Mrs. Palmer

Tammy, first off let me start by saying that I am truly sorry that you are dealing with all of this. I remember reading about your story a while back. I know that you would have never pictured this scenario for yourself, but with that being said. I feel like you have received alot of good advice from the VJers up here. I would definitely take precautions to protect yourself physically, financially, emotionally, etc. I don't agree with the poster who said that Jamaican men love their freedom and want to be around their own culture. In my opinion, (and its just that)...its not so much about having freedom as it is about having LOVE and RESPECT for your spouse. Both the wife and husband have a certain amount of freedom in a marriage...heck no one is chained to anyone without the opportunity to experience fellowship and fun outside of the home--however that does not preclude the commitment and respect that he should have for your feelings and your marriage. You should ALWAYS be his FIRST priority! Your feelings should ALWAYS be his FIRST consideration. And vice versa. And if this is not so, then things will never be right. He's already bold enough to let you know what he is doing...I'm sure texting this woman is only the tip of the iceberg. Drinking and driving, and behaving recklessly are NOT the actions of a man that wants to do all that he can to make a better life for himself and his wife. Take care of YOU. Do all your research about what your options are, as well as your responsibilities should he remain in the US and become a public charge. Lean on the folks here at VJ because there is alot of helpful information here. No one deserves to be treated like this...no one does. And if he can't give you what you need and be the husband that he vowed he would be, then chalk this up as a life lesson, no matter how hard it may be, and try to move forward. Rely on your family and friends for support. You will need them through this difficult time.

Tammy, first off let me start by saying that I am truly sorry that you are dealing with all of this. I remember reading about your story a while back. I know that you would have never pictured this scenario for yourself, but with that being said. I feel like you have received alot of good advice from the VJers up here. I would definitely take precautions to protect yourself physically, financially, emotionally, etc. I don't agree with the poster who said that Jamaican men love their freedom and want to be around their own culture. In my opinion, (and its just that)...its not so much about having freedom as it is about having LOVE and RESPECT for your spouse. Both the wife and husband have a certain amount of freedom in a marriage...heck no one is chained to anyone without the opportunity to experience fellowship and fun outside of the home--however that does not preclude the commitment and respect that he should have for your feelings and your marriage. You should ALWAYS be his FIRST priority! Your feelings should ALWAYS be his FIRST consideration. And vice versa. And if this is not so, then things will never be right. He's already bold enough to let you know what he is doing...I'm sure texting this woman is only the tip of the iceberg. Drinking and driving, and behaving recklessly are NOT the actions of a man that wants to do all that he can to make a better life for himself and his wife. Take care of YOU. Do all your research about what your options are, as well as your responsibilities should he remain in the US and become a public charge. Lean on the folks here at VJ because there is alot of helpful information here. No one deserves to be treated like this...no one does. And if he can't give you what you need and be the husband that he vowed he would be, then chalk this up as a life lesson, no matter how hard it may be, and try to move forward. Rely on your family and friends for support. You will need them through this difficult time.

Tammy, first off let me start by saying that I am truly sorry that you are dealing with all of this. I remember reading about your story a while back. I know that you would have never pictured this scenario for yourself, but with that being said. I feel like you have received alot of good advice from the VJers up here. I would definitely take precautions to protect yourself physically, financially, emotionally, etc. I don't agree with the poster who said that Jamaican men love their freedom and want to be around their own culture. In my opinion, (and its just that)...its not so much about having freedom as it is about having LOVE and RESPECT for your spouse. Both the wife and husband have a certain amount of freedom in a marriage...heck no one is chained to anyone without the opportunity to experience fellowship and fun outside of the home--however that does not preclude the commitment and respect that he should have for your feelings and your marriage. You should ALWAYS be his FIRST priority! Your feelings should ALWAYS be his FIRST consideration. And vice versa. And if this is not so, then things will never be right. He's already bold enough to let you know what he is doing...I'm sure texting this woman is only the tip of the iceberg. Drinking and driving, and behaving recklessly are NOT the actions of a man that wants to do all that he can to make a better life for himself and his wife. Take care of YOU. Do all your research about what your options are, as well as your responsibilities should he remain in the US and become a public charge. Lean on the folks here at VJ because there is alot of helpful information here. No one deserves to be treated like this...no one does. And if he can't give you what you need and be the husband that he vowed he would be, then chalk this up as a life lesson, no matter how hard it may be, and try to move forward. Rely on your family and friends for support. You will need them through this difficult time.

a dat mi wonder tuh???

Lol...Lawny is surely gonna get you! Yuh too bad!

Hey JaP..it does look awfully fishy. A few things that stuck out for me: 1) They spelled Washington wrong, 2) they left a digit off the zip code, 3) they left the "S" off USCIS, and 4) they spelled country wrong.. While they may seem insignificant, it is rare that you will find so many typos on an official immigration letter. Does your co-worker have any access to her at all? Maybe e-mail? If so, she/he could figure out if there is a way to obtain her basic identifying info so that she could call the field office to determine the authenticity of the letter (or at least what the alleged meeting is in regards to). And the whole thing about facial recognition scans to determine who you are--really? I doubt they do that for anyone (or most) people who immigrate to the country. Had they said fingerscans, I might have gone with that. Who knows, maybe it's somebody trying to scare her. I hope not though, because that's mean. BTW, how are YOU and that cutie patootie baby doing?