Fetaria

Got the new and improved correct green card.. done with this nonsense for a little while

Good luck and may the force be with you all still waiting.

Name--------------Sent I-90------Arrived-------Sent to-----Reason--------------NOA------------New card

Hotairguy---------------?--------------?------------NSC------wrong name-------04/18/05--------------?

Dano--------------------?--------------?--------------?--------wrong sex--------------?--------------02/16/06

Aussie_Rachel-----10/13-05-----10/17/05------NBC-----wrong country------None------------02/14/06

Jpatter123---------11/02/05-----11/15/05------CSC-----wrong sex----------11/23/05--------02/10/06

Steffi----------------11/30/05----12/06/05-------CSC-----wrong photo-----------?--------------02/27/06 file "closed" -"didn't" receive RFE that they did receive

Kezzie--------------12/20/05-----12/21/05------NBC------no card-------------02/03/06 refiled-had to pay fee

Atlantis-------------12/31/05-----12/31/06------MSC(Efile)-lost card---------01/03/05-------------????

Kearinne-----------01/18/06-----01/19/06------CSC------wrong sex---------02/03/06---------03/24/06 RFE

marknir-------------01/31/06-----02/03/06------CSC------wrong country----03/27/06---------05/17/06

Kezzie (refiled)---02/03/06------02/03/06-------NBC------No Card-----------02/13/06---------07/17/06

Debra&John-------02/13/06-----02/15/06-------MSC-----wrong photo------03/18/06----------03/27/06

Aline---------------------?---------------?--------------?--------wrong name----------?--------------------?

Nushagak27-----------?---------------?--------------?--------wrong date-----------?---------------??/??/06

Charles------------03/06/06---------------------------------- wrong name --------------------------------------

Silver---------------03/06/06-----03/07/06-------NBC-----wrong date---------04/14/06---------04/27/06

Steffi (refiled)-----03/07/06-----03/09/06-------MSC-----wrong photo---------N/A-------------04/05/06 RFE---08/22/06

CeriseRose--------04/21/06--------?--------------MSC-----wrong birthdate------?---------------------?

silent-whispers---04/25/06-----04/28/06-------TSC------wrong name----------------------------------------

Fetaria-------------06/08/06------------------------MSC------wrong sex-------08/28/06---------09/29/06

Cdnwmn-----------06/08/06----------?------------NSC------wrong status---------?-------------------?

rahma--------------06/08/06-----------------------NSC------wrong name-----------------------------------------

Pink-Roses...........08/19/06...?....................?...............MSC...-...wrong date..............?........................?

qingqing..............06/15/06....06/17/06............NBC.......wrong country........8/28/06............9/28/06

Kelly_irl..............07/21/2006--------------------TSC-------wrong name---------------------------08/01/2006

CK-----------------06/14/06------06/16/06-------NBC--------No Card-----------09/17/06---------------?

lynzm22...........will be sending I-90 in a few weeks....CSC....wrong dates

Got a letter today saying to expect the new and improved green card in 2-3 weeks

When I saw the envelope and felt that there was no card shape in there I got angry instantly wondering what it was they would want from me next.. preparing to give them my first born (about the only thing they have not asked me for by now in this crazy process) ... what a relief to see it was just a letter telling me the card is on the way.

Being that your children are under 14 they do not have to have the entire finger/handprinting that you had done but they will need their pictures taken (and one print if I remember right) for their green cards. They definately do need Biometrics appointments.

If only it were that simple. We were told the same thing when we explained to others that we were going through the ordeal of a K1 Visa and having to spend all that time apart.. so many told us to just go ahead and get married. The problem with that is we already had the intention to marry and to have to explain to the immigration authorities that it was a spur of the moment idea would of been a lie. We were not willing to take the risk of lying and suffer the consequences. If it were as easy as hooking up and getting married this would be a very quiet web site.

Finally got word from them. A general letter asking us not to contact them To expect a 90-120 day wait on a replacement card. I am just happy to hear from them at this point.

Name--------------Sent I-90------Arrived-------Sent to-----Reason--------------NOA------------New card

Hotairguy---------------?--------------?------------NSC------wrong name-------04/18/05--------------?

Dano--------------------?--------------?--------------?--------wrong sex--------------?--------------02/16/06

Aussie_Rachel-----10/13-05-----10/17/05------NBC-----wrong country------None------------02/14/06

Jpatter123---------11/02/05-----11/15/05------CSC-----wrong sex----------11/23/05--------02/10/06

Steffi----------------11/30/05----12/06/05-------CSC-----wrong photo-----------?--------------02/27/06 file "closed" -"didn't" receive RFE that they did receive

Kezzie--------------12/20/05-----12/21/05------NBC------no card-------------02/03/06 refiled-had to pay fee

Atlantis-------------12/31/05-----12/31/06------MSC(Efile)-lost card---------01/03/05-------------????

Kearinne-----------01/18/06-----01/19/06------CSC------wrong sex---------02/03/06---------03/24/06 RFE

marknir-------------01/31/06-----02/03/06------CSC------wrong country----03/27/06---------05/17/06

Kezzie (refiled)---02/03/06------02/03/06-------NBC------No Card-----------02/13/06---------07/17/06

Debra&John-------02/13/06-----02/15/06-------MSC-----wrong photo------03/18/06----------03/27/06

Aline---------------------?---------------?--------------?--------wrong name----------?--------------------?

Nushagak27-----------?---------------?--------------?--------wrong date-----------?---------------??/??/06

Charles------------03/06/06---------------------------------- wrong name --------------------------------------

Silver---------------03/06/06-----03/07/06-------NBC-----wrong date---------04/14/06---------04/27/06

Steffi (refiled)-----03/07/06-----03/09/06-------MSC-----wrong photo---------N/A-------------04/05/06 RFE---08/22/06

CeriseRose--------04/21/06--------?--------------MSC-----wrong birthdate------?---------------------?

silent-whispers---04/25/06-----04/28/06-------TSC------wrong name----------------------------------------

Fetaria-------------06/08/06------------------------MSC------wrong sex-------08/28/06--------------------

Cdnwmn-----------06/08/06----------?------------NSC------wrong status---------?-------------------?

rahma--------------06/08/06-----------------------NSC------wrong name-----------------------------------------

Pink-Roses...............?....................?...............MSC...-...wrong date..............?........................?

qingqing..............06/15/06....06/17/06............NBC.......wrong country........

Kelly_irl..............07/21/2006--------------------TSC-------wrong name---------------------------08/01/2006

CK-----------------06/14/06------06/16/06-------NBC--------No Card-----------09/17/06---------------?

Rich,

I had the exact error from the exact service center and from what you said I think we dealt with the exact woman on the telephone who was reading from a script! I tried a two way conversation with her but she just kept reading off her little blip about the process I needed to go through to correct their mistake. So we sent off even more documentation along with duplicated information they already had in order to prove that yes indeed I am a female who married a male USC. Thinking back I wish I would of sent it back to them with a RFE of some sort but I am not in a position to be snooty when they call all the shots.

I still have no SSN number and have been on my husband's medical insurance since shortly after I arrived.

Try and contact the medical office that did your initial blood work and testing, if they have a copy of your file they could send the information for you to prove that it has already been done. Sounds like wires got crossed somewhere along the way.

We are working on those letters now to get the "powers-that-be" involved ... hopefully it helps!

It has been over two months since I applied for a new card and have not heard a peep. From the others in the list it looks as if the MSC does send out NOAs yet I have not recieved one yet. Is it that random or should I be calling someone?

How about some advice to those of use who will be sending our babes home to visit family when we move? My kids will see their dad lots I'm sure- it's up to him...but having them away for a whole summer etc, what do you do to keep focused and not be sick with worry? I am really worried I won't be able to function without them, let alone focus on a new marrige and life. Any advice, we will get a camera phone for the computer, I was thinking of making them some photo albums to bring of new house etc. It will make me nuts--- proud of you guys that do the whole long distance parent thing, good job.

I am usually nervous from the moment they leave my sight to be with their dad until the moment they return. It is hard not to be when I don't agree with his "parenting techniques" if you can call them that. How old are your children? I started a scrapbook for my daughter so she could show her family and friends her new home and school and things like that, she worked on it while she was there to add things she does while she is there. We talk on the phone a lot, as well playing games online with each other. Some nights they would call at bed time so I could kinda lull them to sleep with my voice, a way to tuck them in from afar. Those calls are hard though, I find them to hurt my heart more than any. Stay positive for them and talk lots about all the good things they will get to do while away as well as what to look forward to when they return. Another thing I do for them is to hide a note or surprise in their carry on bag for the flight. That is all I can remember at this time. Good luck to you

That is unfortunate if a forum could not be started for such a thing. Obviously it does happen and it is reality. I guess it may be a bit like having divorce pamphlets at the chapel as you walk in to marry but really this is an issue that many come here looking for answers. Marriage is a huge step, even more so when it involves leaving your home country to do so. Not a step to be taken lightly, so for those who think it could never happen to them a little taste of the possibility is not such a bad thing. As with everything else in life I always think it is a good idea to keep in the back of you mind what Plan B would be if Plan A did not work out as you had hoped.

Alison,

You are not alone. I feel bad for you in your situation. It bothers me when I hear of people like your children's stepmother acting as she does. She must not realise how the people she is truly hurting are the kids. As weird as we feel our ex-spouses are we try very hard to be civil and keep the kids in mind when interacting with the other parents. No matter what a duffass I think their dad is I would never let them hear me say so I know it is hard with the head lice thing. I am very particular about hygiene whereas my es husband is SO not. The kids go from one extreme to the other. When I picked my son up from the airport he told me he had tried to get back into the routine of brushing his teeth every day knowing I would be after him to do so We thought of giving them both hot showers with bleach when we picked them up. The cleaned up good though. I do hope your daughter is able to move and be with you. Keep us posted on that.

Hello all! A lot has changed in the past 3-4 weeks since I've written last. Keith was offered the job in Tampa, and we were 99% sure we were going to take it as it was the ONLY job offer he had had since he got his work permit in January, but two days after their offer arrived, Keith got offered a local job - though starting at the bottom. The money for Tampa was 3 x better , but not only did my daughter not want to move with us (she would have moved in with her dad here), we had to think about the up-front money we didn't have to get started in a new city/state. We were going to rent a house and would have had to put down security deposit and 1st month's rent, put deposits on utilities, etc., and since Keith has been out of work since he left England last September, we are BROKE, though my dad offered to loan us what money we needed up front. Also, if the company for some reason didn't like Keith (or he didn't like them/the job) and they fired him (their offer stated "Florida is an at-risk state and employees can be terminated without cause or notice"), we would be stuck in a far away town from our family and friends. Anyhow, as I said, he took the "peon" job and will work himself up (unless he gets any better job offers). The owner of the engineering firm was very impressed with Keith's resume, but he is having to learn a whole new type of engineering (he was a mechanical engineer and this is bioscientific or something). He is going through a 3 month training period without any benefits , will work as a technician for 3 more months, and then hopefully if he learns this new stuff, they will promote him to engineer.

So that is where we have been - discussing job options, stressing, weighing the pros and cons, and coming to a final decision. I wish you all the best and I know Fetaria is having a GREAT time with her kids right this very minute.

Isn't that the way of life? You think you know which direction you are heading and then BAM the fates throw you in a different direction. Well hopefully Keith's job works out how you want it to. Although less pay, it solved the problem of having to leave your daughter which is great. Who knows, he may move up that ladder rather quickly being that he is already such a smart cookie with a shining resume. I really am having a wonderful time with the kids here. The little ones adore my son and see him as a superhero so he likes that. I swear he has grown two feet.. he is not even 12 yet and almost as tall as me! We are off to Disneyland on Friday so we are all having trouble sleeping already with all the excitement

Was so good to hear from you Shari as I was wondering what was going on in your world.

1. Paying with checks - I avoid it as much as I can, but my husband is very used to them.

I did once! I forgot my PIN for my bank card I had never used a cheque to pay for anything in a store before. Its rare in Canada that stores will even still take a cheque anymore.

Started writing checks.. instead of cheques, coloring instead of colouring and going to the theater instead of the theatre.

2 more sleeps until I have ALL my kids with me again We are planning a trip to Disneyland on the 4th of August. It will be my first time there as well so I think I am just as excited as the kids are about it.

Been thinking of you all, wondering how things are going.

Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus.

Good book about how we communicate differently and how to not change each other but understand and help connect.

Drive aggressively, buy booze at a grocery store and eat french fries without vineger

This baby factory is closed!

We had toyed with the idea before I got here. How wonderful it would be to have our own child and all that. Once we experienced a house with four children in it from the age of 2 to 11 we knew we were so done. We love each others children as our own, we had concerns whether a new baby between us may cause resentment from the others also, not that we could not of got through that.. it was just another reason not to. That and we are already counting down till they are grown and out of the house

My daughter had no trouble enrolling, as others have said proof of vaccinations are required. HepB was one of them so she had to get that one caught up. Also, good to have your child know the Pledge of Allegiance I did not think of that.. she had to learn it in English and Spanish here. I think she would of preferred to of known before hand. First day she came home all wide eyed and bewildered over not knowing the routine. Now she is an old pro though

Think about every child who has had to endure a divorce, whether the mom or dad has moved far away or not. Some have feelings of abandonment and others do not. It is very much up to how the separation is dealt with. Of course no child wants this to happen and wishes for their family to stay together, this is a huge life altering experience.

We cannot put people into two categories here or on any other topic. Too many variables come into place. All we can do is share our own experiences and find a common thread.

A family therapist I talked to years ago told me.. never say never. You can persume how you would deal with a crisis or situation all you want, but until you are faced with it in person you truly have no idea the decisions you would make.

Whether you have chose to move away from you children or not, I hope everyone still feels comfortable in sharing their honest opinions here.

Where did you all go?? This is not looking so promising with no new updates on the green card fixes! We have not seen or heard anything from them since we sent the I-90 on June 8th.

I am sure there are some people, as mentioned, who it did not work out so well for and feel as though they were abandoned and that truly is a terrible feeling. Just as some children grow up resenting the parents they did live with the entire time. It is all in the parenting and how it is handled near or far. My son gets praise and punishment from me still, there is a daily connection with us. I grounded him a couple weeks ago... I am never to far away to parent. I appreciate the posts that give both sides and welcome them. Like most everyone, I am interested to know others stories in similar situations as us. It helps us deal as well as keep in check what it is we need to do to avoid as many mistakes as possible. I am ok with those who say " I would never leave my children " as long as they are not judging those who have. Everyone's situation is different. Empathy is such a wonderful quality in a person.

Of all the questions through out the entire process, this was the biggy for us. K1 interview, initial POE entry, and every time she travels across the border it is addressed. For the childs benefit, they take very much precaution as to where that child belongs and with who. They want documentation and this is a good thing