Arazia

When I was first looking for information on the visa process, I probably wouldn't have paid to join a site like this. The fact that it was free was one of the major drawing points. Now that I've been here a while and seen the good information offered, I wouldn't have a problem with it, but it is going to turn off first-timers or people who just have a few minor questions.

Edit, since it won't let me edit...

I mean the DS-156. I guess my beloved isn't the only brain-dead one today.

Hug and kiss him, then strait home to snuggle in bed.

My fiance' put our packet 3 response in the mail today, and realized

afterwards that he forgot to attach the photographs to the I-156 forms.

Does anyone know if this will cause any major trouble? I kind of doubt

that it will. Would it be okay if he just sends another mailer tomorrow

with the photos and the application number and such so they can be

matched up?

Any other suggestions?

They probably renewed it for you automatically.

I don't think you have anything to worry about.

You can call up the embassy just to be sure, though.

Not much to update, but here is one none the less...

Harry and I had a wonderful time this Christmas. He had no trouble with coming over here on the VWP and visiting for the holidays. We got the NVC approval the day that he arrived for his visit. His packet 3 arrived sometime around the New Year. I got together all the things he needs from me and sent them all back with him today. We'll probably start going through the packet 3 paperwork tomorrow.

Other than that, I'm very sad at the moment. It's hell having to say goodbye to the one you love. At least... I'm hoping that this will be the last time.

Real quick question I can't seem to find in looking around...

How many pay-stubs is a good number to include with the I-134?

Most of the comments on mine are from my fiancee' x.x

Heh.

The study was conducted and overseen by people and organizations who really should know what they're doing. It also matches results from other studies. I trust it.

This doesn't mean you have to get your kids circumcised.

I'm not questioning that there may be some protection.

What I'm questioning is the summary of the information given in this report. I can't make a judgement because either intentionally, or unintentionally they have left some information out. Information that is crutial to judging exactly how accurate their findings are. With just the information given, you really can't interpret the numbers. If taken just at face value, there is an average difference of .70% (less than 1%) in infection rate. That's not a whole hell of a lot.

Oh, and belatedly...

Reading over the study, making definite findings on this really doesn't make much sense. We're talking about really small numbers of people here. That means that you'll have a lot higher variance of numbers. You would expect under good conditions, with a large enough group of people, that the number of infections would be about the same percentage wise between the two groups. It's not. It's actually -lower- among the -larger- of the two groups. They also don't mention how many men in each group were circumsized vs. uncircumsized. The difference could be due to more uncircumcized males than circumcized males.

This doesn't make much sense to me. I think a lot more of this can be attributed to individuals habbits than to skin or no skin. Especially as there is no mention of if the males are sexually active, if they are sexually active with HIV individuals, if they use condoms regularly or not, etc. There are too many variables not taken into account. It 'may' reduce the risk? Sure I'll buy that... but they haven't proven anything.

Sure you did. If he wants to be circumcised, then he can have it done. Doesn't work the other way though...

*ducks from the possibility of another debate about this*

I agree though. If the kid wants it done when they are old enough to actually understand the process, all good to them. Otherwise, not in my family.

I still think wide-spread sexual education as well as donations of contreceptives would be a hell of a lot more effective at preventing HIV than performing surgery on hundreds of thousands of africans.

Mutant deer... it's what's for dinner ....

This was a tough question to answer. I am spiritual but not religious, and my fiancee is philosphical but not religious. We were both raised Catholic. I don't think either of us would have a problem if the other went back to being catholic/christian as long as we didn't force it on each other. I'm generally pretty tolerant of all religions. I don't think it would mean an end to anything, but certainly it would require a lot of adjustment.

My name hasn't been in the top 100 for -years- x.x

http://www.boeing.com/news/techissues/pdf/statsum.pdf

I don't know if this helps but... there's lots of stats on plane accidents in there. I didn't have time to look through it all.

I can see where this is going already... in a few years we'll see 'Mom charges newborn infant with sexual harassment for breastfeeding.' Gods we've become really really stupid.

Female - And I'd rewash it. But that's because spiders give me the heeby jeebies. x.x

Personally, I don't understand that a woman can get involved with a guy who is married. Hell, even a guy who is dating long term is considered 'off-limits' on my radar. Unfortunately, I've learned this isn't the case for most people.

First thing, I would be very, very careful about your perceptions. From personal experience, some men idealise the idea of a certain woman. You know her through work, but most people are not the same at work as they are at home. Otherwise we'd get a lot less done and there would be football playing 24/7 (Joke). That giddy feeling will pass, and usually the stronger it comes on, the quicker it goes when those ideals you've built for yourself crack.

Second, just because you're married doesn't mean you can't feel attracted to other people. My father once said, it's okay to look as much as you want as long as you don't touch. Now, some women would be offended by that, but seriously... we go oogling guys too, intentionally or not. The thing that makes a marriage is sticking to your vows even if your eyes might wander.

Third, interwork romances are ... not good. There is a reason that people tell you not to date someone you work with. There are so many issues with melding work and home life. Work is work, home is home, and I'm a firm believer of leaving work at the workplace. So you come home to the dinner table and start talking about work, oh wait, you work together all day long...

I'm not going to flat out tell you what to do, but I think that you need to really think about things. Sit down and think about the consequences of your actions. I don't just mean thinking about your green card, but also about the relationship you have with your wife and her family, your finances, and your future. Consider the effect that this might have on your work, in both ways. You could have issues asking to work with someone else, but having a relationship could also effect things. For instance, I know at least in my work environment, they will move people in relationships to other departments because they don't want the romantic/home life effecting a person's work, which is obviously happening in your case if you're discussing your feelings over lunch. You might risk a lot more than just your relationship with your wife. Understand your office's sexual harassment policies as well. Keep in mind that although the two of you don't care, other people may not find it office-appropriote and that can cause problems.

Personally, this topic makes me feel ill.

I want those nine minutes of my life back. That was stupid. x.x

I'm 25, and my fiancee is 19. We just got approved this past weekend with an NOA1 date of September 12th, so hopefully you aren't far behind. Keep your hopes up. It doesn't seem like things get done exactly in order, or maybe we all just get shuffled onto people's desks and some of us end up on the slow desk.

Can you love someone? Certainly. I have lots of friends and people I've met from the internet and online that I love, although not in the romantic sense of the word.

If you're talking about romantic love... well you can certainly have feelings for someone, but you won't really know how well you interact in life until you meet. I loved my fiancee before I met him, but I told him that I was reserving judgment until I saw how we interacted together. We hit it off and got along perfectly, so what I felt and thought from online translated perfectly into real life.

Congratulations!

Congratulations! We got our approval on the 8th as well.

Let's hope we both have a quick visit at NVC before going on to our respective embassies!

While I am a fan of original 2d animation, I just don't see this as helping that much. Disney didn't fire all it's animators, but did keep on a group to do their 'feature animation', which is mostly comprised of such great and original works as 'Cinderella 3', 'Bambi 2', and other such sequals that make me want to smack Disney execs with a tire-iron. They are probably just putting this same group of people to work on the shorts.

I always loved real hand-drawn animation. There is just something to it that has more emotion for me than anything that is churned out of a computer. But then again... I love to draw and I grew up around people who became young animators now struggling for work. I just wish Disney would concentrate time and money on the things that made them great... their animation and their story, instead of jumping on the 3d bandwagon with everyone else.

Thank you to everyone for your congratulations! I'm excited and a little nervous about moving on to the next step of the process. But here goes! One step closer, that's what matters.