Chris-n-Veronica

Well then your finished before you begin...

I wish you the best...

I have know my husband all my life and we have lived together for almost 2 years and we still have times where we both feel that we dont want to back down and work out a compromise.... so you have to ask yourself have you given it long enough??? you talk about what you get out of the relationship but what does she get out of it???

Kezzie

She will get security in life, a family and wholsome, life full of love.... i get someone who does not want to listen, and does what she wants......

She has even called a Vido person to put a spell on my and my mother, and have done things like that which has brought more and more mistrust into this relationship. IF you don't HAVE trust you have nothing. by now after this time, trust should have been built. one person in the relationship puts the best foot forward and says all there is and comes true.. if not then. you've got NOTHING. just look at my timeline, have i given it enough time,,,

believe me, this was and still is something i did and do not want to do, but if we don't get along, and don't make each other happy, then what, give it more time so other party can claim more that i owe her... as the time goes on her demands will grow too...... i just want to be happy together, but can not see it anymore, an dhave not had it for about 6 months now, every 2 weeks max, we have a blow out again and again since Feb of 2005.

Try Counseling!! You both have painted each other into the corner...neither one wants to back down...both of you are alittle self-centered.. Get some help...you can't do it on your own....

If you walk away then you actual did lose $40,000 and over a year of your life.. You must love her ..to do all that you have done...Now take steps to find a solution to this basic problem...and beleive me this problem of yours is a basic problem.. But it also is about both of your attitudes...so get some outside help..

When 2 people want to always be the one with power... that is not good... you both have to learn to back down and compromise that is hard to begin with but with time and effort it will happen....

But you seem to have given up...

Kezzie

do you truly believe after 9 months living together and talking over the phone for a year, and seeing her for 3 months during the 1 year, which makes it almost a year... is this enough time to get to know one another enough to learn how to calm the other down and make him feel good, so that i he has done so far, is rewarded with love and understanding .... I have given enough trials, or time or attempted to and have given it all i got,..sometimes two people are two different that works, they make up the differences in each other, but sometimes two people are too much alike, and that is head on hard to deal with and to make it work...

I did get counsling before she came over, and did ask her to do the same, and that we build on it while here, she did offer same.....

HERE is my problem, She keeps up such good front, and way of being, that as if there is no problem, she has issues, and so do i ,,, no one is perfect. i faced them, and have tried to resolve them, she feels and knows she is right in the ways of her beliefs, yet she will say i'm right or she is wrong, yet, i can tell now, that she just says it, but does not believe in it... that is a problem that couseling can not help....

to get couseling, i know, 1st thing is to open yourself up to ideas and desire to want to change, if you think you are right all the time in the ways of being, then couseling is just a waste of time and more money.

Try Counseling!! You both have painted each other into the corner...neither one wants to back down...both of you are alittle self-centered.. Get some help...you can't do it on your own....

If you walk away then you actual did lose $40,000 and over a year of your life.. You must love her ..to do all that you have done...Now take steps to find a solution to this basic problem...and beleive me this problem of yours is a basic problem.. But it also is about both of your attitudes...so get some outside help..

Marriage is a big compromise... it's a endless trial and error... You never quit finding things that you need to change to better it..

Marriage is about working together...saying your sorry...Working things out... crying together...laughing together..Doing everything together.. ..Marriage is when two = one .....Good Luck

When 2 people want to always be the one with power... that is not good... you both have to learn to back down and compromise that is hard to begin with but with time and effort it will happen....

But you seem to have given up...

Kezzie

do you truly believe after 9 months living together and talking over the phone for a year, and seeing her for 3 months during the 1 year, which makes it almost a year... is this enough time to get to know one another enough to learn how to calm the other down and make him feel good, so that i he has done so far, is rewarded with love and understanding .... I have given enough trials, or time or attempted to and have given it all i got,..sometimes two people are two different that works, they make up the differences in each other, but sometimes two people are too much alike, and that is head on hard to deal with and to make it work...

Huh ?

You asked her to buy her own car..

She's asking you to come to bed..

Your mad because she doesn't do as you say...

Is this a Dictatorship or a marriage ?

$40,000.00 Holy Smokes... maybe part of that would've been expenses anyway with a job move..loss etc.. because I couldn't even think of spending that much..

But as a person who has done the divorce thing... DON'T!!! get counseling first ...work it out... You wanted the relationship for a reason...

well, i went through all of this and brought wife over, and living in california now, and i have spent over 40K for this marriage to get here, now i find out we are not compatible, she does not listen to me, i have been after her for 8 months, since jan-06 to get her drive lic. and she just took the written test, and still i am struggling to get her to drive my car to learn, i have asked her to bring 4K of her money to buy herself a car, but she think it is my duty, she is working, and i cam out of work right now, and man oh man it is getting tougher, we got into a fight, and i said i want a divorce, after crying a bit, she was more concerned with her green card status and what happens to it, than she was with what our issues are and how she can contribute in a positive way to make it work.

i am very frustrated, have grown white hair, even on my chest, and she is so calm and cool as if we did not even had an issue or a difference of oponion, .... i am done.... with this.

boys and girl, please, please, please make sure if you get married somewhere else, live together for while before getting married, bring her/him on a k3 to try it first to make sure things will work out. as soon as they get oked, with green card, and imm. status their attitude will change, please please make sure you test the relatinship, before doing what i have done.

i have realy tried, but now it is over, i will be filing, if she plays nice with me, i will help her to maintain her status, and if not then, i will send a letter to INS, hope it does get to this ... there has been not dom. violance, and hope she does not start, as i know i will NOT, i feel very much like i am trapped, marraige is give energy to the man and women to want to get up in the morining and hug their spouse, i have slept on the coach for a week now, and she has asked me twice why don't you come to bed, ...

BE CAREFULL, the time to get a visa passes, and you join and then it all starts, check it all out befor hand

I'll try again..

Veronica

I love all her pic's couldn't pic just one... Just click on my pic's..

grrrr!

I love all her pic's couldn't pic just one... Just click on my pic's..

grrrr!

Well okkk ... I guess you do neither

why is it every dayum thread you create is about sex or passion

dayum give it a break.

As said a hundred times before... Why go to Russian to get laid..???? whats it cost ??$2--3,000 for the trip or more.. to get laid and treat women like objects.... "This is Stupid" ,very immature.. and self centered..but then that is why you posted it..Because you like the attention..

If your not serious about finding that special person..stop screwing it up for us guys that are serious.. and stay in the states ..

I think this is the problem in the Russian forum with the AW "flame" thing.

See, truly I have no problem with wanting to find a soul mate in Russia...Dan, I think that you truly had noble intentions...you got screwed over, and actually you seem like a nice guy so that makes me sad....

but it's people like Cam that give all of you a bad name...ya know? I must say this post is appalling to me. I don't know if it's a joke...i feel like it almost HAS to be...but if I had found out my husband ever slept with a hooker, that would be a breaking point for me...especailly if he had come to visit ME....and then broken away to get laid by a hooker....personally, of course, but I find it hard to believe that the way ya'll describe Russian women in here...I would think that as proud and strong as tehy are, they would feel similarly...americanized or not - who wants their man whoring around?? Honestly?

So...there's my (probably unwanted) two cents.

I agree that Cam's remarks can be construed in extremely bad taste, whether true or not, Caroline.

And I agree with your point of view on such things, personally

An interesting story, though, to share with you, once upon a time my ex- and I were talking about her first "boyfriend/SO" back in Russia when she was younger. (early twenties). And she said something to me like "one time he hired two girls for sex...".

My jaw about bounced off the floor. And then she asked me.... "you never hired prostitute before??"

HELL NO, never, and never would I either...

She shrugged and said "it's common in Russia for men to do this..."

Picking Caroline's jaw up off the floor and handing it back to her... True story, Caroline.

In term of Cam giving "all of us a bad name"? I think that's as silly as some of these guys blaming ALL American women for their experiences with a few...

-- Dan

Closed...I enjoy/feel it better..... plus what if they are making a funny face ??? Maybe that'll kill the serious moment..

hahahahahhaahhahaha

I know..silly thing..lol..just trying to lighten up some ''heavy loads '' here in VJ Hope so!

Mine is always closed BUT I do peek and see if Gary look at me ..sometimes I just love looking at his eyes rolling(well even its close you can tell by the move of his eyeball..)I like His eyelash flicks and I notice that the more I play and tease on his mouth the more his eyeball moved..I didnt know that eyes get excited too. hehe ..sometimes he caught me and we just end up laughing..

Is Your eyes close or open?

Mainly going to Embassy/USCIS Reviews ...and tells us about the interviews...What they asked, paper needed, problems ?...etc.., It will just help us with interviews coming up..

For everyone who knows or has had their interview please fill in your US Embassy Bucharest, Romania Information...

Under Embassy Info at the top of the page...

Laundry ? I prefer pressing the Sheets... .. Lucky me I live where I work... So I'll be doing alot of sheet pressing...

Also i told Veronica We'd go see the Winter Carnival In McCall, ID ..one of the first things..Since the timing will be about right..

Laundry, shopping for food, cleaning, wedding planning, some sightseeing, etc.

For everyone who knows or has had their interview please fill in your US Embassy Bucharest, Romania Information...

Under Embassy Info at the top of the page...

I don't know the answer..but I wish I would've thought of this...

What about tax returns..

Job letter..

stuff like that...

My understanding of the regulations is that you can send your petition to either the service center that covers the state you currently live in (currently my permanent address) or to the service center in the state that covers an address you expect to live in.

Here is my question: I have the opportunity to put in a valid address in a state that is covered by VSC (my sister's residence). She has offered this so I need I can receive mail at that address. If my interpretation of the regulations is correct and should I opt for that opportunity, will VSC send all my snail mail to that address or my permanent address where I currently live? Anyone think of any pitfalls to this approach?

Thanks I'm only in day 26 so i'm sure I'm still out 20 days or so before a touch.. ..And probably 120 or so before Veronica can take over with the touches..

Sorry you had to touch yourself. Good luck, hopefully someone will touch you soon, I was touched today, so I'm happy

Yes

I've seen members on different forums stating that when they checked the status of their visa that is being processed, they say it had been "touched".

I submitted my husband's I-130 petition a month ago and last week mailed in his I-192F petition.

I've checked the status of his I-130 once a week, but how can I tell if it has been touched or not?

It says "Last Updated" 10/15/06, does that mean that was the last time it was touched?

Thanks

It's ok.. We are all in the waiting game.. and have to vent in our ways.. since our loves ones aren't with us..

Hashahahhaha the illegal thing was a joke... Kitkat1 hhaahhahahahaha.. He was talking about reducing their work force because of the crack down on illegals...

Clearly I did not get the joke . . . or maybe I just didn't see the humor?

Well by myself.. since these monkeys are so slow...

Sorry had to lighten the moment....

Hashahahhaha the illegal thing was a joke... Kitkat1 hhaahhahahahaha.. He was talking about reducing their work force because of the crack down on illegals...

I was just wondering if the crack-down on illegals has reduced their workforce and increased the processing time.

The service centers have nothing to do with USCIS's "crack-down on illegals". Service centers process paperwork - they don't enforce the law.

The slowdown in processing dates is a result of the IMBRA fiasco and the effects are still being felt. Most March filers waited close to 150-175 days. Slower than things are normally but faster than in the past when it took 9 months. Hang in there and your day will come.

Met online April 05' Visited her April 06' and Aug 06' total.. 1.6 years known, But In each other arms total time 30 days..

About one year or so. Exact dates got kind of mooshy. x.x

Yes I agree... I started out at Jan 11th the the 4th..then Dec 28th and then the 25th...back to the 28th and now to the 31th.. God when will it stop... hahhaha

Just checked my possible ajudication date and I have moved back 2 days the good thing is that it means some that didn't are now taking the time to fill in the timeline the more that do the closer to the truth we get.

Take a moment and fill them in and see how far back you can set me

These guys must have a manual on excuses..

But what I do find weird..is how fast stuff happens sometimes after you call...it's like they don't worry to much about you till you call...And they go Whooops Next he'll call his congressman..better move him along..in front of they others that haven't called..

Start Jumping

I received the NOA2 by snail mail before the web site changed. Your good to go

A movie of his...I really liked is.. "What Dreams May Come" it was a small movie..and I only saw it as a rental.. Never saw it it the Movie houses..

and yes your right.. He does come off more of a hairy , horny Old guy anymore....

I actually enjoyed was Mrs. Doubtfire as I thought it was a great movie for kids going through divorce, but even that wasn't really that funny.

This was a favorite movie in our house as well. My oldest son informed me about one month ago that they are or have filmed a Mrs. Doubtfire sequel and it will be out next year. The boys are excited about it and I am like wondering if he will be able to pull it off after so many years?

Well if not my xmas but her's would be fine.. and thats Jan 7-8th .. and I think that is more realitist ...

but a NOA2 Nov 15th-30th would sure make US very happy.. because then we know we are over the hump and heading down to the gate..(Flight Gate ) that is...

Wow this is where all my filing buddies seem to be hanging out! I'll reach the 70 day waiting mark by end of the first week in November...seems to be close to the decision time of recent filers. I would be vry happy to hear before thanksgiving. For my fiance there is about a 2 month wait between NOA2 and Interview...so hoping to see him here early January.

Congratulations to original OP for becoming "official"!

Oh hey, we're filing buddies! WOO! Cheers to us!

Yes Good Luck!!

I'm also hoping for a NOA2 By Thanksgivin .. Who knows.. Maybe if we are very lucky Our Honeys will be here for Xmas..

Yes yes, I too am hoping for NOA2 by Thanksgiving.

I'll have to remember this.. Sounds like the bus ride from Chisanu to Romania...

Good Luck with the rest of your journey

OK, so i have deleted my personal info because I don't want this post to cause me any trouble; I think I found a shortcut!

Long story short, my I-129f process has been a nightmare. Between forms getting lost in the mail and the CSC backlog it has taken me almost 10 months to receive my NA02 which came early this month. With the current lag between the CSC and the NVC I have given up all hope of bringing me sweetheart here in time to meet my family around X-mas. Total bummer!!!!!!

But now there is a glimer of hope as I think that I have found a shortcut. As we perpared all the documents that this website indicated would be asked for by the consulate in the package 3, I decided to call the consulate about the police and medical requirements. I called and was told by a woman, "Gina", working there, "Yea, sure, have your fiancee stop by and pick up the medical exam form." It sounded too easy...........

So I made the appointment with a doctor from the list that the consulate emailed and my baby purchased a bus ticket for the 11 hour long ride to the capital. I asked her brother to escort her to get the forms, as he lives in the capital. He said, " no problem."

They went to the consulate at 8am and were told, "come back at 2pm, when the guy that hands out those forms comes in." So imagine my feeling when I called them at 8:30 and was told that they had left without the forms.

I could not imagine who would start his work day at the consulate at 2pm and I was worried that the were getting the run around and might be sent away again in the afternoon, and the exam is early tomorrow!!!!!!!!!! I felt ill as I realized the my sweetie might be headed home empty handed.

Well, I called the consulate and was transfered to a gentleman(I asked for his full name and had him confirm the spelling and then read it back to him) who said that they, "can't give out any forms, until the package arrives fron the NVC, after all, these forms are U.S. government property."

I calmly explained about the appointment tomorrow and noted that my fiancee had traveled 11 hours by bus to reach the capital. I also explained that "Gina" there at the consulate had informed me the week before that the forms could simply be picked up at the customer service window.

I was kicking myself fo failing to get "Gina's" last name, and was just about to ask him to call her at extension #320. As I began to admit to him that I understood that 'the rules are the rules" he interupted me and said, "well she has come a long was and I am not supposed to do this, but........." Success! B)

As I fell all over myself thanking him he told me to have them ask for him at the front window and that he would have the form ready.

OK SO HERE COMES THE SHORT CUT............

He said, :So you just want the form right? You know, usually we don't send the form out alone, it comes with the whole package(Package 3). would you like me to give here the whole package??????"

WOULD I? WOULD I? And skip three trips through their dreaded postal system? And cut a minimum of one month(yes their mail is slow) from the process? YES I WOULD!!!!!!!!!!!! B) He said, "No problem."

So after calling my fiancee an hour later to confim that she had really receive the whole package, I called back to my new best friend at the consulate and asked how we would know that they had received the notice from the NVC so that she could send in the I DS-230. He said that there was no need as he had put her name down in the ledger as having received the package. He said they would call us when the package arrived from the NVC and we could set up an appointment then. !!!!!!!!! I asked, "so getting an appointment, that will take what, a month?" His reply, "oh no, she should have the forms ready, if so we should be able to get her in within a week."

I am speechless.....

I post this for your benefit. I hope this works out for me and I hope all the rest of you recieve at least one pleasant suprise as you head for your goal.

Well at this stage we only have one thing that moves and it's this "Immigration Timelines" your timline... doesn't mean alot...but it's fun to see it move while your waiting for the real moves/touches.

Good luck... Now no cutting in line.. We are all in love...

noa1 just arrived in the mail today!!!!!!!!!yipppeeeeeeeeeee