alicia98981

The OP asked for advice and opinions. Instead of you hijacking his thread and giving your opinion on other posters opinions, I suggest you stick to the topic at hand.
To the OP, I stand by my comments that you should remain supportive of your wife's decision. Your marriage may not be a traditional one early one, but you have a lifetime to work out the kinks. I'm not certain of what your job is in aviation, but I also work in aviation and logistics, so I'm going to assume that your company has a Latin/South American operation that will allow you to transfer or find work in Columbia. Or if not work with your company, I'm assuming that you may be able to find work in Columbia just as your wife would probably be able to find work in the US if she were to move here. As for my comment of a "stay at home wife", it is in reference to staying at her new home in America instead of running back and forth. I know you want a wife that lives and remains in the US, but moving to US doesn't mean her family, ties, and obligations end permanently either. Again, no one's marriage is perfect, and no one wants to continue to do the long distance thing, but it is possible given the many couples that have to do it years whether for work, finances, or simply completing the visa process. Furthermore, as I said before, this maybe something that last for a few month or maybe even a few years. If your wife can agree to a certain amount of time before returning home to the US permanently, I still find that a compromise. I doubt she would go through the CR1 process and marriage with you only to turn it down for a sick relative. Once again, it can be done. The question is, how committed you are to your marriage and are you willing to support your spouse while she looks after what I'm assuming once again is her last living relative. Let's be honest, it's not fair to ask her to choose between her family and her husband when you yourself said she willing to compromise for a time and have both. . .

Family is family. Regardless of anyone else's situation, it's not yours and so any of a million things could happen. Life is fragile and precious and we only have one to live. The last thing you want is to be living the "what ifs". Instead of being selfish potentially proposing the dissolution of this marriage, I say you suck it up and be supportive of your wife spending her mother's dying years in Columbia. You have flight benefits, so use them. Marriage is about compromise, and you asked your wife to give up everything to come live with you in another country. It's not the ideal situation, but it's workable if you guys are supportive of each other. Your wife has made it clear that she would like to be with her mother, but for the sake of the marriage, make frequent trips back and forth. Who knows? Maybe she'll tire of the back and forth, and decide to hire someone to sit with mom or as another poster said, realize mom ain't going anywhere for a couple of years. Most couples don't have the luxury to see each other as often. Imagine how long troops go without seeing their spouses and families and still manage to make it work. Given she - the MIL - has emphysema, it could be a few months or a few years. And culturally, we already know the Latin American diaspora are for the most part loving and close nit. If you aren't ready to be a supportive spouse and work with her, to support what your post suggests, her time with her last living relative, I suggest you either bite the bullet and move temporarily to Columbia or give her the walking papers and find yourself an American spouse who can fit within your comfort zone to be a "stay at home wife". . .

I think he means that MENA and Middle Eastern countries. We have more scrutiny and possibly longer waits because Americans swear that everyone from those countries are potential terrorists or have bad intentions. . .

I'm not here to argue with you guy. There are opinions and then there is factual information about visas and likewise. I suggest if you feel so strongly about his marriage and the opinions of other posters, you inbox him and give him your one on one opinion and leave the rest of us out of it.
Good luck to the OP on whatever decision you choose. I hope it's the best for you guys!

The OP asked for advice and opinions. Instead of you hijacking his thread and giving your opinion on other posters opinions, I suggest you stick to the topic at hand.
To the OP, I stand by my comments that you should remain supportive of your wife's decision. Your marriage may not be a traditional one early one, but you have a lifetime to work out the kinks. I'm not certain of what your job is in aviation, but I also work in aviation and logistics, so I'm going to assume that your company has a Latin/South American operation that will allow you to transfer or find work in Columbia. Or if not work with your company, I'm assuming that you may be able to find work in Columbia just as your wife would probably be able to find work in the US if she were to move here. As for my comment of a "stay at home wife", it is in reference to staying at her new home in America instead of running back and forth. I know you want a wife that lives and remains in the US, but moving to US doesn't mean her family, ties, and obligations end permanently either. Again, no one's marriage is perfect, and no one wants to continue to do the long distance thing, but it is possible given the many couples that have to do it years whether for work, finances, or simply completing the visa process. Furthermore, as I said before, this maybe something that last for a few month or maybe even a few years. If your wife can agree to a certain amount of time before returning home to the US permanently, I still find that a compromise. I doubt she would go through the CR1 process and marriage with you only to turn it down for a sick relative. Once again, it can be done. The question is, how committed you are to your marriage and are you willing to support your spouse while she looks after what I'm assuming once again is her last living relative. Let's be honest, it's not fair to ask her to choose between her family and her husband when you yourself said she willing to compromise for a time and have both. . .

I'm not here to argue with you guy. There are opinions and then there is factual information about visas and likewise. I suggest if you feel so strongly about his marriage and the opinions of other posters, you inbox him and give him your one on one opinion and leave the rest of us out of it.
Good luck to the OP on whatever decision you choose. I hope it's the best for you guys!

I'm not here to argue with you guy. There are opinions and then there is factual information about visas and likewise. I suggest if you feel so strongly about his marriage and the opinions of other posters, you inbox him and give him your one on one opinion and leave the rest of us out of it.
Good luck to the OP on whatever decision you choose. I hope it's the best for you guys!

Family is family. Regardless of anyone else's situation, it's not yours and so any of a million things could happen. Life is fragile and precious and we only have one to live. The last thing you want is to be living the "what ifs". Instead of being selfish potentially proposing the dissolution of this marriage, I say you suck it up and be supportive of your wife spending her mother's dying years in Columbia. You have flight benefits, so use them. Marriage is about compromise, and you asked your wife to give up everything to come live with you in another country. It's not the ideal situation, but it's workable if you guys are supportive of each other. Your wife has made it clear that she would like to be with her mother, but for the sake of the marriage, make frequent trips back and forth. Who knows? Maybe she'll tire of the back and forth, and decide to hire someone to sit with mom or as another poster said, realize mom ain't going anywhere for a couple of years. Most couples don't have the luxury to see each other as often. Imagine how long troops go without seeing their spouses and families and still manage to make it work. Given she - the MIL - has emphysema, it could be a few months or a few years. And culturally, we already know the Latin American diaspora are for the most part loving and close nit. If you aren't ready to be a supportive spouse and work with her, to support what your post suggests, her time with her last living relative, I suggest you either bite the bullet and move temporarily to Columbia or give her the walking papers and find yourself an American spouse who can fit within your comfort zone to be a "stay at home wife". . .

I'm not here to argue with you guy. There are opinions and then there is factual information about visas and likewise. I suggest if you feel so strongly about his marriage and the opinions of other posters, you inbox him and give him your one on one opinion and leave the rest of us out of it.
Good luck to the OP on whatever decision you choose. I hope it's the best for you guys!

The OP asked for advice and opinions. Instead of you hijacking his thread and giving your opinion on other posters opinions, I suggest you stick to the topic at hand.
To the OP, I stand by my comments that you should remain supportive of your wife's decision. Your marriage may not be a traditional one early one, but you have a lifetime to work out the kinks. I'm not certain of what your job is in aviation, but I also work in aviation and logistics, so I'm going to assume that your company has a Latin/South American operation that will allow you to transfer or find work in Columbia. Or if not work with your company, I'm assuming that you may be able to find work in Columbia just as your wife would probably be able to find work in the US if she were to move here. As for my comment of a "stay at home wife", it is in reference to staying at her new home in America instead of running back and forth. I know you want a wife that lives and remains in the US, but moving to US doesn't mean her family, ties, and obligations end permanently either. Again, no one's marriage is perfect, and no one wants to continue to do the long distance thing, but it is possible given the many couples that have to do it years whether for work, finances, or simply completing the visa process. Furthermore, as I said before, this maybe something that last for a few month or maybe even a few years. If your wife can agree to a certain amount of time before returning home to the US permanently, I still find that a compromise. I doubt she would go through the CR1 process and marriage with you only to turn it down for a sick relative. Once again, it can be done. The question is, how committed you are to your marriage and are you willing to support your spouse while she looks after what I'm assuming once again is her last living relative. Let's be honest, it's not fair to ask her to choose between her family and her husband when you yourself said she willing to compromise for a time and have both. . .

Family is family. Regardless of anyone else's situation, it's not yours and so any of a million things could happen. Life is fragile and precious and we only have one to live. The last thing you want is to be living the "what ifs". Instead of being selfish potentially proposing the dissolution of this marriage, I say you suck it up and be supportive of your wife spending her mother's dying years in Columbia. You have flight benefits, so use them. Marriage is about compromise, and you asked your wife to give up everything to come live with you in another country. It's not the ideal situation, but it's workable if you guys are supportive of each other. Your wife has made it clear that she would like to be with her mother, but for the sake of the marriage, make frequent trips back and forth. Who knows? Maybe she'll tire of the back and forth, and decide to hire someone to sit with mom or as another poster said, realize mom ain't going anywhere for a couple of years. Most couples don't have the luxury to see each other as often. Imagine how long troops go without seeing their spouses and families and still manage to make it work. Given she - the MIL - has emphysema, it could be a few months or a few years. And culturally, we already know the Latin American diaspora are for the most part loving and close nit. If you aren't ready to be a supportive spouse and work with her, to support what your post suggests, her time with her last living relative, I suggest you either bite the bullet and move temporarily to Columbia or give her the walking papers and find yourself an American spouse who can fit within your comfort zone to be a "stay at home wife". . .

I'm not here to argue with you guy. There are opinions and then there is factual information about visas and likewise. I suggest if you feel so strongly about his marriage and the opinions of other posters, you inbox him and give him your one on one opinion and leave the rest of us out of it.
Good luck to the OP on whatever decision you choose. I hope it's the best for you guys!

Good grief. After reading this, I feel like I need to start coaching my fiance. . .

Good grief. After reading this, I feel like I need to start coaching my fiance. . .

Good grief. After reading this, I feel like I need to start coaching my fiance. . .

Good grief. After reading this, I feel like I need to start coaching my fiance. . .

I think you're reaching now. It's one thing to be irritated with the government for continuing to expedite the Philippines and they come on a common thread and describe their joy while the rest of us have to keep waiting. It's totally different when you make a witch hunt against them because get the service we all deserve. You have a right to vent but attacking them in place of the real aholes who created this mess is childish.

Look, we all know the discrepancies between TSC and VAC are total BS. Instead of acting a fool with one another over an issue we can't control, we need to focus on the long run and continuing to encourage each. Truth be told none of are really going to be screaming and hollering about immigration once each of us get our approvals and visas. I remember one annoying April filer whined nearly everyday about how unfair the system was. I haven't seen her since she got her approval. Please stop the madness and bickering.
Personally I keep most my opinions to myself since moderates don't seen to think we are adults capable of freedom of express without threats. This is frustrating process so we should be allowed to vent. But arguing about who has the worst wait doesn't contribute to much to further the process.
By the way, any Philippines filers, I think it's time to start your own thread. You guys have the most filers of any country in the world, you are automatically expedited due to a typhoon that took place a year ago, and you guys seen to dominate the threads that seem to irk other filers in other ways that can't expressed thanks to moderators quickly shutting down any thing that could be decribed as negative toward the feelings of other posters. You guys unwittingly create false hope when you post that you have an approval. It is what it is. While you're welcome to post about your personal journey, just be mindful of the backlash you may receive or create when it's been stated time and again that you guys are expedited. It's almost disrespect to say to people who have wait even longer and with uncertainty that you got yours relatively quickly. I'm not saying stop posting but I am saying for the sake of peace be mindful of what you post in relative towards your approval. . .

I saw it too. Its NOA1 was June 9, my birthday! Perhaps a sign???

30 days to an examiner is absurd. TSC is basically saying it will take us about 30 days to go through all these boxes looking for yours and 15 minutes or so to make a decision. TSC is full of ssshhhhh . . . . .

TSC is terrible. After the transfers, for like 2 weeks they were blasting through March. It looked like they were going to be halfway into April by the middle of September - at first. They are pathetic. It's the middle of September now and they're still poking around with March. Even worse a lot of March filers haven't even received the NOA2 yet. To add insult to injury, the fliers being approved in the April/May category are from CSC and even CSC is dumping cold water on their approval rates. It's pathetic that we pay our government for a service and it takes them months to complete simple tasks that take other countries at most 3 months to complete - by law. I bet it don't take them months to take my taxes though. . .

LOL lies! You can believe that if you want to, if it makes you feel better, but so many people who applied before you most likely did the same thing you did, which was follow the instructions to the T and yet they are still waiting. Whether you want to admit it or not, your petition was expedited for simply coming from the Philippines. Philippines based petition don't count because they are in a special expedited category of their own that only Filipino petitioners are benefiting from. Stop wallowing in ignorance and look at the updated timelines of petitions from the Philippines and see the quick approval ratings of those compared to that of other countries and petitioners. Don't get me wrong, everyone is happy for any couple reunited, but in the case for the Philippines, the majority of which which are expedited whether effected by the typhoon or not, their cases can't be held to the same standard as everyone else. If anything, while the Philippines have the most K1 petitions of any country, the fact that they are still being expedited is proven by the fact that nearly every daily approval has a Filipino benefactor approved in 1 month, two months top. Just saying what everyone is thinking and too polite to say for fear of being banned from the thread or having their comment removed.
BTW Original Poster, I don't think the VJ estimated timeline really matter since people don't update their timelines like they should and it doesn't seem to to take in account the transfers - at least for TSC.

I'm not sure but let's hope so, that would be amazing!

LOL lies! You can believe that if you want to, if it makes you feel better, but so many people who applied before you most likely did the same thing you did, which was follow the instructions to the T and yet they are still waiting. Whether you want to admit it or not, your petition was expedited for simply coming from the Philippines. Philippines based petition don't count because they are in a special expedited category of their own that only Filipino petitioners are benefiting from. Stop wallowing in ignorance and look at the updated timelines of petitions from the Philippines and see the quick approval ratings of those compared to that of other countries and petitioners. Don't get me wrong, everyone is happy for any couple reunited, but in the case for the Philippines, the majority of which which are expedited whether effected by the typhoon or not, their cases can't be held to the same standard as everyone else. If anything, while the Philippines have the most K1 petitions of any country, the fact that they are still being expedited is proven by the fact that nearly every daily approval has a Filipino benefactor approved in 1 month, two months top. Just saying what everyone is thinking and too polite to say for fear of being banned from the thread or having their comment removed.
BTW Original Poster, I don't think the VJ estimated timeline really matter since people don't update their timelines like they should and it doesn't seem to to take in account the transfers - at least for TSC.

LOL lies! You can believe that if you want to, if it makes you feel better, but so many people who applied before you most likely did the same thing you did, which was follow the instructions to the T and yet they are still waiting. Whether you want to admit it or not, your petition was expedited for simply coming from the Philippines. Philippines based petition don't count because they are in a special expedited category of their own that only Filipino petitioners are benefiting from. Stop wallowing in ignorance and look at the updated timelines of petitions from the Philippines and see the quick approval ratings of those compared to that of other countries and petitioners. Don't get me wrong, everyone is happy for any couple reunited, but in the case for the Philippines, the majority of which which are expedited whether effected by the typhoon or not, their cases can't be held to the same standard as everyone else. If anything, while the Philippines have the most K1 petitions of any country, the fact that they are still being expedited is proven by the fact that nearly every daily approval has a Filipino benefactor approved in 1 month, two months top. Just saying what everyone is thinking and too polite to say for fear of being banned from the thread or having their comment removed.
BTW Original Poster, I don't think the VJ estimated timeline really matter since people don't update their timelines like they should and it doesn't seem to to take in account the transfers - at least for TSC.