Dumb/Dumber

I wish I could offer you some good advice, but I have heard this story before. She had a life in her country before she met you and if she just married you to come to America, she needs to go back to her life. It is terrible that someone would do that to you, but it is very common so I am told. I personally will not let anyone take me for a ride. We go into a relationship or marriage to anyone and there is no guarantee, but if someone purposely sets out to hurt you, they do not deserve your concern. It is terrible for the child though.

Please do not lose hope and faith because that is all we have. I too have been waiting since November 15 for a NOA2. I put in a service request and was told we were in background checks and feel free to inquire back in 180 days if I do not hear anything. I was devastated. But I now think that they have not even looked at the application. I think they just try to put you off as long as they can. I sent 4 e-mails after receiving that answer and got the same answer all 4 times. I contacted my Senator and they got the same answer. Another member got the same answer, has the same NOA1 date as mine (Nov 15), and her Congressman contacted them and they sent her a 3 page RFE.
I do not know if it causes further delays to keep contacting them. At this point, I have turned it over to God. When I say that, I believe I have done everything I can and if God wants me to do more, He will lead me in the right direction. As far as letting this ruin my marriage, been there and tried that. My husband was so hurt. I promised him I would never take this out on him again. We try to keep each other's morale up everyday. We only talk about the NOA2 for a very short time and then move on to talking about the future.
This is painful, but this too will pass. It makes no sense that someone can be approved in less than 30 days and others may wait over 7 months. I went back and looked at all the approvals and it looked like to me some were waiting 5 to 6 months and never over 7 months, but something seems to be different now.
I pray you hear very soon. Please keep the hope and faith because you will get it.

My fellow past VJ'ers, present, and future VJ'ers,
I joined Visa Journey because I was very scared when I started reading bad stories about the immigration process. I wanted my fellow VJ'ers to offer me support. I wanted them to help me get through this process. But when everyone did not give me positive feedback, I honestly got hurt.
But I am hear to tell anyone going through this process that we have to listen to the good, the bad, and the ugly because this process is very difficult. We can learn from everyone here.
I was open and honest and so were my fellow VJ'ers. Everyone has their own way of expressing themselves. We have to embrace everything we are told no matter how hurtful it is. Remember that we are already in pain because we are away from our loved ones so when we hear something we do not like, it is like someone has poured salt on our wound. But that is ok. We have to listen because this process is not a cake walk. We have to prove our intentions. We have to be forthcoming. We must celebrate those who do get approved in less than four months because it means our time is coming too.
The experienced VJ'ers are just giving us a preview of what we will probably be facing. LISTEN and LISTEN well because they know their stuff.
I have learned that I was naive in thinking that I would be one of the lucky ones who would be approved in less than 4 months. I have learned that because of the details of my relationship that it is likely that the CO will not believe my husband truly loves me because I am so much older than he is. I have learned that this process can take years. No I did not want to hear that, and I am sure you do not either. But the reason they told me these things was to help me, not to hurt me.
I have learned to produce as much proof as possible. MORE is better than less. I have learned that losing my patience means wasting precious energy and time.
I would like to thank everyone who has tried to help me. Thank God for the kind and compassionate. And thank God for the straight talkers who provide the tough love I need to get through this process.
I am listening now.

My fellow past VJ'ers, present, and future VJ'ers,
I joined Visa Journey because I was very scared when I started reading bad stories about the immigration process. I wanted my fellow VJ'ers to offer me support. I wanted them to help me get through this process. But when everyone did not give me positive feedback, I honestly got hurt.
But I am hear to tell anyone going through this process that we have to listen to the good, the bad, and the ugly because this process is very difficult. We can learn from everyone here.
I was open and honest and so were my fellow VJ'ers. Everyone has their own way of expressing themselves. We have to embrace everything we are told no matter how hurtful it is. Remember that we are already in pain because we are away from our loved ones so when we hear something we do not like, it is like someone has poured salt on our wound. But that is ok. We have to listen because this process is not a cake walk. We have to prove our intentions. We have to be forthcoming. We must celebrate those who do get approved in less than four months because it means our time is coming too.
The experienced VJ'ers are just giving us a preview of what we will probably be facing. LISTEN and LISTEN well because they know their stuff.
I have learned that I was naive in thinking that I would be one of the lucky ones who would be approved in less than 4 months. I have learned that because of the details of my relationship that it is likely that the CO will not believe my husband truly loves me because I am so much older than he is. I have learned that this process can take years. No I did not want to hear that, and I am sure you do not either. But the reason they told me these things was to help me, not to hurt me.
I have learned to produce as much proof as possible. MORE is better than less. I have learned that losing my patience means wasting precious energy and time.
I would like to thank everyone who has tried to help me. Thank God for the kind and compassionate. And thank God for the straight talkers who provide the tough love I need to get through this process.
I am listening now.

My fellow past VJ'ers, present, and future VJ'ers,
I joined Visa Journey because I was very scared when I started reading bad stories about the immigration process. I wanted my fellow VJ'ers to offer me support. I wanted them to help me get through this process. But when everyone did not give me positive feedback, I honestly got hurt.
But I am hear to tell anyone going through this process that we have to listen to the good, the bad, and the ugly because this process is very difficult. We can learn from everyone here.
I was open and honest and so were my fellow VJ'ers. Everyone has their own way of expressing themselves. We have to embrace everything we are told no matter how hurtful it is. Remember that we are already in pain because we are away from our loved ones so when we hear something we do not like, it is like someone has poured salt on our wound. But that is ok. We have to listen because this process is not a cake walk. We have to prove our intentions. We have to be forthcoming. We must celebrate those who do get approved in less than four months because it means our time is coming too.
The experienced VJ'ers are just giving us a preview of what we will probably be facing. LISTEN and LISTEN well because they know their stuff.
I have learned that I was naive in thinking that I would be one of the lucky ones who would be approved in less than 4 months. I have learned that because of the details of my relationship that it is likely that the CO will not believe my husband truly loves me because I am so much older than he is. I have learned that this process can take years. No I did not want to hear that, and I am sure you do not either. But the reason they told me these things was to help me, not to hurt me.
I have learned to produce as much proof as possible. MORE is better than less. I have learned that losing my patience means wasting precious energy and time.
I would like to thank everyone who has tried to help me. Thank God for the kind and compassionate. And thank God for the straight talkers who provide the tough love I need to get through this process.
I am listening now.

I am an early November filer. I waited until six months and contacted my Senator, no help. I requested a service request and I received an e-mail stating that we were still in background checks, inquire again in six months. I have sent them 3 more e-mails since then and they are not waivering.
This is definitely unfair. We are all still in background checks when others have been approved in 30, 60, 90, 120 days and personally I do not believe our files have even been looked at. Our lives are being held hostage by the immigration system. We are experiencing judgements due to age discrimination and religious backgrounds. Personally I believe our constitutional rights are being trashed because we fell in love with someone from another country.
Well they better get used to it because with modern technology, this is going to happen more and more. The immigration department acts like it must be fraud if their is age differences and religious differences. Give me a break. There are thousands of age differences and religious differences marriages between US Citizens.
I definitely want to be protected from terrorists, but come on with today's modern technology, it is pretty easy to check someone's background.
As far as fraud. If they make it to the United States and they are frauds, the petitioner will put them on a plane back to their country.
Bless your heart, what I am trying to say is we are all in this together. We are all being held hostage and I do not intend to let them break me. They are messing with the wrong woman now. I will scream this injustice to the roof tops because it is so wrong. I have witnessed so many people go through so much pain on this website and it just is not fair.
DO NOT GIVE UP HOPE! THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT! YOU ARE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN!!! YOUR SPOUSES AND FUTURE SPOUSES ARE WORTH THE WAIT!!!!

Perfect and excellent advice Bob. Sweetheart, you are obviously a good and caring person. You need to realize this man cares nothing about you so do not waste you time with him. Do exactly what Bob says. I promise you it is for your best.