Babygyrl233

Thank you blest. Very helpful

Husband has a 10 year green card. Got arrested for domestic violence. He has to do 12 anger management classes within 3 months to get the case dismissed. The arrest will still be on his record but the misdemeanor charge will not if he completes his classes. He has a restraining order against him for domestic violence for 3 years. My question is does uscis know this now? Even though the conviction will not be on his record, is this not grounds for deportation? I've read it isn't. A separation of marriage will be filed too.

He does have a 10 year, there's nothing i can do. Moving on after 6 years. Easier said than done. Everyone should be warned about this stuff. I should've followed my instincts when i seen he was not the same person when he got out here. Im sick with cancer and he walks away in the midst of my health. That can't be evidence enough...bs. I'll let God take care of it. Maybe we'll end up working things out.

what would happen if I remove my affidavit of support. he has a job and stuff now

I don't remember how many years they give you after you Adjust your status after K-1. Maybe 10 year green card. either way my husband now decides he doesn't want to be in a marriage, which makes me think he has used me. there is no real reason of why he doesn't want to be married, but said he will be with me still. just not live together or be married. what kind of mess is that. one time we get in a dispute and the first person he calls is an immigration lawyer. what can I do now about his green card since I think he used me. I don't think it is right he stays in the country now, with a job and car etc. living a free life after all the paperwork, money and time I have spent in this relationship. anyone have any ideas???

well I'm here to give an update. The interview went okay. We got someone nicer than the last time. they said they would have taken my health concerns in to consideration for the first interview. They asked questions in regards to the first officers concerns, some other questions like if we took a family vacation, to where, who lives in the home, how many bedrooms, a little detail about tge back yard. they question me first and then they questioned him. He had all the paperwork so he gave her the copies. I manage to get him on some more assets. I'll explain ed to the officer that I had no knowledge about joint after it's because I am so young and we just recently got married, I've never had joint assets in my first marriage. I was honest and the officer was nice. I explained how the first officer only wanted to see joint assets and nothing else. we did not practice, our answers were real like our relationship. like I said in an earlier post since we do everything together we already knew the answer. God was with us. I was even as honest to tell them that I only got more joint assets because I needed them for this. Thanks everyone for your comments.

Oh and his card came in the mail today. and a few days ago he got his approval letter. So everything came within the same week.

[quote name='Anna Grant' timestamp='1364838538' post='6107175'

And you can control the future, whether it's God's will or not.

Things may not turn out the way you expect.

I've just found the thread - it's post 8 - may be useful for the OP to read:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/83687-second-aos-interview-stokes-interview-stories/

Thanks this helps.

Sadly, it's not.

Your opinion.

OP - have you made wills with the other being the benificary?

I'm only 30, I wouldn't know the first thing about a will. I will figure things out and add his name ro whatever I can

I'm not sure you understand... if they don't like the answers, the case is denied and he will be given 30 days to leave the country or be placed in removal proceedings.

This is serious. He may think the carpet/curtains/doona is a different colour to you (for example when I was asking tony about this years ago I said our doona/comforter was a tan/green. He said brown). You can try practicing questions but you won't have any idea what they'll ask.

They CAN ask

- When did you last have sex?

- What birth control does she use?

- What is her/his favourite position?

- Where are the pots kept?

- When does the trash get collected?

- What side of the car do you fill on?

And any manner of questions they think will trip you up. I've heard of people being asked 100 questions. I believe 5 wrong means a denial.

This is VERY serious.

me and my hubby are close. So close that we always go everywhere together. Everywhere! I even got him a job where I work. So I'm not going to stress myself. If he gets denied then it's gods will. I can't control the future.

OK, well I hope you don't mind US considering it a much bigger deal than apparently you do, and trust me, the USCIS that you are about to deal with certainly considers a big deal when. So yeah, I guess if you don't think it's a big deal, and they do, well then I wish you the best. Doesn't seem like you're taking this very seriously, but I hope it all works out.

I do take it seriously, but not when my health is involved. I am going to do what I need to do, I've made it this far, and without an attorney. All of this is just happening at a bad time.

A Stokes interview is where they doubt that your relationship and marriage is not genuine.

If it is a Stokes, you will be separated and asked anything from 20 or 30 questions (or more) about your daily life together, such as "which side of the bed do you sleep on?", "what colour is your shower curtain?", "what did you eat for dinner last night and who cooked it?" and so on.

They will ask this identical set of questions to you both separately and then compare the answers. How closely the two sets of answers match will determine whether they approve or deny your applications.

If you do not have a lawyer you may want to consider hiring one to attend the interview with you (they will be permitted to remain in the room during both sets of questions).

I'm not worried about it then

So the next interview is probably the dreaded 'Fraud' interview, meaning, in your first interview they suspect that it's not a real relationship or something. THIS time, you'd better get your act together and go prepared. I also don't mean to be rude, but you said you were too lazy to add them to your account, and had no interest in doing so. That's not really a great attitude is it to have with your new spouse?

But this next interview is going to probably be fairly long, lots of questions. I would be shocked if they didn't interview you BOTH, not just him, right?

Good luck!

I shouldve elaborated on lazy because thats what keeps getting peoples attention. By lazy I meant I was more focused on my cancer than adding him to my bank accounts. This is my second marriage and I have never had knowledge about joint assets and both names being on this account or that. So when I say I wasnt interested I meant it wasn't a big deal before so I dont see it to be a big deal now. We love each other and thats all that matters. maybe we weren't prepared as they wanted us to be.

Expect a Stokes interview for your second interview.

Whats that?

Well we just received another notice saying he has a second interview and it will be videotaped. We have to bring evidence well the same evidence it seems like to me.

From what I know, interviews at the AOS stage are not so uncommon. We had one, and I can assure you that our file was very thick and full of very good evidence, and we had no red flags whatsoever. In fact, our AOS interview was an informal 3-minute talk just to go through the forms and to confirm our answers.

Uhm, no, you stated that he collected your passports, but in any event I don't think it is so unusual that they made copies of your documents, if that is your worry. Keep us posted on the outcome. Best of luck.

I'm not going to argue with you about what I stated. Reread my original post. I'm said they made copies

you should have brought a pile of evidence with you. I think it strange that the interviewer was using rules of adjudication from a ROC case, though (these are different than just the AOS rules, fwiw)

so .. .

either lack of prep, lack of evidence, or red flags - that's why you were pegged for an interview in the first place.

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we did bring a bunch of evidence, we just didnt have any joint assets. When I first filed I sent more than needed evidence. So why would they red flag us in the beginning

Did he give you a PAPER with the date of ROC? If not, they are still in the process of making decision.

no we did not receive any paper

Why did you guys come so unprepared? The interview letter is full of examples of documents that you can bring to support your case. I really hope you get approved, but having just a copy of a lease is pretty weak. No pictures of you? No joint health insurance? Less strong but no copies of receipt of something that you too bought for your home? Anything that shows that you too are sharing a life together can support your case.

Nobody here can tell you if you are approved or denied, the IO is the one making the decision so you need to wait for it.

I told him he was on my health insurance, we had our marriage certificate, we had pictures, copies of bills in his name. we had a lot of stuff but he only wanted to see joint assets.

I'm not trying to be rough on you but this is a serious matter and I always tell people that Immigration DOES NOT play. Don't say that you were lazy to open a joint account. It shows them that you both don't trust each other or it's not a real relationship (Sorry, with all due respect ) Always think of going once before these guys because they are looking for every little detail to deny you. So let keep our fingers cross. Good Luck! And it's not too late to open a joint account if in case they're watching you.

I didnt tell them we were lazy, but I did tell him due to my health issues I've been focusing more on that.

you mean he made copies of your passports, or he kept your passports?

I stated he made copies. He gave it all back but didnt stamp anything or give us any papers.

My husband and I show up ten minutes late for our interview. no long wait though. we finally get in there and he starts asking us how we met and when he proposed, all the history of our relationship. it seemed a bit rushed, he was a nice guy but seemed like he just needed the facts. he asked if we had any joint assets. we only have our names on the lease together. no joint bank account, was too lazy to add my name and was'nt really interested in doing so. we just shook our shoulders in confusion didnt really get to explain. He asked why I didnt add him to my registration for my car, I told him everything went through the dealership. so all we had was the lease. so he collected the lease, our passports and EAD card, 1-94, made copies and told us the results would be in the mail. so basically he's only on the lease. I'm hoping he doesnt get denied because of that...what do you guys think? they also asked us the yes or no questions from the application

two days ago they sent a request for more info to expedite. i faxed it this morning and a few hours later his status updated to Card Document Production! About time!

GOOD NEWS!!!

I found out how to expedite the EAD. thank to this website. I called on Tuesday 1/08 and basically let them know he needs it expedited. chose between the options i was provided for why he needed it expedited. and based on my reasoning it was shown he was approved today! he has been waiting since he took his Biometrics on 11/16. so we will see what happens now.