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I am so thankful for all the support we have received from everyone on Visa Journey! We spent a lot of time discussing everything about her decision, we read everyone's posts, and my Maria did decide it was way too soon to leave the USA!
So, she has decided to stay and work thru the homesickness and keep her mind on her and I... I am so happy because without the input of everyone who took the time to leave such positive comments, I'm not sure what the outcome might have been..
I even got a deal on the airline cancellation! I was only charged $25 to cancel the flight! WOW!
Thank you everyone once again!

Yes, these cases are abundant and it is because our system allows them! The basis, evidence, proof to send in, start the VAWA process needs to be much more stringent. Here I sit accused of abuse, which did not happen, AFTER I told her I do not feel safe with you by myself. I wanted to prevent a problem, after she had thrown things at me in a few arguments and said I can yell, make as much noise as I want, let the police show up I will be fine, but I still landed in bad situation.
I have sent in a request to cancel the I-864, but who knows if it will be processed in time. The bene has not had biometrics or anything yet, I can only prepare myself for the court date(s) and pray for the best. I am not in the same state, area of the USA as the bene, well that I know of, and have had no contact since I said goodbye.
This IS not easy, the stress is enormous. My goal is to add my story to the list of others that have been through this ordeal. Hopefully at least one person that reads my story, finally takes a very long look in the mirror and does everything possible to stop a similar situation, before it becomes a nightmare. No one should have to deal with this, but we do.
The truth is how can someone protect themselves from an individual set on staying in the USA at all costs and knowing enough about the VAWA, domestic violence laws, loopholes?! From my experience it appears to be almost impossible, to do anything. They can make up stories that the abused happened 1, 2, 3 weeks prior to the breakup. They can, will lie and say the USC threatened me, did not allow me access to communicate with others. It eats me inside to think of what is to come...
I am trying to be positive, but it is very difficult. Again, I hope someone, at least one person that is in a similar situation, decides I must end this. Love can only go so far and as much as it will hurt to do so, forget about the past, you MUST think about your future, safety, sanity and leave.