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I smiled at the part that said 'if things don't start changing...'
Things will only change if you both want them to and actually DO something about it. This might not be the forum for it, but I figure someones marriage is important... so... The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a rather thought provoking read. You guys don't know each other... like someone said you had immigration as a unifying factor, it's no longer there... now it's time to take off the rose coloured glasses and really look at who you are with and whether you actually LOVE each other or were caught up in the heady experience of 'being in love'. Often when the love mist settles for a couple (even those who live next door to each other) the clarity shows that there isn't much to build on.
So, talk to each other, delve into the crevices of your hearts and decide if you love each other enough to go the distance or not. Sort that out first, save yourself some time, energy and heartache! once you make a choice one way or another, you deal with the next steps. As for telling him he has to go home, GROW UP! that's sounds like, 'if you don't play ball my way I'm taking my ball away' - Accept that you BOTH aren't ready to be together and let him do him, his way. Whether he has his conditions removed yet or not is immaterial. He can get a lawyer to help him with that. You don't HAVE to make it difficult just because you haven't got what you want.

I'm going to put my 2c in because I can.
1. The whole point of affidavit of support is to show that the petitioner and or joint sponsor can finance you should the need arise.
2. Your husband may well have never had medical insurance, but he was single then. It is his duty to protect and provide for his family.
3. There is PLENTY of advice, guidelines, tips etc, to help people negotiate the immigration maze. You have been married long enough to have accumulated the evidence that is required.
4. Rather than get indignant about what others are doing, secure your own future PROPERLY so that your husband and child are not denied a wife and mother, because that's what you are facing or at the very least... illegal immigrant status which is restrictive at best and criminal at worst.
5. Finally, remember there are many others who want to join loved ones here in the US. Your actions as well as others who do not do the right thing, impact on the rest of us.