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My husband's NOA1s are dated two days after the AOS package arrived in Chicago. I think you'll definitely be able to have NOA1 by June 11 if you send off tomorrow. Good luck!

Lovely! Our government is well organized and operates smoothly. Didn't you know?

Yay June filers!

Update: Our NOA1s came today from MSC, dated 5/25. That's an NOA1 date just two days after the package arrived. Amazing!

Yay, our submission has been delivered to USCIS in Chicago!

Hey everyone! We sent off Pigu's AOS+EAD yesterday by Express Mail. It should be getting there today.

Same thing happened to us.

After some convincing that it was okay to JUST give us the vaccination supplement, they charged us a pretty $75. Not to mention they were rude to us in the office.

Cass (bebop the great)

Where did you guys go for that? We called IU Health Center and they wouldn't do it for us until after our marriage. Then we called some kinda holistic practitioner lady whose receptionist had no idea what the vaccination supplement was and argued with me about it in a very silly and rude manner until she was finally convinced I knew what I was talking about. After putting me on hold to consult with the doctor, she said it would cost $75.

We ended up getting Pigu's supplement filled in by a physician in Indianapolis for $20. The guy up there knew exactly what we needed.

Yay!! Congrats!!!

Some people get through quickly, some people don't. There's really no set timeframe for that particular step; it depends on how many flights get in when yours does and where you get in line and how slow/thorough the examining officer is. It will be better to leave lots of time for this!

We're getting ours tomorrow. :)

As there's no place on the FL marriage certificate (at least not mine) for a man to indicate a changed name, you may need a court order.

I really apologise if this is the wrong forum, but none of the others seem to fit and seeing as this forum is about getting engaged/wed I'm pretty sure someone here could answer my question.

My partner and I were talking the other day and he mentioned that he doesn't want me to have his family name (he hates it) and would much rather have my family name. I'm personally not bothered either way. I'd just go from Miss Susan Bates to Mrs Susan Bates. It'd be him having to deal with changing bank account details etc

Q: How do we go about it after/before/during the wedding process? I have no idea what needs to be done and what this will mean for us and then the AOS process.

Oh, lame. On the Iowa form either person can change their name.

Wow, double post.

From what I could find online, it looks like you can make a legal name change via the marriage certificate in Florida. Call your local clerk of court, though, to be sure!

I think good couples can reach agreements and compromise without having to rely on a pre-ordained pecking order. Men and women are obviously different, but I fail to understand how standing up to pee or giving birth to children justifies a rigid hierarchy of decision-making power.

Abstaining from this submission agreement doesn't mean a wife will be beligerant and argumentative, and it doesn't mean there will be a competition for power in the marriage; good, loving husbands and wives do trust and submit to one another, they work for the common good and cooperate. I just think it's unnecessary and kinda creepy to declare one member of the marriage the final arbiter of any disagreements.

It's definitely a matter of personal preference, though. Everyone has their own vision of an ideal marriage, and they should seek out a spouse with a similar vision. It's no problem for me if someone seeks out a marriage where the husband will be the head of the household and final decision-maker - that's just not the sort of arrangement I would prefer for myself.

I thought God planted all the fake dinosaur fossils and evidence of extinctions and whatnot to test our faith?

ETA: Or possibly it was Satan.

I'm definitely more a fan of the married couple as equal partners, rather than that "obey and submit" #######.

My fiance has expressed interest in taking my last name. In my state, he can legally change his name by declaring it on our marriage certificate. We can then use a certified copy of the marriage certificate to satisfy both social security and USCIS that he was previously so-and-so, and now has legally changed his name to such-and-such.

Whether you can do it on the marriage license depends on what state you'll be married in.

Wouldn't you die from water bloat first?

How is it immigration fraud?

The USC petitioneer needs to be able to marry, and she is able to marry... I agree red flags might be flying because of the cultural bias involved, but ultimately- unless this is the case of just wanting to obtain a green card for this guy and then never see him again- she loves this guy and she wishes to marry him....if both of them then choose to live with the third person how is that USCIS business....

The questions are:

- is it a bonafide relationship? (and yes, it can be despite the other guy)

- is the USC petitioner legally able to marry?

- is the beneficiary legally able to marry?

I mean, let's turn the situation around a bit: what if this girl was living with another woman and if their life encompased all the elements of a romantic relationship, BUT if they lived in a state that does not recognize the homosexual union as even possible.... and the girl wanted to petition her boyfriend to come and marry her, and they would live with the other girlfriend....

It's not up to the USCIS to investigate on how the couple chooses to live or who they choose to live with....

There are plenty of swingers in the US, if it happens that a swinger couple is one that is together through a marriage visa/ green card does that make them commiting immigration fraud.... does that change the fact that they love each other, wanted to marry each other, and were both legally able to marry each other......

That said, I would leave th US BF out of it as much as possible when it comes to the immigration process

Read the rules before you let your little fingers loose on the keyboard. I could interject my Catholic beliefs on this matter but then I'd be here all day...HOWEVER...the USCIS added moral character as a requirement for a reason. The reason the OP cant find archives on the subject is because its not allowed. Let her find a lawyer...unless that lawyer is willing to lose his or her license she's out of luck. If there were no standards then CIMT wouldnt exist. The difference here is that the OP continues her lifestyle. It IS up to the USCIS to investigate on how a couple chooses to live their lives..why else are we pouring every ounce of evidence into these petitions we send in? Google it...an immigration officer will ask whether the OP practices polygamy at the interview...should she leave the boyfriend out then? Oh...lie to an immigration officer? That goes against everything this board stands for.

OP isn't married to her American boyfriend, so she won't be practicing polygamy by marrying her foreign boyfriend, so the boyfriend can say no to these question without lying. What she is proposing is not illegal. CIMT concerns crimes. The OP's behavior, no matter how offensive, is not a crime.

ETA: Or, what mybackpages said.

Confidential to mybackpages: Hey NOA buddy! How's life?

Also, you can't be accidentally common law married. Part of the requirements for common law marriage in those states that allow it is a desire to be married and some sort of public declaration or conduct that indicates you are married. It's not just that you live together and have a lot of sex for a while, then, oops, you're married.

Polyamory is not the same as polygamy. Polygamy means being officially wedded to more than one person at the same time. There's a legal component to polygamy that isn't part of polyamory, and it sounds like OP isn't planning to breach that threshold.

Bathe

Under the Soviet System "Creator" was replaced with "State" and the Supreme State gave "rights" to its citizens as seen fit. Perhaps this is the system that this particular politician seems to prefer - being a LIBERAL DEMOCRAT.

Under the ever increasing power of the "State", the "State" has assumed far greater POWERS over the citizens daily life over the last 4 decades of Democrat Party power.

Dude, I know. All this deficit spending committing us and our children to decades of taxation for debt repayment, plus the warrentless wiretapping, mass appropriation of private telecommunications records - not to mention the "Supreme State" suddenly deciding there's a whole class of people who can access our prisons but not our courts. Whatever happened to these rights endowed by the creator? It's the State in charge now, and they can do what they want to their "detainees."

40 years is too long for these Democrats. It's time to give Republicans a chance.

I think that we get told a lot of misinformation by the goverment and it just adds to the confusion. The OP just told me that USCIS told him about not being legal to work after getting married and we are dealing with the social security office who keeps telling us something different each time we call. As of now they say immigration kept denying our social app so they said that they have to override the system and to wait 2 more weeks(it's been 6 weeks). What a mess!

rats, I lost my earlier reply to you on this.

The upshot is, it has been demonstrated time and again that one can not rely on information given to them by anyone at USCIS or their contractors. That is what discussion groups are for.

As for SSA, I can't tell what has happened with your application, but there are some common glitches:

-You've applied for your SS#, they've looked you up in SAVE and they can't verify your immigration status. They do now have a more expedited process for hurrying things up; you could search for posts from mdyoung under the nick "I Quit' for help. You should be calling your SSA office weekly if this is your issue--they should be checking SAVE for you daily if necessary.

-You got married and are trying to apply for your SSA account in a name other than the one USCIS knows you by. You must apply for/accept your SS card in the name that matches your CIS documents until you get a new CIS docuemnt with the new name (EAD or Green Card usually).

I had another one, but ...

I'm a little worried about the name bit. My fiance is in the immigration system as Firstname Middle Secondmiddle Lastname (I think the two middle names are stored as one string probably) and his two middle names didn't fit in the SSA computer system, so he's there as Firstname M Lastname.

The first incompetent person who entered his application (after another incompetent person turned us away and we had to print out a section of their own manual that says K1 can get SSN and etc etc.) entered it as Firstname Middle S Lastname (complete first middle name, initial for second), so the next day he went back, had that application voided, and applied with just one middle initial. Anyway, probably agonizing over nothing, but man, after the incompetence we got at SSA I'm not taking anything for granted anymore. And they say he's still pending approval from homeland security.

My man is planning to take my last name when we get married, because he likes my name better.