raquel_1208

How about being honest to your fiance' about how you feel with his reaction with your son coming along since he was honest with you in the first place? Talking and being truthful to each other is part of having a relationship. If financial issue is the problem why he does not agree with you, then tell him that you and your son will help him out eventually since your son is old enough to get a job when he comes here.

I only knew of Evaair. The credit or debit cardholder who purchased the ticket online should be the one who is flying or one of them is.

Ask your fiance' to start sending you more emails, snail mails and cards. The consul sometimes reads them. If he sends you money for your medical and visa fee or for any other purposes keep the receipts. You will need it for your interview and you still have so many months to collect all of it. Your photos are fine. Continue collecting your call logs until you have your interview. Ask him for a copy of his phone bill, there will be a record of your number when he sends text messages. During interview, make sure that the information you and your fiance' wrote in G325a and I129f will match your answers.

Have you been too Eagle Rock Plaza? Try going there if you feel homesick kasi may Jollibee, Chowking at Goldilocks dun. I live 30 minutes drive away from you but my daughter attends Delevan Drive Elementary School in Eagle Rock. 50% of her classmates are filipinos kaya maraming pinoy sa Glendale at Eagle Rock.

Embassies are closed on holidays and weekends. She could stay at a friend's house or a hotel and have a relative or a friend be with her all the time. Have her memorize the contact number of the authorities. Police and security guards are all over the embassy so she could always scream and ask for help.

Why do people marry woman with kids from PI?

There are so so so many educated, never been married woman from PI.

I just don't get it.

Is this the typical type of gurl that is on a dating website from PI?

You better be careful what you say around here

Hindi ka rin naman gaanong galit sa lagay na yan Dean?

Ag bagtit dyay nga tao.. hehehe!!

haha, its so funny when you expressed it in ilocano.

What pizzadude meant was you can asked same day as your interview and some consuls say yes and will give you purple slip. They will tell you that they will call you once it is available and ready for pick-up. I got mine 3 days after the interview. They needed time to print the visa in your passport.

You need copies of the Decision and Finality to file I-129f. You might get RFE(request for evidence) later on if you will only include the Decision and it will delay the processing of your petition.

On my Declaration of Nullity I was awarded soul custody. Do I need his fathers written permission to leave country with him. I heard they like a letter but its not required if I cannot get one. Anyone have this experience?

I do not have full custody of my daughter. You do not need written permission from the father or DSWD clearance. You just need the NSO birth certificate of the child to show at the immigration in NAIA.

Oh and I just want to add that LCM is not a requirement in filing for the petition because I have followed the guides her in VJ and its not included there.

Raquel.... it isn't VJ to decide their fate right? we only give advice and opinions... It is the Embassy that makes or breaks you (so to speak) BUT, the LCM is a REQUIRED step to be LEGALLY married.. i still see problems for them , unless they cancel the petition now before it is approved and start over and do it right this time........... personally i don't see how the OP got their papers filed in the first place ... oh wait i just remembered part of his original post........ "Her mom works in the superior court of Bansalan which is her hometown and the court we got married at". ................ HMMMM i think his new MOM-in law did som string pulling at that place .....in my opinion ....

Yes, we can give our opinion to guide the OP. I just want to point out the phrase you post "the LCM is a REQUIRED step to be LEGALLY married." In my experience and having a father who used to work in Civil Registrar Office and the others who have posted here, LCM or no LCM once you have the marriage license and got married, it goes to their records and submits copies to NSO office in Quezon City and that is what I can refer to as LEGALLY married.

And they do not have to cancel the petition because that is not how it works in the USCIS. I just want to help the OP get his wife with less money and time involve. I have been a VJ member for 3 years now and I have never seen a post in the Philippine forum where a couple was not approved or given a visa because they did not get Legal Capacity to Marry before they got married. It is a requirement in the Philippine system but not in the USCIS.

My opinions are based on my experiences and posts that I have read from others. Its still up to the OP what he knows is best.

Oh and I just want to add that LCM is not a requirement in filing for the petition because I have followed the guides her in VJ and its not included there.

It is the requirement at Civil Registrars Office when you file for marriage license. Its still is being implemented but there are instances that the future spouse's family or relatives has "political influences" in the Municipal Hall and the government employees do not ask for it anymore. If you are not familiar with how the "palakasan" system works in the local government in the Philippines, please ask your wife about it as it happens most of the time. Most of the government employees I know and used to work with goes by the book but unfortunately some of them don't.

LCM is required by the Civil Registrar in the Philippines but is not required when you file I-130 or I-129f at USCIS or when the spouse has her interview in the embassy. There were instances that the spouse's family or relatives has "political influence" in the Civil Registrar office and they do not require LCM anymore. I know of someone who used to posts here in VJ who got married and was not required to submit it when they applied for a marriage license. His wife and kids are now in the US.

Since the OP is already married without obtaining LCM, in my opinion all they can do right now is wait for the NSO copy of their marriage certificate and file the petition. Once the petition is filed, the USCIS will do a background check on the USC petitioner and they will find out if he was free to marry before getting married in the Philippines and if he is capable of supporting his wife when he gets to the US.

This is just my 2 cents, file the petition and when it gets approve and has a schedule for interview the OP can go back in the Philippines and have the interview with his wife. If it were me, I will not ask my husband to come fly all the way back and spend money for plane tickets just for the LCM. The important thing that the embassy is looking for are proofs of bonafide relationship.

Hi...

Good morning everyone...

I just want to ask any opinion/suggestions mostly those married pinays that r working.

Ano ang mas maganda joint bank account with the spouse or my single account k?

Or pwede ring my joint account k u tapos my single account k?D kaya unfair naman un s kanya?...

Or dalawa n lng joint bank account nyo?

Thanks po sa mga magrereply...

Godbless

We have our joint account for AOS and I opened an account for myself so that I could start building credit with the bank.

According to her she saved all their chat conversations. So I suggested that she get her divorce here kasi dito sa US sya ikinasal. To the OP, you need a lawyer. And its good na na-save mo mga chat ninyo. You need legal assistance to terminate your marriage.

I think merong akong nabasa dito sa vj na puwede kang mag apply ng removal of conditions kahit divorce ka na pero depende ata sa grounds ng divorce. Pagdating mo dito sa US, maghire ka na lang ng fil-am immigration/divorce lawyer at sila ang puwedeng makapag advise sayo kung anong dapat mong gawin.

That relationship will not work for me kahit ba mahal ko. Alam ko madaling sabihin yan kasi wala ako sa situation mo pero think of it this way, puro pangsariling kaligayahan ang iniisip nya and the fact na gusto nyang makita naked pictures ng mga kapatid mo, that is so perverted. She does not respect you and your family. What kind of a husband is that? Kung ako nasa place mo, I would go to US and ask for a divorce. Tutal may greencard ka na naman then you can work legally and you can hire a lawyer. You deserve someone who will respect your morals and share what you believe.

I agree with manilagirl, you should not have paid the anything because the decision was already out. Tell your fiancee to go back to the office where she got her decision and ask the court employees how she can get her Finality. The waiting time is for the Solicitor's General office in Makati to oppose the decision if it sees that there was something wrong with it. Since its past 15-30 days then she can ask for the Finality. I was in contact with one of the court employees while I was waiting for the Decision and Finality of my case. She was very helpful because I gave her 500 pesos when I asked her to keep me updated. When I got the Finality I gave them box of cake as the one who made it and had it signed by the Judge did not ask for anything.

It would help in the interview if you start having joint bank accounts now or joint credit card. Ask your bank for forms that you could bring and she can sign when you visit her.

Not really.

More than likely his case will be transferred to CSC for AOS and will be approved without AOS Interview.

The OP's fiancee is still in the Philippines and have not done medical or interview yet and my suggestion was to help her fiancee provide more proof of ongoing relationship when she does have her interview at US embassy

Joint accounts are used for AOS.

Most will not put a fiance as a co signer on a Bank Account, nor is getting a joint Credit card a good plan before marriage

The info you posted is more for AOS.........

It may not work people who have trust issues with their fiancee but it will be an advantage to those who doesn't. The consul in the embassy will likely see this as a proof that the couple has a bonafide relationship.

It would help in the interview if you start having joint bank accounts now or joint credit card. Ask your bank for forms that you could bring and she can sign when you visit her.

Not really.

More than likely his case will be transferred to CSC for AOS and will be approved without AOS Interview.

The OP's fiancee is still in the Philippines and have not done medical or interview yet and my suggestion was to help her fiancee provide more proof of ongoing relationship when she does have her interview at US embassy

It would help in the interview if you start having joint bank accounts now or joint credit card. Ask your bank for forms that you could bring and she can sign when you visit her.

Back to the OP's question, it depends what your priorities are. For me I have to choose family over career for now. I would want to spend my time with my kids while they have not started school yet. Helping build their character while they grow up instead of nannies or daycare especially when I do not have immediate families to help me out. I can start going back to work a few years from now.

If I have help from my families in taking care of my kids, part-time work will be okay. Full-time job was too stressful for me and it affected my relationship with my husband. The reason I moved here is to be with him and start a family, not to work.

kakaawa naman asawa nya talaga. Hindi ko ma-imagine sarili ko na kasama sa isang bubong ang ganyang klaseng tao.

The solicitor general's office did not respond to the decision after the court asked me to have it sent by a courier. Keep the waybill or the receipt because that is where the court will base the number of days for you to wait. The court just told me to wait for 20 days(I can't remember or maybe 30). If nothing came from the mail about it then they can issue you the Finality which you can use to have your NSO annotated MC. The court employees told me that solgen do not usually respond to civil cases like annulment as they have more pressing cases to look into. I hope that helps.

Photocopy of the decision and the finality, some courts name it decree.