Just be patient! VSC actually is not that bad from what i have seen. We were at CSC and had a HUGE delay once we were approved. It took them forever to send our case to NVC... Whereas VSC has been shipping them on much faster.
In this process I think everyone will be slowed down at one point or another (be it at the service center or in shipping or in waiting for a case number at NVC) but in the end you will probably finish up much sooner than the 9 months. Our estimate was 5 months and it only took 3. You will need lots of patience and friends and family to keep your mind occupied while waiting. Think positive thoughts and maybe plan a trip to see your spouse in 2 months. that will break up the waiting nicely. Thats what we did and I could not have made it through this without that visit! Kept me strong! You can do this
I filed my taxes as single as we didn't get married until Feb 6 2011. When filing taxes you are reporting information for the previous year.. In this case 2010. If you didn't get married until early 2011 then single status is correct for 2010! Even if you filed after you got married you still didnt get married IN 2010 so single is