M & E

You are forgeting one variable, the one variable we've been telling since the begining: fraud.
Now let's say they were 10000 german applicants before applicant A and 10000 Nigerians before applicant B.
10% of Germans committed immigration fraud. 20% of Nigerians committed fraud. The fraud has a bigger impact applicant B because there was more fraud, therefore, it'll be more difficult for the Nigerian to prove that he's genuine. Is it racism?

What are people congratulating the OP for? For having someone uproot their entire life for them, meanwhile having doubts that they even WANTED to be with the person?
People who don't take this process seriously boggle my mind. This isn't a process so you can have someone come to the US and try them out for a little while. If you aren't 100% sure you want to marry this person, don't file the petition. And definitely don't wait until the beneficiary has moved EVERYTHING to say "hm, maybe this isn't a good idea."
I by no means condone the guy for the "sexting" nonsense, but let's be real, nobody here deserves a congratulations.
So you expected/wanted HIM to be honorable and 'think this through' ... but you admit you had doubts for MONTHS and let him move anyway. Where's your responsibility in this? Or do you get a free pass because he turned out to be a 'dog'? Honorable. Please.

I can't believe what kind of replies are being posted in this thread. Congratulations? Really?
I'm sorry OP, but what you did was morally very wrong and you should feel guilty irrespective of the final outcome.
And NO. The fiance visa is NOT there for yanking someone out of their lives just to play with their hearts for 90 days and then go about "deciding" whether you want to go through with it or not. Genuine fiance visa candidates likely migrate to the US by completely burning their boats once ashore. They leave their jobs, their loved ones behind. Likely sell all of their property and even their homes when moving to the US. They do that in hopes of creating a new life with their significant others and not because they want to be told it just "doesn't feel right" three days later.
This isn't a child's game that you up and quit. Any reservations and doubts you have about your significant other, clear them out BEFORE starting the application process. Those 90 days are there so the couple has ample time to obtain a marriage license and easily complete the legal procedures required in order to obtain a marriage certificate. They are NOT there to play 20 questions and deciding whether or not you want to "go through with this."
The decision to "go through with it" was made the moment you filed that petition!

You know I want everyone to have their happy ever after. But truly as a mother this screams warning warning warning . The flags are up and my stomach turned over reading your post. PLEASE however well intended and as good as this may feel now every relationship lives in a "honeymoon" phase and the ONLY way to move past the happy endorphine filled phase is to spend time together and really learn each others daily life and habits. It truly is much different. I would not be comfortable with my daughter going off like this alone. I commend you on your planning and researching but please think this over deeper. He might be a most loving caring and your Mr right, but then it might not be all it seems.
I hope you will do as others suggested and not do this alone. In any country it is not the best situation. The people here care what happens as we all have a very tough road by having long distance relationships heed their words and learn from their experience.
I wish you all the best...
Terri

You are forgeting one variable, the one variable we've been telling since the begining: fraud.
Now let's say they were 10000 german applicants before applicant A and 10000 Nigerians before applicant B.
10% of Germans committed immigration fraud. 20% of Nigerians committed fraud. The fraud has a bigger impact applicant B because there was more fraud, therefore, it'll be more difficult for the Nigerian to prove that he's genuine. Is it racism?

Fraud can be done anywhere, you are completely right, except you're forgetting the fact that there is more fraud in some countries than in others. This has nothing to do with racism.

Fraud can be done anywhere, you are completely right, except you're forgetting the fact that there is more fraud in some countries than in others. This has nothing to do with racism.

You are forgeting one variable, the one variable we've been telling since the begining: fraud.
Now let's say they were 10000 german applicants before applicant A and 10000 Nigerians before applicant B.
10% of Germans committed immigration fraud. 20% of Nigerians committed fraud. The fraud has a bigger impact applicant B because there was more fraud, therefore, it'll be more difficult for the Nigerian to prove that he's genuine. Is it racism?

Yes exactly, it's like if you were saying: Mr. X commited murder in Great Britain, therefore there is imigration fraud and people shouldn't get visa approved!

You are forgeting one variable, the one variable we've been telling since the begining: fraud.
Now let's say they were 10000 german applicants before applicant A and 10000 Nigerians before applicant B.
10% of Germans committed immigration fraud. 20% of Nigerians committed fraud. The fraud has a bigger impact applicant B because there was more fraud, therefore, it'll be more difficult for the Nigerian to prove that he's genuine. Is it racism?