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so far the ex has not been bothered but the district attorney will be contacting me back for some assitance on the matter in a fewdays

On 5/24/2018 at 7:15 PM, Lemonslice said:

Maybe your ex wife could lend you some money to speed up the divorce?  

hahaha, good one but no

i give her what i can to help with our children

she has no money, which is why she trying to do this blogging stuff to make money while taking are of kids

19 hours ago, debbiedoo said:

i think divorces are/can be quick in texas (i seem to remember my half sister filing and being divorced -and then remarried- super fast). shes not there to fight you on it, so self file. pay for the newspaper publication. no need for an attorney. 

 

it sounds like this chick totally used you just to get here. im sorry   and now thinks she can get alimony. doesnt work that way ....

i have to disagree because she knew i did not have money to live a life she was used to but she lvoed me enough to come here

just she could not handle still how life was here even thoughi explained so much to her

if i am wrong, only she and God knows her heart

4 hours ago, Randyandyuni said:

look up self filing divorce for your state, in Ohio it took me 45 days and $450 then it was complete. It was truly a simple task

believe me i have tried but it is very stressing to figure it all out and i still need the address per the courts

so i rather spend 400 on an attorney because i am still stuck having to later pay for a publication

2 hours ago, Illiria said:

Why you didn’t report her for violating the restraining order is beyond me, you have now also violated it and she could report you if she felt the need.

i never felt being cruel like that since her emails were just one, missing me and two, asking why i needed her address (when someone else was asking for me)

not this states marriage certificate no

all good now though with crossing out my last name from hers on it and the lawyer said if it were wrong it would not technically cause an issue

11 hours ago, NikLR said:

Then put her married name as her last name.  She signed something with it.  

Or ASK a lawyer

finally got a hold of the ones handling the divorce. they said if there is no paperwork for a name change, then to use her birth name

thanks yall

1 hour ago, mushroomspore said:

I admittedly am fairly ignorant on the process of divorce so apologies for not taking the costs into account. The only thing left to do then is to save up and get the process started. I'd suggest AT LEAST doing a publication to have proof you made substantial effort to locate your spouse. It's also been 2 years since she entered on her K1 and no AoS has been filed. She is most certainly out of status now but most likely won't be a target for ICE as they have more serious offenders to keep them busy. If she weren't engaging in dangerous and criminal behavior, I would suggest reaching out to her family and friends in her home country to locate her but this seems like a bad idea. The more distance you create, the better. DO NOT reach out to her anymore.

I have tried but she made sure to have people either ignore me or claim (truth or not) that they not know where she is or that they still talk with her. However, she did find out I contacted some people, so someone of her friends is also in contact with her.

1 hour ago, javadown2 said:

Find the money, and I'm not positive but I don't think you need anything from her to divorce her. 

I have been working on saving since last year.

2 hours ago, mushroomspore said:

Can't emphasize how important this advice is.

 

1. Divorce your current wife NOW. To be honest I don't know why you haven't already. Staying married has put you in major risk, especially since AoS has not been filed. She cannot file AoS if you divorce her NOW.

 

2. Do not ever ever ever ever ever talk to her or see her. If SHE tries to contact YOU, write down the date, time, location and what was said. 

 

3. Divorce her now.

1 - $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ need a lot of it to divorce found attorney for a couple of hundred but since wife and her friends not giving her current address, have to do a publication in newspapers or judges will not grant divorce. will take me many months to save, and no got no friends or family to get money from

2 - she sent two emails even though restraining order in affect until july and i only sent one asking for address directly from her but no reply on it from her

3 - see #1

10 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Up to your ex to manage her on line presence, why does she allow comments?

i do not know. it all business type communications between peers i guess, running sales and blog stuff... is that the word, blog? blob....?

i am not business man

1 minute ago, Jojo92122 said:

If your wife came on a K-1 visa, you are the only one who can help her AOS.  Even if you divorce and she marries another USC husband, she can not AOS.  You are the only way for her to AOS.  She will get clued into this eventually.  Then, she is going to claim domestic abuse to file under the VAWA.  Protect yourself.  DO NOT PUT YOURSELF IN A POSITION WHERE YOU ARE ALONE WITH HER.  BE CAREFUL.  A false charge of domestic abuse will be worse than her harassing your ex-wife.  It could ruin you and affect your kids.

no worries

i not know what state she even in

9 minutes ago, NikLR said:

So her name was on nothing? Was she planning on assuming your surname?

yes she was taking my last name

the only thing she may have signed (was two years ago) with my last name was the apartment lease but she no longer lives there with me

other than that there was nothing else signed, nothing "official" while we were married

3 minutes ago, Jojo92122 said:

Your wife harassing your ex-wife does not involve you.  It's a civil matter.  Your ex-wife can report people harassing her.  You are not a part of the harassment, so nothing for you to do,

This is not an immigration matter, so notifying USCIS will go nowhere.

 

A cease and desist letter is worthless since 1) you don't know where your wife is so impossible to send her a letter, 2) a letter from a lawyer is simply that, a letter with no legal force.  A restraining order from a court would have legal force, however you still have the problem of not knowing how you would serve the restraining order on someone you don't where she's at.

Your wife is not going to get alimony for a short marriage.  Furthermore, if you couldn't get the money for AOS, she can't squeeze blood out of a stone. 

 

Divorce and move on.  Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about your wife harassing your ex.
 

i understand what you are saying

the reason this involves me is because the wife having this happen to the ex's professional work pages is the income she makes for our children and having her clients and customers see comments about her and i ruining her (the wife's) life could be damaging to her business prospects

Just now, NikLR said:

Did she arrive on a K1 or CR1?

k1 fiancee visa

Just now, NikLR said:

If that is what she uses on her ID etc, then yes.  Until the divorce is final your last name is legally still here. 

while we were together she had no id

no ssn, no drivers lis (could not drive), no state id (she did not want to get one)

as far as i know while we were together she doesn't have any id but her passport

1 minute ago, NikLR said:

Whatever she is currently using.  After the divorce is over she may, or may not, revert to her maiden name. 

i would have to assume her last name is still legally my last name

28 minutes ago, EmilyW said:

Your ex needs to get some kind of restraining order against your wife.  She also needs to get a lawyer to send a 'cease and desist' against whoever is harassing her.

 

no one has money for lawyers and no one knows, or is giving up, where the current wife is

all i know is from some contacts she was last heard out of state

6 hours ago, mushroomspore said:

The harassment is a local police issue, not an immigration issue. Report her and her friends who you know are harassing your ex to the nearest police station ASAP. If your ex provides evidence of the harassment, they can absolutely arrest your spouse. However, only the local police can do that. USCIS & ICE have specific purposes pertaining to IMMIGRATION law. The harassment has nothing to do with immigration; it is a civil matter.

 

Since you're on VJ though, I am guessing you do have a pending immigration case with your current spouse. If you want help with your personal immigration situation, you'll need to provide more details about your ca

 

se. It is hard to tell from your post but it SOUNDS like she is the foreigner and you are the American and AoS has not been filed yet. 

 

Your profile says "K1 visa". If this is correct, your spouse is out of status if her i94 has expired. Has it been more than 90 days since her entry?

that info will have to be updated

current wife came here in 2016 and we married within 90 days but 9 months later was arrested and not lived with me since

and again do not know where spouse is she refuses to give her address and her friends claim not to know

we did not have the money yet to start aos and she has no ssn as they messed up her name at the time. no idea what she has done since being kicked out of here

she is in america but no idea where which is why she is probably planning to file first under her terms as she always wanted to financially destroy me (wants me to pay for her alimony so my "kids can starve")

also my ex found out the account to harass her was a fake account. other than the words used there is no proof, and again no address to file complaint

i do not know law stuff

I am trying to fill out the divorce papers and looking at the marriage certificate and I can not tell what her "legal" name is. Is it still her last name or mine? She did not get a social security number due to an error so she had no name change there nor have a number, that I know of (she been gone for over a year to where, I don't know) so I do not know on the divorce paper to file if I cross of her maiden name and keep my last name, or cross off my last name

the marriage certificate has her name filled out but no mention of my last name as hers

Hi all I have a dilemma

after all this time now it seems her friends have been harassing my exwife on her professional business social media pages saying how she contributed to "ruining her (my abusive spouse) life" even though my ex had nothing to do with anything and all she wants is to be left alone and can't understand why she is getting targeted and on her business pages for others to see

I do not know where my spouse is and have to file with a publication because none of her friends know or wont give me her address, neither will she as she never responded to my emails but she is out of state probably delaying to provide address so she can file first under her terms

because now she has friends stalking my exwife on her business stuff, can I reported this to someone somehow? Can I talk to the ucsis or someone about this that she gets notified if any of her friends harass a family member again she gets deported, arrested, or something? she is still illegal here in usa, yes? no ssn or aos, unless someone else got it for her

Please please please I need some help

thanks all so kindly

6 minutes ago, Damara said:

If you are convinced she is a venegeful and spiteful person there are a few things to consider.

 

Do not be alone with her. Since she didnt file AOS her only path to a GC is filing VAWA. (claiming you abused her and not the other way around). If you are alone with her she can injure herself and blame you for it. This will cause you many legal problems. So just dont ever be alone with her. Meet her in public places if you have to meet but honestly theres no reason for you to have to meet her about anything.

 

File for divorce now in your state. She may be establishing residency in a state that has better divorce laws. Where the divorce is filed matters. Not all states have the same policy and views about alimony and property distribution. If your attny is saying you will be fine and she will get little to nothing he is saying that based on your states laws. If she files in another state you will be bound by that states laws. You will also have to hire an attny in that state and most likely travel for hearings. Some hearings and processes can be done with out you there but its always better for you to be present.

 

Please do not make more then one thread. The mod "merged" your threads into one thread. 

 

 

i did not know other threats were still related had my friend type for me those days (was very sick and stressed) so he helped me

not seen her in over a year

i want to file but no money

been trying to figure if i should be going with those sites that do all the paper work for 300-400 and i have to go to courthouses to file it

lawyers too much for me but i found one for 400 but they want her address

i tried to figure it out on my own but keep getting overwhelmed with understanding the papers and laws and i know it should be easy but i can not take much time off working so want it right first time

got no one here to help me understand this stuff

could not find my post

got merged

am confused

does this mean she is or is not illegal in this country now

am in mst so not sure if others are

i can check back later

she will not give me (stated so in email, so she could be delaying for something)

she was known to give off a lot of threats against people during my time with her, especially to me who "will pay" for having her arrested

high chance her friends will not too

is she still consider illegal here in america?......

filing for divorce on spouse (good hearted but did way too many bad things) not seen in a year

didn't yet start aos before her arrest, and no ssn at that time

she won't give up her address for divorce

lawyers want an address and putting in newspaper, unknown what state she even in as am told she isn't in home state anymore, will cost hundreds

lawyer said not to worry that she can't fight for alimony for marriage was short before her arrest, but still some people convinced she scheming something (she has this vengeful part of her she can not let go)

is she still consider illegal here in america?......

if so can i convince lawyers to use this info for uncontested divorce?

Okay. Thank you, all.