anajnic

In my opinion, if she wanted to scam you she would enter the states on the K-1 visa provided by you and then dissappear to her sister without you knowing she was in the states or even marry you and wait for her status to change to leave you. Maybe she just wants a ceremony not an actual marriage in her home country to share her moment with family and friends or maybe she is getting nervous this is a big step for her.

I'm trying to understand how demanding a wedding in her home country with her family and friends would be a way to "scam" you. I'm going to suppose she means a ceremonial wedding and not actually get officially married in her country, otherwise, like others have said, that would void the K1 visa.
Maybe what you mean is that she started becoming unreasonable as soon as she got her K1 so that you would get into a fight, so she would have an excuse to no longer have to talk to you, now that she has what she wants. But, like others have said, if she goes to the U.S on the k1 and doesn't get married within 90 days she will become out of status and have serious legal issues with her immigration status. So, either she hasn't thought this through at all or you are jumping to conclusions thinking it is a scam. If it's a scam, then it's not a very good one.

OP is well adjusted. The above advice is very-very strange: OP's home is here now. There are no guarantees in any venture; but it doesn't mean young people who made it this far, should be returning to their backward cocoons. Care to cite an example of a happy regression?

Thanks for the information. I felt that the fee was too large and that she is being taken advantage of by her relative.
As for getting married too soon. She is a strong woman and a smart one. She did not let herself stay in the bad situation with her husband very long. The first time that he did that to her she left him because she already found that he was not the man he said that he was when they met. So while I am sure that she still has some worries she did not allow her self to be abused for long so she is ready to move on. She was only with him for a month, I think.
In the Philippines a woman her age is almost considered too old to find a husband so she feels some pressure to find a husband in the next few years because she very much wants to have a nice marriage and a baby. But she was depressed because she was told that she would have to return to the philippines before she could marry another man.
She is not looking for a husband right now, but because of the situation (she is working 7 days a week to pay her attorney fees and have some money to send home) she does not even have the option to meet a nice man, or even to leave the place she is working to have friends.
I suppose it's possible that she misunderstood what her attorney and relative were saying, but more likely I think they were working together to trap her, because her relative obviously wants to keep her working for him because he is paying her very little for a whole lot of hard work. She is very unhappy where she is right now, but she is scared to change her situation because she is afraid of messing up her green card petition.

She can get married after receiving the green card without any problem,but if she gets married before the vawa is approved then her lawyer is right because her green card petition will be canceled and she can just adjust her status based in her marriage with her first husband, who petitioned to bring her, or she can self petitioner as she already did,but once she gets married before vawa approval her vawa will be canceled. WOW 18.000 is extremelly exagerated fees.In my opinion if she was battered less than 2 years ago she should not even thinking to get married again because she needs time to heal and finding love in a few months? I do not buy this kind of story.

She can only adjust status through the person who brought her here. Since she has filed VAWA, she will eventually get a Greencard through that. She should be able to get married after she receive a Greencard though...$18000 is ridiculous!!!!

It won't affect her case at all, by the way it will benefit her , she will tell Uscis that the "alleged abuse" she suffered when living with you messed her mind so bad, she is extremely traumatized, she was feeling is despair and tried to commit suicide.

Every week i receive hundreds of emails. I am member of other sites as well, and I will try to answer here some frequent questions and provide some informations. When you have your Vawa case denied you have the option to file an appeal or submit a motion,it depends of each decision. If your case has to go to the Appeal to the Federal Circuit Courts and you submitted your appeal to the 2nd or 9th Circuits they will review your case based in domestic violence/extreme cruelty, but if you are in the 3rd, 5th, 6th, 7th, or 10th, the Federal Circuit Court CANNOT review the decision issued by an immigration judge or the BIA because the “extreme cruelty” is considered a discretionary factor, and they consider that can only be decided by the immigration judge and the BIA. Many people in deportation proceedings filing Vawa Cancelation of Removal asked me how can I prove hardship? ( the alien must prove extreme abuse and hardship), well you can establish hardship by proving that your recovery from abuse would be jeopardized if deported, or proving the abuser threatened to track the victim down in her/his home Country if she/he leave the U.S, and proving you maintain a protection order in the U.S. against the abuser. Many people do not mention some circumstances of the verbal abuse, because they don't know if it's abuse or not.Berating your ethnicity;threatening to report you with allegations that you married for immigration papers, forcing you to work without work permit, threatening to turn you in because of your immigration status, threatening to take your kids away all these circumstances are considered mental abuse. When writing your affidavit you MUST describe the courtship. I saw hundreds of RFEs because the individuals failed to describe the courtship,they need to know if you got married to get papers or for love, and they will be able to find out about that when they know the circumstance that lead you to got married. Every time you submit affidavits from your friends they MUST state their full name, place of birth,date of birth,present address and contact number.Your friends must inform when they met you first time and where, last time they saw you or heard about you etc.. I know many people here did not submit their Vawa case and others are still living with their spouses, then here is what we use to say to all victims of domestic violence or victims of mental abuse: - take pictures of the house if the abuser broke or destroyed some stuff in the house; -take pictures if you have some visible injuries; -go to the hospital TODAY IF YOU WERE BATTERED or if you feel suicidal or depressed. Any hospital will admit you for consultation even if you can't afford to pay them, after receiving the bill you can apply for "charity" with the hospital; -call 911 if you are battered or feel threatened. Do not worry they won't "deport" you! ; -If you are suffering domestic violence or you are being mentally abused call Domestic violence hotline and ask them a shelter where you can stay, -when leaving the house take with you ALL your documents and children's documents as well. Leave just a brief note saying "I left",in order for your husband to know that you were not kidnapped, and not to call the cops and put everyone searching for you and your kids. Do not mention with neighborhoods or his friends that you are moving to a shelter; - DO NOT ANSWER the abuser phone calls after leaving him/her or his/her family phone calls, tell your family not to disclose with him/her where you are living, -delete him/her from facebook , change your facebook/email passwords; -as soon you leave your house go to the family Court to file for child's custody; -if you are moving to a shelter take just 1 suitcase per person; -do not leave your house if the abuser is there, try to leave when he is not at home,of course if you call 911 you can leave the house because the cops will be there; -If you don't have any money or food find a "salvation army" place they will be able to help you out, specially those with police report; Be safe!

OP knows exactly what she's doing she will be OK....probably smarter than
legal aid atty

you will be approved.. and very soon too..God will deliver and restore your sanity back..A very great life is ahead of you.. All will be well in Jesus name

Thanks Anajnic, I am trying and praying God!

Wow Congratulations Cielo14!!! Did you get any RFE? It looks like VAWA unit started to really work on cases. It is easy to say not to worry but when your life depends on this decision there is nothing I can do about anxiousness. I am praying God!

yup, my was 13 months because i had RFE.... but you do get approved in a year.. GreenCard next and we getting that too
In Jesus Name..Amen

Hallelujahh!!!. All glory and honor to God.. Thank you Jesus... I cry for you my sister today FaithKeeper.. Because only God knows the pain and the struggle and the stress involved in a journey as this.. But he assists women like us to help others. I thank God for Jesus today for making a way.. There is power in the name of Jesus

I got approved throught Gods Grace and mercy, took 13 months. YOU WILL TOOO IN THE NAME OF JESUS.

how good of a friend is this?
can you recommend this friend to look at visajourney.com and study ?
alternately - surely it's time to 'go home' by now, why to risk deportation?

Ok I didn't mean to laugh but this response is mad funny lol.

lmao. He needs phych eval. Lol

DEAREST SADGUY AND MERRYTOOTH PLEASE REFRAINE FROM ABUSING THIS FORUM YOU STRESSING ME OUT NOW AS MY HUSBAND IS DOING THE SAME THING TO ME I WORK EARLY MORNINGS AND GET RIDE FROM A FRIEND OF MINE MY HUSBAND WENT AND TOLD MY FRIENDS WIFE AM DATING HER HUSBAND WHICH IS A LIE HE CALLED IMMIGRATION TO REPORT ME HE TOLD COUNTLESS LIES ON ME JUST BECAUSE HE CANT GET TO ABUSE ME NO MORE VER SAD GUY YOU A STALKER AND AN ABUSER THATS WHY YOU WONT LEAVE THIS WOMAN ALONE SHE GAVE YOU A DAUGHTER SO LEAVE HER ALONE PLEASE THIS IS NOT THE RIGHT FORUM YOU ON OK ITS FOR ABUSED PEOPLE WHO FILED VAWA GO TAKE CARE OF THE GIFT YOUR EX WIFE GAVE YOU LEAVE HER IN PEACE YOU MAKING ME VERY SAD

The court grant custody on many different basis and a very important one is stability. Very sad guy is established and has astanle home and go he knows what he told the judge. Vawa is not one sided because they require evidence of the abuse. If the is mountainous evidence why call some that is more than likely going to lie. When they passed the act they knew what they were passing. Abuser never admit yo an abuse and if they do the try to rationalize it. They had evidence that she was abuse, bona fide marriage, commune residence and what ever else evidence she produce. Immigration is no fool so let's not fool our selves. Abuse is abuse some people threshold is higher than others hence one instance of abuse may terminate a relationship while in others it takes death to end. I WS informed by a cop that they have respond to several residence where the abuser killed his victim and he tried to rationalize his action. U can't speak for him "is not an abuser" u don't know his ex side of the story. Some spouse like yo use the "alien" spouse immigration status as sabatage

I normally don't post here at all. But just feel the need to speak up for verysadguy.
So bye bye.

Arggg. He's prolly the same guy cowardlyhoward. These men now a days don't know to chill and let nature rake its course. And got ultimately made the io approve the case. If u want to get all technical everything is don't the way god wants it.

That much is true.. but surely a good Vawa case, or rather legit vawa cases can be smelled from a distance. I was never worried about approval. I had the cervical spine surgery to prove.Married 2006 surgery 2009, never filed i130 until 2011 thinking it will work and he would change... Got approved i130 , when I couldnt take it i filed vawa 2012. and that was very hard to do.. Thank God im out..

A child is enough to prove bona fide marriage. A child born in wedlock says a lot. Its not like she was married to him and had the child with someone else. It shows they plan to established a family. Marriage is the beginning of the establishment. "Who just have sex with there spouse" ur spouse is ur spouse u make love and in that processa baby if a person has no intent to have kids with there spouse there is birth control. Its not like they were a fling or just dating they were married and that speak volume.
We don't know what happens behind close door so if she deserve it god will grant it. Give onto Cesare what's due onto him.

I would still like to think that a child is a union between two people in a marriage I would never have a child for a man just to 'anchor' myself here. The human element is worth more than that its a responsibility an commitment you have for the rest of your life. My spouse an I share a daughter I didnt have a long list of proofs of bonafide marriage because at the time I believed we had a future an eventually everything else will follow so as howtosurvive said only God knows what happened behind close doors but she got her approval for a reason God saw it fit to grant it to her.