berber_wife

So how do we do this?

A) I fill out the I-864, Parent 1 fills out a separate I-864 and Parent 2 fills out the I-864A

or

B) I fill out the I-864, Parent 1 fills out the I-864A and Parent 2 fills out a separate I-864A

I thought it was B but apparently it's A?

I thought the I-864A instructions asked for proof of common household.

Also, do my parents actually need three years of tax transcripts? The instructions say one year required but providing all three years is optional. My parent's income is well over six figures and I hate making them gather even more information if it's not actually required. They are already doing us a big favor here.

My parents are joint sponsors in my husband's immigration application. Their finances are combined and they file their taxes jointly. They are both retired and have been for many years, so most of their income comes from investments. However, my father gets higher SS payments than my mother and my mother receives a small pension from her former employer. Can I just put down their joint income (since it's all combined anyways) or do I need to separate out their income?

Also, what proof should I offer that we are part of the same household?

Thank you! This is all very helpful.

On my husband's G325, it asks for the birthdate of both his parents. His father only know the year he was born and not the month or day. He's older and I guess the Moroccan gov't wasn't keeping very accurate records back in 1942.

Should my husband just put "1942" when asked for his father's birthdate or should he do that and write a separate note explaining the issue? Or something else?

My husband is adjusting from a B1/2 visa. We are finishing getting all our stuff together and a few questions came up.

1) I am not currently working because I am going through cancer treatments, so my parents are going to be co-sponsors. I have every intention of working after I am done with my treatments. Should I include a letter in our packet explaining that I am temporarily not working due to a serious medical issue but that I intend to get back into the work force after it is resolved?

2) Since my parents are my household members, do they file their own 1-864s or do they just file the supplement for household members? They each file one, right?

3) On my husband's birth certificate, there is a small error. His first name is in the middle of his address? Will this be a problem?

4) The biographical information form asks for the birthdates for my husband's parents. His father only knows his birth year and doesn't know the month or date. What should we do?

5) We will be able to file the packet before my husband's I-94 expires but depending on how fast they get back to us, we may not have NOA1 before that time. Will he be considered out of status if we don't have the NOA1?

Thanks! It seems like plenty, I'm just a little nervous because he is from a high-fraud country (and my AOSers are from low-fraud countries). I haven't come across many MENA cases adjusting but for the K-1 and CR-1 they suggest front-loading the petition.

My husband and I are getting ready to file and we were wondering if this amount of evidence is OK for the initial petition. We are adjusting from a B visa.

-Joint bank account

-Joint credit card

-Him as the beneficiary on my IRA

-My living will naming him the person listed to carry out all the duties

-Our wedding invitation

-Photos spanning the course of our two and a half year relationship (traveling, wedding, at home, with my family)

-Engagement and wedding cards sent to us

-Receipt from the package he sent to me my first birthday we were together

-Thank-you card from my nephew to both of us

-Wedding invitation for my friend's wedding addressed to both of us

-Affidavit from my parents about our relationship and confirming that we live together with them (thus explaining why we don't have a joint lease or utilities)

-Tango, viber and skype call logs spanning our relationship

-A sampling of FB chats

-A sampling of emails

-FB screenshots showing that we have tons of mutual friends on both sides (showing that we are integrated into each other's social spheres)

I'm worried that we don't have enough co-mingling evidence since we are very recently married, live with my parents and he doesn't have a social security number, thus he can't get on my health insurance. That's why I have such a long list of secondary evidence. What, if anything from that list should I cull? And should I add more affidavits from other family/friends and maybe one from his side?

Thanks!

Thanks all...I feel a lot of guilt about AOS'ing because he's from a high-fraud country and I don't want to be part of the problem for why other young Moroccan men can't get tourist visas, you know? But our situation is far from the ordinary.

Do you think we should hire a lawyer? The paperwork seems pretty self-explanatory, but I also know him being from Morocco might create additional challenges. There doesn't seem to be many MENA people on this forum who AOS'ed so I don't know what is the norm as far as extra scrutiny.

My husband obtained a B1/2 visa in early 2010. We met in September 2011 and started dating. In late 2012, he visited me on his visa for two and a half months. Then he returned to Morocco and we continued the LDR.

We had talked in the past about which one of us would move and if he moved here, what visa path we would take. We were in favor of getting married in the US and filing CR-1, with him returning to Morocco to complete the process.

Late last year, I was diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 28. He arrived in the US two weeks later to support me. A few days after that, he presented me with an engagement ring and we became officially engaged. We were still planning on him helping me through my treatment, getting married and him returning to Morocco to finish the process. At that point, I thought my treatment would only take a few months to complete and I didn't realize how serious my diagnosis was. But in the following weeks, several things happened. We found out that my treatment would take the better part of the year and my surgery would fall right around the time his I-94 expired (I am having five months of chemo first). And then my mom (who we are currently living with) was also diagnosed with breast cancer.

Now we are newly married and trying to decide what path to take. Obviously, I want him around during my surgery, especially since my oncologist tells me that what they find during surgery will determine my survival odds. And also, if he's not here, the burden of my care would fall on my parents and we want my mom to be able to focus on her own recovery and my dad to focus on her. My husband has been so wonderful to have around and has taken so much stress off of all of us through all of this.

I used to be very against AOS but this situation is not anything that we had ever anticipated. I am a little worried about doing it since we had talked about marriage quite a bit previously and since we knew of my diagnosis before he entered the US (just not the extent of it and my mom's subsequent diagnosis). What do you think our chances of having issues with AOS are?

I do sympathize with you because long-distance is REALLY HARD, especially when you don't see an ending. Younes and I struggled in our relationship last fall - nothing to do with unfaithfulness but there were jealousy issues and we both wondered if we were making the right decision in being together, if our different backgrounds were just too much. As it turned out, my diagnosis centered us and made us realize that our relationship was worth sticking with and now we are married. It would've been nice to come to that conclusion in a less...potentially life-threatening way, though.

You are only human and your mistakes are understandable. It sounds you have found peace in the outcome, even though I'm sure it's very painful and I wish you nothing but the best for the future.

Oh mimo, I missed this early. I'm sorry about your medical problems. It bites but I'm glad your husband is so supportive. I've had a similar experience with Younes.

Great news! Congrats!

I felt like I lived a whole little lifetime in those ten days there with him. It was truly the happiest time of my life.

Recent events in my life have made me realize that sometimes you have to trade in caution for happiness. I wish you two a long and happy life together!

I'm doing OK. I have already had two rounds of chemo and have been getting a good response. A few weeks ago, we found out that my mom also has breast cancer. So much for no family history, huh? Hers, thankfully, seems to have been caught earlier than mine (sidenote: if you are over 40, PLEASE be good about your mammograms) and she will probably get away with no chemo. Her lumpectomy is Thursday--please keep her in your prayers.

Younes has been fantastic in all of this. He's not just a great emotional support, but he keeps me off scary Dr. Google, tells me I'm beautiful bald and supports me in healthy lifestyle by always cooking vegetables and making fresh fruit juices for me. I love him so much!

gizzyboo, it's always wonderful to hear from people who kicked this and have remained cancer free. Especially those with positive lymph nodes. I don't know my stage and nodes positive because I am doing neoadjuvant chemo, but it's not a rosy situation. I am undecided on a lumpectomy or mastectomy. Drs think they can shrink it enough for a lumpectomy and want to keep that option on the table. But that also depends on my BRCA test results and whether they can get clean margins. Plus, my personal preference may end up being mastectomy regardless. Unfortunately, I did not have time to do any fertility preservation. I just didn't feel like I had time. I just hope youth will be on my side since I'll complete treatment before I'm 30 (although I'll still have tamoxifen...) If not, I've been long interested in adoption so Younes and have talked extensively about it, even before all this happened.

Thanks for all the well wishes.

Three pieces of good news--Younes made it with no problems and can stay until July. We are NOT going to AOS because I made a promise to God that if he could be with me, we would not abuse his visa. We're leaning towards getting married within the next few months and then filing CR-1. Hopefully by the time he has to go back to Morocco I will have gotten through the worst of treatment and be well on my way to recovery.

The other good news is my scans showed not evidence of metastasis. The doctors were quite confident there would not be, but it's a relief to hear. Also, my cancer is receptive to hormone therapy--including a just approved new drug my oncologist seems jazzed about.

The bad news is that it has spread to my lymph nodes. This is a very aggressive cancer and it's scary to think that it's progressed so far when I just found the lump a little over two months ago.

I just had genetic counseling today. With my unusually young age, it's recommended that I get tested for the BRCA gene (the gene Angelina Jolie has). My family history doesn't point to me having it, but there's some questions--like prostate cancer occurring in middle age. If I have the gene, it increases my risk of a second breast cancer and ovarian cancer by huge numbers so that's scary.

Thank you for all your good thoughts and prayers.

He made it! Sent to secondary but kept his cool and made it out with 180 days!

He's SO collected and confident under pressure. I'm glad he's the one under scrutiny and not me!

Thanks guys. I calmed down for a few days but now I'm stressing again. He flies tomorrow. What worries me is that it seems so many people from first-world, VWP countries have problems so what's preventing a Moroccan from having problems?

Right before Christmas, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I'm still in shock. I'm still in my 20s. I have no family history of early cancer. I have been COMPLETELY healthy my whole life--the kind of person who would get a cold every other year, at most. I eat my veggies, walk everywhere, drink only lightly and have never smoked. I don't know why this happened.

I had to leave my part-time job, my search for a full-time job, my apartment and my life in NYC to move back in with my parents. I had been working so hard towards my career goals and just had to abandon them.

Younes is flying here over the weekend. I feel so lucky that he has the ability to visit and be with me. Please pray that his entry to the US goes well. If he's denied entry I will be devastated. I can't even think more than a few months into the future at this point and don't know how this will affect our immigration plans. But what I do know is that he is my rock, my best friend and the best partner I could ask for and I need him more than ever.

And please, if you find a lump, get it checked out right away. Push your doctor for further testing if you're not satisfied. Even find a new doctor if you have to. But don't let this sort of stuff fall by the wayside. I only got my lump checked out to be cautious. At my age, I wasn't seriously worried about cancer. But I'm so, so glad I did. (And Younes was no small part of that--if I was procrastinating on making appointments, he would not let up on me about it until I had them made).

My boyfriend has a 10-year B visa, set to expire in 2020. He visited me last winter for two and a half months, POE was Miami. He had zero problems and was waved right through. He was given the full 180 days but left before 90 days were up. He has also traveled to Europe on a tourist visa over a dozen times and has never overstayed or broken any rules. He was denied entry into Europe once but has successfully visited twice since then and recently "graduated" from a six-month visa to a one-year visa. So his travel history is solid.

I was recently hit with a serious health crisis and he's booked to fly here on Sunday to help me get through it. I'm stressing about his possibly being denied entry. He has a round-trip ticket for two months, but little else to prove ties. This all came up so quickly that he didn't have a chance to get a letter from the tour agency he works at, he lives at home (therefore no lease) and while he does own land in Morocco, all the papers are in Arabic.

He's planning on bringing about 1500 USD. Once again, he will be flying into Miami. His English is very good. He recently purchased an engagement ring, but I'm worried that it will raise red flags if he gets pulled into secondary so I'm thinking of telling him not to bring it.

Any tips or advice on how he can maximize his chances of getting into the country? The thought of him not being able to be with me during this hard time is devastating and all the stories of S/Os and family members being denied entry are scary.

I had just finished my Peace Corps service in Swaziland a month before and had just set off on a six-month tour of Africa and Europe. I met him in Marrakech where he was working as a tour guide. I declined a tour but accepted his offer to buy me avocado juice. There, I talked excessively about how much I loved Moroccan food (a welcome change after bland Southern African food) and we set up a date for him to teach me to cook tangine. We spent the next weekend in Essaouira and had a lovely time, but I headed off for Europe with the idea that we would just "stay friends."

Well, he came to Europe to meet me so we could travel together. We had such a good time that I decided to go back to Morocco the next month so I could see his hometown and meet his family. And that went so well that we decided to attempt a long-distance relationship when I went back to the US. One year and one long visit from him in the US later we decided we wanted to get married and have been working on getting our financial ducks in a row (ugh) since then.

Congrats!

I kind of thought this was a thread where there would be no disagreement. What was I thinking?

Even the National Review had nice things to say but VJ turns it into drama. Well played.

I am literally in tears right now. He certainly wasn't perfect (who is?) but he was one of the best examples of a true and honest leader this world has seen.

Is flying through Europe an option? You don't need a visa if you never leave the airport...on the other hand, those cheap RyanAir jumps across the Med usually don't fly into the main airport. Plus, luggage can get expensive on RyanAir if one is moving and has big bags.

When Younes visited last winter, he flew Air Berlin from Dusseldorf. It was quite cheap ($600 roundtrip), if you can figure out how to get him to Germany. I also flew Air Berlin when I came back from my time abroad a year and a half ago and I was also pleased with the prices.

Congrats on being able to bring him here!