shin shin

I just filled up form online to change my address do I have to fill out one more form and mail it too??

are they going to send me any confirmation by mail for changing my address???

Do I have to call the customer service to confirm if they change my address???

If so how long before I call them or how long to receive confirmation by mail???

Thanks

What did you say about the allegation pf your husband about u?? how did you answer that to IO??

So today I called the MP again so they really insist that theres no report for the incident...they suggest to go to housing and ask them if they can give voluntary statement for me..the thing is the Housing manager just gave me a statement that I evacuated the housing and keys were returned she said she didnt witness the incident so she cannot give me one,,

So all I got is the name of the watch Commanders that day.....

then I called the JAG lawyer today he told me that try to get hold of the watch Commanders asked them if they can still remember you or contact the Company Commander...

So I will do that tomorrow....

Sorry to hear you're going through a hard time. My only advice is, don't allow your heart to make decisions for you. If it doesn't feel right, that means its not and you need to do your best to get away from whatever the situation is.

its just hard sometimes and its overwhelming that sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy...my insanity is at stake...

but I know I'll get through it...thanks

I just filled up form online to change my address do I have to fill out one more form and mail it too??

are they going to send me any confirmation by mail for changing my address???

Do I have to call the customer service to confirm if they change my address???

If so how long before I call them or how long to receive confirmation by mail???

Thanks

I hope after all what I'm going through right now I can be like you:-)

yes i will them tomorrow the thing is i have no idea if JAG has one what JAG gave me is a copy of the report on 11/20 not the date that i made the report with MP on 11/16....I just came to JAG office on 11/20 so thats the first time he heard my story..I am pretty sure his First Sergeant will not gonna help me...he's kinda upset that I made it to their CO...i think theres negatve impact to their station thats why he's upset

I'll give you update tomorrow

I will try to contact the MP tomorrow if nothing again I will contact his CO...i dont think his First Sergeant will help me...

What if they didn't file a report??? What else I can do to have at least a statement from the officers who took note all the info from me and to prove that I was there that day and made a report????

If ur affiliated of military u should know the rules ... If MP said they can't find your report. Ask ur squad lead. Next team leader . Plt leader so on and so for. That's why there's a chain of command. But most likely it this kind of case go to sgt family readiness he will help u what u need to do. And if not let me know . Tell me what is ur unit and I will call them to help u out.

I have no idea who i will contact the next time if MP will refused again to give me copy of my report....

My ex is in the Army I made the report to Navy base thats the base close to military housing were my ex and I used to lived..

Tomorrow I will contact them again if i dont get anything I'll let u know..thanks

Jag lawyer already sent me copy of that i went to his office to seek legal advise this is what stated: case opened 11/20 remarks: Family dispute with husband.Husband is active duty

I made the report to Military Police on 11/16 2 officers who are the watch Commander that day who took all my info and my story..

that same day I asked them if I can have a copy of the report but they said is since theres no physical abuse they will just put all the entry in their system i dunno whats that mean...then they called another base referred me to this lady in charge with family assistance and she referred me to see Jag lawyer..

So i asked this staff at family assistance if she can still remember the name the officer who called her on 11/16 the day that i was at the base making a report unfortunately she don't but shes willing to give me statement that MP called her that day and referred me to her..

Also I never asked his CO yet if he has the record but I'm sure the day that i was making the report the MP told me that he called my ex's CO and his bosses too..

I will try to call MP again next week maybe if i can talk to different person it will be different...I am afraid that my ex is doing something about that...

Also I went back to the housing this Friday its soo painful to returned the keys of the house talked to manager she made a statement that i was there and keys were returned....my husband still living there i told her i thought he cannot stay there anymore of I'm not gonna live with him right??? I was not living with him for a month now the manager told me when I moved out on 11/15 that she will give my husband a 30 days notice to evacuate but well its already a month now but hes still living there....

My husband told his CO that he gonna move out end of November Do I have to let his CO know that he lied to him???

Also when I Came back to the housing seeing our apartment bring back all the memories i got soo emotional i started crying talking to housing manager I forgot she's not my therapist lol....

But I'm getting better...still attending DV class and seeing this group of women and hearing their stories makes me feel sad but seeing them also how they become better and really how strong they are it really motivates me..

Also seeing my therapist shes really helping with my emotions...

I will also see a psychiatrist next month...therapist cannot prescribed anti-depressant and anti anxiety so better see a psychiatrist even once...

and also THANKS for all the people here in VJ who really giving me a very helpful answers...Appreciated

May GOD bless all of you and your family....

Have faith and be strong....is there any way you to consider marriage counselling???

I called the Military Police today and asked them If I can have a copy of the report I made last November...

Unfortunately,I dont recall the name of the 2 officer who interviewed me and take note all my what happened they made copy of my Dependent id and Green card...that day also one of the officer called someone in the other base i think it is Family assistance and referred me to her...

So what can i do to have a copy of the report if the officer that i talked said he cant see any record???

I asked him also if he can check whos the watch commander the day that i went to the base through they can track down whos the officer i made a report right???he said he cannot do that..i dont know now what to do

But I'm able to get a statement from the person from family assistance stated that day officer from the base have called her about my situation...

any idea??

yes i think Dave is right if he dont have nay proof of his accusation if will be nothing to USCIS...

My husband said he called and reported me to immigration that I married him for GC..

well I hope USCIS can see that these is all about bitter exes

have faith and Goodkluck...I am in the same situation

thank you everyone for explanation...

At this point we are filling for divorce and i will be leaving the country to visit some friends outside of states as long as it does not effect my status i am okay. I am okay even to give up my GC as long as i am in a good standing. I do not want to be illegal or have any issues with homeland security.

Would need an attorney to process this situation????

thanks

In my opinion its a good idea to consult a lawyer so he can give me what stuff you have to prepare and step by step process..

I'm in the same situation...Goodluck dear

I wanna know what will happen to your case.........goodluck OP

Just a few corrections to the above. The poster in this thread already has her GC. Shortly after it was issued she and her her husband were involved (according to her) in a minor DV incident and her threw her out of the military housing they shared and served her with divorce papers. Now it seems based on the divorce papers he filed and phone calls she heard about through a third party (one he allegedly made to UCIS and one to her sister) that he is attempting to allege that the marriage was fraudulent from the start.

So he is attempting to get her GC revoked by having the divorce granted on grounds of fraud, or non compatibility of the parties BUT with a separation date prior to the date of her GC being issued.

So in her case there is no 'immigration battle' for a GC as she already has one. After the divorce all she will have to do is file the basic form for ROC showing she entered in good faith and then they divorced.

Her battle is the divorce. She needs to understand exactly how every line in the final divorce decree can effect her from the grounds its granted on to the dates of separation. She can not trust legal aid to advise on her on how that specifically will impact her ROC because as Ive said before, legal aid is great with divorce but knows very little about immigration law.

So its my opinion that she should remain very close and keep a very watchful eye on ALL matters related to the divorce. Double check everything and NOT sign anything with out reading it and fully understanding it and making sure it wont negatively impact the ROC.

on the divorce paper he didn't put Fraud but Irreconcilable differences...it just the date of separation that bothers me why he have to lie about that and I don't know if theres a way I can find out if he really called USCIS or just scaring me..

Because I'm not guilty and I can prove in any way that we married in good faith...thats what I thought I can take the risk of going back home and if they hold me in POE I can prove to them that is false accusation and just revenge by my ex husband...

I don't **always** advise it, it depends on the situation.

It's not the easiest way out, it's the safest and best way out in many cases (of course there are some countries where returning is considered "shame") and sometimes VERY hard, especially emotionally to pack up and basically start from square one all over again.

No-one wants to live in a shelter, especially if they have kids, and live somewhere where they have no status, and are unable to work for a while, while they wait and HOPE the paperwork goes in their favour. And yes, most people I know would return, no matter the shame (and in fact a friend of mine did) because it was the smart decision and because the GC isn't the reason they live in the US, they have no reason to stay in the US without their spouse. My friend didn't want to struggle (she had her GC, she was totally legal and totally able to stay). She wanted to be around her family and friends to support her emotionally.

Good luck with your mission to stay.

Thank you

Look, your priority is your divorce, and then green card and then setting up your life and then your family and its not like this for you because your case went south and you're getting a divorce. Most people have to start from scratch and they simply HAVE to put family on the back burner and deal with the life here. So don't feel bad because most Philippians around you are going back home and it's christmas time and all that

I don't feel bad about that been spending Christmas here for long time so theres no much difference..

After all if I can travel back home I'm not gona choose to visit during Christmas time its soo expensive lol..

thats why I'm dealing with my life here now with my divorce and starting to get back on my feet..

shin shin:

I would stay in the USA until divorce is getting close to finalized. Your GC gives you privilege to travel - don't worry about that. But divorce is harsh as others have stated. If the divorce is filed and you are served with papers while you're gone, that can make a huge difference in the outcome of the divorce.

yeah right..I was thinking not to leave until I filed for waiver and get the extension...

thanks...

and there is the rub, so to speak. you're from OZ, not from Nepal or Cambodia, so of course you would just as soon go home. The problem is the ones from desparately poor countries, who seem to only be concerned with staying here, in "paradise" (?) rather than with their marriage to their "husband" (wife)

Vanessa&Tony always advised people just to go back in their homeland....they're lucky they don't encounter a situation like this...

If marriage didn't work out i think going back home is the easiest way out.. but if you chose to stay does it mean you are after the GC?? I don't think sooo..Some people can't just get any support and they just gave up...I' not like that

I consulted 3 lawyers and they said my case is very strong to get approval....especially communicating with Jag lawyer,CO,Therapist,Women shelter.....

and after all My soon to be ex husband live here..Im stupid If i say I don't love him anymore...

I do and wishing/hoping/praying that one day he'll realized that he still wanna be with me even it is impossible...

I'm from a third world country where men are always right, and women don't even have the right to file for divorce. And I would go back. OP thinks she can get back on her feet with 8k or half that, 4k. Well if she does win her divorce battle, she still has to win her immigration battle which in this case, I don't see it happening without the help of a professional. So she would have to hire a lawyer, and then wait till her green card comes, and get a job, you need a down payment for a car to get a job, and without a job you can't have the down payment. See where I'm going with this? That's the bad thing about coming from a third world country and marrying someone in the military. Because you can request advances,because if you live on housing you don't have to worry about rent, utilities and so on,you don't get a clear image of what's a priority and what's not and how much things can cost. OP needs to reevaluate her priorities.its fine and natural to want to visit your family during a time like this, but if you want to stay in the states, win your green card and and get on your feet you can't worry about seeing your family and going back home and all that.

Yeah that's why I decided to stay till the the divorce is final and file for waiver..I got a job although its a part time only but still I'm making money....then I will take driving test and get a car not a brand new one though..

So yeah feel better now compare the last time because I realized thats life and future is not in our hands...

The impotent is after the failure you learned and you stand up and move on

As of now I cannot afford to hire a good lawyer but seeking help from legal aid assistance....

I know it'll get better....there's no assurance of winning but for me standing up for your right and dignity is truly a winner for me....

I took written exam for learner's permit 2x and i failed...so I have 1 more chance before I have to pay again to take it..

The thing is right I'm staying at my friend and I scheduled to take written exam tomorrow unfortunately I forgot my receipt at my Aunt's house and thats 1 1/2 hour driving...

Do you think they will let me take the written exam without my receipt???

Thanks for all the reply....My ex CO make sure my he will support me till the divorce is final my husband owe me like 8k to get his brand new car thats what I'm fighting for (thats savings is before we got married) so at least I can get back on my feet....I only have 2k left and I wanna use that to visit my family I'm sure seeing them not in webcam will help me to gain more strength for this battle...

You say anything you I know I am only immigrant here and dont have that much idea about laws thats what my husbband always telling me I dont know anything...thats why I seek for legal advise started at Jag lawyer....

So far so good Jag lawyer,CO,Women Shelter and my therapist are very helpful...

Sorry to hear this to you, just be wise to your decision

I know it just hard that i wanna see my family back in the Philippines while going all through this but I think thats too risky and still I wanna take the risk If i can't go back then I'll stay for good..

As part of your AOS packet your husband filled out the 864 with his SS number. If he contacted UCIS and said 'my wife used me for a GC but I dont know her A#, passport number or ss #, but my name is XYZ and my ss# is xyz" they can look it up and cross reference it to find you. So yes, it is possible for him to contact UCIS and complain w/o having your specific info.

As was mentioned in your other threads as a GC holder you are allowed to travel freely whenever you like. Your husbands alleged complaint isnt going to restrict your travel.

However because youre in the early stages of a contested divorce leaving the country is very risky because he can take the opportunity to serve you with papers knowing youre not here to respond. Failing to respond could have devastating consequences. Not just in the financial outcome of the divorce, but in you being able to successfully remove the conditions on your GC after the divorce.

thank you Capri...you're answer is very helpful...

it just frustrating even though i have valid GC its hard and soo risky to travel...

"I filed a good faith waiver for an I-751 2 years ago. Today 12/7/12 I got a notice of intent to deny letter. I'm planning to get an attorney. But I want to know what will happen if I'm placed into removal proceeding. I need help. What will happen from this point onwards.

You just got an answer 2years after your filing????