town&country

Hi midatlanticmerge, isn't it true that drug policies are political? It's getting really confusing because cannabis is just about completely legal in the U.S. while other countries are still very conservative about it. Hopefully, just now, the world will stop criminalizing this thing and get on to dealing with more pressing problems. 'the leaves of tree are for the healing of the nations". IKR??
However, the laws are still the laws, federal in nature. 3 months ban seems like nothing. what a blessing! Best to you.

Hi VJ,
I've had a crazy trip to see my husband where he finally admitted, 2 weeks after my arrival, that he did not want to live and work in the U.S. (#blindsided...) I knew he was nervous about it, who wouldn't be? but never thought he would bail. Why couldn't he have thought this through before allowing me to file the petition!! Let's just say it's been a horrible month since getting home, thinking what now? I received the NOA2 10 days after getting home. Should have been a time for celebration but instead I just put the notice away in the filing cabinet. A few days ago I received the case number and invoice number.
Today we spoke and it seemed like maybe his feet were warming up. I'm not sure, maybe . . . I had to ask him one last time, do you or don't you want to go through with this green card process, since it's time to get on with it.
I know he is very worried about the timing of it all, so if I could explain more detail about how it will work it might help. I can't find answers to these questions at the NVC site or anywhere.
--Once the case number has been issued, and it was about a week ago, how long do we get to complete the applications, fee payments, etc, and sending the package to the NVC? Is there a deadline?
--Once/if he gets a green card issued, how soon does he have to use it? Is there a deadline for that?
--If he never gets a green card, can he still get a visitor visa?
Thank-you for any insight, Julia

yes, you are overthinking this K-1 visa. You have met the requirements. Just file the petition and get on with it!! Good luck and God bless you!

Not to be snarky, but OMG, who told you the misinformation? Just a rhetorical question. My point is that most Americans don't have a clue about the legal immigration process. Culturally, movies and t.v. shows get it wrong all the time.
If I were you I'd be contacting at least one attorney since this looks kind of complicated. But don't just hand the case over to them, you have to be involved the whole time to make sure it's done correctly. You can do your part by studying the guides and sample applications, and searching for like cases.
Wishing you success and good luck.

The only thing clear to me is that not even POTUS understands immigration stuff. People here in the VJ forum know more about immigration matters than most Americans and that includes immigration attorneys! How can politicians or citizens even discuss immigration when it is clear that most everybody is ignorant? I heard one of the Republican candidates talk about the San B. mass killer like she was on a visitor visa. Saying she was 'visiting' the U.S.!
Laws and policies don't change that fast here in the U.S. I doubt anything will change for most K1 (or any type of visa) filers right now.

The only thing clear to me is that not even POTUS understands immigration stuff. People here in the VJ forum know more about immigration matters than most Americans and that includes immigration attorneys! How can politicians or citizens even discuss immigration when it is clear that most everybody is ignorant? I heard one of the Republican candidates talk about the San B. mass killer like she was on a visitor visa. Saying she was 'visiting' the U.S.!
Laws and policies don't change that fast here in the U.S. I doubt anything will change for most K1 (or any type of visa) filers right now.

Not to be snarky, but OMG, who told you the misinformation? Just a rhetorical question. My point is that most Americans don't have a clue about the legal immigration process. Culturally, movies and t.v. shows get it wrong all the time.
If I were you I'd be contacting at least one attorney since this looks kind of complicated. But don't just hand the case over to them, you have to be involved the whole time to make sure it's done correctly. You can do your part by studying the guides and sample applications, and searching for like cases.
Wishing you success and good luck.

I really feel for you OP. Your situation is really sad. Be thankful you are only engaged to this immature person. My advice is to just stop pampering and spoiling your fiancé because it isn't working, and just go to work or whatever you do and let him get himself together. You have well, what, 2.5 months to decide one way or not to marry him. Unless he is being abusive to you and making you miserable (you do sound miserable, so very disappointed in him you are) maybe give it some more time and just leave him to his own devices. Maybe his Skype friends in Cuba will buy him a ticket home!
I am married to a Caribbean man. I know he will be in shock to actually live here even though he has visited in the past, twice, and knows a little bit what to expect. But, like, he is terrified of cold weather and snow. He has heard it can cause a stroke . . . I tried to assure him that was not true. So I have been nervously thinking about what it will be like when he actually gets here. Your story is compelling to me.
Incidentally, my husband is not Cuban, he's from further south in the Caribbean, but I do hear the same thing from him often enough, that I don't understand him and his country and his culture. So I just try and smile and nod and say 'I'm trying!' People around the world seem to have a love/hate thing for America and Americans. And while we may not agree with everything our country says and does, when a 'foreign' criticizes America unfairly, we get fighting' mad, I do anyway.
I really do hope he starts to relax and you guys can feel the love once more. Let us know how it is going!

I really feel for you OP. Your situation is really sad. Be thankful you are only engaged to this immature person. My advice is to just stop pampering and spoiling your fiancé because it isn't working, and just go to work or whatever you do and let him get himself together. You have well, what, 2.5 months to decide one way or not to marry him. Unless he is being abusive to you and making you miserable (you do sound miserable, so very disappointed in him you are) maybe give it some more time and just leave him to his own devices. Maybe his Skype friends in Cuba will buy him a ticket home!
I am married to a Caribbean man. I know he will be in shock to actually live here even though he has visited in the past, twice, and knows a little bit what to expect. But, like, he is terrified of cold weather and snow. He has heard it can cause a stroke . . . I tried to assure him that was not true. So I have been nervously thinking about what it will be like when he actually gets here. Your story is compelling to me.
Incidentally, my husband is not Cuban, he's from further south in the Caribbean, but I do hear the same thing from him often enough, that I don't understand him and his country and his culture. So I just try and smile and nod and say 'I'm trying!' People around the world seem to have a love/hate thing for America and Americans. And while we may not agree with everything our country says and does, when a 'foreign' criticizes America unfairly, we get fighting' mad, I do anyway.
I really do hope he starts to relax and you guys can feel the love once more. Let us know how it is going!