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I still get impressed by America as a word and a world. O traveled last may and I promise you no other country in the world is as America in any way you think of. When people know that I am a US resident i get treated in a different way than showing my home country's passport. I'm not saying that my home country is bad but America makes the difference. I see people abuse the government and that makes me sad, that's why I'm willing to do anything to help this country even when i know that i wouldn't make much of difference but to me in satisfied and I've done my duty. My kids will know that they are living in one of the greatest countries ever. I'm proud of you also for being a good resident/ citizen. One thing to mention: in my home country when i say I'm living in America, everybody is like whaaaaat??? How did you get there? You are lucky. That makes me know that America is still a dream to some people, and I'm grateful that I'm living in America.

Yes America it is! I get the same comment from everyone back in my home country! The funny thing is almost all of them think I am so rich and asked me why didn't I build a mansion for my family back there? Lol. I just told them" someday" yes I will build maybe not a mansion but a comfortable house for my family.I know there are so many immigrants just like us are proud and grateful to be in.BUT also there are so many that are very ungrateful !!

We all immigrants I came 16 years old from Jamaica and was able bring my son and now the love of my life .may god bless all of us

That's good you are able to bring your family Good luck and God bless!

I'm an immigrant as well and I pay my taxes on time. I think getting help from the government can be used when if God forbids I loose a leg or an arm or I'm unable to work. Before that I don't need help. I need only Gods help.

Yes it is very useful to get help from the government especially to those people that are really in need.But there are so many that are abusing the government money.Some people are just so lazy to work,some they rather get help than working in a job that only pays minimum which is sad.But to those who work so hard Immigrants I am just so proud of them.I want to show to my neighbors that I am here in America not to steal the American job and dreams,but I am here and I am hoping through working so hard I can pay taxes that possibly help the American government get back on track.I remember when I was a little kid when I read word AMERICA in any textbooks My visions was like wow lucky are those people who live there!! Now that I am here,I wanted to show to my kids that this country is still one strong,rich and powerful! That their mama is so proud to live here.I am hoping always that this country will get out of the recession very soon,that the hopes and dreams of everyone that lives here is possible to get. Thanks I am proud of you and your family for working hard for this country.

I am proud to be a taxpayer in America!!!!Wow it'll be 3 years soon since I started paying tax out of my income and I am proud of it! If other immigrants are proud to received benefits from the American government,just because they are tired and lazy to work. Here I am proud to say I am one of the proud immigrants that are paying taxes and maintaining good moral character in this country. I am eligible to apply for citizenship today,but I'll wait next year and save some money just for that-

Women!!!

Right now what I can say is that your husband seemed to have finally learned "tampo" and he's employing that on you. What did he use to do back then when it was you who had a "tampo" phase?

Nah I barely had "tampo" but when I have one he will leave me alone.hahah which I like because if he'll kept bothering me I ended up crying!

Awww,

I guess it depends on the person. Maybe your husband thinks he fails at gift giving with his wife, or that you don't like anything he gives you. All I could say is that you should talk to him. Tell him what you feel, tell him your plans of using that money for the baby instead for you, that its not anything personal and maybe give him an idea of something you'd like, like going out to a nice dinner or a day at the amusement park instead of physical gifts.

I've always told my fiancé that I don't like him buying me stuff all the time, I rather have a nice dinner with with and he doesn't take it personal or the wrong way.

Just talk to him. He'll probably understand now.

I'm not a marriage expert, but I always think communicating is best.

To be honest he never ask me what I want.I gave hint couple times when we had celebrations a year ago, he don't follow it, he thinks I won't be surprised anymore. But most of the time I just want to spend the whole day with him, this time it didn't happened though because he had to work. So I spent our anniversary alone till he got off work,and ended up arguing.hayyyy

I don't think you should feel guilty, you love the gift he got but it was not practical and didn't fit what you need so you tried to get something that did.

I could understand he felt a bit bad about maybe picking the wrong item, but thinking you will return any gift he got you is a bit much, just because you return one item.

But I would save the credit for a purse another time when you find one you liked not for baby items since it is still technically a gift of yours.

- I bought my husband a really expensive bow rack for his birthday gift, he said he loved it but that he wanted a TWO bow rack not a single ( even tho he only has ONE bow lol? ) I felt a bit upset because I spent a long time to find a really nice one for him not a cheapy one. But we just exchanged it for a two bow rack instead of a single and everything is fine. Rather him have what he wants/likes than be unhappy and not use an item.

I think it is never easy to find a gift for a man especially for your husband. But when I gave him something I always told him "honey if you don't like it feel free to take it back and get wat you like."he never returns anything though.My mother in-law if she don't like what you bought for her she will give it back to you right-there and tell you to get money back lol.First it hurts my feelings,one time I told my husband, your mom is very odd,I never seen someone like her. Lol.But I got used to her and I realized she has a point. On Christmas she bought me a Dooney and Burke leather bag,but I really don't like the style even though it was one of the latest,so I told her if I can exchanged it,she said yes you can she handed me her debit card and said to take it as I may found something i like and pay the price difference.I refused to take her card ,but s usual she will insist till you give in.I took it but ended up getting a cheaper bag the same brand.

Hello everyone,today I was wondering what would you guys think if your spouse returned your gift to the store??

Well for example in my case, my husband bought me a really nice Famous branded bag on my valentines,but it was huge on me,so I asked him if I can exchange .He said" of course"and gave me the receipt.i know it's bad,but I am now a mom, so I thought why keeping it if I can't use it? I went to the store to exchange the item.Unfortunately they don't have something I like. I love collecting all nice bags,but at that point I decided to get a store credit instead of getting something I don't like. Since I am now a mother I was thinking I can use the in-store credit towards the baby stuff. We have our Anniversary hubby bought me a flowers and a chocolate, I got him a nice wedding band that cost almost two grand. I don't want him to get anything for me,I told him prior to the celebration .

He got home and told me he felt bad because he don't get me anything,which I really don't care I wanted to spend the whole day with him though. But he said something that I felt bad quote" I don't get you anything because I am afraid you'd return it." Whoa I felt guilty now. What do you guys think if you were in my shoe.Share your thoughts.

Ps.i am not sure which category to post this,so please experts move this if I am wrong.thanks!!!

TBH I'm not sure of the reason why.But in regards to the alternative way,you can use xoom,faster,safer and a lot cheaper fee for only $4.99.

Thanks guys!

I check my status online and this is w hat it say"Feb 28 2013 card production ordered! I still can't believe,I thought I'd be filing a citizenship without the approval of my ROC!thank you Lord!!

Hi everyone.We got married just on this past Saturday and can anybody help me for what to do next?thank you.

HONEYMOON!!!! then AOS!

Yes it is a one bedroom with a large living room. It does has a ktichen and a CR. I've seen pictures and it is so much better than the boarding house Id'e seen with which had teens and young boys staying that played jokes on her. Not funney jokes, They locked her in her section of her room with a padlock! Not funney for a Woman and her kids. Not to mention the same young guys had drilled HOLES in the walls so they could look at her while she undressed and put her kid to sleep.

My one wish is that I could walk up and meet these young men, and show them what a real man is.

For 1 bedroom that seems too high of a price really.I paid 4,000 apartment 2 bedrooms ,kitchen,br,with huge living room when I moved back to Manila.Manila is a lot expensive than zambo.

Thank you for all of your replies,

We are having a family vacation in Cebu so in April. I'm flying her and the kids to Cebu. I was only asking cause I know at a latter day I will be asked to go home to her family in Zamboanga. As is said, a future visit to Zamboanga and her family will be expected. I'm not afraid but my family is. The known presence of Muslim exprtreme is a US presence and on a target list of City that no US citicense should travel to.

She has family in Dipolg. North of the Zamboanga but still on Mindeneo island. I really want to visit her family here some day. My girl wants me to have a house built here to so we can visit.

Dipolog Zamboanga Del Norte is a lot safer!! They also have attractions to bring the family inn.

Thank you for your reply,

My girls BoardingHouse was 2000 php but we found an apartment for 4200 plus water and electric. Your price seems so much lower, I wonder where you lived for such a low price of that. Was it a good place and safe?

4200 for Zamboanga price? How many bedrooms ? Sounds like the price of a house not an apartment. It was in Pagadian City Zamboanga Del Sur. Price of a one bedroom apartment with kitchen and bathroom.Yes it was good close to the hospital and shopping centre,and yes it was safe place. That was four years ago tho.

We will soon have a vacation together in Cebu that will be worth more than I can say. My Girl recognizes that Zamboanga is not safe for me so she insisted we meet at another location. I was willing to go to Zamboanga as I'm not intimidated by anything but she said she couldn't be happy knowing my family would be scared. I still say, I'll go to Zambo and walk proud down the streets. besides guns being pulled on me, I'm very capable of my security. I guess a big man that can fight is not impressive to her, she just wants nothing to go wrong. If no guns are pulled on me, I can defend and win. I've read how other white men have been to Zambo with no issues. What puzzles me is that some of her relatives live there and she whants me to meet them someday. So I'm ok with this. Sorry if it hurts religios boundries but she is worried Muslim will hurt me as this has been the past for white visitors. I am a caring Man and have no hate towrads anyone. So can I visit her family someday in Zambo or should I look for a place we can all be happy with no pressure of my race.

Thanks,

Brad

Tbh,if your girl is not comfortable having you in her hometown I think it is best to stay out of Zamboanga when you visit her.This will avoid having her worries your safety all the time.But lots of white men been there and some even live there with there spouse without anything happened to them.My cousin's husband live with her and her family in Zamboanga city and he is fine.I wanted my husband to go there with me as most of my relatives (mom)side live there,but hubby refused to go! Lol he said he wants to live longer.Anyway to have a worry free vacation that you and your girl can enjoy ech other,it would be best to stay somewhere like Cebu,Manila,Bohol,or boracay.

Hello all,

I'm so happy I now have my Girlfriend out of a boarding house and into a private apartment in a house located in Zamboanga City. The move allows her saftey for her and her kids, privacy, and a much needed feeling of a home she can call her own. So many benefits of her having both her kids with her, a 6 and 8 year old boys,I can't even express how happy I am that she now has this It's a long story with her ex-boyfriend 'Playboy' and his family trying to take care of her kids and keep them for their own that this is a major step in giving her back her rightful being as a Mother. She and her kids are very happy to all be together again. FINALLY!

I'm helping with the extra costs of living and water/electric among other daily life needs but we really like to use WIFI for our talks with Android cell phones using VIBER and TANGO. Can anyone tell us what would be an average cost of installing and using a DSL through Globe in the Zamboanga City for her new place?

God bless, Thank you all for any advice you can give us.

Brad and Dale

We lived pretty comfortable with $250.00 in the province till we moved back to Manila . Good luck

Hello all,

I'm so happy I now have my Girlfriend out of a boarding house and into a private apartment in a house located in Zamboanga City. The move allows her saftey for her and her kids, privacy, and a much needed feeling of a home she can call her own. So many benefits of her having both her kids with her, a 6 and 8 year old boys,I can't even express how happy I am that she now has this It's a long story with her ex-boyfriend 'Playboy' and his family trying to take care of her kids and keep them for their own that this is a major step in giving her back her rightful being as a Mother. She and her kids are very happy to all be together again. FINALLY!

I'm helping with the extra costs of living and water/electric among other daily life needs but we really like to use WIFI for our talks with Android cell phones using VIBER and TANGO. Can anyone tell us what would be an average cost of installing and using a DSL through Globe in the Zamboanga City for her new place?

God bless, Thank you all for any advice you can give us.

Brad and Dale

I live in Zambanga Del Sur for almost two years in an apartment with 1 bedroom it was a large bedroom that I was able to share with my two little brothers and 1 sis.It cost me 1,500 for the rent,plus 995 for Internet 300 for water and 400 for electric , but when we bought a refrigerator the electric cost went sky high 750 a month.sometime if the tv is on through midnight the bill is little less than 1000 pesos with two electric fan.the gas oven cost almost 600 pesos for 3 months,I only cook twice a day.food for 4 of us about 4,00 to 4,500 pesos a month. I took my siblings to eat out once a month and watch movie which cost a 1,000 a month for 4 of us.

Prenup agreement? My Filipina fiancée flipped out when I brought it up.wont even discuss it now. This throws up a huge red flag as we start visa process.Any thoughts?

This post reminds me when my husband(fiancé back then) asked me about "pren up" few weeks before we got married. I flipped as well I took it very insulting.I was thinking he asked me to marry him and did all the process for K1, I gave up everything for him including my own family ,work and the chance to go to a British school when I decided to be with him. That time I asked myself how combthis guy didn't trust me after I gave up so much to be with him? It upset me because in the Philippines our culture when it comes to getting married properties of both parties doesn't matter anymore,as a couple husband and wife share everything.For a filipina this topic is very offensive especially if she comes from a province.I told my husband this"if you don't trust me enough to risk everything why would you marry me and brought me over here ?If you don't think Our relationship won't work why would you waste more of our time ?Let me know if you have any second thought about us because I don't have problem going back to my home anytime. He said it was his mom's idea asshe owned almost a million dollar house,a company that my husband runs,and rental properties.So being an only son she wants to make sure he gets everything if we divorce.I told him I don't care any of his property I won't sign a pren-up agreement just to prove myself to you. If you don't trust me and have problem with it then let me know that way I know when to start packing my luggage and book a flight back!Ever since he didn't brought this topic up.But then after we eloped and got married I started to realize his side,so I asked him,if he wants me to sign a post nuptial agreement I will sign it and have a lawyer to prepare it for him. He said it's not necessary it was just his mom's idea. Well now we are 3 years married,and have a baby,I work hard,I never asked him money infact I gave him more money from my salary to help pay bills than him giving me allowance like other wives lol.Also my insurance kicked in last month and save him thousands of dollars for my cesarean! He has my ATM and I don't have his,when I agree to marry him I told myself I'd share everything I have for this man because I love him,and it doesn't matter if he don't share his as long as I did my part.Now I'm still madly in-love with him especially now that our family is complete.

So my advise is,don't take it as a red flag right away because as filipina,our culture is very different from yours, so you just have to explain it to her and if she don't want to have pren up and it will be a problem for you then don't proceed to the wedding,If not signing a pren up you think is a red flag you should think this over and over because you may let the great girl go and made a mistake that you'll regret for the rest of your life.Or if you do have more reasons other than her flipping out the idea of pren-up,then think about it before you guys get married.Good luck!

Hello,

Yesterday I had a fight over the phone with my husband (he's currently out of the state for work) because I didn't want to I've him my Facebook password. So I went to sleep, and about half hour ago the police came saying my husband had call them because he was "concerned" I wasn't answering the phone and may hurt our baby (it never crossed my mind) so when police saw everything was ok,and I was just sleeping they left. Then he called me and asked once again for my password which I didn't gave him (why should I?) so he said that he was going to report me as a fraud, and at is return I must sign for divorce or e will call the police saying I'm hurting the baby and taking him away from me and I must return to my country.

I don't want to divorce, I love him and know he's just mad, I came here with a k1 but we didn't get married in the 90 days, we filed the I-130 along with AOS. my son was born here. I he make me go back to my country will I be able to return or my son? Because he doesn't have a passport yet and I'm. Sure as hell he won't let me get a passport for him. I don't work, so I don't have that much on my own. We have been married just 6 months by now

What are my options? I'm desperate right now thinking of what he will do out of rage and without thinking clearly.

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By accident I post it twice, please erase one

Wow I'm stunned:-(if all these threats came from a guy you are married to and love,I don't think you should stay married.You can't live a life having someone like that. My husband and I have joint bank account,but also both of us have each of our own which we kept our earned money to these two separated accounts.He knew my ATM pin because I asked him to take some cash out if we need it. But I don't know his pin and I am not interested to have it.Unless he is willing to let me have it for any reason.I shared with him my entire Facebook as I am logged to his iPad .When I post something I have him read it all over to check if my grammar is correct and also the spelling.He doesn't have Facebook even though I created one for him before,he is just not into it.I shared him my email password that has 6,000 or more emails 95% are spams.I also have his email password because I was the one created it for him.

But the way your husband threatened you just to get the password is outrageous !I wouldn't give it to him either.It is not because I'm afraid that he will find anything,but because I don't want him to think that in the future he can get everything from me by threatening me.Sorry for what you've been through,fight for your right, and don't give up on your baby.I hope you can get help legally here especially for your kid.Good luck

Use the receipt number on your biometrics letter and you shouldn't have any problem.

Yes thats what I did,but it says case can't be found:-(

Hello everybody, I just have a question about m ROC case,I've been trying to look it up online by entering the receipt# at the USCIS website,but unfortunately I don't have any luck,it just says case can't be found. Is this usual? Or is there any alternative way of finding my case online? It's running 7 months since it was filed and I just did my biometric few days before Christmas.Any input is appreciated !Happy New Year guys!

I am a US citizen who wants to visit the Philippians for longer than the 21 days that are given on the visa when you enter the country.

Can anyone tell me where to apply for a longer term visa to stay in the Philippians longer than 21 days? I could not find the exact site to do this or the requirements.

Thank you

Before you plan or buy a ticket you may search the right spelling of country name lol. I asked hubby where is Philippians.

I am not here to ask advices or anything..

Just want to share that my husband passed away this morning... peacefully... he had brain cancer and we have been fighting for more than a year now... there was a point in our fight that we thought we are winning... but we lost... i am just thankful that he passed away peacefully... in his sleep, and i got the chance to tell him everyday that i love him... and that he is my love, my life, my world, my home and my everything...

Whenever I read people here posting marriage not working out, just using me for greencard, giving up... and a lot of things... i am so sad...

I found the perfect husband... the perfect person... and yet he was taken away from me in such a short time...

I promise I will honor his name... i will honor our love... and I do not think I could love other person as much as I loved him... and still loving him... my love for him will not die until my last breath...

Hi Theresa, I don't know you personally,but as soon as I read your post it made my eyes teary. Everyday I kept reminding my husband how much I love him, and that he is the greatest husband in the world.I am glad you are able to show him the everlasting love you have for him before he died.Please be strong we will include you and your husband's soul in our prayer.