kristinakan

That's what i meant.. lol.... i know she did a club in Kingston.. but to me. Story doesn't add up well. Maybe its just me. Who would still try to get a visa after 6-7 times of being denied.... nuh mek sense.

What do you mean my story doesn't add up well. I try to read everything and reply to all you guys questions when i get the chance and now you are saying my story doesn't add up well. I try to answer question and i do so truthfully. I really don't know why he applied the other 6 times, I told him to do it the 7th time and I paid for it. The other 6 times where at various different times in his life, he told me most of them was over 5 years ago. I honestly don't know what his motives were back then or who paid for his visas and this point i really don't care about that.

This part of the story everyone seems to have over-looked. It doesn't matter now.

I would ask, where did she met a Kingston man, generally tourists aren't on that side of the island.

I did meet him in Kingston at a club. I did not really went there initially for tourist purposes, It was due to my work ( which i wont go into at this time). I assist with international business contracts. One night i just decided to look around the place since it was my first time in Jamaica and i ended up at a club.

So when was it decided to let him come on K-1 visa? Knowing he had applied for 6-7 times for visa... wouldn't you think that was suspicious from the get go? Just a lil confused on the story... where did you stay when u were with him etc?

I had started researching the process last year and had decide that it might be an option if we decided to get married. We did talk about him coming to the US i told him to apply for a tourist visa so he could visit and get a 'feel' of it all before we made any decision. That is when he told me that he already applied about 6 times and got denied so he doesn't really want to try again. We talked about it and went ahead and applied and he was denied again, for not enough ties to the country. I stayed in hotels in Kingston.

No friends? No coworkers? No neighbors? No grandparents? No uncles? No father? There were only two children in his family?

He says that is is sooooo difficult to survive there--well, how has he done it up to this point? I would hope that he has a job currently. I would also hope that "you" are not his job.

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Off topic: We need a smiley that is of a red waving flag.

I have met a few 'friends' i guess, they are not very 'friendly'. He actually has a big family but they don't live in kingston. He doesn't know his dad. He only lives with his brother and Mom in Kingston. His family lives in Elizabeth.

We were together in January 2011 (We met), May 2011 ,August 2011 and December 2011. All between 10-14 days. I only met a few of his family, his brother and his mother.

I thought u guys met in Feb. And not Jan? And why didn't you met the rest? Most jamaicans i know you meet alot of the family.

but i guess it could be different for all.

I was there for like the last week in January and the first week in February, we met somewhere during that time, i honestly don't remember which month. Could be either. We didn't really called it a relationship until i got back home.

I was there for like the last week in January and the first week in February, we met somewhere during that time, i honestly don't remember which month. Could be either. We didn't really called it a relationship until i got back home.

oh i forgot the other part of your question. the rest of his family live in another place or something, he call it the country.

Can you update your timeline so others can get an idea of how long the process might be. Thanks.

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what timeline?

Hahah he got some nerves to say you cant end it now... sounding like a staright fool.. sorry to say.

he sounds like he want to just leave.. i'm sorry but what is your ethnicity .. I ask this because i know how Jamaican men prey

I am Caucasian, what does this mean? How they prey?

Ok i have read through your comments and i really appreciate the advice. I am now preparing a letter to send to the consulate. I told him this morning that we are done and i can't continue with him because he doesn't respect me. He said i am accusing him of things i don't know anything about. He also said that i can't end it how, because i already signed with the US Government to petition him. I told him that is not true , i can withdraw the petition and then he started to say why suddenly i am acting this way and all he wants is to be with me. So i asked him what would happen then if i came to Jamaica to live with him, he said jobs are hard to get and i wont make enough money and we wont survive and that i wont have my comfortable living and that it is not good that baby stays in that environment. He started to basically tell me everything that was wrong with Jamaica and why it wont be good for us and we wont be able to make ends meet. I told him i have my savings to start up with and he said that won't do because life is hard and the government take big taxes. What do you guys think? Thank you so much again for helping me through this time.

-Kristina

I must say... trust your "GUT INSTINCT" ..... It usually wont fail you.... all the proof you need is your intuition.... there is no other "PROOF" so to speak... 7 denied tourist visa's has even got my gut telling me his intentions aren't "PURE"... That's a lot of failures, and a K1 seems like the only option for him after so many desperate attempts.... how did you meet? online?

We didn't meet online, we met at a club in kinston. I was in Jamaica for the end of January to the first week in February and we met during that time.

OP, how many days in total have you spent with him in person?

Have you met his folks and had the ability to judge his moral fiber? Or were you all in complete vacation mode?

This is a crucial undertaking with potentially dastardly consequences if one were to chose the wrong mate. I am alarmed that an offspring is involved.

Gowon can't tell you what to do but if it were him he woudl at least put the petition on hold (withhold critical documents necessary for a successful interview) while you reevaluate.

We were together in January 2011 (We met), May 2011 ,August 2011 and December 2011. All between 10-14 days. I only met a few of his family, his brother and his mother.

If he already said when he gets his visa you won't need to bug him anymore and the repeat applications, chances are your gut instincts are correct. What he probably doesn't realize is that he'll still need you even after he gets the visa (marriage, AOS, etc). I think you're lucky that he's showing his colors sooner than later. Other K1 filers are not so lucky to get obvious and concrete hints as to their fiance's intentions. As with any relationship, other K1 filers just hope and pray that their fiances mean well and they aren't being used.

I'm just curious, how did you find out about the numerous denied applications? Was he the one to tell you? Regarding your baby, you'll definitely have to consider the fact that he may not be around. There will also be some animosity there if you intend on bringing the baby to meet his dad, etc. Although he'll probably find another unsuspecting soul to sponsor him at a later time and make it to the states anyway (if those are truly his intentions). Sigh.

Another idea that someone already suggested is to withdraw the application and if anything re-do it at a later time. The only problem with this is that he'll harbor resentment because of what you did before and for sure he'll skip when he comes later on.

We have always talked about him coming to visit and i suggested he tried to apply for a tourist visa and he said he already applied for it 6 times so he doesn't think he will get it but he tried again anyways one more time in November. Then we decided to file the petition after that.

It will not affect future Petitions except you might be asked about it, otherwise no impact..

My sugestion, is dont say anything to the fiancee until you're sure the case is closed.. then let him know.. if you want..

Agreed, it's not the ACS section, contact the IV section.. ACS won't be able to help.

Ok how will i know when the case is closed?

If he already pulled the "as soon as I have the visa" card I'd take it as a negative sign.

It's not really uncommon to act out due to the amount of stress it may cause on a person. Personally, I was excited to be with my husband for good, but it also left some emotional issues because of leaving parent, childhood friends and familiar surroundings behind.

If you are sure about withdrawing the petition, then go ahead an send a letter to the embassy. If you are unsure, give it another week or 2 and see how you feel. I'd probably not tell your fiance that you are thinking about pulling the petition. If he is indeed using you, he'll most likely go back to acting loving and caring. ON the other hand, you can offer to move to his country and live there and see if he's thrilled about that. If not.. Then pull the petition instantly. You don't have to go through with that though. I would say 6 denied tourist visas is many. Has anyone else ever petioned him?

I don't know if anyone ever petitioned him, he never mentioned it.So if i don't tell him anything , it means i am ending everything. I am going to call him and tell him, i cant continue with him. I just feel so sad and angry of all the time and money wasted, it makes me wonder if i am really doing the right thing.

You guys are great! Thank you. I will contact them asap. Another question, will this affect me if in the future for some reason i decide to file another petition? Should i tell my fiance i will withdraw the petition and that he should not go to the interview? Will they tell him when he goes to his interview?

Be careful about the confusion you are creating... While true the I-134 is submitted for the Visa Interview, if she and her BF gets to the AOS stage, then she will be completing the I864 which commits her to potentially a lifetime..

Have you sent the I-134 yet? I suppose you have since the interview is scheduled.. you need to Email the Kingston Embassy, ASAP and tell them you're withdrawing your sponsership... Before the interview... Dont send him any tax documents or financials stuff like paystubs..

The interview only needs a ds230 form to be scheduled. the 134 they said should be presented at the interview, i sent him a package by mail last week with all the stuff that is required for sponsor. I will try emailing them tomorrow and see what they say. How long will they take to respond? Will they cancelled everything? will there be a procedure?

First thing is you filed a K-1, so I-864 doesn't apply. Only the I-134 which is not legally binding like the I-864 is. If he get's the K-1 visa it only gives him a single entry visa to the U.S. with the requirement that you marry within 90 days. Afther that you file to adjust status to a conditional permanent resident status (2 year green card)

It's your call, but the fact he has applied for 7 tourist visas, and was denied, sounds like he is more interested in coming to the U.S. than being married to you.

Best bet is to contact the consulate in Kingston, and tell them you are no longer wanting to continue with the process. Better to find out now than later.

Thanks for all your guys comment and help. How do i contact the consulate, when i was inquiring about the case i wasn't able to contact them by telephone? Do i need to send a letter so they can have it in writing? I don't know what to do. How do i prove that those are his intentions? We also have a child on the way, how will this affect his rights? will i have to take the child to see him? this is all so overwhelming!

Well, you don't really know. But, the fact that you are starting to have suspicions should be a red flag.

With the way he is acting, do you want to be married to that person? The 7 denied tourists visas... Were they before or after you guys were together?

As to answer your question, yes there are things you can do. Where in the process are you? When did you file I-129F? Has it been approved yet?

My advice would be to search your heart and soul. If you have concerns, by all means slow down things until you are sure. Do not rush a decision that you may regret. If it is genuine, it will stand the test of time. If not, then are you not better off in the long run?

I hope you discover peace of mind regarding your decision..!

He applied for 6 of the visas before we were together and one last year around november. I file the i29f petition in january of this year. we got approved and the case is at the embassy, he has his interview date september 25.

You and only you, know how your BF is...

It's very interesting that he hasn't had his interview yet, and is acting that way.. Seems pretty arrogant..

The fact is; love is blind, nobody can say anything that you dont already know.. Just remember, if he gets here and you submit the I864 (Affidavit of Support) on his behalf, you're stuck no matter what.. Ask yourself if you feel confident enough in him to sign up for that kind of responsibilty potentially for the rest of your life..

Put asside the heebee jeebees and the butterflies and the romantic memories and think clearly for a bit, then be honest with yourself and make a descission and stick to it..

You gotta be carefull with someone that arrogant at this stage of the game..

Thank you for your reply, Can i withdraw my petition? What if he gets approved for the visa and come to the US?

I am so happy i found this site. I filed a petition for my fiance for a k1 visa. Recently i have been having doubts about him being genuine. Now that his interview is coming up, he is acting very strange,he always starts argument with me for no reason. He even made a few comments about he doesn't need me bugging him anymore and he will soon get his visa so he doesn't have to deal with me bugging him. We met february of 2011 and I know that he has applied for about 7 tourists visa,all were denied, is this suspicious?. I don't know what to do, my sister told me i should end things before he commits fraud. What can i do at this stage? How do i know he is planning fraud? Thanks.

-Kristina