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I am thinking of rolling out in March, girl he got kissy face on me. And apologized again and again and again. But I have to say the time is a killer?

Why have you not told us about the upcoming trip. I hope to join on that side of the world. Are you going through Paris? And how long are you going for? I hope you come back pregnant and a few steps closer to getting your man! What are the plans? Give us detail.

You people need a life and you guys are internet stockers. What is the point in you mentioning me. Go ____ yourself. I hate this board and you guys have done it.

That's fantastic news !!!!!

Normally a K-1 means a quick trip through NVC.... insha'allah it will only be a matter of a few weeks before Casa gets the case back and sets you up for a new interview.

I am so happy for you both.... Way To Go !!!!

-MK

Actually with a reaffirmed petition, it skips the NVC altogether and goes directly to the consulate along with a recommendation to issue a visa! It can take about 4 weeks or so before Casa will call him with his new interview date.

I'm soooooo happy and excited for you Ella!!!

Exactly how long has VSC had this returned petition? I'm asking because there are so many I know of out of VSC waiting on word of their returned K1 petition...waiting longer than 6-8 months.

~Kiyah~

kiyah......they have had my petition since april 14,2006 almost a year now about 10 months i would say...ok thank you so much

OH I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU. (I do not give this out often.) I remember you where in a panic can you tell us what you did. Did you write a letter or just send somethings in to them. I am so happy for you and how that everything goes great with you and your fiance. Girl you have waited a long time. I know it is going to go so fast for you, we will see the VISA IN HAND post before we know it. Inshallah, it will come soon. You are in my du'aas sister. RIGHT ON VERMONT, and take that CASA.

ROFLMAO, omg my fiance does the same thing! One of his biggest concerns about coming here is finding a barber who does threading. for 1JD.....lol

LOL! I told my Dh that there will be none of that here! I was like this is ARKANSAS and you're lucky if you can find someone who will speak a form of English you even understand, let alone thread.

Actaully, he let me pluck it with tweezers and it was kind of fun! LOL! He made a lot of jokes about how maybe I would finish before one of us died...

Hahahahaha, well I did manage to find places that do threading out here but its done by women and that is a foreign concept to him at this point. He goes to the barber quite often too and its so cheap there so he can afford to do that. I don't if its gonna be that easy to go every week here.

I hate the word metrosexual, but it best describes what I am saying/asking. Metrosexual/übersexual...Do you know some ME/NA that take care of themselves, spends more then you on looking good ? or do you think it's not in the culture.... I am curious.

Yes I know many. I mean I hate to stereotype but Lebanese guys don't just walk out of the house looking that hot in a matter of 5 minutes

You will find lots of guys like this but in the major cities, not so much in the outskirts.

Ye, I see them everyone Eyebrows more straight then mine.

Yeah you know its bad when the guy is giving you tips on how to tweeze your eyebrows Henia have you heard of that Lebanese-Canadian singer...Massari? Iwould say he is metrosexual, LOL

He just made a new fan. I did not know they did it big like this in Canada. And my guy does the same thing. He never passes a mirror without looking it. But he will not pluck the hair aroun the eye.

right on im tired of mowing, ha we were sitting at a coffee shop one moring and a guy was mowing, i could tell he had never done that before. Also im not a big fan of this going back 3 weeks at 9 in the evening pulling out old threads to prove a point, nor all the quotes. Its very childish to keep rehashing over and over. Take what is new for today, discuss it and go on life is to short and times are to trying for all this. One just got their ok from Calif there are a few of us right there close, its getting a little exciting now

Boy I miss everything these days.

amen, brinido!

i honestly didn't think this topic would go in the sex direction. i was asking for romantic ideas to make my home more comfortable, gifts, food, drink, music, things to do, etc for his first night. i already knew the "fill in the blank " part. but since it went in that direction its A-OKAY by me!

Right, this topic was not about sex, it was implied in a cute way but let me tell you why it blew it. Not too long ago there was a 20 page thread full of fighting over the whole "sex toy" thing. So if you go back to the beginning pages of this thread you will clearly see that Green-Eyed took it in that direction again and kept going and going with it. She was clearly trying to provoke another fight and she got what she wanted. This whole song and dance she is giving about being a victim is the biggest load of BS I have ever seen, the long time members of this board know she is not a target. She brings this on herself and lately has done quite a good job in dividing the board into an "us against them" routine which is beyond stupid. For someone who claims to hate high school games so much, she sure does play them alot!

I know you are not trying to talk about anybody. What day was that again.............

I am so upset I was not on here for this trend, but I will have to say that nobody is perfect. We are not perfect muslims and will never be, if one person does something but does not do another thing than so what. I have noticed in myself that sometimes we carry around a Christian mentality. We do not have hypocritics in Islam, we are all growing as muslims. Maybe you are doing something that I am not doing. I know people that drink and i think it is wrong but I do things that some may consider incorrect behavior. I think we should stop with the judging. Some people ask questions yes I know the knowledge does that mean I apply it all the time. I try my best but I do not. There are a lot of things that we have to consider as muslims and we never stop learning and growing. So what you think is not appropriate could be just that person growing out of a phrase. I am not sure what is going on but these trends of entertaining and we learn alot. I think I have learned the most hadith from this group then anybody. Personalities are different and yes they will clash. however when you are on a public board it is a free for all. I have learned this and I have learn the PM option.

I am a Green-eyed girl FAN. I was waiting for the new album!!!

That's cool! Just remember this post when she calls you out as a ####### because you didn't get married the way she deems necessary.

I am the wrong tree to run up. I am strong in faith and character and i will tell you this if people go and post there personal busy then get over it you will hear things you do not like. I remember my time when I was denied and everyone went after me. You know what I did, I ignored those people. What is there to say. Something else I read this whole trend all day because it was funny. Why would you bring up something from an old trend? What was the purpose to attack her. I personally feel like this was being done and I understand exactly where she is coming from. I do not come on here and tell people that I lived with my boyfriend etc, knowing I am muslim. And that I will be called on it. You have some people ask questions and when you ask a question be prepared for the answers. I am not a saint and will never claim but it is Hadith that you do not air out your sins and your relationship with god is yours. Green-eyed girl from my understand has a Masters in Islamic Studies. If she is sharing then find. I know a few muslims that eat pork (things that have it in it) and they think it is ok or too hard to find stuff without it. But they pray and do other things. One act does not make you a muslim. Wearing a scarf, praying in front of people for praise, but it is in your heart. I do not know yours nor hers. If anybody gives a comment you go and look it up. Figure out if it applies and if it does not then forget it. I personal listen and research. This is the best and is encourage. If Green-eyed girl wants to fight then find I can go with the best of them. But I like to fight, I know this, and if I know about something I am going to bring. Green-eyed girl can not tell me about aviation or the miltiary life. But there are a few here who can.

Fornication is a big deal in the muslim life as well as drinking not praying etc. It is one of the worst things you do and it leads to self-destructive behavior, along with destroying the muslim community. Now those that are not muslim and have muslim husband- "Boyfriends" then find do what you want. But do not think you will get a cookie. I try not to judge people but that is where groups come in. I am in the military and when I go to the Mosque alot of people do not want to talk me but there are a few girls on base that muslim and we hang out. They do not wear hijib and some do. I am closer to the ones that wear hijib. That is all, if you do somethings or others do that does not make them better muslims etc. I love being muslim, this is the coolest deen every and I still have issues etc. This is not just a muslim but a lot of other folks do it too. It is hard to really address what you are saying becauase I am not sure of your history on this board. But whatever, do doodlgebug and let green eyed girl do her thang. I do not care becuase me I will do mine. period. Nothing you wil lsay will stop it. people attacked me and I let it go. We are all on this board for once reason and one reson only. WE ARE MARRIED AND ENGAGED AND TRYING TO GET OUR SO's HERE OR HELP OTHERS GET THEIR SO. That is it.

You know I was going refrain from posting but I think many people are wondering...

Green-Eyed...based on the advice you gave Rahma the other day on proper adab, do you think you are following the same right now when continuing to discuss your sex toys? I would say that is very high on the list of lack of adab. I realize you have stated earlier that just because you have one doesn't mean you use it, but I would like to remind you that there is only one use for such a thing. There is no alternative use for it, therefore discussing it in a public forum is a lack of adab. If you want to talk about it then please by all means continue, but don't call others out about adab when you can practice what you preach I just want to add I don't really have a problem with anyone here discussing it even though I think its too personal, my problem is with those who discuss such things and then call others out for being disrespectful.

hmmmmmm....I remember saying that earlier!!!

I know you want to fit in with the cabal, doodle, but you don't have the grounds on which to stand.

Double standards are the norm on this board. Objections are not to what is said, but to whom is saying it. As I said before, people jump on whom they want to. Discussions of sex on this board are common, though veiled. When the "rigt" people are in the nix, nothing is said. When the "wrong" people are in the mix, that's whan it's all wrong.

I'm sorry, but some of the Muslimas here consider Islam a joke until they have someone to pick at to divert from what they thmeselves do and say. Then, they side with the pro-fornicators. They resent me for speaking out against fornication, and will use anything I say to try to deflect from themselves. That is clear to more and more too. You are losing your credibility as critics because of your own hypocrisy and failure to practice what you preach and not apply your finger pointing objectively.

I could give a rat's azz if I fit in or not. I think I've proven that quite a few times. What I do care about though is when someone calls another sister out for committing fornication, when she clearly hasn't. If you were half the person Rahma is, I would actually listen to your arguments but you've proven in this and other threads by waving your vibrator and ####### talk that you are not one to be spouting off any right/wrong speeches. You say that you don't use it for masturbation ..... do you hang it from a mantle then and use it for decoration??????

If you want to be taken seriously when you give out Islamic advice, I think perhaps you might wanna clean up your act.

I agree with JP that I don't mind the talk but when someone is being hypocritical and has hurt a dear friend, then I have to speak out as well. Obviously you've used this thread as you have others recently to try to scratch the surface and cause a fight. Do you think this is beneficial to your cause of peace on these boards? I think not, but then that's just me.

I am so upset I was not on here for this trend, but I will have to say that nobody is perfect. We are not perfect muslims and will never be, if one person does something but does not do another thing than so what. I have noticed in myself that sometimes we carry around a Christian mentality. We do not have hypocritics in Islam, we are all growing as muslims. Maybe you are doing something that I am not doing. I know people that drink and i think it is wrong but I do things that some may consider incorrect behavior. I think we should stop with the judging. Some people ask questions yes I know the knowledge does that mean I apply it all the time. I try my best but I do not. There are a lot of things that we have to consider as muslims and we never stop learning and growing. So what you think is not appropriate could be just that person growing out of a phrase. I am not sure what is going on but these trends of entertaining and we learn alot. I think I have learned the most hadith from this group then anybody. Personalities are different and yes they will clash. however when you are on a public board it is a free for all. I have learned this and I have learn the PM option.

Doodle, welcome to the "anyone who disagrees with Green-Eyed Girl" clique.

Which apparently includes just about everyone on this board

I am a Green-eyed girl FAN. I was waiting for the new album!!!

Yes, it has. That's part of the problem. It's only noticed when done by those who are not among the favored.

Yes Green-eyed girl I will have to agree with you. When you look at the previous you see this happening. And after some of the things I read I am not "what" and they talk about me. Something else that is funny is that people try to PM and tell me to give it a break or whatever. Why should I give the board a break, you know, how are you to tell me when to comment and when not too. One thing that is off subject but gets on my nerves is the islamic questions. But anyway maybe I will start a trend with that one????

I love stick pins.

I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!! So when are you going to get your things together for your guy?

So when you get through tomorrow, what will happen as far as your choice of the visa process for your husband or will you become a citizen and do it? Or when you come naturalized do you get citizenship? I am not sure of what is going on with this part of the immgration world.

Well my eyes are glued to the gov www and the DCF forum here, maybe there will be some admendments to the new law. BUt if not, after I meet up with my dH (to get all the paperwork in order) we will be sending off the K-3 app, see where it takes us....right after my interview tommorrow I have an appointment with my travel agent. Got a ticket to Alger for $780 round-trip

If I pass my test tomorrow, which they will tell me right then and there, they will either swear me then, or I have to wait for an oath letter for the oath ceremony. After you take the oath, you are a USC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay so you are saying that naturalization is a way to become a citizen? I did not know that I thought you just got to stay here. I know nothing about this stuff. So are you going to the application right after they tell you. I know they ask questions about the song and how wrote it etc. Did you study?

You better tell us what happened!!!

So when you get through tomorrow, what will happen as far as your choice of the visa process for your husband or will you become a citizen and do it? Or when you come naturalized do you get citizenship? I am not sure of what is going on with this part of the immgration world.

Inshallah.

Just want to say gooooooooo Henia tomorrow and I wish you all the luck. You are cool beans and I hope that Allah will bless you and reward you. You deserve this so much. So Henia bring it home. I want to dance tomorrow and go out to eat in your honor.

Wow, I am sorry to hear this from your friend. I know of the hadiths however like someone said it is not the same. And so what get married again and again and again and again. You just got back like a month ago right? So what is the problem. Sometimes you have to check your friends.

I am a specialized probation officer supervising sex offenders.

Wow, I used to work for Harris County Probation Department. I joined the about 5 years ago Navy and I work in Aviation Administration. I also volunteer as a teacher in Arabic at the Mosque and I am a student- 3 courses away from a BA. (And I can not wait until it is over. )

Oh yeah, we're doing a wedding cake! I think our wedding cake cost more than twice the cost of my dress! We're doing pretty much everything: dollar dance, bouquet toss. I'm not so sure about the garter toss though (he doesn't like kissing in public, much less undressing!)

Well please be sure to share your photos. I love looking at weddings and dress. Do you have a dressed pick out and what are you colors? For mine I want the decor to have orange, green, and white. It is my son, my fiance, and my favorite colors.

I am so glad that you shared this event and I am happy that you made it through Casa again. I wonder what type of wedding are you planning? I am so happy for you, what is so great about this is when you have a baby she gets to come and help if she wants.

We're planning a civil service wedding with spiritual undertones (I think that's what you're asking about the type of wedding?) It's going to be outside with a female minister. We're planning for around 200 people.

I hope she can come back when my baby's due (in September)! But I don't know if there are any restrictions on how frequently a person can get a tourist visa??

I do not think it is how many times but how long, I know 6 months is the longest they can stay. Are you going to do the wedding cake, that is my favorite part. You will not believe how many cake places I went too.

Mine did the same thing and we got approved. I would just send it and tell hiim to send another bigger and if you get an RFE then you at least have a number and you can respond right away. I am not sure how you want to go about it, but me I just wanted to get in line. One of the forms I had to do an attachment but I was not sure if he need to sigh the attachment or not. I mailed the package out and then I told him to mail me the additional write up and sign it. So if they ask me for it I can send right away to the VSC. But this is only an opinion.

I love the Simpsons this was fun, merci.

I am so glad that you shared this event and I am happy that you made it through Casa again. I wonder what type of wedding are you planning? I am so happy for you, what is so great about this is when you have a baby she gets to come and help if she wants.

Did they give him a 221(G) a paper with this on it. Have him scan it and email just to make sure. But I feel like you guys good. I wish you the best and for him to get the call for the visa soon. Inshallah your man will be here in no time.