the #######. LOL

Hey ladies, I was just wondering does anyone of you do the attachment parenting thing (cosleeping, babywearing, not letting them cry it out etc.) I'm getting more and more tree huggerish by the day, cloth diapering, making my own food, breastfeeding, NO PLASTIC BOTTLES or SIPPY CUPS etc. Does anyone of you have a babysling, wrap, Ergo carrier, MeiTai, MayaWrap etc (bjorns don't count, sorry).

I am not 100% sure what we will do yet, but so far I plan for the baby to be in a bassinet in the room with us for a few months, because of being right there when the baby wakes up. I think the slings look cool, but I don't know if I'd actually use it. I do want to b-feed, and just hoping it works out because I know for some it's very hard. No clothe diapers, so basically I guess I am not doing the attachment parenting with the more I list things, LOL. It matters how much time I would have if I could make food or not, we probably will use plastic bottles, etc.

I know this might be controversial but I don't like the idea of bf-ing in public. I'd rather go somewhere alone to do it, not in front of people. That's just me. I have friends who are bf-ing and they always go into another room. I think they like the privacy more than anything.

I am going to ask my mom a lot of questions is what I am 100% sure of. And I turned out pretty well so whatever she did with me seemed to have worked fine.

I did do pretty much all of the attachment parenting stuff. I didn't do it on purpose but later on found out that it's what I was doing. I made my own baby food, co-slept, etc. The only thing i did not use were cloth diapers. I was into extended breastfeeding and believe in self-weaning.

I could never get used to the sling - for some reason it felt like my daughter would fall out so it scared me LOL.

BTW, I am pregnant now and don't think i will do the co-sleeping this time around. My daughter is now 6 and still won't sleep in her own bed. This is one of the negative things that became of co-sleeping LOL. I think she will sleep with me until she is 18, maybe even later HAHAHA. Seriously though, it did cause some problems between me and my husband. My daughter is from my ex-husband and my current husband also has children of his own. We both have different parenting philosophies. He is not into the whole co-sleeping thing, etc. Now that i am pregnant we are working on some compromises because I am NOT going to give up totally what I believe in and he understands that.

Hey ladies, I was just wondering does anyone of you do the attachment parenting thing (cosleeping, babywearing, not letting them cry it out etc.) I'm getting more and more tree huggerish by the day, cloth diapering, making my own food, breastfeeding, NO PLASTIC BOTTLES or SIPPY CUPS etc. Does anyone of you have a babysling, wrap, Ergo carrier, MeiTai, MayaWrap etc (bjorns don't count, sorry).

Here's adam and me in a sling, he loves it:

Does anyone on here perhaps work at the DMV? LOL

My husband is currently in Iraq. I have a power of attorney. We live in Illinois but his car still has Florida license plates on it so I need to get them changed.

Do any of you know what I would need to bring?

I have tried calling these people but i NEVER get an answer!

Anyone know what I need to change my name on my SSN? I have had my SSN since I was about 12 or so and it still has my maiden name on it. I ran into a minor issue when i got my driver's license since my state ID had my married name and SSN my maiden name.

Thanks!

Claudeth used her married name when we filed for AOS and her EAD.

Wow, you were lucky to get the K-1 interview within 3 months! Took me like 9 months! My AOS interview was much faster but that's because our case got expedited.

Who knows, a miracle may happen and you may get your GC by Christmas. I never say never because miracles have occurred. Good luck!

Check out the August Filers Thread and the If You Filed Before the Fee Increase Thread.

Theres a lot of us in the same boat. Who knows when they'll get to ours. Have you applied for the AP? I doubt that you will get your green card before xmas, in my opinion. My family wants me and my husband to go to back to Ireland for xmas, but we don't think we'll be able to either, as i'll need my green card.

Thanks for the reply. No we haven't received anything since I mailed off the AOS paper work. I did beat the fee increase. I'm just wondering if I should pay extra for the travel papers and send them off so my wife can travel back to her country for xmas? when i look at the processing time it shows close to 5 months. but it was the same for the K1visa it showed like 6 months and it was 3 months and she got her interview for the visa? So I'm wondering if it's the same here with the AOS. i'D hate to pay more money expecially since the fee increase for the travel documents and she recieves her approval to travel with the AOS paper work by november are the beginning of december? Dean

I wonder if things have changed crossing the border. When I was a teen, we would always go walk across the border to go to the clubs there. When we'd cross back, they would ask "Your nationality?" I would always say "American" and they NEVER asked for a passport. I had my military ID since my dad was in the army but that's all they ever looked at. I wonder if it's changed.

When i found out that my PR status was invalid because I left the US for more than a year, all my friends told me to fly to Mexico and come back through Juarez. I still had my PR card but it would have been invalid once crossing through a POE. I didn't want to do it though - too scared and didn't wanna jeopardize anything LOL.

I would suggest having someone drop you off there and not leaving your vehicle.

I would be more concerend about the safety of crossing back into the USA from Mexico.

I hope you have Visa or GC, if not DOn't try coming back into the USA, you may be detained, deported, & Banned.

I actually grew up in El Paso and lived there from 1983-2002 and I gotta say that I do NOT recommend that if you plan on staying gone for more than a day. I had my car parked there for just a few hours on a friday night while we went to a club. I paid the guy extra to watch my car and my stereo got stolen out of it anyway - perhaps the guy did it himself, who knows.

OH MAN - THIS THREAD IS WAAAAAAY OLD! lol

What I mean is are there places in El Paso to park your car that have security and can keep it safe for you? Even if you are gone for a week or so?

You're from El paso too? So am I. I went to Fannin Elementary, Ross Middle, and Austin High School. What part of town are you from? I used to live right down the street from parkland HS but later on moved to the east side by cielo vista mall. What a small world!

What I mean is are there places in El Paso to park your car that have security and can keep it safe for you? Even if you are gone for a week or so?

Usually you'll find places to park where they'll 'watch' your vehicle for a fee - someone familiar with ElPaso can probably point some out directly. Should be safe yes...

I've done it in Nogales - not for so long but there are those that do.

Could always park it in long term parking at the airport too..cab to the border and off you go..

There is a place in front of the airport...I forgot the name, I am from El Paso...you will see it, however I would not just leave it somewhere, we have a high auto theft rate...if you are military, you can take it and leave it on the base...there are thousands of possibilities.