Peter555

I don't think you're being fair here. Although I agree with what you say, it does not apply to my situation. Why? For starters, I did not, out of nowhere, decide to install that software to see what she does because I am somehow sick....
Put yourself in my shoes, you're wife or husband has been in contact with someone that was a client, in her/his days as a stripper, and that client also happened to had proposed to your wife or husband, which I forgot to mention in my first post, so you know they had an intimate relationship in the past and were engaged. After you get married, you find out your spouse is still in contact with this person so you ask your spouse to stop and respect the marriage. You obviously know they are in contact since that person is in your spouse's main Facebook account in their friends list and messenger. Spouse apologizes and supposedly removes the person. You find out, not a second, but third time it is still going on, and spouse plays the victim card and denies it all and keeps lying to you. You can't take it anymore knowing your spouse will just lie, so what do you do?
That guy was engaged with my wife in the past, but he had to leave the country because they offered him a job in another country. He kept coming back to my wife's country only to sleep with her and give her false promises of staying with her, and my wife also had other boyfriends while they were supposedly engaged and had a long distance relation. Weird, huh?.. So how do I know all this? I made my wife tell me because the guy kept calling my wife even while we were dating before getting married. My wife said she told him to stop calling, but I’m sure she lied to me and lead the guy on. My wife said she liked this guy but she got tired of waiting for him to permanently stay with her, so she started dating others and met me.
Everything was good for a year or so, then she started to use facebook and I noticed she had many guys who she knew from the striptease days. That is when I drew the line and told her that she was married and that it was inappropriate and to remove them. She kept lying to me at the same time being a hypocrite and accusing me of cheating and checking out other women. I had a feeling she had other accounts so I installed that in her laptop before our vacation to her country. I find out about the nasty names they call each other and their plan to meet behind my back. So I leave in disgust and she apologizes and promises never to do it again and that she didn’t meet the guy , and being who I am I make myself believe that she is telling the truth and we make up. Just last week I discovered that she made two other secret accounts, without the need of that software. She was stupid enough to use her daughter’s father last name and add the same guys as friends.
The mains reasons I am considering helping her is because of my son and the guilt I know I would feel if something happened to her mother because I left her in that country. She has no money, career, or future, She has already said multiple times that she would return to stripping if we ever got separated. To be honest I also feel lonely after so much time spent with her, but I don’t want to make another mistake.
Trust me I am not the one causing all of this or preventing this from being a healthy family. I have already taken her to therapy because of other issues she has with control, jealousy and issues about her past growing up. She took it as a joke and never attempted to go back after she went for a few weeks.
Right now I still don’t know what to do since I got myself into this mess, but I want what is best for my son, which I don’t know what is at this point. I am all for getting custody but I feel depressed when I imagine my son growing up without her mother, which I will admit she is caring, irresponsible, but caring. And knowing how stubborn and close minded she is I will have issues getting along with her if we separate.
Here are my options:
1. Confront her on what I just discovered and ask for a divorce.
2. Help her out and believe that she has not cheated and give it another shot, knowing the high risk
And by the way I did not use the keylogger in the US, used it in her country and to my knowledge it is legit in divorce cases in that country