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I suppose you would fear the truth is being rude but I'm just being upfront with you if your man is out having dinner with another woman and she's cooking for him i'd be a little wary especially if I didn't know she was. I'm just saying most people view American citizens is going to the backyard and pulling cash off the trees. I'm glad to see you have some ethics and view your green card has connected to your marriage and therefore if you're not married anymore you no longer need the green card because there's very few people that view that immigrate on the marriage visa into the USA. It appears to be a free-for-all or anybody get married to USA citizen. I'm just saying if you're worried about your husband I would hop a plane and get over here on a tourist visa and see him and find out what's going on. Just saying girlfriend that's all

Take some responsibly ...get some money together and come for a visit to USA , it's a marriage put in your fifty percent .i myself believe the USA citizen should foot no money for your green card as the visa center views marriage and green cards as two separate issues . Which is why if you come and get divorced you still get to stay here in the USA

Well maybe find a immgration and a divorce lawyer . Don't expect any sympathy for being a single mom making ends meet....half of women in USA fall into this category ,we just do it as best we can

If you live in a no fault state you just file ....you don't need him .After two years of marriage most ,a huge percentage of green-card holders go bye bye see ya later and are off to greener pastures sending money home to their family's kids and "non registered traditional wives" or husbands ...most third world countries are so poverty stricken or in such political turmoil usa is a haven and your loneliness is their golden opportunity to plunder ...I wish I would known this like all other victims it is not your fault it's education of the public to the system and how international marriage to a foreigner works . Marriage is never easy and yes lots fail locally and women do get scammed locally , but don't let people hang you because you should have been more prudent and known better ..Love don't work that wAy and because you fell for a sweet line doesn't mean you deserve this treatment ....and please know fraud is a crime with victims ,just like any other crime

Yeah but the wheels of government processing turn slow .....go to a immgration attorney and find out if the paperwork has been processed yet , if not full processed ask attorney to withdraw application then go home and give her big smile ....from things I wished I known three years ago

Yeah but the wheels of government processing turn slow .....go to a immgration attorney and find out if the paperwork has been processed yet , if not full processed ask attorney to withdraw application then go home and give her big smile ....from things I wished I known three years ago

Edited version with no auto spell checker ...Here is what I wish I knew before I applied for a deadbeat spouse who is only in the marriage for a green card .He had help from his family and friends...never ever even if your hormones are bursting out send any money to a online lover .If they proposition marriage go to a immigration lawyer and have them get as much info on the person you are marrying(freedom of information a act) and have them review all of your communication as they are "up" on scams.Thats all they do mostly everyday is review case after

case. if you do decide to marry them DO NOT pay for any of the expense to send you to their country, or expense to put there for your stay. if you are not invited to stay with the family ....RED FLAG . After you marry, When you apply for their green card Don't pay for the fees ; if they really want to be with you and not just want marriage for a easy greencard they will find a way . DO a prenup ...protect yourself ...the USA government doesn't pursue marriage fraud unless your talking big criminal groups. Check you know the person well in some countries you just walk up to a registrar and say hey I was born in this village this date and "boom " you got a birth certificate usually if date of obtaining the birth certificate is three weeks before you come to visit ...red flag .Understand a lot of cultures move from woman to woman and make babies these women become "traditional wives" and never are registered.you may never know how many wives your spouse has. Next is to understand The wheels of government turn slow and if you choose to apply for green card for your "now" spouse if they don't come and are turned down ...FIND out WHY before reapplying ..if you reapply know that it may takes another year or so to approve and NOW your marriage is most likely over the two year threshold and that i485 you filed is now permanent not conditional so guess what as soon as their green card comes in the mail most like a huge percentage of green-card holders go bye bye see ya later and are off to greener pastures sending money home to their family's kids and "non registered traditional wives" or husbands ...most third world countries are so poverty stricken or in such political turmoil usa is a haven and your loneliness is their golden opportunity to plunder ...I wish I would known this like all other victims it is not your fault it's education of the public to the system and how international marriage to a foreigner works . Marriage is never easy and yes lots fail locally and women do get scammed locally , but don't let people hang you because you should have been more prudent and known better ..Love don't work that wAy and because you fell for a sweet line doesn't mean you deserve this treatment ....and please know fraud is a crime with victims ,just like any other crime

one last thought here ,there seems to be more divorces under a year for good faith marriages in this forum then in the hollywood tabloids,just how the heck can you even say you know each other well enough under a year to state its a good faith marriage? I think marriage counseling in this situation should be mandatory at least to establish it was a marriage in good faith that cant be fixed lolz

I didn't want to touch that unfortunate misconception at first but I'm glad that you brought it up.

As you eloquently pointed out, the first proof that Nigerians are indeed affectionate is right there in OPs thread title. "Husband Quit Being Affectionate" which means he was affectionate at some point and he's a Nigerian.

Many of us just didn't just travel to Nigeria for 2 weeks vacations, we were born there and grew up there. I grew up watching my grandfather, father, brothers, uncles, friends, etc being completely affectionate with their spouses. Do they tongue kiss while waiting in line like a teenybopper? No but you can still be affectionate with class.

For those in relationships where there is no affection please don't blame it on our wonderful culture, instead look within your relationships and try to gauge your compatibility with your significant other. Is there a reason why he's not affectionate, is it perhaps because he's not that into you, embarrassed of you in public, etc

For Mr. OP, I simply just think that he arrived and actually saw his worth increase in the ladies department. He saw that he can get more or thinks so anyways. It's the same way we have what is called 'trophy wife" syndrome. I'm not excusing his behavior.

hardley,,,,would you take someone on who makes min wage at part time and is a new immigrant ?He would have to be a stud...i can say thats not the case,i beleive there is more afoot then anyone knows..the question is ,how is he managing to live out there ,he has only been here 6 -7 months with less then 4 months work experience...how can you imagine he is living well?

interesting this has become so popular a subject ,I guess I opened a pandoras box let me say , first the USA government made a CR1 so that marriage fraud can be detected, In reading the directions I see there is very few reasons to ask for cr1 status change with out your spouse , and even if you put down one of them they look at it very closely at the reasons stated at the time you apply for the status change, especially if there are any red flags prior to and during the marriage and visa process. I also in reading see that it is again reviewed for citizenship status and you can be denied this process if there are red flags in your visa file. Second, community property is a TWO way street so stop scaring people with that. Third you would think the time a person would be the MOST conservative in displaying any affection would be in Africa where it is the norm to not display affection from what you all say, and in America it would be more relaxed ...not the other way around so behavior wise what your stating regarding African men makes no sense. Fourthly ,I have talked to quite a few west African and east African people in hopes to gain a understanding of what has happened, one thing they all agree on is that the behavior I described is not normal African male behavior towards a wife and somehow I don’t believe all of them are lying to me.Fifth A person who spends 3 years on line with a woman ,receives her in Africa twice and flies to America and leaves in under 7 months without any attempt to repair the marriage probably has lost his mind or has planned this out prior to setting foot on American soil and most likely had some help from friends,,,,even ones here on visa journey I venture to say and the immigration dept does look at these things,it just takes some time .prehaps instead of throwing out advice to run ,maybe some support towards the USA victim is called for and maybe support for the marriage if it is savable and maybe stop supporting people who say after 6 months their marriage did not work how can they dump their spouse and changer their status. Also for all those victims out there...let me throw a scare the other way...OJ simpson was found not guilty in criminal court ,however the Brown family took every dime he had in a civil court ,that is always a option if the proof is there for 12 peers to see. I bid you all a good night and good luck and am careful who you bring into your life and take care of your marriages.

yes after he set foot in america like night and day

just some advice to others ,if you think your spouse is committing marriage fraud,chances are its NOT the only fraud they are involved in ..check their paper work,don't wait till they exit stage right ..check their emails , change your locks ..what you find may be a HUGE eye opener to you and everyone and marriage fraud might only be the least of the issues.... a persons criminal behavior usually doesn't just start with a marriage in america .. , just saying you know

wow ,did I get screwed,does he get to stay here for how long? and what happens when his i-555 expires in may?Is the CR1 still good?,and is what he did legal??

ok so i brought my spouse here to USA paid for everything ,after first week he stopped sex and affection ,barely talked to me although he did go places I asked him to like parks for first month or two

He really dose not seem to have a physical interest in me and we fight over this alot because i do not understand why he does not want it.He has now packed up and left (we have only been together here 7 months ) and wont tell me where he is or who is staying with.He says he still loves me and will call me when he wants to come back .He dose not answer my calls or texts and yes i probably bug him with texts to much ,but only becvause I dont understand it.

He really dose not seem to have a physical interest in me and we fight over this alot because i do not understand why he does not want it.He has now packed up over half his stuff and left (we have been together only 7 months ) and wont tell me where he is or who is staying with.He said he is staying with a friend he met.He is on a CR1 visa with a 12 month i-555 work permit what ever that means.I want to know am I responsible for him financially still or for any illegal actions he might do? and what if I found out he lied on his application about names used? Am I responsible for that too? What am I responsible for in this big mess?

your facebbok is public ,even your employer looks at it (so hey dont post headed to beach,when you called in sick) its a cheap easy way for goverment to check on you ,your banks to check on you ,your creditors to see what your up too and to have all your habits tracked for profiling for marketing .If you havent understood that over the life of facebook,WOW...know it now quote name='Iyawo Ijebu' timestamp='1335131145' post='5321622']

Read this thread

http://www.visajourn...iew-mumbai-419/

On it the poster stated that her Facebook page was shown to her fiance.

" they even showed him my face book account "

yes I called

It was sent back

What was the result?

wait for results to be mailed to me then i can appeal

I was in error sry

I was in error sry

I'm in the process of purchasing my fiancee's one-way ticket from Cairo to New York. It is not a secret that buying a one-way ticket raises security concerns. I'd like feedback on your experiences with this issue. Have you or your loved ones been grilled with questions by the ticket agent or security? Do they post something in your profile? What have been the main issues?

Or are we being paranoid?

I appreciate your prompt responses.

Have a great day!

2 way tickets when i looked are actually cheaper sometimes ...can you believe that?

My greeting was "bad day huh?". I had injured myself on the trip there, including being over an hour late for my interview (which meant emailing the consulate to beg ask to proceed with the interview when I eventually arrived). Lol. It was all uphill from there!

dang ,guess its a sign of the times.I wasnt there(i couldnt be not during hoilday season my job wouldnt allow) my spouse stated it was very sarcastic and made him feel uncomfortable.this is a new process and a big eye opener for me .Not like just tieing the knot in vagas and plowing forword with your marriage ,you have to be really dedicated to your other half to endure this process.

truth..but was me not him that is outraged over age thing ...and not race ...being a older female ..barren

that was just my outrage over the system

eja is the foreign spouse, Sea is the USC.

This is the same couple that was complaining about age and race being the reason for denial.

truth..but was me not him that is outraged over age thing ...and not race ...being a older female ..barren

Ooooohhh... okay... Why the intense outrage and comment about vomiting though? If it's not actually an insult but instead just a "testing" statement.. that's why I was confused. Maybe the OP doesn't realise it's not an insult?

what i meant was if that was the greeting it says something ...like no need to go any further mind set has been made ,general my experence has been with any official there is at the very least even at the unemployment line a generalized hello.my spouse said it felt sarcastic

i myself felt it was at the very least a inappropriate greeting not normal for a official.If your reading people which you need to do at any interview no matter what kind it is a statement like that says a lot about the mind set of the person. I would have viewed it as a no go from any type of interview

BTW my spouse although he felt upset shaken tramatized and somewhat angry keep his calm and remained unemotional like i told him to ,I am saying he was Doomed from the start in my opinon and short of becoming violently ill and requesting another interview it was a rejection and not much he could have said or done to change the mind set

That was a come-on statement to see where he would take it. If the petitioner was serious about his marriage, he would have ignored the statment without even a hint of a smile. "flirting"

hey..I was talking about YOUR statement to me.i would say (lol) but darrel would kill me .............

No. Is this a cultural thing I don't get? A "cutie" is someone who is cute (or recently I've read also brand of the fruit "mandarine"). "Smart" means smart. So they appear to be saying "Well aren't you an attractive intelligent man" (assuming you missed a word in there) or "Well you must be the attractive intelligent girls husband". Like I said, I'm obviously missing something.

yeah ,its not a normal greeting from a professional and BTW invalidation is a form of psychological attack

Please understand that IN MOST SITUATIONS - the mindset is 'made' already by reading the contents of the casefile.

A VO will do that, prior to the interview.

i figured that ..thanks

I am hoping this situation helps some people out there as the most i had to go on was not alot of info .

I don't understand what is offensive about the bolded portion. It doesn't entirely make sense either.

your kidding right?