The Mean Lady

I think I probably do more weird things than my husband.

This is all I can think of:

• Won't dry the dishes after he washes them. He just puts them all away so I come in the next morning with a paper towel and dry them all off otherwise a few more days and the stale water smells disgusting

• He'll leave leftovers out over night and eat them in the morning for breakfast. Grosses me out so much. I know he's probably built up an immune system for it though. I don't think I could do that. I'd get sick!

• If he doesn't particularly care for something, but doesn't dislike it, he says he's not fussy on it. But he'll say it like 10 times in the time he's telling me about how he doesn't care either way.

• The first time we met, he bought a burger from mcdonalds. He didn't eat it for hours, then when he did, he ate each layer separately. He only does this if he doesn't eat it right away.

You must send one photo document (Usually US passport) therefor unless you want to be without the childs passport for a year you will probably want to send a notarized copy.

If your husband is canadian then yes your children together will automatically have canadian citzenship, You will be apply for a Canadian certificate the same way a child born in Canada would apply for us certificate.

Are there costs associated with this?

A w2 is what is given to people that work in the US at the end of the year to show what they've earned all year so they can file taxes. Sorry, I cannot answer your other question.

It's likely just the passport requirement that limits people. People can't just hop in the car and take a trip to Canada like they used to, have to get an enhanced license or a passport. It takes the spontaneity out of it.

Sorry, that's what I meant by hightened security.

This is very close to exactly what we are doing. I know a lot of people ask about crossing the border but all the ones I could find were people who were dating/engages/already filled out paperwork. We got married and now everything is kind of in limbo. I haven't seen my husband since July and I'm going for my Thanksgiving break and I think I would not be ok if they denied me. You are right though, my kids are big ties and it is a round trip ticket. Thank you!

Then I'm pretty certain you will have no issues.

The people at the Canadian border are REALLY nice.

Be honest about how your husband got a new dream job and you're putting off paperwork for a few years and also bring a lease/mortgage if you have any. Those are also very key ties that make the border patrol sleep better at night.

I don't know if I'm reading this correctly, but my understanding is that you need to supply the baby's BC and SSN card to canada?

If so, it's easy to get replacements in the US, I would just send the originals.

Could someone explain this to me further?

Am I understanding correctly that if I give birth to children in the US (my husband is canadian) then they can have citizenship in Canada as well? Is it a process of filing paperwork with fees like our CR1?

I forgot to mention I will be flying and only staying for 10 days. I'm mainly worried that since we aren't filing any paperwork they will be suspicious.

I have been married to my husband (also a canadian citizen) for 2 years and we haven't filed paperwork yet.

They've never given me a hassle at the border, they only ask me what my future intentions are.

For a while, I had to tell them 'i'm not sure, my husband was supposed to come live with me in the US but then he changed his mind so we're still working out which way we will go'

As long as you have ties to the US, you should never have an issue.

Heck, your kids are a pretty big tie to the US!

The canadian border is very accomodating and will also call people if they are unsure.

Make sure to tell people in the US when you'll be returning so if they want to call someone to confirm, they can.

Also, if you're flying, I presume you'll have a return flight ticket? That's MAJOR proof you're returning to the US as well.

Worry not, I'm sure you will have no trouble at all.

It is the US citizen that must prove domicile in the US. It is part of the I864. Do you have a job in the US? Are you a legal resident of Canada?

Good luck

I have a full time job in the US and I am a resident of the US only.

I know there is a stickied thread, but quite honestly, I'm not understanding exactly what the thread is pertaining to.

Could you tell me, is there a step in the process where my husband has to prove intending domicile in the US?

Or am I the one that needs to prove domicile?

I hold no apt in the US, but ALL of my bills/license are in the US (at my parents).

I travel to canada too much to hold a residence myself there so I pay for my husband's/my residence in canada.

If it is that my husband has to provide domicile in the US, then do I just submit all of my information with my parent's address on it? It's intended that no more than a month after we move down there, we'd just get an apt...

My husband is gorgeous to me, but unless every guy at the USBP is gay, I don't think that's why they pull him in =P

Actually - I STILL get hassled, even with my green card.

Before getting mine, I had been refused entry into the US a couple of times (no deportation or anything, just a withdrawal of admission into the US) and I expected (and was) put into secondary all the time - by land and by air. But I've crossed into Canada three times now, since moving here (twice by land and once by air) and ALL three times I've been put into secondary with NO reason given. They ask me a couple of questions, I'm usually held up 15 or 20 mins and then I'm allowed to go on my merry way.

It's beyond frustrating. I can understand them checking to make sure my green card is legit, also I can understand them checking to make sure there's no warrants or criminal issues in regards to me but everytime they ask me questions about my past from waaaaaaaaaaaaay back and I KNOW they can see the answers on their computers. Sometimes I feel like they are jerking me around, to see if I'll give them a different answer. It's ridiculous.

It really irks me the way the USBP works, although, I will admit, in the estimated... idk... 20+ years that I can remember going back and forth from canada (when I was younger it was with my parents on vacation) I can see a definite lowering in the qty of people crossing. When I was a kid, the lines were MILES long on a sunday. Now, I wait maybe 15 minutes to get to a booth. I can't help but wonder if the attitude of border patrol combined with the heightened security since 9/11 hasn't caused this. It's not so bad for me having to cross so often lol.

Still, ever since bringing my husband over, i FREAK approaching the border. My heard beats a million times a minute and I just FEEL like i've done something wrong even though I haven't!

For 2+ years, it took well over an HOUR to get my husband through secondary (if he got through at all). In June it was a blessing at only 35 minutes! I had never felt so elated after leaving there lol.

Our trouble is due to the fact that I brought my husband over for 2.5 months with no ties. You don't need mailed bills, print your e-statements including your bank statement.

On a visitor visa you need to keep strong ties to Canada, steady employment, owning your own home or condo, bring a few pay stubs and a lease agreement with you. It is a visitor visa, it doesn't allow you to "live" in the US. You are not allowed to work while in the states, so you would not want to mention "working remotely" to the POE officer. All you need to tell the POE officer is you're coming for a vacation to visit your boyfriend. You should keep your initial visits short, two weeks or so aned return when you say you will. Once you are allowed into the states, you are allowed to stay for up to 6 months as long as it was not noted otherwise by the POE officer.

I do not agree with not wanting to mention "working remotely"

I work remotely and have expressed that openly to the officers every single time I cross.

Especially if they are going to be staying for long periods of time, the officer is probably going to say the same thing they did to me "(sarcastic)so your boss is just super nice and lets you take off 2 months?" to which i responded "oh, no, sorry, I have the ability to work from the computer" to which they always fully understand afterwards.

My office requires that any remote employee must return once per quarter so I always carry a letter from my employer stating my intended return date as well.

haha, your post made me chuckle. Yeah, the ONLY reason I am leaving Canada is for Cody. Well happy to hear it gets easier, but at least I know to expect some hassle for a little. I am moving down next weekend, so I hope I get nice CBP officers!

My husband and I have been married for 2 years... that's how long it took to convince him to move lol

Thank you guys for your input! That's why I asked, I felt like it seemed suspicious even though it really wasn't... just don't want someone denying me off the bat because I can't fully explain it all lol.

So I don't have to start another thread, does anyone know if black and white prints are okay? Or should I pay for the color prints on the pages that have our pictures on them? I was going to include some ACTUAL photos as well on top of the page compilations.

I make 36k so they can look as close as they want lol, I just never have that large of a chunk of change lying around.

I just won't mention it to be safe, though. My boss, however, does have a relationship with my husband as he has met him several times and was even at our wedding. That's the only reason I'd have him write a letter. My husband, also, will most likely be working for our company after he's allowed.

If an affidavit from my employer is worthless, then an affidavit from anyone is worthless.

The object is to prove my relationship and my boss saying he's aware of our relationship and lets me travel back and forth has as much worth as my mother saying it, if not more.

I will be having my boss write one.

My work is paying the first $420 cost for the paperwork process because they want me to stop traveling so much and be in the office and I don't really have the money for paperwork. If I have my boss do an affidavit towards proof of relationship, would it be beneficial for him to mention that they are paying for the paperwork? Or could that hurt my case in any way?

I have photos like this from my work christmas party last year. there's a picture of myself and my husband, then a picture of myself my husband and mother... I think your evidence of your husband and your boss are great evidence! I couldn't get any like that lol

Maybe mine have been more rude, but you know, at the end of the day I've never been handed any paper, and I've never been refused. I wish I could remember the officers names who really bothered me on those two occasions, because one of those times I cried the whole way to Ohio lol. I kept wondering if I had my identity stolen! I wish all the officers were professional and down to business. I understand that they tried to intimidate me to see if I would fess up to something. But I really have never done anything wrong and have nothing to hide!

I'm sorry to hear about your experiences, I think yours are more heartbreaking. I hate being treated like I am a criminal, but at the same time I am happy I've never been strip searched or something ridiculous like that.

Have you had any trouble crossing now that you're married? (my next biggest concern)

Hmmm... I don't think we've been denied since being married, because by then, we'd finally covered all of our ties.

I know he came over for thanksgiving in 2010 just a few weeks after we were married... I know he wasn't with me for christmas that year, though, but I can't recall if we even tried or not since he was just there for thanksgiving.

It's gotten much easier and they told us it would take about 5 years of hassle with a spotless return record until we'd have even a CHANCE of going through w/o being pulled in. There's still about a year and a half of that.

I also hate that my husband is treated like a criminal. Especially now that blue water has that stupid new locked room where you REALLY feel like a criminal; because everyone else in there WAS ONE! My husband has a spotless record and, let's be honest, the canadians aren't exactly known for hopping the border because they like the US so much more...

When my husband gets packages from canada post, he`s always tracking them and I told him that`s quite a luxury. The tracking system for USPS is a complete joke. I`ve had things say they weren`t delivered for 2 days (even though they`re in my hands) and things say they WERE delivered the day before they actually were....

Oh god, you poor thing... and I thought my husband had it bad!

It all started 3.5 years ago when he was coming for 2.5 months to visit.

We wanted a long visit to make sure a relationship was right for us since previously we were just long distance friends.

My (bf at the time) didn`t have a job because he was previously nannying for his sister who was going through postpartum and I told him to not bother looking as he was coming to visit for 2.5 months (so he`d lose it anyways lol).

At the time, he was also staying in a second building on his dad`s property (no reason for a lease obviously) and he had done work around his dad`s farm and just got paid in cash.

We came with absolutely no ties, because we`d never even known that was something to worry about.

They denied him and I was bawling in the middle of the open room inside.

Idk what came over me, but I barely remember asking to speak to a supervisor.

Office Coza was amazingly nice and I explained to him that he was my bf and we didn`t know if marriage would ever be right for us if we couldn`t spend a decent amount of time together.

His response was LET THE LOVERS GO! and me husband got an I90 and was able to stay with me.

I had returned him to Canada in September, lost my job, and decided to stay with him for a bit up there while I looked online for something so I went up there in late november.

In December, we tried to cross with him for christmas and this time we brought as much information as we could from his dad and his dad`s gf stating what he gets paid and where he lived, but they denied him anyways. Office coza was not on duty and the other supervisor didn`t agree with me, so I had to drive 2 hours back to drop him off, then wake up the next morning and leave again (extra day of work lost).

After 3.5 years, it`s very jumbled, but I remember another time when this crazy lady threatened him with deportation for absolutely NO reason at all. That is the rudest lady there has been. Your rude officers have been 10 times worse than mine, though I`ve NEVER been able to wait while they search our car, we`re always put inside.

As I stated above briefly, they were going to deny him on our WEDDING DAY when he was crossing with his MOM (both of them had PLENTY of ties). But I hadn`t heard from him in a while so I called the direct number they had given me at a recent crossing. I spoke with a guy and said to him `hello, my husband is there trying to cross with his mother, I haven`t heard from him in a while and I`m worried I`ll have to call 80 people and cancel our wedding in 3 days, could you please give me a status` and he came back saying that everything was fine... my husband later told me he was being denied until that guy came over and told the office to let them through THANK GOD FOR ME!

Ever since, I think we`ve had about 3 I90s, 4 or 5 denials, and maybe 3 or 4 let throughs.

They have this new special locked room at blue water bridge for the `criminals` which apparently we`re considered so we sit in there with felons and people that were carrying drugs lmao.

Most recently, in June, we were in there for about 35 minutes, but that was because (2) felons were being denied first and they only spent 5 minutes on us, looked over our TONS of paperwork (lots accumulated!) and said to have a nice trip WITH NO I90!! Hoping for similar in December because he`ll have paperwork filed then, though they`ve always told us it will get easier for us when we start the process and to just bring out proof of current filing status.

The most recent, in June, we

I don't think a SSN affects anything as my husband and I got married w/o filing any paperwork at all... meaning of course he would have no social security number. I can't recall completely, but he might have provided his social insurance number.