Michael and Ganna

I would like to chime in here. There are many factors that have not been discussed here, which in my view I consider important. First off I am an older gentleman. If my wife was ill, i would be on the next plane to Ukraine. If I didn't have the money I would beg, borrow, steal or pick up cans on the side of the road. A pack of hungry wolfs could not keep me away from her. Besides being my wife, she is my best friend and lover We treat each other with respect and understanding. With a foreign spouse you have to try, give, and have patience with each other. Everything is more difficult, but the out come is blissful and more rewarding than you would ever think possible.
I lived with her, and i know first hand about the issues....many times I had my bags packed to come home. I was home sick! I miss my friends, family and son. I was in a country where no one spoke my language, food tasted different, transportation was different, I did not know how to shop in the market, I did not know what products to buy, the country smelled different, people were different.....every thing in my life was different. My now wife worked very hard to make me feel comfortable. I was a problem for her, and that made me feel sad....but we worked TOGETHER and got through it.
Right now you are stressed to the bone, and about to have a child. You are not even here yet.
It saddens me to say, your man is a game player
You will have a child.....very stressful
You will have a wedding....stressful
You will have tons of paperwork to file....stressful
Taking care of your newborn...WOW...stressful and very costly
Adapting to your new country....beyond stressful
A husband that is not employed....stressful
where is money coming from...stressful
He will be going to police academy.....stressful and costly
He won't have a lot of time to spend with you....and believe me, you will need it.
He already shows signs of abuse, and he clearly doesn't support you or your feelings.
Also it is fact that police officers have a high rate of Domestic Abuse.
Is this the way to build a foundation to a lasting and loving relationship? You have many issues and problems to over-come just with in the foreign relationship...Then you throw all the additional stress factors in..... I would doubt that the relationship could survive....I know I could not do it.
I am just being real here and don't want to upset you....but these are thing to think about

I would like to chime in here. There are many factors that have not been discussed here, which in my view I consider important. First off I am an older gentleman. If my wife was ill, i would be on the next plane to Ukraine. If I didn't have the money I would beg, borrow, steal or pick up cans on the side of the road. A pack of hungry wolfs could not keep me away from her. Besides being my wife, she is my best friend and lover We treat each other with respect and understanding. With a foreign spouse you have to try, give, and have patience with each other. Everything is more difficult, but the out come is blissful and more rewarding than you would ever think possible.
I lived with her, and i know first hand about the issues....many times I had my bags packed to come home. I was home sick! I miss my friends, family and son. I was in a country where no one spoke my language, food tasted different, transportation was different, I did not know how to shop in the market, I did not know what products to buy, the country smelled different, people were different.....every thing in my life was different. My now wife worked very hard to make me feel comfortable. I was a problem for her, and that made me feel sad....but we worked TOGETHER and got through it.
Right now you are stressed to the bone, and about to have a child. You are not even here yet.
It saddens me to say, your man is a game player
You will have a child.....very stressful
You will have a wedding....stressful
You will have tons of paperwork to file....stressful
Taking care of your newborn...WOW...stressful and very costly
Adapting to your new country....beyond stressful
A husband that is not employed....stressful
where is money coming from...stressful
He will be going to police academy.....stressful and costly
He won't have a lot of time to spend with you....and believe me, you will need it.
He already shows signs of abuse, and he clearly doesn't support you or your feelings.
Also it is fact that police officers have a high rate of Domestic Abuse.
Is this the way to build a foundation to a lasting and loving relationship? You have many issues and problems to over-come just with in the foreign relationship...Then you throw all the additional stress factors in..... I would doubt that the relationship could survive....I know I could not do it.
I am just being real here and don't want to upset you....but these are thing to think about

I would like to chime in here. There are many factors that have not been discussed here, which in my view I consider important. First off I am an older gentleman. If my wife was ill, i would be on the next plane to Ukraine. If I didn't have the money I would beg, borrow, steal or pick up cans on the side of the road. A pack of hungry wolfs could not keep me away from her. Besides being my wife, she is my best friend and lover We treat each other with respect and understanding. With a foreign spouse you have to try, give, and have patience with each other. Everything is more difficult, but the out come is blissful and more rewarding than you would ever think possible.
I lived with her, and i know first hand about the issues....many times I had my bags packed to come home. I was home sick! I miss my friends, family and son. I was in a country where no one spoke my language, food tasted different, transportation was different, I did not know how to shop in the market, I did not know what products to buy, the country smelled different, people were different.....every thing in my life was different. My now wife worked very hard to make me feel comfortable. I was a problem for her, and that made me feel sad....but we worked TOGETHER and got through it.
Right now you are stressed to the bone, and about to have a child. You are not even here yet.
It saddens me to say, your man is a game player
You will have a child.....very stressful
You will have a wedding....stressful
You will have tons of paperwork to file....stressful
Taking care of your newborn...WOW...stressful and very costly
Adapting to your new country....beyond stressful
A husband that is not employed....stressful
where is money coming from...stressful
He will be going to police academy.....stressful and costly
He won't have a lot of time to spend with you....and believe me, you will need it.
He already shows signs of abuse, and he clearly doesn't support you or your feelings.
Also it is fact that police officers have a high rate of Domestic Abuse.
Is this the way to build a foundation to a lasting and loving relationship? You have many issues and problems to over-come just with in the foreign relationship...Then you throw all the additional stress factors in..... I would doubt that the relationship could survive....I know I could not do it.
I am just being real here and don't want to upset you....but these are thing to think about

I would like to chime in here. There are many factors that have not been discussed here, which in my view I consider important. First off I am an older gentleman. If my wife was ill, i would be on the next plane to Ukraine. If I didn't have the money I would beg, borrow, steal or pick up cans on the side of the road. A pack of hungry wolfs could not keep me away from her. Besides being my wife, she is my best friend and lover We treat each other with respect and understanding. With a foreign spouse you have to try, give, and have patience with each other. Everything is more difficult, but the out come is blissful and more rewarding than you would ever think possible.
I lived with her, and i know first hand about the issues....many times I had my bags packed to come home. I was home sick! I miss my friends, family and son. I was in a country where no one spoke my language, food tasted different, transportation was different, I did not know how to shop in the market, I did not know what products to buy, the country smelled different, people were different.....every thing in my life was different. My now wife worked very hard to make me feel comfortable. I was a problem for her, and that made me feel sad....but we worked TOGETHER and got through it.
Right now you are stressed to the bone, and about to have a child. You are not even here yet.
It saddens me to say, your man is a game player
You will have a child.....very stressful
You will have a wedding....stressful
You will have tons of paperwork to file....stressful
Taking care of your newborn...WOW...stressful and very costly
Adapting to your new country....beyond stressful
A husband that is not employed....stressful
where is money coming from...stressful
He will be going to police academy.....stressful and costly
He won't have a lot of time to spend with you....and believe me, you will need it.
He already shows signs of abuse, and he clearly doesn't support you or your feelings.
Also it is fact that police officers have a high rate of Domestic Abuse.
Is this the way to build a foundation to a lasting and loving relationship? You have many issues and problems to over-come just with in the foreign relationship...Then you throw all the additional stress factors in..... I would doubt that the relationship could survive....I know I could not do it.
I am just being real here and don't want to upset you....but these are thing to think about