I’m Nigerian too Josh and I came here on a K1. I already have my green card and awaiting my citizenship. I can relate to your confusion but not knowing the rules is the biggest downside.
please help me get your story straight: you came here on a spouse (marriage) visa, but you were already married two years so you were approved for a 10year GC. At this point your sponsor is abusing you because she’d rather be with another man but since she helped to get you a GC and she’s now out of a job she wants you to pay some or her bills in order to keep your green card. She’s also threatening to push for revocation of your GC should you not comply with her demands…..is this your story ?
My answers:
She absolutely can not revoke your green card, she doesn’t have such powers. She can send whatever she wants to USCIS and won’t be the first bitter spouse to do that, USCIS don’t just pander to sponsors just because they are sponsors. it’s a scare tactic. It’s either she doesn’t know the rules herself or just exploiting your ignorance as a newcomer.
Settle yourself into a new address. Go to social security and apply to replace your card. If you never got it at your old address, just tell them you never got it since she got it and didn’t give it to you.
Also, there’s an application you can file to replace your lost green card on USCIS website. You can follow this procedure to replace your card.
If you are sure she has your card, you can call the cops and report domestic abuse and they can help to get your card back, especially if you have evidence that it’s still in her possession.
Thirdly, she filed to be your sponsor, that’s a legally enforceable contract until you become a citizen or until you have worked 10years in the US, I believe that’s how that law applies (I stand to be corrected). I bet she doesn’t know this too.
