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After I read the long `thank you` post of Aries2005 ,now I go hhhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Sorry Aries, I wouldn`t like you to think I take your post lightly cause I dont,I really don`t(you have no idea).It`s just to much to say and from what I read from you,and I am not gonna analyze your every word(I am not even good at it),but my hunch is that your mind is already set ,I mean you believe in this marriage ,I`d say that gives you the energy to do your best to work the issues between you and your husband out because you`re accepting him the way he is,or you`re trying to,but from how you sound you tend more to accept his flaws than not,(which is good thing,if you really can,not everybody could), you want that ,and if that`s what you want it`s just fine. Not sure if I make much sense to you.

You probably came here just to talk to somebody not to by all means find a resolution and here we are (other people more than me ,but I have my own not- pink times right now,don`t ask... you probably won`t,cause you have your own ). Anyway feels good to know you`re not alone

All I can say is that he is one lucky man.

And I am thinking now that you said you cannot talk with other people about all that concerns you ,it`s a good thing we can do this even here on VJ .I know there are voices who say one should do dirty laundry at home (by the way,we have that saying in my country too, the world seems not that big sometimes) and might be a little embarassing but some of us really need to do that here too,and maybe there are reasons why.Geee,somebody stop me. I am getting cheesy here.

I have a feeling today is the day that we are going to hear some good news..cant take this anymore..I have a brand new apartment 20 minutes away from Disney world Orlando and Im sitting here by myself..is not fair!!Good luck everybody!

Poooor U...life ain`t fair,huh.. just teasing you cause I think life pretty good for you having a brand new apartment and close to Orlando. It`s not all about that though,is it? Hope the good news that you waiting for coming your way

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm..

I am with Dean!

Me too...when I read her post I was just ...when I saw Dean going hmmmmmmm,I thought,yes,it`s perfectly put that way.There are lots of things to say if you read the whole post,and not give answers to only 1. or 2. etc ,just I mean the OP already married the guy and she says he loves her and she loves him,so probably doesn`t help her much or she doesn`t really want to hear things like ``you married a jerk`` and this kind of stuff. But yes hmmmm... hmmmm... hmmmm

One of my favourites,even `cause of the fine memories

That's a really cool photo because you can't see the glass, and it looks like the water is magically being held in the tank by your hand!

Thank you Jenn,it`s not my credit for it though,I was just the inspiration ..didn`t last though .It was my ex fiance(USC) who took it,he`s pretty good at it... was taken at the Newport Aquarium Oregon,in January 2005 during my first visit in America when he asked me to marry him (after he had visited me in my country in 2004 ).That was an amaizing time for me,but (I hate this but) we had issues,some serious ones,so I cancelled ( with a lot of pain in my heart) the K1 visa in October 2005 , then time passing we both realized that we needed to give this another chance,I tried to go be with him again in America for a little more time this time(I flew to Portland on the 14th of February this year and I had my return ticket on the 27th of June,I was on a tourist visa) but the Immigration in Portland Oregon decided this time that I was a potential immigrant and they didn`t let me in the country. And that was it. And I don`t even know why I am talking about this here (it`s just because I have no timeline,so yeah)

Love the pics you have in the gallery you look gooood together

And this I just took,it`s just a little ``hello VJ`` pic

here are my lil cherubs!

MG they look so beautiful,sweeeeeet ! Your kids look like angels,Monique.

be good? BEHAVE??? That's *rich coming from YOU.... now, if you were to say, don't do anything I wouldn't do...that would give us loadssssss of leeway....

:lol:

Michelle,hi...she knows what she is talking about ..be good (there`s a ``we`re good when we are bad`` club here on VJ,you didn`t know that ? )....you know...Mae West,God bless her heart said once,``When I am good I am good,but when I am bad I`m very good``and that`s one good thing she said,oh,yeah .

Not sure about the other thing Lorelle said...BE HAVE? Never heard of that...no such word .Ohhhh,it`s behave...never heard of it either

cristy - ask her.

Go and see her in person if you can, (makes it harder for her to vacilate or refuse to talk to you than it is on the phone) sit her down, decide in advance not to lose your cool whatever she might say - and just ASK her what the deal is. Explain to her how close you feel to her - and that this seems to have come out of left field and is really upsetting you. Then just ask her if its fuelled by her fear - or her worry for you being so far away. I'm guessing that's probably the root cause of the nastiness - its not that she suddenly woke up and thought 'OK so now I hate her'

If for some reason she refuses to see you then WRITE her a letter.

Try not atatck or feel defensive as neither will help you get to the bottom of things - and she may well try and annoy you just to distract you so she doesn't have to answer hard questions. Tell her the LAST thing you want is to leave on bad terms with her, because you love her.

I'm sure this will work itself out, and maybe she IS having a hard time letting go, but you DO deserve an explanation for her behaviour, and she probably needs to let it all out, so you can clear the air, and know you won't hate her afterwards.

*hugs* Good luck with it

Even if pretty hard to give advice in this situations,I think Jaylen Brit did a great job out of it,and it`s good she did,cause you know,sometimes there`s that feeling to stay away from such personal stuff. I just couldn`t though, knowing how hard this can be sometimes, to be in a position like yours here.I know this is delicate issue,cause when we get along with our mothers it`s all good,sometimes we take that for granted,``it`s my mom,we are supposed to get along``.When issues between mothers and daughters begin,it can be quite difficult thing to handle ,for the same reason,some mothers go``ok,she is my daughter,she can take anything from me,including me not agreeing with her relationship`` which can be very hurtful.Been thru that. I would say too you should talk to her and soon,before her attitude gets to wear you out.You don`t need that for sure. Just trully sorry to hear you going thru this.

The chicken didn't get the chance to cross the road ... it ended up on my bbq

Thought kind of the same,we should say our own about the chicken,I mean,we have the right to speak out loud about the chicken,aren`t we? (need therapy)

One of my favourites,even `cause of the fine memories

Just wanted to say to Lorelle...CONGRATULATIONS AUSSIEWENCH and I hope the party still going on hehehe.

Helping people...there are more than one or two on this site . I know Lorelle and Yodrak would agree with me on this,and don`t you dare not to ...just trying to be cool here

Meauxna yes,another one of them,very helpful and kind

It's only truly risky in the sense of being turned back at POE and losing the ticket money.

$877.00 we had go down the drain!!

Yep, 1265$ here,and I didn`t win those money at the lottery,guys!

Geee,I want my money back so badly!

Not to talk about many other serious things I was deprived of:my dignity as a person,the chance to work on a relationship that was so important for me,and the future problems that I could have in the future if I want to visit this country again(without any illegal intentions),the impossibility for me at the moment to visit other European countries because of the denied entry that I have stamped on my passport and there are more

```...so I just cringe and bite my tongue, but not too hard``quote

I think you right on this,and put in a perfect and cute way ( I just try visualise cringing and biting one`s tongue,but not to hard

Here`s what happened to me,I just let you know and it`s up to you to take your own decision.It depends on many things how a POE experience turns out but it can be very frustrating when it turns out like mine,especially when you`re ``clean``.

This was my repply in another thread:

``I wouldn`t advise you to take that risk.They suspect you of trying to get married on a tourist visa even if you don`t have that intent and I`m going to tell you a little of my own experience just to let you know how the american immigration system can screw you up very seriously in some cases.Here is mine:I had a multi tourism visa B1/B2 (multiple entries that is) which I had already used two times(successfully) to visit my ex fiance in Oregon,only that the third time when I landed in Portland on the 14th of February 2006,I was suspected of trying to use my visa to get married and overstay the tourist visa,even if I was COMPLETELY honest from the first to the last word,and my intent was NOT to get illegally married,and I said that several times(at a certain moment one of the three officers(that one was an a$$hole, he acted real weird to me,I am sorry I cannot go into many details here) and who ``interviewed``me=tried to intimidate me and said rude things to me many times.So he said,I`m going to go outside now and ask your fiance when the wedding date is`` and I answered him again:``there`s no wedding date sir,the only reason why I came here is to try to work on our relationship,because my fiance and I realized that we had a relationship and a friendship that lasted since the end of 2003,and you should consider that I used my tourist visa twice and never overstayed,never did anything illegal in the USA,and I have ties with my country as well``, trying to show him the contract of my property in Romania,all translated in English and notarized among other papers(criminal background clean,translated and legalized,work history translated and legalized,etc).Another of the three officers who understood my situation and realized I was honest was trying to help and said,``oh,let`s see that`` but the a$$hole said ``no,we`ll get to that later``,and of course he DID NOT get to that later.In the end the ``good officer`` gave up,he said,stumbling,`I am sorry miss,I had a hard day yesterday cause I had to work on Mexico arrivals so I am tired so my co-worker will take over from here``.His co worker was the a$$hole.So after a long humiliating interview during which I tried very hard to show that I don`t have any intent to illegally immigrate to the US,because I needed so badly to be there with my fiance,our intent was to work on our relationship,since we had had some serious issues before,but we were not given the chance, I ended up the same being labeled as an ``intended immigrant without an immigrant visa and misrepresenting myself and subject to removal to my country for violation of 212(a) (6) © and 212 (a) (7) (A) (i) (I) of the INA.

Now,if anybody can answer this,please,I would be very curious to hear:since I have the report the Immigration did on me at my arrival in Portland,and I know what I said,and I can read what they wrote,and comparing to what I said,what they wrote in the report are only parts of my sentences ,and other things I said during the interview are written in an inaccurate way in the report,and other things in the report are simply not true facts.Ok,many people I talked with told me it`s the immigration people job to put only half of the truth in their reports so they are always right,so they can build their ``case``but my question is,why they would write complete untrue facts in a report?That`s something that shocked me when I first read their report on me(and it was not at the moment when it was made,I didn`t have access to it then).And the report was made by the a$$hole.I am sorry,but that was what that person was,trust me. And all that was an abuse.

So yes, it`s risky to use a tourist visa to get into the USA in certain cases even if you have no illegal intentions.So be careful.All the best to you.

CONGRATULATIONS ,I am happy for you Iulia! No talking to you so far because I didn`t have acces to a computer for 14 weeks ,and the thing is I spent 10 weeks close to where you live and we coudln`t meet (I am going to send you a pm or something about what happened,it was horriffic).Anyways,congrats and all the best to you,Pete and Ariel the princess!

Monique,hi there,long time no ``see``!But you scare me with this B) .Seriously now,I don`t think you did that poor child a favor,that`s my opinion though.You might have done yourself a favor by speaking out loud and release your own tension about the whole thing and I am sure your intentions were the best but I am afraid I`m with the ones who said the way to solve that was uneffective,probably it got worse at home for the kid.Those kinds of parents usually blame the child the same because somebody has the nerve to tell them they are doing something wrong to their own kids.

What scares me most are people like that mother tho,who a little before you interferred thretatened her child ``to not choke again or she would smash her`` and the next moment she said ``I don`t think I said that``.Those people must have some serious issues.

you are in the club ....drop in more often

I`d love that almaty2006 ( I talk like that when I have a hangover ).Why I don`t do that so often is for personal issues,unsettled things in my life,to many at this time(see Jeff-n-Jana timeline if you have some time and want to know some details,you know...it happened to have the same timeline with his,our paths crossed at some point in this life for a while)

I do I hang out here on VJ sometimes even if my business on VJ should be ,and I do that for some kindof selfish( halfkidding) purpose...to have some fun,and not only...to see what a bunch of people here that I got to like are up to...

Geee..someone get `ny advice for,I mean against a `nice`,`healthy` hangover?

Ok........Im all yours. I was talking to Dan on comp as well as trying to be in here....not easy

I was just so shocked he came to VJ.....I think he only posted an intro when we were on the old site and thats it.....Never thought Id see the day again hahahaha He is not as loud as me

He is not as loud as me

You complete each other like a charm...geee,this sounds like a `speech`,and considering I am not drunk any more... (can I say drunk on this thread anyways?can I say drunk on VJ in the first place? )...my hangover must be playing tricks on me right now

And seriously now, to you and Dan congrats for the couple you are.

How far? Do you mean after the winds stop...or after you stop paddling? Arrrrrgh!

oi........you're the paddler hahahaha I go in circles remember

Noooowww.you shouldn`t talk about ``paddling`` and ``going in circles`` people to folks who at the moment don`t get any of it...ups...errrr,...mean to people who have a hangover and all this paddling and paddling and paddling and paddling can make their head spin

For the countdown

I know,I know,this ain`t going anywhere,it seems so at least.It is for me though...Some of you understand ,at least one...thank you guys

And it will get worse,believe me

well.since I can still hit the keyboards...

usually hittin the computer makes it shut down for a while.. keyboard though... go for it!

your ladies are lucky to have you

that's what i tell her every night i try to get "comfortable" .. but then get sent to the sofa

Now you need to define sofa,Mirror ,you don`t have to though...yep.don`t mind me,hope your lady doesn`t mind me either tho

wooow,...now,that`s what i call love,and more,relationship,commitment(love is to vague for my tastes)...I`d better get out of here guys...Lorelle,stop me please

Nah.....I wanna see where this ends up hahahaha

Now you`re being a wenchie aren`t ya,huh?...Naaaah,you`re a huge lady in my books anyways

I meant a ``huge`` lady,the figurative way...geee,the booze makes me sound nice...hahaha.The cute thing is how Dean disspeared as soon as he heard the word ``booze``.He shouldn`t underestimate the folks under the effect of Bachus,would he

well.since I can still hit the keyboards...

usually hittin the computer makes it shut down for a while.. keyboard though... go for it!

your ladies are lucky to have you

that's what i tell her every night i try to get "comfortable" .. but then get sent to the sofa

Now you need to define sofa,Mirror ,you don`t have to though...yep.don`t mind me,hope your lady doesn`t mind me either tho

wooow,...now,that`s what i call love,and more,relationship,commitment(love is to vague for my tastes)...I`d better get out of here guys...Lorelle,stop me please

well.since I can still hit the keyboards...

usually hittin the computer makes it shut down for a while.. keyboard though... go for it!

your ladies are lucky to have you

that's what i tell her every night i try to get "comfortable" .. but then get sent to the sofa

Now you need to define sofa,Mirror ,you don`t have to though...yep.don`t mind me,hope your lady doesn`t mind me either tho

well.since I can still hit the keyboards...ok,I am rambling...I do care about a bunch of people here,even if the funny thing is I don`t like people very much lately.....you know...I`d better stop now..anyway,your ladies are lucky to have you guys...hope they don`t take this post the wrong way.