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    Calling my senator for help

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    I know the uscis site says 5.5 months but I see some April and March filers are getting approved. It's just so unfair!!!!! It pisses me off don't get me wrong I'm happy for them but it's hard to wait!!

    Anyway my question is does anybody here ever call their congressman?? How did it go? I called my senator office they ask me to release a privacy form. Any suggestions

    Not to discourage you, but we just started our seventh month. Its not worth being stressed out so early. Take the advise all give here about contacting senators and all, but don't raise your hopes that it will get you an answer/NOA2. I do wish that you do, but for your sanity I would advise you to keep no expectations after contacting them.

    Wish you the best!

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    It's our 223 days...I'm so tired of this process...this is a complete joke....

    I decided to go visit my fiance...I need strenght to continue on this process....I hope there isn't any problem...I'm kinda nervous...what if screws up my k1 visa and all this wait goes down to the drain...

    My fiance called USCIS last week and they said they r backlogged and currently processing dec 31st cases...kind of hard to believe though, so many february filers being approved...

    senator said they filled a petition but had no answers yet...

    I feel lost and hopeless..don't know what else I should do...

    I wonder what was the longest a person waited for their NOA2..

    Right behind u my friend. As much as I want it lie yesterday, I am rooting for you to get it ASAP

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    Well we try to help, but it does seem like you've spiraled and would prefer to be miserable for the time being. Not judging, I had this phase too. Emotional exhaustion, I get it. You'll snap out of it once you get your NOA2 I'm certain. You'll have to grow accustomed to waiting though. This quest for a green card is a whole lot of hurry up and wait.

    Sadly, we can't choose our parents. All we can do is be better parents if/when we decide to have children. I can't pretend to fully understand the complexities of your family, but this does seem to be pretty common among Indian families. Many of my fiancé's friends go through this struggle. The decision to either go with or against their wishes is difficult and someone usually ends up unhappy. In the end, you chose to live for yourself and not for others. That's something to be proud of.

    This forum is for support for those who are also going through this strenuous process, no need to apologize.

    Thanks again for your words. I am sure I will spiral out also once we get the NOA 2. Fingers crossed. I think the rest of the journey to green card and beyond would be way easier as she would be here by then. Thanks again and have a great weekend my friend

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    Awe I'm so sorry. I know I'm incredibly lucky that my fiancé's family is so supportive of our marriage. Some of his more distant relatives are not cool with him marrying a "firang." White women don't exactly have the best rep in India.

    Hopefully over time, the relationship will heal and you'll be on good terms. I know it's hard to be positive when you're surrounded by negativity. You have your fiancée to lean on and in time you'll be together. This process is temporary. Don't let it change your positive spirit and consume who you are! Take back your happiness. Find something-anything, that makes you happy and keep telling yourself it's temporary. The negativity, the waiting will all be over soon!

    Also god bless you that his immediate family supports you. It makes the world of a difference. All my exes by definition were "firang" and yeah I saw how my parents reacted every time I told them. I have always cared for people and not the color of their skin, finally I am with a non-firang and now it seems they managed to find something else that doesn't please them. Their beef seems also to be that they didn't get to choose for me... but oh hell what do I know what's going on in their mind. I have been wrong about everything apparently according to them.

    P.S- I am a self made man, came to this country at a very young age, studied and did all kinds of jobs - didn't care small or big, "prestigious or non prestigious (as some would say)" - respected and was thankful to get a job each time I got a job, now I have a full time engineer's job, settled down, don't owe anybody anything, don't hurt anybody, respect and love all people, love to make them laugh if I could etc etc. But in my parents eyes I am a failure. Bought them a condo next to mine so that they can come to the states and live close to me. I actually did it for them, not just talk. But as I am "choosing the wrong person" its all a waste and they regret sending me here....

    All sorry for posting so much personnel stuff, this isn't a place to put this all out, this is a progress forum, I apologize... I am just so numb..

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    Awe I'm so sorry. I know I'm incredibly lucky that my fiancé's family is so supportive of our marriage. Some of his more distant relatives are not cool with him marrying a "firang." White women don't exactly have the best rep in India.

    Hopefully over time, the relationship will heal and you'll be on good terms. I know it's hard to be positive when you're surrounded by negativity. You have your fiancée to lean on and in time you'll be together. This process is temporary. Don't let it change your positive spirit and consume who you are! Take back your happiness. Find something-anything, that makes you happy and keep telling yourself it's temporary. The negativity, the waiting will all be over soon!

    Thank you for your positive words. I am trying and trying and as I have failed, I sense a sort of insanity... "to do the same thing and expect different results equates to insanity". The engineer in me had managed to keep me straight all this time, but after waiting fair and square and then to be told "we have no idea when we can complete your case", has completely thrown us off. Once again I hope you don't take my response negatively, I know you mean well, unfortunately this time all the good wishes haven't been able to cheer either of us. I sound like a complete A$$****, but I am also speaking my heart. Sorry if I said something wrong bud.

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    I know exactly how you feel.

    Every year my family gets together for holidays. Every holiday at that..

    My fiance was in the country during Easter and we weren't allowed to attend.

    To be precise, I was told that the children and I could come but he needed to stay home.

    My family is unable to look past the color of his skin.

    I am sure you can imagine their reaction to finding out that we were having a baby together. HA!

    The way I see it, they'll either get over it or we'll likely never see each other again (my family). I'm okay with either.

    My fiance and children will always come first. I will not subject them to the negativity that idiocy creates.

    First and foremost congrats to both of you for having a baby girl!

    Yes I am coming to terms with that also. Its hard as they have been amazing parents but have never been able to accept my choices in regards to a partner (they never liked any of my exes..). But I also have a limit and its coming close to be full. Thank god her parents are supportive.

    The worst part is that I know what my parents want in a daughter in law and only if they give her a chance they would be more than happy, but they are so stubborn that they will not even attempt (well so far..). Here she is the same color, religion etc, but even though that all checked out, they had to find something. So wrong, just so wrong... and then they started looking for all things to why she "isn't good" for me. Anyways I don't want to rant anymore... sorry for today guys... just got off the phone with her and she just broke down... getting hard to stay strong for each other..

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    Just got a call from the senators office (this is me after calling repeatedly), and they said the same thing they said since the last few weeks. Its in background checks with an outside company (apparently USCIS does do it), one of us has been flagged, cant tell who and they have no definite time till it would be cleared. I was married before, but we had a clean divorce, that's all I can think off and I really don't think our names have any links with anything suspicious. oh well, lets go back to staying numb indefinitely.....

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    Thanks Masenko, I know it's tough. Yours has to be any day now. The only advice I can give is to really try your best to stay positive. I was driving home from work and I just kept saying out loud "I want my NOA2 notification tonight!" I didn't get a notification that night, I got one the next day. Needless to say I was a little spooked though.

    Thanks for the sending positive vibes. Honestly if you meet me, I am usually the most positive person to be around (I am not saying it in a bragging way, its just my happy self and what others say about me). I was good till last month and I kept supporting her on a everyday basis, but honestly I am so phased out these days. Last night I broke out crying alone in bed. I have lost the will to exercise, to eat healthy food. I used to be a personnel and yoga trainer till a few years ago. I played racquetball, swam etc. Quite active and did it as it bought me happiness. Now I try and I am just not happy doing anything. I try to kill time watching TV as its the only time I can actually space out.

    Also my parents have kinda disowned me as I am choosing to marry her. We are apparently of not the same caste's and that was a big no - no. I got engaged against their will and have tried to re-coup with them since, but I just keep getting pushed back. I send my brother a Bday card and he basically said to get lost and he hates me and not to contact him as I wrote from "her name" and "my name". I guess all the negative energy has finally broken my spirit and I am done hanging in there. Now I just stay numb....

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    So lets play the ranking game my friends in terms of most waiting pain endured so far.

    1. Anmi - 213 days

    2. monkeybobo - 199 days

    3. masenko - 198 days (if I got the math right)

    4. sheri&rich - 189 days

    5. Laurenandcarl and nitsirk7562 (tied)- 184 days

    Visa Journey folks, who wants to play the guessing game and predict who all gets it first?

    This may be the worst game I have ever played, but hey giving my $0.2 to cheer all of us up.

    Any update guys? It know nitsirk7562 already received the NOA 2. Congrats bud.

    I believe I have hit a serious depression cycle now. 206 days and counting... become numb lately to everything...

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    who else here has their noa1 around january 17 and still hasn't gotten their noa2? I have been searching around receipt numbers and seems like many of us are still waiting in a huge chunk, with a whole lot of RFEs. I was just wondering if anyone else has contacted congressmen/senators and what they have been told. I have been in security check for over 50 days now so I am wondering what is going on! The only thing I can think of is all our files are on a desk and have not been touched bc the person has gone on vacation! Because there have been no updates since August 5

    I am in your club.

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    Last week I literally felt awful, friends kept asking have you received an approval yet....and everyday I was like "nope, now can we stop talking about it". My parents try to sympathise but they have no idea what it's like to be separated for an extended period of time, unable to work, and surviving on savings.

    That's honestly why I'm so thankful for Visajourney, because we all know what it's like :-) And I know that once I'm done with this I am confident that my and many other "Visajourneyers" relationships will be stronger than most others.

    I also think it's quite romantic! haha, my grandchildren will be able to say Nanny and Grandpa were in love for so long but lived so far away, and their relationship survived that whole time! How often does that happen nowadays with a 50% divorce rate??!

    Try not to focus on what's happening now, focus on the future, this is just a small blip in the big picture, you have a whole life ahead of you of travel, buying a home, possibly children, getting married and sitting on the beach with your wife/husband when you're old and grey eating a bag of fries (chips in my language!)! Bliss! :-)

    (By averting my mind to USCIS i've been doing some drawings of my fiancé and I's dream house we hope to buy once I get over there, as well as scrap booking ideas - works like a charm and keeps me occupied for hours!)

    Thanks for the kind words. Problem is I dig my own grave when it comes to this matter. I don't think about the future much to relieve me. ITs not that I am not a forward thinker, I do dream, and then right away start working towards and then focus all my energy into it. Here the fact that I have to wait and I cant do anything about it kills me. I am really trying to get some happiness thinking about us being together and it isn't helping. But this is my own problem and I am trying my best to deal with it on a daily basis. Staying distracted and putting my mind on other things helps, but I haven't found anything that can distract me enough.... so my problem, my worries, thanks for your support though, it always counts.

    January 2014 TSC Filers

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    You have been waiting longer than me! I am the winner among the Jan fillers..

    218 days for me...cheer up! our turn will come....hopefully soon!

    I hear you :-( I think I am the only December filler left...

    From and including: Thursday, December 26, 2013

    To, but not including Tuesday, August 12, 2014

    Result: 229 days

    It is 229 days from the start date to the end date, but not including the end date

    Or 7 months, 17 days excluding the end date

    Alternative time units 229 days can be converted to one of these units:
    • 19,785,600 seconds
    • 329,760 minutes
    • 5496 hours
    • 229 days
    • 32 weeks (rounded down)

    I wish I could hug you guys. I have become so numb at this point. I have no advise to share, don't even have the strength to say to "hang in there". Lets just count the days.....

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