meandmybeloved

It’s all good Visa in hand and she is here now ... The journey is brutal the ups are up but wow the downs I don't know if there is one proper word to describe it "Exasperating plus"
HOWEVER LOVE ALWAYS PREVAILS 1 Cor 13:8

It has been a wonderful week as I pick Julie up last Monday. At first site I ran to her and told her I loved her and would never let you go. From SFO we went home in a Limo, but my poor sweetheart was so tired she took one sip of champagne and slept half the way. When we got home there on the porch were some item’s I shopped for over the internet that included her favorite coffee, Yorkshire pudding, gravy, and a few other English items she likes. Then as we walked in there was her dog Molly very excited and her cat Custard, 2 dozen roses and a card that read FOREVER LOVE with some US spending money, 1 ½ closets, 2 dressers and a full bed and bath room empty just for her. I have thought to myself these closing weeks here is a beautiful women who sold her home, gave up a great paying job, not to mention her family and friends … I AM THE LUCKIEST MAN ON THE EARTH ... Julie and I are enjoying shopping, decorating, gardening, church, walks in the parks and dining out. She has already picked out her wedding dress and we have the church, pastor, photographer and songs all set for 19th of Nov 2001. We are learning how to work and communicate together as a couple and make plans for our future. I cannot thank God enough for bringing us together finally and for the love and the support from all of you. x

I wasn't lying about having 3 children. I have said I have 3 kids, but i can only claim two of them, and the ex claims one. So that might have been where your confusion came from. I can see how it might seem that I am only claiming two but have 3. But that is true. I have 3 kids but can only claim 2, that was the divorce agreement.
Hope that helps clear that up.

I have been reading here and sadly I can not see an instant solution. Heck I'd sponsor you myself if I could afford to! In your case it is obvious how much better off you would be with him here. Too bad there is not an option which requires him to go back to Canada if he ever applies for aid and you can go that route. The only other thing I can think of is if he can come to the US on a work visa and apply for residency and citizenship as the time allows, or is there another visa option.
My parents and their two kids came from Canada to the US, that is how I got here. They were unemployed and I was told it was months before we even had furniture. But this was 1965. Amazing how immigrants back then were willing to do anything to reach for the dream, yet today this 125% stuff today just assumes immigrants are here for freebies.

I think the ex can be used here for some leverage but in a way less harmful to the children - Instead of asking him to co-sponsor ask him for help with getting you into a position where you can work and earn a living. This is a win for him because most likely his payments to you are partially based on your income. If he helps by watching or paying extra for someone or help you watch the kids you can work and earn enough to not need a co-sponsor. When you bring your guy over that job can go to him and relieve your ex of the extra money/time while you and your (then) husband work out whatever you can.. If your ex can look at the long term benefit of doing this it can be a win for everyone.

This website is amazing and has some of the best people. That being said, there are some people on here who seem to just want to make people feel stupid or bring them down. I have seen posts asking about booking flights and scheduling weddings and yes, you shouldn't do any of that until the visa is in hand but NO ONE IS PERFECT. People get excited and may get bad advice and jump the gun a bit. Does that give anyone the right to be mean or disrespectful to someone else? We are ALL on here b/c we want to marry our loved one so maybe people could try having a little compassion for the other people on here. If someone asks a question that you think is stupid, JUST DON'T REPLY!!!!! My mother always used to say "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". Maybe some of the people on here need to follow that mantra. Just b/c you're miserable doesn't mean you have to try to convert everyone else into a life of misery as well.
Good luck to everyone and God bless!!

"Perhaps a CR1 process that is less costly and will give him immediate work privileges is meant to be a part of your focus. If you go through it with no snags, you could be done before he maxes out his annual time here AND give your close friends a chance to see him/know him better so that they can feel more comfortable saying 'yes' to sponsoring him if you still have your back against the wall".
Unfortunately the OP still needs to overcome the income hurdle she faces whether she continues the K-1 route or if she marries and goes the CR-1. While it's true that the non USC can immediately work upon his arrival under a CR-1, the CR-1 won't be approved unless the OP meets the minimum income criteria. It's a catch-22.
Thanks. My heart goes out to the OP and I figured it just might work. Everybody wins if she can convince her ex to co-sponsor

This really is the sanest approach.
Igor's list appears to scan profiles' timelines and construct some sort of order. It's a laudable goal, and let's suppose, for the sake of argument, that his code is flawless and does exactly what it is purpoted to do.
Even so, the problem is, visajourney is not a representative sample of all people waiting for K-1s (or any other visa). It's self reporting, and my guess is, there are a disproportionate number of users who have encountered roadblocks (hence they seek advice here). Or, perhaps, we're smarter and more computer savvy and have filled out our applications more accurately than the general population.
In any event, the only real source of data would be from within USCIS, and that's not going to be forthcoming before your fiance becomes a bonafide citizen, if ever. Yes, I look at the timeline predictions for amusement, more because the computer geek in me is curious how it's implemented, but it's just a very uneducated guess.

Is no one reading and understanding that I have 3 kids. I may have a ex-husband, but I would never ever do something like up and move to canada and take my kids from their father, so I don't understand why I keep getting comments to move to canada. Are you saying that I should tear my kids away from their father, or suggesting I leave them behind?
Neither are an option. I believe in my God above and believe that he has put Rick and I together for a reason, and he will make a way.

Wow, your jumping to conclusions here. First I never said I asked him to come here, it has been his choice to move here to be with me. Secondly, I never mentioned that I wasn't willing to move to Canada, but since you are mentioning it, I think that you should know that I have 3 children whom their father would never in a million years sign for my kids to move out of the country. First that is not the kind of person I am, to up and move my kids away from their father. My kids would suffer because of that. And secondly, my fiance has 2 children that are adults now, so it is much easier to have him move here.
Why do you think that we did not have a conversation about who would be moving where?
You've made a lot of assumptions that are not accurate.
You have said nothing in this post that has been uplifting at all, but quite the opposite, and that is not what this forum is for, but instead it is for us to be able to come here for support. I have looked at my other options and right now, I don't see any. Desperate? Yes, maybe I might sound a little desperate to find a solution to this problem, cause this is my soulmate and my best friend we are talking about. Living life without him is not a option. My fiance has a good career in canada, but the field which he has expertise in is slim in canada but not here in the states, so he is excited about moving down here and getting back to doing what he loves.

All you had to do was step away from here and not pay attention a second and Wala! there is noa 2
Congrats I'm sooo happy for you two! I hope this gives you both a second wind

I agree completely with you. It is only because we have been doing so much reading on VJ that we have found so many answers to our questions. I will be doing all the paperwork from this point on without our attorney. Those on this board are the ones with the true answers, for they are the ones that have walked the journey.
Don't know if anyone on this board has heard of Allan S. Lolly & Associates, but this is who we have been working with. Thanks to everyone here who gives us straight answers.

Your telling me!!!! We got a RFE because they wanted photos that had date stamps on them. We had no real primary evidence because we live only 8 hours apart and my fiance drives here every month. They told us nothing about photo's needing dates on them, nor did they explain primary evidence or secondary evidence. We only found this site this month and thank god we did. This site has been awesome. What I don't get is why on earth did my attorney not recognize that we had no real primary evidence and tell us right away before they sent it out that we needed to provide photo's with dates on them.Wwe had lots of photo's from each month and gas receipts from his travels and toll booth receipts. They also cost us 6 weeks of waiting till they finally submitted our I-129F to the USCIS because they would only speak to us via email only. I have been thinking about firing him and taking over from this point on. So upset that they are not acting very professional. Not to mention that they won't talk to us about the next steps in the visa process until we get a approval. So basically they are leaving us in the dark, but the laugh is on them. Cause my fiance and I have been learning so much from this site and all the research we have been doing.
My fiance is a hard worker and works 2 full time jobs now in canada and he is a quality engineer and hopefully won't have a problem finding work when he gets here and is allowed to work.
Thanks