Fandango

Already said, but bears repeating:
You signed the I184, you cannot 'revoke' it just because 'sending her back' would be easier. I'm sorry for your troubles, but she's not a defective blender you can simply return.
My wish is that more petitioners understood the responsibility and gravity of signing that document, as well as bringing a dependent immigrant over for marriage.

She gave up her entire life as she knew it, and now she should pussyfoot around her husband and not talk to her family because it's considered 'disrespectful' to him? That's a shocking theory.

words fail me. wow.

I still can't get past the point where you came here to study, then dropped out after getting AOS, all in under a year. My fiance moved cross country to come here to study, we met, and now we're having a baby...all perfectly logical reasons to drop out and get a job. But at the same time, that's not what he moved here for. So we deal until he graduates.
You moved across the world to study, then for some reason it became irrelevant after AOSing from an F-1. You're lucky I don't work for USCIS, because that smells well dodgy by itself, let alone wanting a divorce 3 weeks after getting a GC.

Kinda off topic, but since you mention it, I had to say something.
If a black guy got in an elevator, but he was nicely dressed, I wouldn't clutch my purse.
If a white guy got in an elevator, but was poorly dressed - eg looking like a crack head or dressed all 'gangster', I'd clutch my purse.
I think it's more class-ism, not racism.
On topic: affirmative action is racist in its nature. It may have been necessary at some point, but it's no longer relevant today. And it perpetuates the racist notion that persons of color aren't capable to get the jobs they are qualified for.

Hahaha...this has got to be someone's idea of a joke.
You prefer living in Pakistan where people are put to death for blasphemy? Or where women are subjected to honor killings? Well, if that's where you want to be, then Delta is ready when you are.

are you serious??? there are no jobs in pakistan, not even minimum wage jobs, much less an enforcable minimum wage and it doesn't matter your education there either just who you know and what connections you have. no racism in pakistan either huh? just in usa? what a bunch of b/s, racism in pakistan is severe. sorry to tell you but hard work is a virtue in the USA not something we look down on as something for the "labor class." hard work isn't beneath you because you have an education, get over it. go back to pakistan, you are never going to be happy here with your attitude.

Your wife is a homosexual?
Does that mean you have a #######?
And did you just tell us she swallows?

No, the Ukrainian woman likes the new life in a better country. The older white American man... is just the bitter pill one must swallow. Yes, they swallow.

In Denmark, the blueberries are huge and juicy.

I don't understand buying cars, houses, having the 'lil woman' stay at home when there's no money put away for food and gas. Especially with kids in the home, but hey...maybe the kids like pancakes.
Glad to hear it all worked out for you Amber!

What do you mean that you don't understand the American Queen staying home to take care of the Egyptian King?? Are you sure you're married to someone from MENA??
Bwwahhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!
Who's up for IHOP?????

I'm rather happy she's not going to post again.
Although she probably will.

I really don't wanna brag, and I know there are a lot of haters out there...but who cares...here's my story....
We drive a 2011 Nissan Rogue S, with a light gray interior which we keep imaculately clean by using 2 rounds of "$1 for 5 minutes" of vaccuming at a local car wash that costs $12 a wash, but we spare no expense because we love each other so much.
We live in my parents Basement and enjoy 3 full rooms, a double shower bathroom and a living room, all decorated to my parent's taste, which shows just how much we love each other.
Sometimes my husband drives my parents spare car, a 1999 Mercury Villager Sport Edition. It doesn't have a working clock but it does have a leather interior which of course shows how much we love each other.
Once a week we get a take and bake pizza from Papa Murphys, half Chicken Garlic and half "Papa's favorite" minus the pepperoni. Then we cook it in a Double Wolf Convect oven that belongs to my parents, and then we eat our pizza using sturdy DIXIE paper plates because we love each other so much.
Sometime we go to the mall and I buy new shirts at Maurices that cost an average of $29.99 which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.
Yesterday we bought a HeatDish space heater by PRESTO, for $24.99, to help keep our basement bedroom warm. We paid cash which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.
The point is, I am not not bragging and don't want to make anyone jealous, but sometimes you just have to convince others in order to really convince yourself how blissfully wonderous your life is. To the OP - be strong, stay the course, a thousand points of light, and maybe someday your marriage will be as blissfully perfect as mine. Good luck Girlfriend.

I don't understand buying cars, houses, having the 'lil woman' stay at home when there's no money put away for food and gas. Especially with kids in the home, but hey...maybe the kids like pancakes.
Glad to hear it all worked out for you Amber!

I don't understand buying cars, houses, having the 'lil woman' stay at home when there's no money put away for food and gas. Especially with kids in the home, but hey...maybe the kids like pancakes.
Glad to hear it all worked out for you Amber!

I don't understand buying cars, houses, having the 'lil woman' stay at home when there's no money put away for food and gas. Especially with kids in the home, but hey...maybe the kids like pancakes.
Glad to hear it all worked out for you Amber!

I don't understand buying cars, houses, having the 'lil woman' stay at home when there's no money put away for food and gas. Especially with kids in the home, but hey...maybe the kids like pancakes.
Glad to hear it all worked out for you Amber!

Yeah when I'm not bragging I always fill everyone in on every minute detail. Your subtlety is stunning.
Waiting for the you're just jealous retort in 3, 2, 1.....

I agree. My husband inherited my old POS Honda AFTER he got a job and could pay for his own car insurance and gas. He came with his own clothes and toiletries so I didn't have to buy him any. By the time he needed new, he had a job and his own money to pay for them. He paid his own way here and brought enough money to help with expenses until he could work. I'm often floored at how pampered and coddled some of the husbands are around here. Unfortunately they end up behaving like pampered, entitled brats sometimes, too.

Egyptian Accounting Degree = Future Taxi Drivers/Convenience Store Workers of America
It's worthless in terms of employability in the US.

Glad to see everyone here giving this girl a dose of reality. When I first read her post my thought was, "OMG if my 17 1/2 year old daughter told me she was going to Egypt to marry I would lock her up somewhere". Suffice it to say, Egyptians in general (not saying all) are well rehearsed on what to say to make you believe that you are the love of their life and that fate has brought you together (or God or Allah or whomever). When you said you were considering converting to Islam the alarm bells starting ringing again. I forget who said it, but someone said that you should tell him that you insist on living in Egypt forever and see what he says. I don't want to be negative nelly but I can't help it. Some of us have been on here a LONG time and have TONS of experience with the culture and it's men. Some women here have wonderful marriages that are everything and more than they though they would be. Others have been horribly abused, traumitized and defrauded and will never be the same. I thought I too had it all figured out when I met my husband and I had some age AND experience on you AND 2 college degrees and I still was not prepared for the reality of it. I can tell you that my husband has been sorely disappointed to find out that you have to work your A** off to get ahead and that his degree and work experience doesn't mean squat. He's also had to deal with the fact that his wife makes triple his income and IS financially the breadwinner. He thought America was perfect and he can't believe that we pay so much in taxes, that many cities are riddled with crime and so on and so forth. Sad to see their ideal picture of Nirvana shattered. My husband won't even go back home to visit because he doesn't have a million dollars saved and a new BMW to drive. I am just grateful that kids weren't even an option for us. That's a nightmare I don't even want to contemplate. That being said, my husband is not a bad person, he has a lovely family, but in my honest opinion he should have married someone in his own culture. That may sound harsh but I am being honest. I am a very independent woman and I don't play the damsel in distress role and quite frankly, that doesn't sit well with the hubster.

I didn't mean it all sternly or anything, lol. My shampoo does cost about 5x what his does though.
Adding too, re. a different post, while I may have been my husband's sponsor to immigrate here, he took care of a large part of his expenses. Religiously, culturally, it would have been odd not to. No one has to buy their husband a car or hair gel or Angel cologne. Those are things I expect to have bought for me, not the other way around.
And I don't know about anyone else's co-sponsors, but there was no way in he1l my parents would have signed on as co-sponsors without being sure my husband had made arrangements for temporary insurance until he could start working, and had a handle on other necessities. I already had a child. They co-sponsored a grown man, not a kid. I married an adult.

Considering your overall situation, yes, it might be very wise to wait to file. As you say, it would give you time to be better prepared financially to support an immigrant spouse through the process and after arrival until he gets established.
Also, waiting will give your more time as a couple to build and accumulate more evidence of a bonafide relationship - the additional visits and "real time" spent together, perhaps your family meeting his, the regular communication between the two of you, maybe some mingling of some of your financial assets/obligations, etc. These are the types of evidence that the consulate would regard as more positive and persuasive, and could help you out-weigh the red flags.

Oh, sigh! Not my Ahmed! Do you have any idea how many times I've heard this both on and offline?
I was not in any way bashing you personally and if you took my posts as such then it's kind of an indication of your mentality and maturity *it's me against the world* and all that jazz. Been there and done that. Besides, I could have been you. At 18 I went through more cr*p than most people do and yet I still didn't grow from those experiences or appreciate them until my mid twenties. I tumbled headfirst into my fair share of BAD relationships where I was used for various different reasons but at the time I was too blind to see. I WISH someone had sat me down and voiced concern of any kind. But that person never came so I had to learn the hard way and I will be scarred by that both mentally and physically for life. Even my current relationship with the guy who is the great love of my life wasn't so healthy in the beginning (mostly this was my fault, by the way).
Ultimately it doesn't matter what I or any other person on this forum thinks. It matters what the consulate thinks because they hold ALL the power over whether or not your husband gets to come live with you in the US. You posted because you knew already you had red flags, it was in your post title in fact. We advised you on how to proceed. You are most certainly free to do as you choose. Hell, you could file now and see what happens. But if you can't prove you have the proper finances to support him and you and your husband can't prove you have a legitimate relationship then his application is going to be denied. A denial hurts like a ton of bricks. It will be wasted time, money, and tears and you will need to expend much, much more of all of those things when you're ready to try again. Hence the consensus on this thread was that you wait, spend more time over there with him on your breaks, graduate school, then file.
As RFQ said, people on this forum do for the most part have good intentions. It is of no consequence to us whether your marriage works out or not or whether your husband succeeds in getting a visa. We have nothing to gain and yet we dedicate our time on this forum to give advice to those who seek it (usually in a constructive way, sometimes not). This is why you should not take our advice with a grain of salt, even if we tell you something you don't like hearing. We're all at the mercy of a system that is confusing, painfully slow, and sometimes unfair. But our end goals are all the same. Wishing you the best.