Sarah Elle-Même

Hey ladies and gents,

Miss me? Haha probably not. I'm divisive, I know. Figured I'd update my peeps on my long I-129F petition saga. That chapter in my life is now sadly, regrettably, painfully closed. It's nothing my former fiance did wrong. I was the one who was weak and faltered. Waiting over a year and a half for the petition approval with no end in sight, being apart for over 3 years, it proved too much I guess. So my mind and my eye started to wander. I made mistakes and originally resolved to continue forward, but I couldn't hide the truth from my fiance, that after so many years of being my best friend and love, I had doubts and I betrayed him. I told him and he was understandably crushed and wouldn't forgive me. I respect that. He asked me to revoke the petition, so I did. My lawyer dropped off a letter at the New York USCIS office. It was easy, process-wise, I guess. In doing so I realized moving forward with him wouldn't have worked out well in the end anyway, so it was all for the best. There are many reasons for this - cultural and religious differences played a role, but him living apart from his family would have been a tremendous struggle. For us, it wasn't maktub. Maybe one day I'll find the one I'm meant to be with. Not sure if I buy into that idea of pre-determination though.

I could have walked away from this forum without saying anything, but I wanted to take this opportunity to say to all those on here who press on for the ones they love despite tremendous odds - I admire you so. Many of you have built a relationship on a strong foundation of love and commitment that you can bear the distance and also the trials and tribulations of being together long term - there's something so honorable and tremendous in that. Stay true to what is in your heart, it will serve you well. I aspire to self-love and self-reflection in this new chapter of my life that's just beginning. Thank you all for your support and for your inspiration.

Peace and joy,

Sarah

IMO this thread should have been in the MENA forum a long time ago. Because all of us, regardless of what petition or visa we file for, have to deal with the same stupid bullsh*t with the world's worst US Embassy. Lucky us.

I've been laughing about this half the day. It doesn't get old! I'd like to think I wouldn't have lost my sh_t had I been one of the unlucky folks on the video, but it probably would have given me a mild coronary.

Why should a woman have to carry a weapon when she leaves the house?

Maybe if men could get their ####### together and keep their cocks in their pants, we wouldn't have this problem.

AMIRITE

THANK YOU.

This kid's parents probably feel kinda the same way as that father who called the cops on his kid for stealing his truck. They wanted help and their kids got killed instead.

Schizophrenia is one of the hardest, saddest things a parent can endure. You won't find many people sensitive to their issues, the police in particular.

Meanwhile veteran scumbag defense attorney Mark O'Mara still loves seeing his name in print it seems. Surprise, surprise. I bet he sleeps like a well-fed baby each night.

I don't think a little bridge scandal will hurt his chances much. He wouldn't have won the nomination anyway. Too sane (relatively) and too obese.

When you have 3 nephews who serve actively in 2 different breaches of the military, YOU come talk to me. It is NOT easy by any stretch of the imagination. Since when is being deployed on the front lines " easy"? And being away from family and friends for months, sometimes years at a time? You are totally delusional if you think it's easy. Are you for real? It isn't merely signing up and doing a job. I would love for any veteran to come in here and read what you have to say. I'm actually quite disgusted with you. Being naive about your fiancé and the immigration process isn't the only thing you have going for you. It always blows my mind that someone would come to an immigration site for relationship advice. Dont people have family, friends? The maturity and IQ levels of some people are questionable.

She says she's in the Chair Force. I mean Air Force. FWIW, there are some mighty cushy MOS's in that branch. Especially when you compare it to other branches of service. I know a girl in the Air Force whose only job is swiping ID cards at a security gate all day. She didn't even pass their version of "basic training" but they are holding onto her until her contract runs out. You just have to put up with the fundamentalist Christians and mandatory "prayer" meetings. Also I'm not really clear on what sort of job in the Air Force requires traveling around for short periods of time to countries. It's not a deployment. Even for an officer that's strange. But what do I know as a Marine brat.

Alicia, Mimo has been on these forums a while now. I've read them for a while before joining. I think you are getting hung up on the wrong things. You are totally free to marry whoever you want. That's not a guarantee they can come live in the US or that your marriage will work long term. There are a lot members on this site whose marriages ended up failing. I can't quantify it because there isn't really hard data, but it's a lot of people. Probably the majority. Visiting someone on and off, even a couple years, isn't usually enough time to get a real sense of what it will be like to live with them full time. I have been with my fiance, both living together and apart for nearly 7 years. We didn't decide to get married until about 2 years ago. He could have stayed in the US on OPT or we could have gotten married after graduation but we weren't ready to spend the rest of our lives together. I kick myself about that sometimes, since our visa journey has been nothing but hell from the beginning. But I am glad we spent more time considering everything even though the separation is unbearable, given that the odds are rather stacked against all of us. Something to think about.

Knew it.

Here's a cartoon for good measure:

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/politics/emails-link-chris-christie-aides-bridge-lane-closures-article-1.1569740

The article mentions hypospadius. That was the first clue....

The article mentions hypospadius. That was the first clue....

I like the trimethylaminuria reference too. But how much you wanna bet lots of folks on this forum never took, don't remember or never passed Physiology class?

When the risk to the life of a cop in the line of duty approaches zero, they will cease becoming keepers of the peace and become tyrants.

And only then will they become tyrants? LOLz.

St. Lucie county crime statistics: http://www.fdle.state.fl.us/content/getdoc/eadc52d5-d380-4382-a17f-02c314a7a3f6/St--Lucie.aspx

If I were taxpayer there I'd be pissed off by this purchase.

Can I believe it? Absolutely. It happens a lot more often than many of the good natured people on this forum would like to think. You need to pull the I-864 like yesterday. The thread folks have mentioned previously regarding reporting fraud to USCIS is very good and helpful. Wait until she leaves your place on errands and change the locks. I'd throw all her stuff out on the curb to boot. Stay away from her so she can't concoct fake abuse evidence. File for divorce. Move on with your life and be more careful in choosing your spouse next time.

Alicia98981 I will console you as much as you like. I promise I am not 100% jaded I am just a lot smarter and now streetwise lol. Just when you read thing on the internet as well as here keep in mind that sometimes when people are hurt badly they are also angry and become bias. you might know this already. but I will tell you that because it takes a great deal of time to REALLY know the true intention of your future mate/partner especially given the miles/distance and the undisputed fact that absence makes the heart grow fonder it's a task most kick to the curb. You have to be your own master and commander and be prepared to go thru a lot even if you marry him and he is finally here. K1 is by far the smartest although he can still be on best behavior before the wedding and for a time after. We are so blind in love (Darn that) but at least you will have more time to reverse things is they have proven your choice in him to be a bad one. Never forget that after all of this visa hullabaloo....you WILL go thru the worst challenges once he is actually here...he will need you to take him everywhere as he won't be able to drive right away (if he knows how to drive yet) he will need to get over being away from his family and being in this culture (that in itself is stressful for any new immigrant and there are things you never imagine that will play into that alone like half dresses girls in the supermarket may surprise him and how much people blab about every intimate detail of their life to strangers not to mention girls out right flirting and seeing men checking out his wife blatantly ) I remember my husband getting really upset at me because I said " hey! You know what we should do?" He thought to refer to him as "hey" was extremely rude! And it goes on and on depending upon your specific guy/girl. Actually being together will be a lot harder sometimes than the visa process! I remember thinking back to the love I felt for my husband in waiting for him to get is visa and when visiting him in his country and bonding with his wonderful loving family, and wondering where that guy went LOL and believe me it kept me ignoring his behavior here for years until I couldn't take it anymore. I remember so many language misunderstandings ...if you know France you will be so much better off. The language is reversed in so many things. My husband would say "she" when in fact he meant "he" and would lead me to think he was going someplace with a woman not a man. Or he would tell me the water was so warm and I would jump into a freezing pool instead! Or I would ask him if he could do something or take care of something and late find it not done and be annoyed about it only to find he had meant he meant he "could not" do it. It goes on and on and you will need the patience god only gave the saints lol

I agree with your point that living together can be more challenging than the initial waiting for visa period, but if your husband is the scammer/cheater you think him to be, a lot of these gripes you mention seem rather asinine in the grand scheme of things, don't you think?

I saw that thread about the Moroccan fiance who wants to join the Air Force. His fiancee should do something about those doubts before making a decision that's hard to undo. My half cent, for what it's worth.

Armond White is a troll. His background is irrelevant. He loves to be in the news, in fact, it's all he lives for.

Charles Murray with an Asian face and female parts. Yawn.

I prefer duffel blog for my military satire.

http://www.duffelblog.com/2014/01/woman-commandant/

IN a normal world such a suite would be a waste of time.

-What are the damages?

-What roll did the owner play?

-Could the owner have reasonably prevented his worker from scribbling the note?

With race cases they might find some civili rights angle to cash in which would be kinda funny. Headline: Black worker slurs Mixed couple, White owner sued.

I guess you posted this past your bedtime, what with all the spelling errors.

The employee was racist and insensitive. He was fired. Case closed. No legal action to be taken but lawyers seem real desperate these days what with their crushing student loan debt.

Like my father always says "if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is".

My fiancé, who is nearly my age, doesn't believe any of the older American younger Arab couples are real. That's his opinion as a young Arab male. I don't agree, though I can definitely see that some groups of men are more likely to be scammers. Lack of options in home countries really seem to motivate some people. It's sad. However, I've seen some [what I'd term] "odd" couples who are true kindred spirits and live very happily together. They are not the norm, but what they have is special and beautiful.

Women [all single/divorced women] do need to learn to read the writing on the wall. It's not just Moroccan, not just foreign, not just young men who can use and abuse you and your life savings. There are predators out there in society or on the internet, ready to take advantage of people who seem vulnerable enough. But their actions during courtship and in the first few months and perhaps years can be very illuminating if you are willing to be observant and not obtuse. It's hard to think clearly when you are in the throes of love, but nobody can do a better job of protecting you and yours than you yourself.

Amanda,

I'm so sorry hun. More than sorry. Sorry doesn't really come close, actually. It doesn't make sense and it isn't right. Life can really work us over sometimes, this I know. Look, I'm not a doctor but I am in the science field and the best advice I can give is to find the very best oncologist that specializes in your type of breast cancer and from the very first appointment have him or her go over not just the diagnosis but all the recent studies, clinical trials, everything. You need as much information as possible, to help you decide which treatment path to take. I know the word cancer conjures up worst case scenario in everyone's minds but the truth is that every patient is different. Everyone has a different outcome. Stay strong and positive and don't be afraid to lean on those you love when you need to. I'm glad Younes still has the visitor visa and Inshallah he'll have no issues at POE. Please keep us posted.

Much love,

Sarah

Where are you traveling from?

OP,

It will be tough going for your friend, but it's not necessarily insurmountable if he can commit to his boyfriend and is willing to be in it for the long haul. They will need to provide a lot of evidence of their meeting(s) and of their ongoing relationship. Proving a bonafide relationship will probably be a big hurdle, though it helps that he left the US without marrying the woman. No one can say for sure what challenges he will have. Visas for same-sex couples are relatively uncharted waters and everyone is learning as they go along.

So, I say, they have their trip together, they see how it goes, and take it from there. As long as the I-129F (Fiance) petition is filed within 2 years of meeting and both are free to marry, you've met the requirements to file.

Edit: oh yes and the former fiancee needs to withdraw the petition, if she hasn't done so already.

^^^^ THIS

Meaning no offense, but my wife got jobs at Wal-Mart and Sam's this year with zero references, no post-HS education, and no resume.

And I know for a fact that Home Depot and Lowe's is always hiring, Those who say they can't get A job are usually not willing to take A job. I mean, with a Master's, you shouldn't have to be working for minimum wage, right? But are you willing to?

I know it varies by location, but I have a hard time believing there are people who CAN'T get a job. There are a great amount who would rather draw the 99 weeks of bennies, I reckon (not including you, obviously you were trying, with 1000 resumes).

Actually I did start stooping down to retail. That also went nowhere. If you are overqualified many managers in the service sector are afraid of you. Afraid you could do their job better than them, or that you'd be able to advocate for yourself against low wage labor injustices.

The only reason I am employed today is because someone who came back into my life after many years of absence took pity on me. It was purely serendipitous. I was lucky. Many people aren't.

Considering the 90+% disagreement with A&E's decision to ####### all over someone's rights to express their opinion I guess they did the sensible thing.

I guess some people never learn even if you beat it into their skulls with a crowbar. The bearded swamp trash fudgenut got suspended because he made his bosses at the TV network look bad. Notice he did not go to jail for speaking his mind. That is what the constitution guarantees, for the most part. You do not do anything to piss off your employer and get away with it, not under our pro-business anti-worker system. Nearly everyone is on at-will employment. You can thank all the sniveling, shite eating, corrupt politicians in Congress and State Legislatures who slithered "at will", "right to work", and other employer rights legislation into law in the last four decades. Y'all are just mad because someone you agree with happened to get rammed a bit by A&E. But the #######-blasting didn't last long. Luckily for you this guy's garbage show is a goddamn cash cow and the only thing that really talks in this country is MONEY.

This is not to say I agreed with the suspension. Mere homophobic ideology is small potatoes compared to the grand scheme of that nuclear train wreck of a "television" show. Most television is absolutely mind numbing.