qwerty1974

I read the post about the whole being legally married while the couple met. It doesn't make sense to me why that would raise a flag or suspicion of fraud. It happens everyday. I'm not trying to justify, I'm just simply saying...

This is not an opinion but rather an observation from other similar posts. This would be because it raises flags over the relationship being genuine or romantically based. Do married men start to date single women every day? Maybe yes, sometimes, but the relationship is often or occasionally veiwed as having gotten off on the wrong footing in doing so. Also they Might think you met her, struck up an immigration deal and so annulled your current marriage. I guess the chances of falling in genuine and actual love with two K1 Filipina women in such quick succession are slim...obviously in your case this is not the way it is, but USCIS deal with trends and where fraud is performed, this is clearly something practised and they have to look out for it. I can see the source of your annoyance but I think to say 'it doesn't make sense to me why that would raise suspicion of fraud' is short sighted and you will have to be a lot better prepared than that to get successfully through this process. I wish you luck and hope you find the wisdom and strength to wait a while if that is what serves you and your fiancee best.

Oh, but if I were to push an opinionit'd definitely side with the route of annulling the marriage and this time doing it all above board so that it cannot be questioned quite so much

I think the myriad responses here show that this is really something outside the remit of this forum to deal with. I would seriously think about consulting an immigration lawyer. Of course they will likely always try to make things sound harder than they usually are because they want the business, but you could go into it knowing that and just getting the bare bones of the information on how to present this to USCIS which is ultimately what you are after. You could always go for K1 but attach a written statement of the marriage already entered into, but really you need some solid concrete advice here and now is not the time to takes chances with petitions as it could cost you dearly in the long run, in time, in emotions AND in money. I hope too that this is resolved as a child is involved. The one thing that I see raising flags is not really the legality of the marriage (yours) but that you married whilst someone else was married to him...whatever the cultural connotations of this. I ve read many cases on these forums where if the relationship is started long after separation from the former spouse but yet close to the divorce being finalised then this can cause problems. Your case would in my opinion raise far more flags than this. This is only my opinion though and you need more than opinions. Get some legal advice and get it before filing. Good luck!

Oh I hope so, the Embassy was a big waiting room really, I got there nice and early and it moved rather quickly. All the women behind the desks were a little flustered as Daniel Craig had just been in (I just missed him!!) It's encouraging to know that even James Bond has to wait in line!

It certainly IS good to know Bond has to wait in line too. I'll remind myself that if the wait drags on!! Fingers crossed for the missing affidavit paper winging it's way to you, and then to them, speedily. Surely you'll have your visa in hand by Christmas at this rate?

I don't know but will say that you ought to check and double check if they do not see your marriage as in some way a binding marriage. I have ascertained from a few other postings that you'd be surprised what they see as marriage and not. Last thing you want is to list for fiance 'unmarried' and have them think you're misleading them. i think for this one, if you have not already, check with an attourney or UCSIS directly. Good Luck.

I'm confused about the need for a medical date?? I didn't have an interview date, all I was told you needed was your LND number. When I rant KNightsbridge Doctors they just asked for my LND number and I said my interview 'would be in a few weeks' which it seemed ti was, and is. perhaps in the lead up to Christmas they're busier?? Most people I know do the medical thought beFORE they get an interview date.

Some folks here obviously mean well and are trying to be helpful, but let's please avoid practicing medicine without a license.

Agreed. this sounds like something a medical practitiioner ought to be dealing with, not a visa forum. I wish you the best though and hope you get it sorted, back pain can be hellish, but if you take the wrong medicine for it you could end up with a whole world of other troubles too.

pregnancy is not a reason for expediting and if it was we would all get pregnant... well apart from me that is because im a man... and men cant get pregnant... Jenni could though because shes a woman... and women can get pregnant

LOL Glad we got That cleared up!!

Quite right though, pregnancy is Not one of them. Imagine, if it were many might well get pregnant, if those marriages didn't work out that's a huge burden of responsibility on the bureaucrats that their reasoning led to a good deal of children with broken homes, its simply too irresponsible of them to allow it. You can't account for the lengths some people would go to. It seems to me that we're all in the same boat and just have to wait. I have two children who currently don't know if/when they are moving, its tremendously unsettling for them. I thought That might be a reason to expedite, as we should all have a duty of care to make things easier on children. Mind you, I never asked for an expedite and just take comfort from knowing I m not the only one waiting and my children are not the only ones living in limbo.

It seems the only ones who get faster preferential treatment are those in the military.

This is an awful thing to read, but other posters are right....it's not over yet if you are prepared to be patient and fight for it. Likely you have already waited a long time so it is disheartening, but in fact in light OF this, if for no other reason, you should keep the faith and certainly have her speak to her congressperson. I too have read that Nigeria is a hotbed for immigration fraud so this is unfortunate for you. If you can't be together in the States though you Could be together in Ngeria. I know you say she has a good job there and family, but we all have thse things but when it comes to love we are all giving them up, or at least putting them on hold. The main thing is being together. maybe you could marry, live in Nigeria where she could surely find plenty of work given her vocation and file for CR1 a year or two down the line? Best of luck and don't give up hope yet!

The code thing might well be right. i was given codes for the subject line for a few emails but for the packet IV email they gave me no code....hope they got it okay?!

Try not to stress too much about it, though I know that's easier said than done. I think we all have our worries, 'will this fall short of the mark, will that raise a flag?' For me its removing my children to another country and all the documents needed for That! It's a quagmire and I'm sure we'll all somehow negotiate our ways through it, we have to! Besides, as you've said, your fiance is lovely and also well organised as a bonus (yes, you really Should thank her for that!!). I m not an immigration official but I find it hard to believe that something like depression or anxiety when not accompanied by erratic or threatening (to self and others) behaviour, would alone lead them to refuse. You just have to look at the world we live in to see how commonplace AND reasonable those conditions are and that they ought not be stigmatised in any way. I wish you the very best of luck with the rest of your journey. Just keep informed but remember, great as these forums are, you sometimes need to know when to take a break from them. For every two times that reading them has helped me, there's always that one accompanying renegade time where I ve allowed myself to get 'visabrain' and worried myself on account of the experience of others. Each journey is different, hold yours apart from everyone elses. I think it's one thing to take advice but you can get overloaded easily too. Late night panics after reading something that wasn't actually relevant to me used to be my speciality!!

Yeah, that's what I thought. Nightmare scenario with the VJer and the CV's and work contacts....probably better off avoiding that when so close to the end of the journey.

@Suric01....I shouldn't wonder if your fiance wouldn't be better of choosing the visa interview over a job interview in light of the last post?

I have an appointment for 9am and have two children with me. They're so excited and hate being couped up in hotel rooms so much that they're ASKING if we can wait in line earlier. Guess that's my schedule made up FOR me then. Hope they serve a super early breakfast at the hotel!

Was a little bit taken aback with mine. Hope it gives you some hope: sent packet III end of October and they signed for it 1st Nov. Had my medical 3rd November. Was worried it'd take them ages to log packet III and perhaps medical results would 'get lost'. Naturally being a very Type A personality I rang every couple of days excited to see if they'd uploaded or opened my Packet III. Even called DOS, they all said it takes about four weeks to get to it and load the info up and then about another two to three weeks for them to give an interview date. Not sure if it is usual, but certainly what I was repeatedly told. I was worried we'd not get an interview date until January and I have two children due to start school there so you can imagine how on tenterhooks I was! Anyway, called Monday this week 'No ma'am, they've logged your medical results now but still not your packet three'. Then yesterday out of the bkue I had an email giving me an interview date on 2nd December. They MIGHT surprise you. By their reckoning it should have been weeks after opening packet three before getting my interview. maybe I just got lucky, who knows?! Either way, no complaints here! Hope you have similar luck with yours

Happy reading This!!!! Congratulations to you guys

Well they''ve certainly always answered mine, albeit it up to five working days later, but they seem pretty on it with interview times and the like. I emailed them regarding the interview we have at londoniv@state.gov. I think this routes it to the department dealing with packet IV (the interview times). I used it to cancel my daughters part of our interview (she's staying on to do undergrad Here).

If in doubt call that extortionate 0904 number, depends on how soon the interview is that you are trying to reschedule. We are providing new letters of intent but not notarizing them and I have it on relatively good authority that this is not necessary. its just that the signature needs to be original and not a print off.

Are you K!, can he even work when he arrives on a K1. I only ask as I believed you could not in which case then maybe he'd be better doing the interview anyway instead.

Good luck with the rest of your journey!!

Fingers crossed for your big day, good luck

I think it's a bit of a lottery myself, little to do with being well prepared. Of course we all want to be well prepared though given a choice It seems some get no RFE and still have to wait five-seven months....we had our NOA2 at four months....if it was anything to do with being well prepared we should've got it at one My fiance is super organised!!

My skype lets you see a log of calls and durations of the calls if I click on my fiances profile and 'contact between' or some such button.

I can't speak with a whole lot of authority on this matter but I certainly have read other forum posts as you have. I think there are a few dependent factors here. As you say she has never self harmed- that's a good start. She has all of the medical information to hand, that's really important too, as much information as possible to show she is no threat to herself or to others (which obviously she is not). Equally their concern might be that she might become dependent on the State, so your income MAY factor (feel free to step in and correct me other VJers). What I mean to say is that if you are over the poverty line and able to support her and yourself well perhaps they'll not look quite so closely into this? You say she comes off disability on the 21st, I assume she will be going back into work. Perhaps hold off filing until she has an employment position again for you to fill in on the forms? From what I can tell vis a vis the beneficiarys income and so on, they do not delve too far into this, it is really all about the petitioner (again, correct if I am wrong, and I m sure some kindly VJer will!). The time it take to process your application varies service centre to service centre so all being well before she hands in her packet three with all of HER information in it she'll have been a good few months in solid employment. Four/five months down the line this may all look far rosier to you. Just time things and plan well, be open and honest and ensure you get as much medical information as possible. Surely if she has been/is treated and has fulfilled their other criteria I m sure this hurdle is easily surmountable. Perhaps at the medical stage they'll just ask her to go for a psychiatric review or something? Don't lose faith so early on, just research other members experiences here and remember there are likly others who've been in the same position and managed to navigate their way through the system honestly and successfully. Good luck with your journey And yes, it can feel like stopping and starting and new things to stress about, I think that's the same for everyone, just hang on in there

Benuk....good luck with your IR5. Fingers crossed the less there are the faster it'll get dealt with!

Just remember that these timelines, they're just guides. i missed/miss my fiance hugely and some days it really felt genuinely far too much to bear but we had our NOA2 at the four month mark. I'd never have expected that, I'm generally one of the clumsiest/unluckiest people ever, so just keep yourself occupied but you know, when you feel overwhelmed with missing him, allow yourself to do so for a bit. I grew to see the missing him as very much part of the loving him. Of course, nothing makes up for being With them, but I'd rather miss him than Have anybody else. Just keep your eye on the finish line and remember what you are doing this for. Channel your energy into productive stuff, making daft video clips, writing letters, collecting random things from your day to send. It all matters Good luck with your path.

Congratulations, very cool that you were together too at the time You're on the home run now

Congratulations on your NOA2. Now the Really exciting stuff begins