Solomon&Anne

Please give us more information that you left out ...... And I will tell you Im sorry if you felt I gave you a moral beatin ..... Im not a lawyer so i can not give you legal advice .... If you want legal advice you need to go to a lawyer or legal aid many do free consultations....... I do not know much about you and yours life, and the people involved ect ect..... but I can tell you this It saddens me that 100s of people are on this forum waiting to be with the one that they love we wait and wait and wait for the day we get our approvals and you come on here and speak of this wonderful relationship you have with your man who has a wife that brought him here to the USA out of love......and you dont expect to get a lil moral beatin....you are what we wives in waiting fear most .......So please call a lawyer, call his wife, call immigration but dont expect some of us to understand......You need to do what is good for you ..... not whats good for him .... not whats good for anyone else.....I really pray you work things out and you get the most of your life with or without him.....just sayin

Please give us more information that you left out ...... And I will tell you Im sorry if you felt I gave you a moral beatin ..... Im not a lawyer so i can not give you legal advice .... If you want legal advice you need to go to a lawyer or legal aid many do free consultations....... I do not know much about you and yours life, and the people involved ect ect..... but I can tell you this It saddens me that 100s of people are on this forum waiting to be with the one that they love we wait and wait and wait for the day we get our approvals and you come on here and speak of this wonderful relationship you have with your man who has a wife that brought him here to the USA out of love......and you dont expect to get a lil moral beatin....you are what we wives in waiting fear most .......So please call a lawyer, call his wife, call immigration but dont expect some of us to understand......You need to do what is good for you ..... not whats good for him .... not whats good for anyone else.....I really pray you work things out and you get the most of your life with or without him.....just sayin

Your story hits home with me. I am truly sorry and it seems that you were setting up home with a Cobra.
Good luck and please be careful on what you post on here. Someone this dangerous and a pathological liar is one who cannot and must not be underestimated.

Hi all,
A quickie time line to begin.
My wife and I met on line in 2006.
Met in person in 2007. Lived together abroad in 2009.
She came up Stateside on a K-1 in July 2010.
Married in Oct. 2010.
AOS/GC granted w/o issues.
Marriage hit the rocks in Nov 2012.
I left the house on Dec 1, the date of legal separation, and wife freaked out.
Even though I was living away from our home I came to the house every few days to gather clothes, do laundry, see the dog, etc. On Dec 17 we had a pretty harsh argument and she called the police. I waited around for a bit, but had to go to work. She had been placed on extended hold once the dispatcher found out there were no physical abuse issues.
On Dec 19 I came to the house to do laundry and pick up stuff. My wife was present and left the house to “walk the dog”. Upon her return she presented me with an Emergency RO. Police magically appeared at the door and I was promptly arrested and hauled off on charges of Domestic Violence and threatening Bodily Injury. She had filed both the RO and the DV charges after I had left for work on Dec 17. I had no knowledge of either. These charges were not revealed to me until I was in the holding cell at the local hoosegow. I was stupefied. I’ve never laid a hand on her, or anyone else for that matter, in my entire life. I have never been in trouble with the law. If I had been informed of the RO, I would have never come home on the Dec 19.
I made bail and lawyered up on Dec 20. I was fully compliant with the RO and No Contact order.
I and my legal eagles speculated on why she had gone to such extremes to lie to the police and DA. We deduced that she had decided I was serious about the divorce and had been ill advised by some immigrant friends of hers that the only way she could proceed with the ROC, due by May 5 2013, was to declare domestic abuse. Not to insult her, but she had not participated in any of the filings to date and had relied solely on me to do that stuff, (which, to this point at least, had gone swimmingly thanks to all of the advice I gleaned from Visa Journey!!!). She just did not understand any of the processes we had gone through to get this far with her immigration.
Long story short, I discovered that after I had left for work on Dec 17 she had physically banged her own head against the walls of our home until she became dizzy and fell to her knees. She then called 9-1-1 for an ambulance. The PD showed up first and that was when she accused me of hurting her. I also discovered that on Dec 20, two days after my arrest and temporary incarceration, she had travelled to LA to visit a man she had met on FB for a tryst. I came by this information via a little snooping around on my part, but it would be very difficult to prove any previous or on going relationship between them. As a result, I cannot say this affair did or did not have any influence on her decision to have me arrested with any degree of certainty.
We had a reconciliation of sorts in January 2013. I moved back in for a bit and we had the RO dropped and the No Contact order modified. I hired both divorce and criminal law attorneys for her to see that her rights were looked after. The divorce was put on hold because she stated she would again file charges of abuse if did not stop the action. She also told me she would do the same thing if I did not help her file the Joint I-751. The 90 day window for filing began the end of January. I complied on both of these due to the ongoing court case against me and my abject fear of being locked up again.
The Threat charge was dropped before the DA filed against me in criminal court on Dec 21. The DA chose to pursue only the DV charge. During the discovery phase we found that the medical records indicated “no visible signs of injury” and there was darn little other evidence against me. My attorney was very pleased with these findings.
The case was dismissed on April 26, 2013. We are again separated. I am continuing with the divorce. I cannot claim that she had married me fraudulently, but she sure as hell lied to the police and DA about the DV in order to not interfere with the I-751. She also blackmailed me into filing the I-751 and tried to blackmail me into not divorcing her. I believe I should stop the Joint I-751, but we are at least 6 months from the final divorce decree.
Here are my questions please:
At what risk am I if I continue with the Joint I-751 even though I know the divorce is imminent? How do I change the application? Is there a case for Fraudulent Marriage? If so, how do I go about informing the USCIS/ICE of this charge? I have not contacted USCIS at this point, so I am open to all or any advice. I do have a sworn affidavit from my wife stating she fabricated the entire DV story and some other minmal evidence.
What say ye sages of all things immigration?
Not in a million years did I expect my very first post at VJ to be about such egregious circumstances.
I thank you all in advance for your kind assistance.
Kevin
P.S. Please forgive me if I have posted this thing in the wrong forum. I really have never posted here, or anywhere else, before.
Regards,
K

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Gone far away never to post again.
Classic VJ thread, should hit 100 replies.

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin

Sorry this might sound rude but if he was with this other girl for 2 years and married her and then he is in a relationship with you for a few months...you need to look at the whole picture....dont you think when they first met they really connected they wanted to be together forever...this is what happens when you first fall in love...But the thing about love is you dont just discard it for the next hot thing on the block....Love is hard and time consuming....I know It will be a hassle legally if he divorces but if its meant to be anything is possible....Just keep in mind what he is doing to his wife put yourself in her shoes how would you feel if he was cheating on you because if he is cheating on her its just a matter of time and you will be the next wife in line for a divorce... just sayin