brownnskinn

Waving hello to everyone. I hope all is well.

Good Morning Everyone,

It's been a while but I couldn't connect to the internet from the house. Hope everyone is doing ok. The 2 girls came up in August, we get along good. few glitches along the way the main one being the grandmother not sending the youngest to school, she should have been going into the 4th grade but didn't pass the entrance exam so she was put back into the third grade. Third week of school we get a call from her teachers. She has a first grade reading level. Not for nothing but I'm not to impressed with the Jamaican school system right now.

It wasn't their fault she didn't go to school but even though her grades were horrible they were going to put her in the fourth grade in J.A. The oldest one isn't too bad but her grammer when she writes is horrible. I spend a lot if time correcting her work.

My son and the baby and mr jengs are fine.

nice to hear jengs! i'm kind of worried about how my stepdaughter will fare in school once she gets here. I'm almost certain she is behind where she needs to be. Do they have a after school tutoring program where you are?

For, us...She was suppose to be in the 10th, her 9th grade grades from JA were horrible. We agreed to hold her back; actually had no choice, she had no 9th grade credit. She was failing physics; She's gotten that F up to a C. Now, I see she's failing Algebra. She has A and B's in all the other subject. Her father is so clueless. He believed what she said when she told him that wasn't her final grade once; That a test still needed to be added in..I said "one test"? What difference will that make? My biggest problem is that she will not study! She often comes home and heads for the computer, or she will sleep for hours after school, then want to stay up all night to do homework. I was happy about the F coming up to a C...but now this...I told her I was not going to force her, that she is darn near an adult. That if she didn't pass all her subjects. Her time in JA this summer will be cut short because she'd be in summer school. After, explaining what that meant; she's been studying everyday after school.

If it was her journal..was she using it as an outlet? I try not to go snooping around my daughter's personal stuff...Well, I do if i suspect there might be something funky going on. If it was indeed a journal. I say let it go. I tend to take things away as well, TV, cell phones, laptops,...how old is she?...the cell phone is a big deal for teenaged girls. I also, tend to hold things back from her father, cause he got issues...and let's just say; I'd to kill him. Would you rather she held that(anger) in? I think it's more important she learn why she has no reason to hate you...she most likely wrote that when she was angry. Let it go.

Stepmoms HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!

my stepdaughter wrote in her notebook that she does not like me because I disciplined her. Now her dad gave me the permission if she is out of line I can. She was doing good up until a couple of months ago. I saw this and I flipped!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I punished her by writing 200 lines and no tv for 1 week. I did not tell her dad cuz she is scared of what HE will do!!!!!!!! What should I do???? Was I wrong??????????

What was the crime?

So, since the filing of the I-130, things have been up and down. I go back for a visit in a few days and even though that should make me happy - things are just not going so well. Lately we argue over the littlest thing and its hard enough being so far apart and going through this immigration stuff- let alone add stupid arguments into the mix!

He says he feels helpless sometimes because he can't do anything but wait for me and/or wait on the process. He's no familiar with how the process works and just looks to me for any word on it. That I can understand.. but the bickering... I guess being were not like most newlyweds - where this time should be a happy time, its stressfull and downright depressing.

Anyone ever feel this way? How do/did you cope?

I wish I could give you a hug right now . This whole process is one of the most difficult things that any of us has had to go through. It puts such a different kind of strain/stress not only on us as individuals, but on our relationships, that it's a wonder we don't all end up killing someone or going crazy ourselves! What I can say is that we have all been there. I cannot tell you the # and kind of arguments my husband and I have had during this process...some of them were really bad, and I must admit, there were times that I was not sure if we would make it. But what we kept coming back to was that we really loved one another, and knew that though difficult, our marriage was ordained by God. Not all of the arguments were the same...in fact they sort of got better (if that makes sense). This process really does force you to communicate in different ways with one another, and that's what we had to learn to do. It also really took me awhile to realize that this whole process was just as hard on him as it was on me. Eventhough he would say it alot, it took me a while to really listen and understand, and see where he was coming from. Looks like you're in the beginning of the filing process. What helped us get through it was to become involved in other activities. Don't get me wrong, we still made time for each other, but it also helped for both of us to engage in positive activities outside of this process that could help get our minds off things and help us to de-stress. And I know it's hard because he's looking to you for answers, and you have none...and so you feel helpless all over again, which leads to increased stress, which leads to....well as you can see it's all a vicious circle. Just do what you need to do to nurture yourself during this process. And in doing so, you will be nurturing your marriage as well. And see him when you can. And the two of you just remember why you got married and decided to endure this process to begin with. Good luck, and I'm here if you need me!

Great advice!

Congrats!

Calling all Yardies.

My fiancé and I need some answers.

My fiancé has a daughter, he doesn't have legal custody of her, the mother is NOT willing to sign over her parental rights, but he is working on that. We have received our NOA2 and our case is at NVC. We included her on the I-129f.I am also listing her on the I-134. Our plan is to have her follow after her father gets settled in.

Questions:

Does she have to be present at the interview?

Does my fiancé need to have her birth certificate, passport, etc. for the interview? Considering the fact that he doesn't have custody and that we want her to follow on another date, but within the one year time frame.

Will the fact that he doesn't have custody affect our k-1 process in anyway?

Thank you for your replies in advance!!!

As long as the father's name is on the birth certificate you won't have any custody issues. The mother giving consent is your greatest issue. She will have to sign a notarized statement giving the child permission to move to the states with her father. I believe those older than 10 have to be present at the K-1 interview. When you listed the child on the original K-1 application- you automatically filed the K-2. (I did) As, long as the mom agrees, she will be issued a visa come interview time a long with the father. The child doesn't have to follow along with the father at that time. I can't quit remember but the child has 6 months; could have been a year to follow based on that original approved K1-K-2 application. After a year the visa/application expires. I've not heard of filing a K-2 separately; doesn't mean it can't be done, but I would encouraged you to file the: I-130. http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/I-130.pdf Petition for a foreign/ alien relative. It's easiest for you to file for the child as the child's step-parent, at least it was for me. Especially if the mom is not in agreement right now, she will come around. I agree take some time let hubby to be get here, get settled- then file for her later. Also, I hear they ask for DNA testing or proof of paternity with K1-K2 ( especially if the father's name is not on that birth certificate)....but not with the I-130. Also you will have to submit a copy of the child passport, It cannot have an expiration date of less than 6 months

good luck!

Also the USC is not required to be at the I-130 interview, only the child. I only attended because I happened to be there. Her, mom or some other relative could have taken her to the interview. It was fairly simple...a done deal...no questions asked. Other than if my daughter knew who I was.

Calling all Yardies.

My fiancé and I need some answers.

My fiancé has a daughter, he doesn't have legal custody of her, the mother is NOT willing to sign over her parental rights, but he is working on that. We have received our NOA2 and our case is at NVC. We included her on the I-129f.I am also listing her on the I-134. Our plan is to have her follow after her father gets settled in.

Questions:

Does she have to be present at the interview?

Does my fiancé need to have her birth certificate, passport, etc. for the interview? Considering the fact that he doesn't have custody and that we want her to follow on another date, but within the one year time frame.

Will the fact that he doesn't have custody affect our k-1 process in anyway?

Thank you for your replies in advance!!!

As long as the father's name is on the birth certificate you won't have any custody issues. The mother giving consent is your greatest issue. She will have to sign a notarized statement giving the child permission to move to the states with her father. I believe those older than 10 have to be present at the K-1 interview. When you listed the child on the original K-1 application- you automatically filed the K-2. (I did) As, long as the mom agrees, she will be issued a visa come interview time a long with the father. The child doesn't have to follow along with the father at that time. I can't quit remember but the child has 6 months; could have been a year to follow based on that original approved K1-K-2 application. After a year the visa/application expires. I've not heard of filing a K-2 separately; doesn't mean it can't be done, but I would encouraged you to file the: I-130. http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/I-130.pdf Petition for a foreign/ alien relative. It's easiest for you to file for the child as the child's step-parent, at least it was for me. Especially if the mom is not in agreement right now, she will come around. I agree take some time let hubby to be get here, get settled- then file for her later. Also, I hear they ask for DNA testing or proof of paternity with K1-K2 ( especially if the father's name is not on that birth certificate)....but not with the I-130. Also you will have to submit a copy of the child passport, It cannot have an expiration date of less than 6 months

good luck!

Ditto, fasting labs are not required. I'm sure that if they wanted you to be fasting, they would have indicated such in the instructions.

Hi Everyone,

I hope that someone on the forum can lend a hand with some of the questions I have regarding the I-751 process...

1. Is the biometrics appt. and interview at the same time? or do I have to take the biometrics appt. before the interview? Is there even an interview?

2. Can I reschedule the biometrics appt?

3. Is it possible to reschedule the biometrics appt. in a different servicing center (ie. from california to vermont)?

I'm curious because I live in Hawaii with my wife, my GC expires on 12/09/09 and as such I need to remove the conditions. However, we will be relocating to New York during the process depending on her work transfer... I'm basically trying to figure out if we should ask for an extension from her company in regards to transfer or go ahead with the move and deal with resceduling the appt later...

I can't quite figure out if there will be an interview or only the biometrics appt... I would hate to have to fly back to Hawaii twice over the course of the next few months to deal with biometrics and interview.

Any advice would be helpful .

I'm not sure if you can reschedule the biometrics. I do know the chances of you having to attend an interview are pretty slim when Lifting Conditions.

Good luck.

Congrats Jawi and Justica

WOW! where have I been. A belated Congrats!

Hi, Help

Just got married 1 month now. K1 My wife doesn't like to have sex or approach me for sex ?

Don't know what the problem is don't know what to do. I cant live like this some days I don't know if I should go home

she is piss off at what I don't know.

For how long? She could be experiencing some degree of Depression. Maybe she should talk to a professional, to see what could be bothering her?

How long the whole process will take for a US citizen to bring a minor child in the US? I need advice please.

is this minor child an immediate relative?

How long the whole process will take for a US citizen to bring a minor child in the US? I need advice please.

Your step-child? Our process took about 5 months.

Our process took 4-5 months. Neither myself or my husband were required to be present. I went to the interview only because we were already in Jamaica. It was short and simple. They only asked my husband's daughter if she knew who I was. It was over just like that. No pictures required.

As long as your boyfriend meets the residency requirements then your child can have US citizenship - but it must be filed when the child is born. If you intend to move to the US with your boyfriend, then it makes more sense for the child to have US citizenship however you might want to look into dual citizenship as well, although the US does not recognize dual citizens, it might be beneficial for the child to also have british citizenship if travel to the UK will be in the child's future.

I just want to add, that if you are not married at the time of the baby's birth, you will have to prove that your boyfirend is the father for the baby to get citizenship.. a DNA test will probably be required and I don't know how long it might take till the baby gets the US passport. It might be simpler for the baby to come on K-2 as your child

Maybe, maybe not on the blood test. I would make sure your boyfriend's name is on the baby's BC. They really look at this. You are more likley to have to have proof without it.

"Well, he would not let me know his address. He said he lives by himself, but has no job to support himself and asks me for money only for his cell phone bill or travel to where I live. I asked him once , what the back ground noices were in the house (sounded like a baby crying) he said it was a cat, and now he always go's outside to talk to me. He would always make it here late at night to visit me and leave very early in the morning or even that night. He would step away to talk on his phone, and locked it when it was not in use. All of these things added up in my mind that there is someone else. He said he was doing nothing wrong and didn't like negative thinking I should relax! I tried as per his request to think positively, but this be inside this was difficult for me."

If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like one...it most likely is one. I know now in your time of pain you are hoping beyond all hopes it is not what you think it is, but being a man, I would bet 95% there is someone else. And worse yet, I think you were used all along. You were the ticket to America - he might even have been in correspondence with someone else all along. My suggestions (beyond grieving for the end of what you were hoping for) - cut him off and to the extent possible, do not support him in any way (since you are married to him, I have been told that the government still holds you responsible for his support.). The age difference of 10 years should not really be a factor if he was a mature 28 and SERIOUS about a real relationship. There might have been warning signs all along as to his real intentions, but when one is starry-eyed in love, the signs are easy to overlook.

Good luck, be strong and don't think it's about you or what you did wrong - I seriously doubt that you are more than 5% of the "failure".

Ditto. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I read your message on my cell yesterday morn. I've been thinking about you all day. This could be GOD working favor in your life. I know it's hard. Like everyone else has stated trust your instincts. The facts. Try to keep your emotions under control, this will only confuse you. Much love to you. I will keep you in prayer.

Hello Guys, My case of I-751 of Removal Conditions is still pending. I have everything included the letter of extension of status, I already took the biometrics and the fingerprints. My case date is Feb 11th, 2009, so I called twice after the 6 months, the first one, they told me that I have to wait more, but it looks like there is no problem with nothing. Right away, it appeared a TOUCH ON THE SYSTEM, I have not had any touch since the next following day to my biometrics and fingerprints appoint in March. Now, on the secon call about 3 weeks ago, a person in customer service in USCIS, they generate like a kind of order of review directly to VSC, they answered me back an email stating that I have to wait about 90 days more and it is going to appear a NOA or a decision about my pending case. My case is fine, I sent out good evidence, I am not sure if I am going to be called to interview for this process. I had the first and only interview on July 31st of 2007 that is more than 2 years ago. My case has right now almost 7 months on September 11th. Now, if anybody can give me an insight, what is going to happen? I have heard that the most of the people are not appointed to an interview, or anybody think that I can get the 10 year green card in a few months? Please I want to read any comments, suggestions, recommendations, insight about what could happen if I am going to be called to an interview or if I'm going to receive my green card in a few months, or any kind of other idea that is possible in this scenario? PLEASE REPLY ME BACK ASAP SO I CAN GET LESS WORRIED ABOUT MY CASE, THANKS FOR READING MY IDEAS AND BYE,

I wouldn't worry. This is probably not the case for you cause we recieved a RFE; but our extension letter expired. We obtained a stamp during an info pass appointment for another year extension. Later we got the RFE, Sent them what they wanted. Now, almost another year later we were approved. I'm thinking you should hear something soon.

Who (if anyone) is listed as the father on her birth certificate?

No one.. just myself as her mother

I'm guesing it's not needed. You could kind of compare it to the passport issue. If the father's name is present on the birthcertificate. They wanted a noterized letter fromt he absent father. In your case no name is listed. I don't think you will have a problem. Again, I'm just guessing.

Anyone heard from Gill? I miss her.

Just about everything.

he should have denied it until the cows came home. MAN!

Sorry.

bring some money, alot of money when going for the record..sorry it is what it is!

I'm not Jamaican but I agree.....

Waving at everyone.

Our daughters case was approved. She's been here almost a week now. I got a welcome home cake the night she arrived. I went looking for balloons to match; but couldn't find anything to fit the bill, so I got a "It's a girl" balloon. She didn't get it or eat any of the cake

We've enrolled her in school. Decided to have her repeat the 9th grade because her grades were so poor. She was okay with it, knowing she stopped trying in school once her dad left. She and her sister are doing volleyball try outs this week. It was the funniest thing I've ever seen. In fact, Im making them both run laps latter this morning.They were complaining about how tired they were. It will be a miracle if either one of them makes it.

Hope all is well.

later

Oh ...Not really sure what to do about how she dresses. Shorts are way to short for a girl who has as much back as she. The short shorts wouldn't be so bad if they weren't so tight. She seems very mature for a 15 year old, I have to constantly tell her to button up her blouse so that her bra/ breast are not hanging out. I think her clothes are fit too tight. I make suggestions but don't want to seem like I'm belittling. I want her to look like a young lady. I decided to just leave it alone, for now. I know for sure that I'm buyn the next size up, next time. She said she's lost seven pounds since arrival. We had Jamaica fare the first few days in a row, So I said we are having spaghetti tonight, she said "what am I going to eat"...I said of course spaghetti.she basically refused to eat it. I told- her like I tell mine when we eat Jamaican food...you are one your own; cause I'm not making anything else- she descided to eat the salad...mine you she's refused to eat veggies since she's arrived...

lata.

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We have an interview July 27th for my husbands daughter.