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I snipped most of your post, but I appreciate the honesty and the fact you know exactly what happened and don't seem to make an excuse for it. There are sooooo many examples on these forums of people marrying from another country and the marriage being an absolute train wreck from day one. It happens stateside, too, but you don't have the immigration factor to worry about nor any sense of feeling rushed by the distance nor, it should be said, the romanticism of marrying somebody from another country and sweeping them off their feet back to the US.
It's so obvious she is using you and you're not in love with each other. Hopefully you'll realize that soon and dissolve the marriage. It was never an honest marriage anyway, you were a mark from day one. Stop wasting time with her, it will just be a deeper hole to climb out of later.
Man, it's hard to have sympathy for you now. I mean, I really want to, but how can you not see what's going on? You're still weighing your options? Your only realistic option is to completely cut ties as quickly and efficiently as possible. You are nothing but income now as she lives the good life in manhattan on your dollar. Agree with earlier comment about protecting yourself from possible domestic abuse accusations as well. Record all conversations you have with her from here on. That means keep all emails, texts, and if you speak on the phone record the audio of everything. This is not an overreaction but a pragmatic action based on what you're telling us.

People keep saying if you love her...#######,marriage is not just about if YOU love someone, but if the person loves you and respects you as well. In my opinion she is using you big time.We are our choices, you can embrace to be used as a bank or kick her out of your life.It's your call.

I feel your pain brother. You sound like a good guy who has good intentions. I typically am always for working out problems, but there sounds like there are some strong personality characteristics that are going to be deal breakers.

So after reading the entire story and thread here, your conclusion is that her only issue is a shopping addiction and adjustment? Are you f---ing kidding me? She clearly used him and the fact that she has family in the US is another huge red flag. Dump this trash and don't look back or feel an ounce of guilt OP.

I am so, so, so sorry to hear all of that. While part of her frustration of course comes from being new to the country and trying to adapt to this entirely new life, to me this sounds like more of a personality issue. To the person who asked if she couldn't tell all this from VN ... well no. It's a whole new ballgame once you actually cross the POE. I consider myself a pretty laidback, balanced person and I STRUGGLED upon first arriving here. My fiance and I were getting into arguments about the dumbest things because I too was bored and things weren't going the way I thought they would. After a few lengthy arguments and REALLY sitting down and thinking about things, I realized that this part is only temporary and something we have to endure to get where we want to be. Just like the entire K-1 process. It's all a means to an end. It doesn't sound like your fiance is willing to think at all about what this current, temporary sacrifice will mean in the long run and for her to downplay all the things you have done for her or flat out deny them is downright insulting. You need to have a serious sit down with her and let her know you can't handle those kind of emotional breakdowns from her and that you deserve better. Maybe once she considers the very real possibility of losing you, she will get a grip. Good luck, sincerely.

I am so, so, so sorry to hear all of that. While part of her frustration of course comes from being new to the country and trying to adapt to this entirely new life, to me this sounds like more of a personality issue. To the person who asked if she couldn't tell all this from VN ... well no. It's a whole new ballgame once you actually cross the POE. I consider myself a pretty laidback, balanced person and I STRUGGLED upon first arriving here. My fiance and I were getting into arguments about the dumbest things because I too was bored and things weren't going the way I thought they would. After a few lengthy arguments and REALLY sitting down and thinking about things, I realized that this part is only temporary and something we have to endure to get where we want to be. Just like the entire K-1 process. It's all a means to an end. It doesn't sound like your fiance is willing to think at all about what this current, temporary sacrifice will mean in the long run and for her to downplay all the things you have done for her or flat out deny them is downright insulting. You need to have a serious sit down with her and let her know you can't handle those kind of emotional breakdowns from her and that you deserve better. Maybe once she considers the very real possibility of losing you, she will get a grip. Good luck, sincerely.

I am so, so, so sorry to hear all of that. While part of her frustration of course comes from being new to the country and trying to adapt to this entirely new life, to me this sounds like more of a personality issue. To the person who asked if she couldn't tell all this from VN ... well no. It's a whole new ballgame once you actually cross the POE. I consider myself a pretty laidback, balanced person and I STRUGGLED upon first arriving here. My fiance and I were getting into arguments about the dumbest things because I too was bored and things weren't going the way I thought they would. After a few lengthy arguments and REALLY sitting down and thinking about things, I realized that this part is only temporary and something we have to endure to get where we want to be. Just like the entire K-1 process. It's all a means to an end. It doesn't sound like your fiance is willing to think at all about what this current, temporary sacrifice will mean in the long run and for her to downplay all the things you have done for her or flat out deny them is downright insulting. You need to have a serious sit down with her and let her know you can't handle those kind of emotional breakdowns from her and that you deserve better. Maybe once she considers the very real possibility of losing you, she will get a grip. Good luck, sincerely.

Wow its is very sad to read. In my opinion I think she used you to come to America. Just like how she lied to her family about you ,she lied and conned you into a k1 visa. Alot of people thinks America is a bed of roses and for her to be demanding expensive rings knowing the financial situation should also tell you her motives. Furthermore why is she going out late at nights for walks in a place she doesn't know ??? And to say she will tjink about kids after house is paid off sou ds to me like she doeabt want to have any attachnents when that GC comes. I would buy a plane ticket and drop her off at the airport . Sometimes love makes us blind to the fact .

Once again, with the I-94 now being electronic, the two week waiting period is no longer necessary. As long as you can pull up the I-94, you can apply for your SSN. I was able to pull mine up the day after arrival and submitted my SSN application four days after arrival with no hiccups.

I stupidly declared mine on my way back in to Canada after my fiance proposed in the US. It lead to me being sent to a separate room, having my luggage torn apart and grilled about the entire K1 process. In the end he said it might affect MY taxes which makes zero sense. Moral of the story, I don't think it's necessary or advisable to say anything lol.

See, I had no idea whether that was the case or not so I declared it thinking it falls under the "gift" category. I didn't understand how it would ultimately affect my taxes though.

Oh perfect! Thank you so much.

Oh wow. That is a typo and a half. I'm out to confuse everyone it seems. I129F is what I meant to write.

Now that youve mentioned it, i remember reading not to staple it together. I did staple the ziploc bag (with pic in it) to the form. I read on this site to do that >.< the rest i will seperate with paperclips though. This is all so overwhelming. Ive been preparing for 6 months & ive triple checked everything, but it feels like im still missing something.
I will ask the post office to add tracking. Thanks!