Me_Theo

Ask yourself ,why do you want marry with a man, he is already depressed. If he arrive in U.S will be more depressed. ...he is needy man and also he did not grow up enough, quit schoo l!!!! may be he never was in school, he needs a doctor always be with him. Forget him don't waste your time. You are in love now and you think he is in love with you. Don't make a big mistake. Try to find a true man. He is not good for marry at least for 4-5 years or may be more. If I was you, I will forget him soon, I don't have time to waste for depressed young man from india still his father is fallow him to be care him.

already you are in scam. Let I tell you the future, after he arrive to U. S he will continue his childish behavior. if you marry with him. he will ask you bring all my family here. if you say no he will leave you to find an indian woman some where the indian lives in U.S. His father wise enough to find another woman for him to fix him in U.S.A. Now, you tell us, do you like this future with him ? If yes, then continue relationship with him.

Cancel every thing you did for him to bring him in U.S

Of course he will cry to you. to tell you I love you and ..... but just be awake that is part of his plan.

Good Luck

Don't really want to be in the marriage at this point. You know the phrase "cheaper to keep her?" It's like that. I file for D and she will get about $3k/mo, and no doubt go on public assistance which I may have to pay back. Everyone loses.

try to be ready to divorce soon as soon.

Call the USA embassy in her country ask them to Revoke her Visas, also report about your money gone from your wallet and the baby to them too, . also send an email to Emabssy too. ask them what you should to do. to finish this woman from your life forever.

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We actually married in feb 2013, sorry I mityped the year

They gave us the paper where it was checked: "Your case is being held for review....etc..", nothing in particular was mentioned

for travel may be USCIS give your wife AP , You and your wife can travel to your home country.

I hope your wife get her green card soon.

in my opinion,

In normal time for giving the green card by marraige ( out of the border ) They give during 2-3 years. Also if we think USCIS accept her AOS as a person marraige with green card holder person.then :

Your marriage : Feb/2014

then her green card should be : feb/2016- feb/2017

Also we know she was in U.S, with not good visa for marry and your green card was very new too. Then may be they want wait untill your green card gets a little older and they see your marriage will work for 2 years or no .

She still has her student visa then They will not hurry to give her green card. Also your country and her country is important to officer's deiceds.

But every thing will depend to the officer's opinion , may be she/he deiced to give your wife green card next week.

After inteview what did he/she say to you?

She is still student. She'll be studying for next 1.5 years

Then i don't think, there is wrong in her file to take her green card.

Have a hope and just wait. till now everything looks okay.

One more question, How many years you had a LRP (have agreen card) before she arrive in U.S and you marry with her?

is your wife still student ? or she has U.S university degree now ? Did she finish her course in University?

Me_Theo: answers to your question... 1. i'm not sure about the exact amount but i know he makes more than P150 thousand a month if converted to pesos. He gave me a supplementary creditcard that i can use to buy groceries esp. milk for our toddler. i take pictures of the food that i buy and sends it to him cos he wants to know what i bought. he gives around P15thou cash for the bills and my allowance. 2. our almost 2 year old son goes to therapy 1 to 2x a week which costs P700 per session. I was also taught how to do therapy at home everyday as much as possible. Our child's speech has improved because of that. 4) my husband loves our child. he is a very good provider and spends time with our son as much as he can. 5) what is life level? we are just in the middle class. 6)I am an RN. if i come to US and get a chance to work as a nurse I know I can help with our family's finances more. 7) if we didn't have a child maybe we are still getting to know with each other. I'm not sure. 8) husband has 1 teenage son with his xgf but they don't have communication anymore because he thinks his son was brainwashed by his exgf 9) my husband's parents or family doesnt interfere with our marriage so far. 10) our son is almost 2 y.o 11) my husband likes to stay in the P.I cos its much cheaper. 12) I have properties that I have inherited from my father- a house, and apartment business. 13) i can't say how much my son will need in the future but as of now I have significant amount of bank savings also from my inheritance.

ok,I can not talk about,will you find a job in U.S or no. then I don't want count on your earning money in US. because you have a very young autism child, he needs you more than money in this years .You should teach to yourself to help him , then better you stay with him in home to improve him .

Then no ways, do not think about working out of your home .

An other hand your husband has a son and your child should know his brother soon as soon that is good for both of them.

That is a good things for your child he has a older brother. you should be happy about it for your child future, Life is short and after you and your husband , the brother can help your child.also his kids will help to their uncle (your child), i hope.

Then if you someday arrive in U.S , you should try to have a good Relations with him and his mother too.

that another your duty will be because your child's future.

Your husband is paying money for his teenage son and his mom. (it is in the law) he should to do it too. that is okay.

Then, he is right, your country is cheaper and he can have it this chance for his child.I am happy your country therapist is working good, and your child can talk with a few words. that is very good news too, teach him just English. do n't forget it.

Also DO NOT think U.S therapist can make a Miracle to him in U.S. Because every thing in U.S works with money. if you pay more money you will have good things. good therapist needs more money. if you do not have the money , that will be may be worse than your country therapist .

But here is big important thing is happening. you should take your green card soon as soon. we do not know about future and what will happen tomorrow. I wish i could never tell this but if something happen to your husband in U. S. also you do not have green card what will you do? and what will happen to your son?

Then, I think you should take your green card , not just for live in US. Just because we do not know future and how much we will be alive after now.

Try to talk to your husband about how you can take your green card in your home country, or how you come in US for a while (some months) and after you take your green card, you go back to your country till he can tell you come forever or he comes back to Philippine. I am sure the congressman in his state can do something about it. He should explain about his son and other things I said here . May be they let you back in your country after some months without affect on your US citizenship processing in future if you want someday to be US citizen. Because of your autism child.

DO NOT think you come in U. S without help from your husband and ….and go between other Filipino and …. That is really stupid thing if you want to do it.Try to be do mature also try fast grow up. Your child needs both you.

Do not make new drama, do not put your son in risk. The best helping to your son should come first .

talk with your husband, say this to him.

if you like show my words to him. let him a little think about it. You should have green card soon as soon because we do not know what will happen tomorrow for us. Our child should be safe with us and without us.

answer please this questions.

1- How much your husband make money in U.S? Also how much he sends to you each month?

2- How much your country help your child as a autism kid?

3- How much your country therapy are working good with your child?

4-How much your husband loves your child?

5-What is your life level in your country ?

6- if you come to U.S what will be your life level ?

7-If you had not a child , How much your marriage was working till now?

8- Your husband has other kids from another women, younger or oldest than your child in U.S or no?

9- How much your husband family interfere about his family ( you and your child= his family)?

10-How old your child now?

11-For what kind reasons your husband has to say stay in Philippine.

12-What do you have in Philippine?( as house - business or ..... )

13- how much can you save money or else for your autsim kid's future. you know may be he/she could not work for all his/her life.

Then how much you can save for her/his. Also if you come to U.S, how much you can save in U.S?

if you answer these questions, may be people can help you more.

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Your child is US citizen and deserve to be in his/her country with autism or without autism, also you are too, because you are his/her mom.

Just your question should be this . What is the best thing i can do for my austim child in this situation.

Does not matter what do you want or what does you husband want or what does your husband family want.

Focus on this part.

If she wants pay this money, tell her: pay by herself , don't fall in her nervous playing. If she has a extra money to pay for this part of the visa let she does. at least lawyers should earn money for their life by this kind people .

Do not pay for her , let she does by herself. The money will be her money by her bank account not yours ,she can decide about it.

Go in Info pass in your state with your receipt number and any thing you have from USCIS, let someone from info pass help you to fill out the papers again. if you do that, you should not pay money again.Also if you did mistake in first time you will find what was it. Don't do it by yourself .

Good luck.

your child is autistic , right ?!,, I don't know how much your country help to autism kids. if he sends money to you and you have good trapy for your kid in your country stay in your country. You know better about your life. your child will grow up soon and needs more care and Dad's help ( by money and else).If your husband can not make good money in U.S, Do not come in U.S , your country is cheaper to doing help to your child. Just wait untill your husband say come in U.S.

If he makes good money in U.S try to slove your problem with your husband change his mind about coming to U.S,

Just don't do every thing you want. see, what is the best for your child.

If the picture on your account is real your picture do not hurry to have baby , you are so young also you have enough time to have baby in future after you husband find a job and ....

Check my timeline see if you got pregnant now (from start k-1 visa for your fiance), If my timeline happen for your fiance what will be happen for you and your baby.

Even if half time my timeline happen to you, what you will do .

Good Luck

This is what you have to do, expose her at work. Possibly get both of them fired.

objection ,

why OP should make a problem for boyfriend (married man with 4 kids). his children needs their Dad's money ,The boyfriend part is his wife (woman with 4 kids) side , she should do something and decide about cheater husband.

Our OP should focus in his situation.

One thing more, take a note from ((woman with 4 kids)) put in the mail you want to send the USCIS for stop her US citizenship, some thing show that your wife makes problem on her 4 US citizen kids lives and the US citizen woman.

I don't think you can do something to send her to her country, that is too late. already she is LPR and have a US citizen child. just make a problem for her N-400.

Just image how much your wife is damaging other woman's( with 4 kids) lifes .that is not small things, to wish the best for her and give your child to her, also she will make other without feeling mother ( your child) for future.

I bet she do not understand people feels and the other mothers feel, she cannot be good mom , when she cannot feel other mothers feels. i my eyes this kind woman is just selfish.

Sorry for hear that is going on in your life, first check the child is yours or no ?! by DNA not just for looks like you or your family.

If the child is not yours , you know what you want to do!

If the child is yours, you have 2 ways.

1- forgiveness and go to marriage therapy to save your marriage.

2- Divorce and take child from her anyway.

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if you choose number (1), that is ok. put you eyes on her till you can really trust her.

if you choose second way. send an email and a mail to USCIS ,explain her behavior and include with copy of her green card some pictures from his boyfriend ( married man!) and …. They will make problem for her US citizenship if someday she wants to apply for her Citizenship as a long term process time or put her file in black hole and make problem to find her file from black hole .

Don't believe some people write in VJ , USCIS will not make problem because she has a child and ....

The USCIS always are ready to find an excuse from some people files to send their file in black hole.

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You can do everything you like.

but if i was you. I will give to her a Big divorce.

Your heart loves what you made from her in your heart , But your heart words is not real she is.

Untill EAD does not apply, and EAD card does not arrive in his hand , He is working illegally. SSN card or a I-9 form or else will not work.

This happend to me. you can see my timeline. E-verify will not work , just will work by EAD, Then nobody will hire him. If he has a job now from his friend. that is ok good for him but that job in law eyes is illegally.

If you know her, also you are sure about your love, She can come in U.S from broader like Minnesota or other states as visitor for some day , Then she can marry with you in U.S, after marriage she goes back in canada, then you apply for marriage visa , also during the processing time , she can come in US to visit you, no trick no fraud will not happen. During processing time you send some money for her to live in canada, she can also work in Canada for part time or..... I don't see no kind problem here.

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Do not worry,If he has conditional green card , also you have reported to USCIS about him, with/by documents or without / by document,USCIS will Not give him new green card ,his 1-751 will NOT work for him, he should find another way to stay in U.S. May be he is trying to find new girl from facebook or else to find a way to stay in U.S. Let he does every thing he wants. Do not try to be evil. go to church ask god help you and make you more strong to move on.

If you have a divorce now, just move on and try to find new thing for enjoy. If you do not have a divorce, go make it

Do not stir the again, If he leaved let goes Just let him to goes.

If you really scare he makes a problem for you change your home or go to your family home for a while.

Do not try to find a new boyfriend until your feel get back to normal.

Love yourself , forget the abuse man. JUST move on.

She is 16 years old now. I want to apply for Green Card not just visa.

Can i do ?

Are you sure just i-130 is enough for Green card ?