Kassil&Tierce

Interview: Success.
POE: Boston. Success.
Location: Las Vegas area. Arrived at 8:20pm Pacific Time.
In the next few days, legally getting married and then applying for AOS.
Ugh, it's been a long and tiring effort.
BrockUK, man, that's so horrible to hear - that's worse than my ex-girlfriend who screwed me over. I hope your life gets better, man - put her out of your mind, seal her away, and find someone who deserves your effort and affection.

Interview: Success.
POE: Boston. Success.
Location: Las Vegas area. Arrived at 8:20pm Pacific Time.
In the next few days, legally getting married and then applying for AOS.
Ugh, it's been a long and tiring effort.
BrockUK, man, that's so horrible to hear - that's worse than my ex-girlfriend who screwed me over. I hope your life gets better, man - put her out of your mind, seal her away, and find someone who deserves your effort and affection.

Honestly, the huge gaps in response time makes me suspect they're underfunded and understaffed. As frustrating as it is, and as useful as it would be if they'd join the modern age properly, I suspect they're probably really low on the budget lists - after all, they don't really contribute to any intelligence agencies or the department of defense, and those are the cash cow agencies that get the funding. :/

Normally I'm good at translating that kind of writing, but I've got no clue this time. *mystified*
Unless he was replying to previously, when he got chewed out for being a bit rude, and just replied to yours without bothering to go find the one he intended to respond to, maybe?

Dude, you don't need to keep posting back-to-back like that. This isn't an instant messaging program, it's a messageboard forum. If you need to post more within a few minutes, use the edit function under your post instead of continuing to make new posts. Your NOA2 will happen when it happens, spewing posts in here won't make it go any faster. Look at me: September was when I got notice of a RFE. It took them over three weeks to get around to realizing they sent it to my physical address after I corrected them three times about the correct mailing address. They got my response to the RFE on the 12th. I'm still waiting for them to do something with it. Instead of obsessively freaking out and posting every single day that nothing happens, I'm waiting, biding my time, and making plans for both my fiancee's visit at the end of the year if he's not yet approved, and for me to go be with her at the interview when we eventually have it.
Take a couple of deep breaths, calm down, and relax. Make your plans for the future, once the waiting is done. It'll happen soon enough and you'll be just fine.

Dude, you don't need to keep posting back-to-back like that. This isn't an instant messaging program, it's a messageboard forum. If you need to post more within a few minutes, use the edit function under your post instead of continuing to make new posts. Your NOA2 will happen when it happens, spewing posts in here won't make it go any faster. Look at me: September was when I got notice of a RFE. It took them over three weeks to get around to realizing they sent it to my physical address after I corrected them three times about the correct mailing address. They got my response to the RFE on the 12th. I'm still waiting for them to do something with it. Instead of obsessively freaking out and posting every single day that nothing happens, I'm waiting, biding my time, and making plans for both my fiancee's visit at the end of the year if he's not yet approved, and for me to go be with her at the interview when we eventually have it.
Take a couple of deep breaths, calm down, and relax. Make your plans for the future, once the waiting is done. It'll happen soon enough and you'll be just fine.

Dude, you don't need to keep posting back-to-back like that. This isn't an instant messaging program, it's a messageboard forum. If you need to post more within a few minutes, use the edit function under your post instead of continuing to make new posts. Your NOA2 will happen when it happens, spewing posts in here won't make it go any faster. Look at me: September was when I got notice of a RFE. It took them over three weeks to get around to realizing they sent it to my physical address after I corrected them three times about the correct mailing address. They got my response to the RFE on the 12th. I'm still waiting for them to do something with it. Instead of obsessively freaking out and posting every single day that nothing happens, I'm waiting, biding my time, and making plans for both my fiancee's visit at the end of the year if he's not yet approved, and for me to go be with her at the interview when we eventually have it.
Take a couple of deep breaths, calm down, and relax. Make your plans for the future, once the waiting is done. It'll happen soon enough and you'll be just fine.

Dude, you don't need to keep posting back-to-back like that. This isn't an instant messaging program, it's a messageboard forum. If you need to post more within a few minutes, use the edit function under your post instead of continuing to make new posts. Your NOA2 will happen when it happens, spewing posts in here won't make it go any faster. Look at me: September was when I got notice of a RFE. It took them over three weeks to get around to realizing they sent it to my physical address after I corrected them three times about the correct mailing address. They got my response to the RFE on the 12th. I'm still waiting for them to do something with it. Instead of obsessively freaking out and posting every single day that nothing happens, I'm waiting, biding my time, and making plans for both my fiancee's visit at the end of the year if he's not yet approved, and for me to go be with her at the interview when we eventually have it.
Take a couple of deep breaths, calm down, and relax. Make your plans for the future, once the waiting is done. It'll happen soon enough and you'll be just fine.

Dude, you don't need to keep posting back-to-back like that. This isn't an instant messaging program, it's a messageboard forum. If you need to post more within a few minutes, use the edit function under your post instead of continuing to make new posts. Your NOA2 will happen when it happens, spewing posts in here won't make it go any faster. Look at me: September was when I got notice of a RFE. It took them over three weeks to get around to realizing they sent it to my physical address after I corrected them three times about the correct mailing address. They got my response to the RFE on the 12th. I'm still waiting for them to do something with it. Instead of obsessively freaking out and posting every single day that nothing happens, I'm waiting, biding my time, and making plans for both my fiancee's visit at the end of the year if he's not yet approved, and for me to go be with her at the interview when we eventually have it.
Take a couple of deep breaths, calm down, and relax. Make your plans for the future, once the waiting is done. It'll happen soon enough and you'll be just fine.

I'll second the wish of luck, since I'm an atheist and leave prayer to those who need a deity.

I'll second the wish of luck, since I'm an atheist and leave prayer to those who need a deity.

I would, but I don't know who I would pray to. The only religions or deities I recognize is Rugby, and Santa Clause. I don't think either of those accept prayer.
how about I wish you luck instead. Good luck!

Well, everything's tucked into the envelope to be mailed tomorrow. A scan of her passport and the entry stamp, plane ticket stubs, a photo from Shark Reef that has Las Vegas 2012 in the corner, a hardcopy of each photo I printed previously, a USB drive with every photo taken during her stay with digitally embedded timestamps that they can check and instructions on how to do so in case they're thoroughly computer illiterate, ten letters from various family, friends, and coworkers attesting to having seen us together during the visit this year, and a cover letter, under the 'return this on top' RFE letter, detailing the contents and the instructions on how to view the timestamp on the digital photos. Here's hoping it's enough for them.

>.>
Thank you. I was starting to feel like my fiancee and I were the only ones who aren't religious on here...

Well, it's good to hear he realized he was being an idiot now, rather than years from now. Tell him that I, as another guy, am telling him to not listen to the people who ###### about their marriages - either they bought into the Hollywood fairy-tale romance, or they got into the relationship based on sex and looks, which are not the foundation of a good relationship. Any relationship is going to take work - doing things together, spending time together, spending time apart with your own hobbies so you have alone time, weathering the arguments that inevitably crop up from two people with fully developed personalities and opinions having a difference of opinion on a topic. Entirely too many people go into marriage either expecting a fairy tale, an excuse to get laid constantly, or with the belief that they can 'fix (him/her) up' into what they think they want, instead of accepting that their partner is a real person with quirks, perks, and flaws that make them real. As long as you're both willing to put in the effort, you'll be fine.

When my fiancee gets approved, we're definitely getting married in Vegas - I live in the area, after all! We're planning for the legal part ASAP, so we can file the AoS as quick as we can, and then we'll have a ceremony for family and friends later on. A few friends have already offered help with the wedding, and one tried to argue us into a Colorado wedding - we refused, because her idea of scenic locales tends to involve elevations that leave everyone else gasping for air. The hard part is that, as part of the Millennial generation, our friends are scattered all over the place, above and beyond the two countries we're from. Trying to wrangle everyone together is past tricky as a concept - likely we'll just take about a month and visit as many of them as we can on a honeymoon.

This, so very much.
If you go through all these hoops and procedures, could you at least have the decency to be sure about it before you start it, or at least before you finish it off? Cases like this make life harder for all the rest of us who are trying to get to where we can actually have the person we love with us.

This, so very much.
If you go through all these hoops and procedures, could you at least have the decency to be sure about it before you start it, or at least before you finish it off? Cases like this make life harder for all the rest of us who are trying to get to where we can actually have the person we love with us.

This, so very much.
If you go through all these hoops and procedures, could you at least have the decency to be sure about it before you start it, or at least before you finish it off? Cases like this make life harder for all the rest of us who are trying to get to where we can actually have the person we love with us.

If God were good, then he wouldn't have made you uproot a dude because you felt like it, only to change your mind 3 days after he arrived. I hope karma gets to you, lady.

You're given a lifetime of getting to know each other before the visa process starts. Try mentioning it to a CO that you're getting the visa because it has a 90 days try-it-out. You do get to know each other on a different level when it's no longer 2 weeks worth of vacation adventures here and there, or talking/emailing. It's direct contact, dialogues, who-does-the-dishes and issues that won't surface on most visits if only visiting a couple of times.
OP, congratulations with your mutual decision of it wasn't meant to be.

If you found him sexting after you'd already told him you're not going to be with him then the point is moot, otherwise, he was not serious in the first place, then I wouldn't expect anyone to live with someone they weren't happy with for the rest of their life. It just seems some put the point of no return at arrival, when they've just left everything they've ever known, and others put it at 90 days, after that person has already likely adapted to the new life and done away with a lot of the old. Either way it sucks all around and I'm sorry to hear this happened to you, but I'm almost just as sorry to hear what happened to him

What?? No that's not what its about at all..... She got very lucky.. OP: This easily could have been a case of uprooting someone who changed their life to come be with you in a new country only to have you say "sorry, I made a mistake.. I led you and myself on for 8+months.. I'm bailing so it sucks to be you" ..... you did wait three whole days.. You could have ended up ruining someones life, instead you got lucky because your choice turned out to be dog who deserved it so it saved you having guilt.

Great answer..Exactly how I feel,I quit my great paying job of 25 years,,Gut my pension short, gave almost everything I have away,If after 3 days my wive told me that this was not a good idea,I don't know what i would of done?..I had absolutely nothing left back in Canada...When I first got here I had doubts in the beginning to,as I'm sure did my wive,marriage is all about learning...I now could not imagine not having her in my life..I don't see how you deserve a thumbs up for that??..At least not after less then a week?...sure not all marriages are gonna work,but give it some time.

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this is not true.