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Just my two cents singledad if you have no information that will help panam guy then why be at him. It comes across like you have something against his case ( no pun intended). This forum is to help people in a positive way if you think that his case is not strong then feel free to say but at the end of the day is his choice to move forward. It comes across that you are frustrating him and i personally don't think this forum is for that at all. everybody situation is different it doesn't mean because you did something a certain way doesn't mean someone else has to do it that way. Live and let live. Let him do wat he thinks is best for him. Everybody deal with abuse differently some people can walk away easier than other and it makes it even harder for others when kids are involve. That's just my two cents don't be offended in any way.

sandra my point is he is so bitter to the point where he is doing everything in his power to destroy this lady SHE GAVE HIM A CHILD SO THEY BOTH SHARE A LIFE WHY DONT HE JUST MOVE ON AND LET GO HE NEEDS TO GET OFF THE THREAD HAS I REALY DONT WANT TO HEAR HIS STORY MY HUSBAND TOLD IMMIGRATION I SCAMMED HIM AS WELL HIS KIDS AND FAMILY HAD TO STEP IN FOR ME SO HE NEEDS TO FOCUS ON HIS CHILD HAS NOW AM FEELING INSECURE ON THIS SITE HAS AN ALLEDGED ABUSER HAS FOUND HIS WAY ON HERE SO BECAUSE HE SPENDING HIS TIME ON HERE ITS NOT A SAFE PLACE TO TALK AGAIN :crying: :crying: :crying: FEELS LIKE OUR PRIVACY HAS BEEN INVADED VERY SAD GUY PLEASE MOVE ON LET US ON THIS SITE FEEL SAFE

very sad guy you making me mad why dont you go raise your baby and leave the woman alone you are an abuser a stalker and pure evil she gave you a child for god sake that woman been through enuff of your retarded self go get a life why you intend on reuinin your baby mama you remines me of my evil husband you need to get off this site as you making my abuse i went through giving me night mares now and if you stalking this woman to death on our forum imagine what you was doing to her when you guys live together

i do not understand the purpose of hiring a lawyer when one still have to come to this forum to ask for help and guidance.SMH..
Please friends shake your lawyers really hard and be careful who you give your money to!!!!!
There are a lot of fraudsters out there willing to make you believe they are competent and experienced with VAWA cases, amongst others, whwn thet are NOT !
Good luck to all and God bless.

survivor2012 the proof you have for bonafide marriage is enough. Check with your friends and family maybe you sent them some pictures and they still have pictures of your husband and you together. Get some affidavits from friends stating that your relationship was genuine, and if they know about the violence suffered ask them to mention as well.In the affidavit they must put date and place of birth,address and phone number ok.
Your affidavit is one of the most important pieces.Do not submit more than 10/12 pages. Describe briefly how you met him, got engaged and married and take your time describing ALL abuse suffered(mental and physically). You should mention not just his behavior but your reaction due the abuse suffered such as fear,shame, embarrassment,degradation,humiliation, sleepness and mention if you felt undeserving,unworthy,felt guilty etc.

survivor2012 You said “ I only said that I wanted to continue treatment with my condition, and to continue school. Is that enough for "extreme hardship"? “.
Why are trying to prove hardship? You have to prove you were battered or suffered extreme cruelty, that is it. Extreme hardship is required in VAWA cancellation of removal(CoR), it means for those in removal proceedings and filing Cancelation of removal. For hardship allegation the individual must establish to the immigration judge the impact of the loss of access to the U.S. courts and criminal justice system regarding child support, alimony, child custody; enforce orders of protection and/or criminal investigations; the individual won’t have adequate medical attention due a serious illness or mental health treatment in the Home Country, and proof the treatment the individual is receiving in the USA is not available or inexistent in the home Country etc, but as I said you are not in removal proceedings right? then you don’t have to argue and/or prove extreme hardship.
The time of your marriage won’t affect your case at all. I had one case the girl lived with her husband just 23 days and her case was approved

survivor2012 I own a non profit organization who helps victim of domestic violence and I am an advocate for victims of domestic violence almost 15 years,plus 22 years working as an attorney. Everything i posted here is not a copy and paste like you said from wikipedia, but years of experience, but as I said before I don't know and you don't know what's gonna happen with Vawa then let's keep civilized ok, and do not bother to answer me more because arrogant people like you i am sick and tired to handle it and I really don't need a new one. You are you wasting your time attacking me and I am helping others, can you see the difference?...course not.

So sorry to hear that you had to go back home because of that monster. You should have found a shelter. Nevertheless you know whats best for you and your baby. I do believe you can still continue your Vawa case from Columbia. Don't let all your effort go to waste, follow up on your vawa and you already paid your lawyer so don't let your money go down the drain as well. Keep Fighting don't let him believe he won. Happy New Yr when it comes

This is an abuser! He is one of the examples which this country fails to stop! Violence! Just look at how many applications for VAWA every month, every year and yet the-what-so-called Law is worthless for it not strong enough or strict or firm enough to stop violence!
Freedom is given to wrong people! While others are stuck and suffered from those abusive behaviors!
Lord please help us all! This must be ended! Something must be done!
For example, many abusers are free of charge against them where they keep on hurting, abusing others and nothing stops them yet at the same time victims are sufferred by their heartless behaviors and waiting to have their application approved to get a job to make end meet.
What's wrong with the Laws? With the enforcement?

VERYSADGUY Please take your comments somewhere else. no one here can help you. We are trying to get ahead and your comments are not welcome here. I understand your frustation but posting here its not going to solve the problem. Please let us keep this part for us to discuss our cases and help each other. We already have too much taken away from us. Please respect this forum and let us use it to seek the help one on another like we always do.
thank you and please post somewhere else.

Yagana please take care. With all that we've endured we have earned the right to fight for our safe place. We should not be afraid to vent here because of some people. The world will never be rid of creeps and abusers as long as human beings exist, but we can't let the bad dictate our actions or outweigh the good. You're a strong woman for walking out of an abusive relationship, and you're strong enough to get the tools you need to stay free of abuse and manipulation. God bless.

I know how u feel but its is true the internet is not safe at all! These stalkers on our page are abusers they think they are not but they are don't be afraid to voice and vent my child because on this forum u are free :-)

And you know this how?
Extrapolating your personal experience to a broad spectrum is childish. I'm sure there are many people on this board who can tell you horrific stories of their encounters. But they know that sometimes, unfortunately, life is just like that. Unfair. Bad things happen, bad people exist. We live and we learn, and life moves on. If I keep wasting my time wondering why my former abuser had to pick me, or trying to exact revenge, I'd be wasting valuable time that I could use in educating and protecting myself from it ever happening again. A lot of people have given you advice in your thread, and I hope your situation gets settled in a way that's best for you and your baby. But please, don't add to the abuse that some others looking for information here might still be experiencing. Your actions might scare people who feel their abusers are tracking their online activity, and they may be too scared to post here to request help.

So are you saying indirectly that you are looking for your wife.hmmm

verysadguy....are you fishing for your wife here?
i read in another forum that your other half used and scammed you..
i do not have anything against you but i do not believe that your presence on this vawa forum is for the sole purpose of "helping " us.
i get angry at fakers and posers!
please stick to your investigation and leave us alone....stop asking people their timeline when you only have one objective : finding your wife who i assume from your other forum thread used you and has filed vawa!!!!!
good luck anyhow ,i do not condone what she did .nobody should be ever taken advantage of!

CurleyHoward even if they have no family here they have the right to submit the petition to stay. The Vawa law gives them this right and you are NOBODY to ask them "why not just go home"?. It seems you are an abuser, because here we have just victims of domestic violence and sometimes some abusers trying to disrupt the thread. Leave the girls alone and go to do some therapy because is crystal clear that you have some issues/anger problems.I am so glad that who approved Vawa Law are men and women of good character, and not scumbags who abused their wives/husbands and want the law to be reformed.

In March 2011 I sent to Vermont.
Evidence of abuse:
Texts/emails from my wife showing humiliation and financial abuse
Letter from my therapist
Affidavits from 2 friends
My own affidavit
Medical report showing visits around the time of the abuse
Police report one incident at the time of the abuse
Evidence of good faith marriage/joint residence:
Joint rental agreement
Joint bank account
Joint car insurance
Emails during our courtship
LATER ON I RECEIVED AN RFE IN JANUARY 2012 for GOOD FAITH MARRIAGE.
I did reply 2 weeks later with...
• Evidence of marriage.
- Copy of the front and back of my marriage license
- Copy of my marriage certificate
• Copies of the Photographs (photo album).
- My wife and I, together on trips.
- My wife and I, at game night.
- My wife and I, at birthday party
- My wife and I, during the first wedding anniversary
• Evidence of Co-Mingling Finances.
- Copy of letter from Bank.
- Copy of bank agreement
- Copies of bank statements.
- Copy of letter from Insurrance.
• Evidence of Shared Expenses.
- Copies of financial transactions.
Showing payments of rent and utilities (water, gas, trash)
Showing payments of furniture and domestic bonds
- Copy of letter from Old Apartment
- Copies of checks cashed
• Evidence of Share Residence.
- Copy of apartment lease contract
- Copy of lease contract amendment
• My personal statement briefly.
• Affidavits from Friends.
- Copy of letter from Friend 1
- Copy of letter from Friend 2
• Evidence of relationship/marriage.
- Copies of emails from my wife
Showing proof and or state of our relationship in all levels (emotional, financial) including “honey Do” lists and others.

Peter_pan luckily the court recognizes that it is not in the interest of the child to be with the most financially stable parent, but with the one that is involved the most. And if the one most involves cannot afford it, then the one with the money has to step in.
Alimony is a necessary evil, it is not fair sometimes but it often protects the weak. Its existance gives women in bad situation a chance to protect themselves and their children.
Coming from a poor country I saw a lot of abuse on women and children from men who say " I bring the money so I make th rules" so kids and women live in terror at the hands of abusers.

I have friend who was very succesful and educated, did her masters in the US and came back to Romania and started a promising career. Then she married this guy who was succesful financially but less educated and he felt threatened by her position and success and he insisted she quits her career and becomes a stay at home mom. Fast forward 10 years, he wants a divorce and wants to keep the business money because " he made it". He didn't let her get involved in his business and he didn't let her continue her own career and like him there are many people. When a woman accepts that situation she does it because she thinks that man will be there for life. She is " insured" by the marriage certificate. When something happens ( divorce or death) the " insurance" should pay right ???

As the attorney stated to me in an at fault divorce. If one party is found to be at fault of the breakdown of the marriage. The judge can decide the one he feels did not contribute will be the one that could end up with more. If a person walks away from a marriage, leave the home they shared. Alabama is an equitable state, it doe not mean 50/50 the judge could decide 60/40. 70/30 or he could decide to give it all to me and the children.
Keep in mind we are talking about a husband that walked away not just from me, but our children. Aslo, a friend showed up to tell me that my husband wanted a divorce and that the mom wanted him to marry someone from home. He got an attorney to draft divorce papers with an attatched agreement offering me 1500. monthly. He did not try to reconcile or even if there was a problem correct it, because there was not any problem. That is why he could not offer any explanation to me when I asked "What happened".
There isnt a judge dumb enough to not know what is really going on. He basically has almost won my case for me. Equitable does not mean 50/50 not in Alabama.

where do you suppose he got the money for the business? when he came in on a K-1 he had 200. and If he wanted equal responsibilities he would not have left them. In the state i live in if you abandon children sole custody is granted to the other parent. I was his sponsor so I would of had to be emoloyed.

I think Gowon wrote a lot without understanding the entire scope on the OP. That's ok - everyone, including me, gets it wrong sometimes.
I won't say it's ok, on him, this one time, though.

This has nothing to do with anyone except me. I married someone from another country no one forced me to do it. No two people are the same and what does my life has to do with anyone else. I didnt ask you to believe anything but it still wont make it not true . I read story like mines before I married my husband it didnt scare me bc it was not about me. People fall out of love here, there, everywhere, but that was not the case here. There was nothing. This not about you but me.
Yes i do feel he left me after he got citizenship with two kids. This is about me.him and our children.
Look you would have to had live my life to know why I said what i said but you didnt and this applys to no one but me. Nothing i said is false. Who has bank accounts set up overseas? Lets not be naive. Maybe its just him it doesnt mean its everyone. Good and bad are everywhere.

Thanks. I wont use his lawyer as I told him. He told me that 1500. on paper but i will be getting lot more than that, but why would i trust someone that could not even tell me he is leaving me and the kids for whatever reason. Someone posted he didnt leave the kids, well they are with me so he left them, too. Im sure after some of the hurt die down I will be ok. Asking for half is no gravy train. if i am not stable there is no stability for my children.