Mogambi

Very sorry to hear it, but you should probably end the relationship with that man. It's completely not true that men 'have to have sex'. That's just an excuse he is making up now because he has been caught. Think about it, not only did he CHEAT on you, he has been in another ongoing relationship with another woman, and hiding it from you. If trust is the key to any relationship, how can you ever trust him? You do deserve much better than him. And then for him to make up a sorry excuse of 'well men have to make boom boom' what a ridiculous thing to say.

If you love someone, you remain faithful to them. Period.

If he is behaving this way now, he will not change. He will never be faithful. He might really love you, but he's not a real man if he behaves that way.

As much as it will hurt, you will be better off finding a better man.

That's my opinion.

Boy are you in for a surprise if you have done zero research on your own, come here and just expect everyone to walk you through.

Look up CR-1 Visa and it will show you all the steps ahead of you.

Hah, well good luck. But 'improving the quality of our lives' is what we're all doing bringing over out loved ones

Telling someone those things aren't needed for London is 1) ridiculous, and 2) VERY irresponsible. While it's true, they probably won't look at them, why wouldn't you have them with you, when it clearly states they may ask to see them?

So sick of people making blanket statements like that. I mean, some poor person might read that, actually NOT bring any evidence of relationship to the interview. Imagine their surprise if they get asked for it!

So no offense, but if you have nothing useful at all to add, please don't add stupid things like that. Seriously.

15 years isn't that big of a deal, especially since you are still young too.

My fiancé is 12 years younger than me (I'm 41), and we didn't have any problems at all.

Hmm, what valid health reasons would there be for requesting an expedite for a K1 visa...

I thought I just saw that fees have gone down last May... There was a thread about it somewhere... So double check on the USCIS website for the current fee. Or maybe it was just the interview fee (paid much later) that went down.

They certainly never asked that of us, and I've never even heard of that in the US before. I would tell her to go, and if they even ask, tell them there is no such thing in the US.

I have not heard of anyone ever being asked for a Cenomar of their fiance in the US!

A friend probably isn't the best co-sponsor. A family relative like a parent would be better. It's easier to do the co-sponser later, since that is legally binding.

The problem with using a co-sponsor for the I-129F petition is that the CO will look at with scrutiny. It's very easy to get someone to sign an affidavit of support when it's not legally binding, as the I-34 is not binding. Anyone can fill it out and say 'yeah sure I'll support them', but in the end they have no legal obligation to do so.

Have been reading a bunch of denials lately regarding Affidavit of Support.

So be careful who you get to do it I'd think. A friend is probably risky.

Five months is AVERAGE, yours is not taking longer than anyone elses. You should have known how long this process was, and I do know it's frustrating, but you still have at least a couple months more to go.

At 6 months I'd have started calling, but it sounds like you got through to someone.

Apparently in Mid-May there was a big mixup where a bunch of cases were sent not to the NVC but to some storage facility. I suspect that has been corrected, but for sure it's causing a backlog as the NVC is now probably flooded and trying to catch up. So be patient. Lots of people are reporting more than a month at this point for NVC to get it input to their system.

I agree, they might talk to the minister, and explain the situation. He might give his blessing to let them do a courthouse wedding to get the legal side of things done, maybe they just have to adhere to the rules of the Church of Christ wedding.

The rule is that you must get married 'within' 90 days. So I certainly wouldn't get married ON the 90th day, to me it seems that day 89 is the last legal day you can get married.

I think as long as the wedding takes place on that day, and all the marriage certificate and things are dated with that day, she would be Ok. But I agree, cutting it VERY close.

Also just for terminology sake, she has no visa anymore. The visa was used up the day she entered the US. She now has an I-94, and THAT is what expires. Just mentioning this to make sure you aren't looking at the expiration date on her K1 visa. That is meaningless now, that was only the expiration date she had to ENTER the US by. The clock reset to 90 days on the day she entered. I assume you have this right but just checking...

Also, this will sound harsh, but I think God would understand the circumstances if they had to go to the courthouse to go a simple piece of paper for the US Government instead of her being deported and a 10 year ban on re-entering the US!!!!

Find another minister. Or have HIM marry them even on a week day, and then perform the wedding again as was planned on August 4th if it falls outside the range.

There just has to be options here...

I understand what you are saying. It appears that they expiration date for the K1 is set to 6 months FROM the date of the medical. So if the medical is let's say 4 months old at the time of your interview, your visa could very well be issued with only 2 months remaining.

If you NEED more time, as much as it really sucks, you might have to have her do the medical over. That way you'd get a longer issued visa.

At interview, our medical was two months old. When we got the visa in hand, it was only good for four months. It's enough time for us, no problem. But I was surprised, as I expected it to be issued for six months.

Agree, our K1 doesn't say that. It says Issue Date and Expiration Date.

Also, it should be noted, a K1 visa is NOT good for six months from issuance. It is good from 6 months from the date of the MEDICAL. Our medical was two months before the visa was issued, so our K1 actually expires four months after issuance.

Don't use mail. Is FedEx or DHL in Iran? Spend the extra money, you can have any documents in five days.

My understanding is that by contacting the embassy, the NOA2 can easily be extended, so I wouldn't worry too much about that.

From all I've been reading in the last few days, you might actually get away with a scanned copy. I doubt that the person there is going to take out his magnifying glass and inspect the signatures. Since most people sign in black ink, hell, you'd probably get away with it.

BUT. If not? If they issue you an RFE and you're delayed, was it work it? Better to wait 2 to 7 more days for her to send it to you, than risk an RFE which will certainly take more time than that.

You're going to have to wait 4 to 5 months anyway, what is another week to make sure it's done right.

Also, only because it's something we had to deal with, make sure if your fiancé lived in any other country that you will be required to get a police clearance from, you start researching that as well.

Start collecting the documents for the evidence of relationship you'll need for the interview. Photos, print out some emails, phone records. Easier now to start keeping records so you don't have to do it all in a rush at the end.

And good luck! It's a long process, but getting the I-129F filed is the hardest part I think. Try not to worry about how long it will take. The time will fly by.

Still sounds unbelievable. Perhaps the person at USCIS was quitting and just didn't care, decided to approve a bunch of petitions without evening looking at anything.

More important, your friend's fiancé is sort of an idiot for not even reading the list of things he was supposed to send, for forging her signature if he did, and for not even keeping her in the loop about something that affects HER as much, if not more so, than him.

Not a very responsible way to treat your fiancé.

Our condo is Paranaque, in Metro Manila, and that's not far from the embassy either. Still took us 10 days to get our Visa, so it doesn't have to do with distance, it can be delayed being issued form the Embassy.

Now if only they'd drop that AOS fee that I'm about to have to pay!!

Well 3 pictures is going to push it, so better to add more of other things then.

I'm always amazed, how can you go somewhere, spend 34 days with them, and have only three pictures together? My fiance wanted to take our picture together about every 8 seconds!

Know that photos are the ONE thing they're going to look at in the interview. If it all possible, you might consider traveling there before you interview, getting more photos, document that trip VERY well. Just to be safe.

3 might be fine, but I wouldn't be surprised if they asked for more. It's pretty much the strongest piece of evidence along with boarding passes and passport stamps.

Absolutely, she has to mail it. However, you can scan the one, email to her, she can print it out, sign it, and use FedEx and DHL to mail it back to you. Not cheap, maybe $50 even. But in the grand scheme much cheaper than the time delay you will get if they send you an RFE!

To Teg, if you have no CLUE what you're talking about, please don't respond here. Telling him it's OK when it's 100% NOT OK to send a scan.

But it certainly won't take 'weeks' to rememdy.

As I said, scan the form filled out, have her print it out and sign it, sign and date, and DHL back to you.

This is incorrect advise. They want you to detail, using two sentences, how you met......to satisfy the having met in person within the last two years prior to the filing. Not how you met the first time but how you met, at least once, in person, within the last two years.

I answered both questions anyway with my two sentences. The first described how we met and the second sentences detailed the dates that we met in person.

Actually your advice is wrong. The 'how did you meet' CLEARLY means how did you come to know each other, under what circumstances were you introduced to each other. Think about it. The next question asks about your meeting in person! Why would they ask you the same question twice.

Met = Introduction in this case. So you would simply say 'we met on website _____' or 'I was traveling in Thailand and she was working in restaurant there'.

The NEXT question is where you describe your meeting in person!

I mean, honestly, if you answered both questions with the SAME ANSWER, then clearly you're misunderstanding one of the question. Why would they ask two questions expecting the same answer?

You're wrong. That's all there is to it.

Not saying it would get you an RFE or anything, you're wrong

FYI, I didn't include any chat logs or cell phone records in our initial I-129F filing.

For our interview, I prepared about 30 pages of Skype prints (just picked 30 random ones spread across the year or so we had been Skyping. Also had about 20 pages of cell phone receipts showing texts I sent to her. And we had some Yahoo Messenger chats from early on. Also had phone records from Ooma the company I use that showed lots of telephone calls.

Want to know how much they looked at it? Not a single page. They didn't ask, they never saw any of it in the intreview.

Checked our photos, looked at my tax return, took the police report and cenomar, and that was it.

So wouldn't bother overdoing it. A selected set of printouts covering time is all you need. I might have more than 6 or 8 pages though.

But it depends on how much 'other' evidence you're brining. Emails? Real letters? Cell or other phone records that show contact? If you have those things, then you can be lighter on the chat records I'd think.

Again, expect that they might never ask for any of it, but still you have to have it in case they suspect anything.

Also, I filled out my forms while I was in the Philippines, and because of some delays getting our Police Report from Thailand, our forms were dates about 2 months prior to our interview. The I-34 was the only one I sent via FedEx closer to the interview.

I don't think it really matters if your forms are dated a bit early. BUT as others noted, just fill them out now, but don't sign and date them yet.