CrazyRide

The follow up letters are needed at the interview, so I would sign them as soon as you can before the interview, they will be looking for the most current proof that you still intend to get married.
There is a lot to this process, some prefer paying a lawyer to do it so they don't have to worry about it. The process wont necessarily be any faster, having a your forms filled out by a lawyer doesn't put your petition to the front of the line, however the chance of an RFE is a lot less likely therefore the process could go faster. You seem like you're getting your head in the game, and your last few post seem like you are doing your research, there is certainly plenty of help here, if you think you have the time and diligence and are willing to accept that you might get an RFE, which isn't the end of the world, I'd say keep your $900 and do it yourself.
Good luck!
FYI, I am doing a write up on my I-129F petition and I am trying to be as detailed as possible for people to follow, I am just getting started but you might want to check it out, just click on the link in my signature "Our K-1 Journey"

Each consulate is different, so you need to probably start at your countries consulate webpage and look for information. Also find you consulate on vj.com and read the reviews and process so that you know what other people went through.

If you feel up to it, go to the interview and explain to them, you may save some poor woman the heartache you are now experiencing. This will make something positive out of a negative situation. And you will no longer be a victim, but a survivor.

I understand. You are feeling ashamed and confused at the prospect a failed marriage in such a short time, but you should give your family and friends some credit. Sure there will be some judgement and you cannot help it when people talk specially in a culture as conservative as yours but you will have to bite the bullet and accept it. The sooner you come to terms with your situation and move on, the sooner you'll be able to formulate a plan of action. I think you should share your feelings with your closest relatives and friends. They will understand and care for you no matter what. Have faith in them. Their love and support is what you will need to get through this tough time.

Don't be sensitive. I didn't say you were stupid. This is my honest answer to your honest question. You can't start the process unless she's free to marry that is it.

I spent the night after work reading your topic and listening to what everyone was telling you. At least you can admit to being stubborn and being the Salmon going against the stream. Though I would urge you to sit on it and think about it for a few days before making your final decision, maybe even spend a few days away from her. I know the NoA2 might have revitalized you but tell her you need time to think about everything that has happened, at least let it be known to her that you have doubts about your relationship. Reinforce that message with the absence of you in her life. It may not be easy if you are use to talking to each other everyday or every other day, but it's better to test the waters now. As humans we have a tendency to take the things in front of us for granted, and when removed we realize the meaning of them. Ask yourself what is the worse that can happen by giving each other a break? What? Maybe you find out the space between you is good and you accept not being with her. Perhaps she realizes how much she misses you in her life, and wants to repair the damage, or nothing happens and you keep going down your marry path. None of us can really tell you what to do, because of course that decision is yours, but this is the time for you to show you strength as person and as a man.
Good Luck and I hope you make the best decision for you life now and for the future.

You gave her too many chances already. She continued with the lies. She showed you who she is....believe it. Don't do this to yourself, you deserve better. For every lie you discovered there are 10 you don't yet or may never know. This is a bad scenario in more ways than one.

I've been with a cheating wife and I always thought it would change but it never did. The day I filed
a divorce and got her out of my life was the best day of my life. If they are going to cheat on you
and talk out the side of their mouth they love you, I'm not sure the sincereity it there. The writing is
on the wall. If you want out all you need to do is withdraw the application and let the father of the kid
raise it. Good Luck... theres alot of fish in the sea...

You must be a saint or something. If I were you I would have kicked her to the curb once I confirmed my suspicions.
Cheating is no mistake. She intended to cheat on you and intended to risk getting pregnant by the guy she was cheating on you with (perhaps no birth control, no condom?). She also intended to lie to you so that you wouldn't find out. You deserve better and I hope you know that.
No one can say with certainty how an interview with a consular officer would go unless they faced the same situation. Maybe you'll be lucky enough to get a response from someone who had. She would have a lot of explaining to do and shouldn't even consider lying. She would have to convince them, complete strangers, that despite her infidelity she loves you and is marrying you out of love and not for immigration benefits. Sounds like she's going to have a tough time proving that given her actions.
I wish you all the best.

Wrong

Hello All
I had a great opportunity Saturday evening to have dinner with and spend several hours with a director at the VSC. He is currently in charge of the department that handles I-751s among other things. His wife is an adjusicator that handles YOUR petition (if it went through VSC). His wife is Russian, arrived on a K-1 and is now a citizen. This man has worked for USCIS for many years and was at several local offices before being assigned to the VSC. His wife is a friend of Alla's and we were all at a dinner party for several American/Russian/Ukrainian couples Saturday. We had a long chat, he was very open and helpful. We talked about a lot of the things we see here on VJ and I was trying to remember all the "usual questions" I read about and pin him down for some answers. I also have asked him if he will give an "official interview" for VJ. He said he will check out the site and I will call him later this week. So, anyway I will try to cover what we discussed, he was quite frank and direct in his answers, not rude, not at all, but he knows his stuff and answers without hesitation. It turned into an impromtu and fun "interview" with me trying to remember all the hot button issues I see on VJ
I told him that the number ONE and number TWO "complaints" I see are Why is the VSC taking so long and why can't we get through to you guys?
Why is VSC taking so long, what happened? I was approved in 58 days!: We had problem with labor last year and lost many workers, we hired more last November and it took some time to get them trained. Some of the petitions were sent to California and we also assign people to different tyopes of visas. They will concentrate on one tyoe, get behind on another and then shift many people back to the other type. Lately we have shifted many, almost all, adjudicators to I-129fs, so that should make people happy. They will do that until they get caught up. Summer is a busy time for I-129fs, usually about June we get slammed with them. The winter or early spring is the slowest time for I-129fs, but then it depends what they have everyone working on also.
OK, why can't we get through to you? The 1-800 line is useless. Those are contract employees and they are trained to select answers from a menu of 14 answers. They pick which one is best for your question. There are thousands of visas being processed at any time and everyone is special and everyone has special circumstances and if we had direct lines we weould do nothing but field requests by petitioners to give them priority, we just can't do it. How would you feel if your petition got bumped because some woman called and cried on the phone and then her petition got moved up ahead of yours. We simply have to operate in a way that avoids any chance of fraud, corruption or unfairness.
So what about some people get approved ahead of others? Sme petitions have problems or delays, we do not hold back others for this. If an adjudicator has problems, he puts that one aside or sends an RFE and goes on to the next. The next one may be clean and gets approved right away, in just a few minutes, they adjudicate 15-20 petitions a day per person, and the ones with problems may wait weeks for the petitioner to respond to the RFE, or maybe it is a name check they are waiting for. Petitions are assigned as they arrive, when we are working on those petitions, but they do not go out the door in the same order they came in.
G-325a, Signed or Unsigned? Unsigned.
WHAT? Ok I have seen the memo but lots of VJ members got RFEs for unsigned G-325s, what gives? They do not have to be signed,they can be signed at the consualte interview. Some adjusicators haven't read all the memos, we get hundreds of the things, and maybe they make a mistake. If you want to be sure there is no mistake, sign it. Or send a letter expalining why it is not signed and request it be signed at the interview. Do you have that memo?
It is on the VJ website somewhere You can print a copy of that and send it with the I-129f and G-325a.
Fiancee intent letter? Signed or unsigned? Signed.
What about a faxed or emailed signature? When I was adjudicating, if I could see a signature, I accepted it, but many adjusicators will not. Signed is better.
Lawyer or no lawyer? For what?
Enough said. Now a hot issue, a very controversial one. There seems to be a trend in some countries of foreign men marrying American women and the women are considerably older. There is always a question if this is a problem. It never seems to be a problem for older men/younger women (My wife is 13 years younger, his wife is also considerable younger than him) Is it a problem? For us, USCIS, no. "Free to marry".
What about the consulates or for AOS or I-751? Consulates do what they do, it is not USCIS, some of them are bastards. Kiev is easy, they approve everyone (laughs), they used to be bastards but they got easier since they first started doing those in 2005, before then you would have had to go to Warsaw, you know. For AOS if they can prove they are legitimate we do not care about age but anything that is "not normal" for the culture will draw suspicion. They probably will not get a no questions asked interview (I had told him our AOS was "no questions asked")
What about birth certificates, some people have trouble getting them? This is a problem for us also. Some people, especially our younger staff, think all the world is like the USA. I remember one, when I was in the Kansas City office, the beneficiary was from Viet Nam, she was born in 1954 there was no birth certificate. The CO asked me about this and I looked at the file. I said "Do you know what was going on in Viet Nam in 1954?" She looked at me, straight faced and said "What, their computers were down?" If a birth certificate cannot be obtained they can usually get something from a church, a village official, something, and send that with a letter of explanation. Or just their passport and a letter explaining the situation (this applies to AOS more than I-129f as beneficiary birth certificate is not required for the petition, but I wanted to ask anyway, it seems a common question here)
What about extra documents? Proof of relationship? We don't need it, only that they have met for the fiancee visa.
What about the consulates? Consulates do what they do, as I said, some are bastards. They get whatever we get when it is sent on. I can't tell you what NVC and consulates do, I know some are terrible and some are really easy, but I do not know all the details of each. Kiev is easy, western Europe is easy, Nigeria is horrible, but you would not believe the scams from Nigeria, I get jaded. I am surprised a lot of them get visas and then we have to deal with them.
I have to ask for a collegue, Ecuador? Bastards.

What about changes? Are there any in the works? Is Obama ouching you guys to work faster? I am not sure Obama knows we exist. There have been no changes and no pressure other than the usual workload and shifting things around. I do not expect any immigration changes in the next year or two, at kleat not in rules or amnesty or anything like that. I do expect FEE INCREASES within the next year...across the board.
How much more? I cannot say, that is not my area, I just hear talk.
He added, "We try not to deny petitions, people really get angry and make lots of trouble. Denials usually come at the consulate or maybe AOS or sometimes even with the I-751. If we deny someone we need good reason, if they meet the criteria, we will approve it, they just have to give us what we need to approve them."
So how can I speed up my petition? You can't really. If it gets to be too long and if you can get a congressman or senator to call, that will get some action, but half the time those guys dont'' call or they do and the petition has only been there 3 months. Sometimes one falls through the cracks, gets overlooked, we are human. A congressman can get through and get them to dig it out if it has been too long, but I wouldn't call that "speeding it up". That's a fix for whn it is too slow.
we talked for some time more, about 5 hours altogether, briefly interrupted by Alla every now and again who had her own questions about the I-751 procedure which I posted in that forum, about VJ and other topics (his Navy days) He said he will check the site and gave me his home number. He said "call anytime but not 3 in the morning" I asked about an interview or answering prepared questions, he said possibly, he will check the site. He said many internet sites are advertisement for immigration attorneys or instructing people on how to pull scams, I assured him he would be very pleased with VJ and he thinks it is great that there is a good site for information and advice. (he never heard of VJ before this)
I can also say, that speaking to him, I heard so many of the same buzzwords or advice that I have seen right here, this is really a great site with some great folks giving some really great info.

This is where this thread is going to confuse many. Getting an RFE for lack of evidence to prove you have met in the past two years almost always is due to a lack of primary evidence. Supplying more, or many photos (secondary evidence) will usually not overcome the burden of proof.
This has been borne out time and again by USCIS decisions whereby they have found mostly in favor of primary evidence and rejected secondary evidence such as photos when submitted as sole proof.
Primary evidence is documentary in nature: airline boarding passes, passport exit/entry stamps, hotel receipts, atm withdrawals in city of question, utility bills, apartment leases, etc.
Secondary evidence The USCIS defines secondary evidence as any documentation that can be used to supplement primary evidence but in itself cannot stand alone to prove ones assertions.
Photos are secondary; so are letters from relatives, neighbors or acquaintances, bus/train tickets and essentially anything that cannot be used to prove your point with a very high degree of certainty.
To sum up; very good Primary evidence with some secondary evidence = NO RFE
very weak Primary evidence with some, or lots of secondary= Possible RFE
No Primary evidence..........................................................= RFE
No Primary, lots of secondary.............................................= RFE