DeeDee&Sam

I never said I would leave without anything. I wouldnt leave without anything. he said he wanted to give me a notarized declaration stating he allows me to take the baby out of the country and give me full custody. I dont trust any man or woman when they just "give their word". For now Im working on his citizenship one thing at a time

This 100%. ^

While you may feel you can say "well we had an agreement". When it comes to child custody, there is no enforceable agreement UNLESS it's on paper. So you can say "well he said!" all you want, if you don't have a paper to prove that is what was said, then you can get in some big trouble if he pulls the parental kidnapping card. He could straight up lie about it "well she said she was going to visit and never came back!" but without you, the person with the child, having documentation that you could infact take the child and custody worked out, you have no ground to stand on if he claims you kidnapped the baby.

Thank you everyone. I have no reason to stay in the US because I moved here to be with my husband. Nothing ties me to this place, no friends or family. I was already looking into talking to a lawyer but I couldn't pay one. Im a stay at home mom. The baby doesnt have Romanian citizenship yet, but we're working on it before anything else. His dad said he wants to be removed from the baby's romanian birth certificate. If I leave I dont want child support or anything, I can take care of him myself

Yes, he's allowing me to get the baby and leave the country and have full custody of him in case of separation. He said he doesn't want to have anything to do with the baby and he doesn't want the baby to know who his father is

By sign do you mean he will give you a notorized letter allowing you to take the child ?

My husband (the american citizen) has an addiction and he chose that over his family. We have a 4 month old son and I want to leave back to my home country as soon as possible. I'm still in the removal of conditions process that I'm going to abandon. I need to know what are the steps of leaving. My passport is expired so Im renewing it, and my (still) husband is going to sign when we make our son's passport. Do I need anything else to leave, like a signature at the airport or anything?

usually immigrants for so little time dont have anywhere to go. yeah kick her out of the house or "send" her back and don't look back to see if she's sleeping in a cardboard box under a bridge

I think that was terribly rude. everyone with curly hair knows that making it look "tamed" is most of the times impossible. i dont know if it was racist but it was rude. don't let everything bother you, try to just ignore the thoughts. ive never been a victim of racism because im white, but ive been a victim of nationality based discrimination and i know its hard to cope with. you'll always find someone to treat you like that, here on vj as well, even though this is an immigration forum. dont let them get to you. you being strong will be the worst punishment you can give them. they love to see you down, dont give them the satisfaction. *hugs*

just letting everyone know i followed your advice and told my husband to file for unemployment even if he got fired. the place where he worked pretty much refused to talk to the ones investigating the claim and he was approved. this will be a lesson hopefully not to listen to what people say and check into it by ourselves. thank you so much

I can only throw out ideas and you ahve to sort through to figure out which oen suits your individual needs.

It seems that it's just the two of you, no kids.

So how about looking at sharing an apartment or renting a room in a house in a big city? Sure you'll loose some privacy but it should be on a short term basis.

Have him start looking at benefits for himself. He should be at the Unemployment Office soonish but not sure how the government shutdown affects that service.

I've also read about stuff like shuttling cars for people on uShip.Com (yuou'll get to see the country at someones benefit) or house sitting, pet sitting, etc but most of this occurs in bigger cities.

we don't mind the sharing option, actually we're living with someone else in the house which doesn't bother us at all. the unemplyment now became priority since we didnt know we could benefit from it.

Desperate situations demand desperate measures. Also do not take advises without verifying them from various sources one of which should be official.

Husband qualifies for all sorts of things, just not you.

You will have to look for work outside of our little hamlet. How you will do this I do not know but you just can't sit there.

I am truly sorry to hear this and I hope things work out for you Guys.

thank you. i've been trying to figure out every little thing but there's always something in the way. leaving aside the problem with the transportation, how will we be able to pay the deposists for the rent, electric bill, water bill, internet bill. the deposits and first month of rent are all togheter over 1000 dollars. we pay 350$ rent where we live now. bigger towns with more job opportunities have bigger rents resulting in bigger deposits. we're literally stuck so bad that i don't seem to see any way out. we were supposed to get a car to look for a job outside this town and have a way to get there and back, but the car was 1500$ and the situation we're in is either use the money we have to live another month, or get the car and sleep in it

honestly, i don't think he was using you for the GC. thats a common phrase when someone gets mad at their spouses. it's something to make you hurt intentionally, words said at rage. now the thing with the dollar bills was pathetic. i've been through something very similar with my husband's family, but in the end he realised they were wrong and chose to be with me and me only. you're husband is not a man enough, he's a brat who needs to grow up and realise he has a wife and a new life and not hang by his daddy's pants like a lil' kid

. File for unemployment. People often think that only laid-off employees are eligible for these benefits. However, in most states, fired employees can collect too, as long as they weren't fired for intentional misconduct. It can take a while for benefits to kick in, so file right away.

http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/outside-voices-careers/2012/06/25/10-things-you-should-do-immediately-after-being-fired

http://unemploymenthandbook.com/unemployment-articles/all-about-unemployment/181-can-you-get-unemployment-if-you-get-fired

thank you i'll check that right away. shouldn't have listened to what people say in the first place

Yes, it is possible to get it, but I don't know if you've waited too long already. That is a benefit is not tied to immigration status, and would be available to you too, if you had worked. It's an insurance payout, not a handout.

If you need other assistance, like welfare or food stamps, the USC can get it, but he will have to count your income (which I guess is none) and then not count you in your household size.

This happened in july i hope it's not too late. He applied for multiple jobs, almost everything that he found here . I didn't work because his salary was high enough for us to live good and have extra so I stayed a house wife.

Have you considered looking for jobs outside the little town you live in, and then move wherever either one of you guys can find one? I hope everything works out for you, best of luck.

Of course we did, but we don't own a car, we have no type of public transportation in the little forgotten place we live in. It's like a ghost town. Also, we're completely on our own. If we had any family or friends to help us move to the nearest place with enough jobs we would have done it long time ago. We even applied to home based customer support jobs, last one few days ago, and all we've been told is that we'll be notofied when there's an opening, which could take weeks or months.

Did he get unemployment when he was fired?

he didn't. someone told him he can't get unemployment if he gets fired, only if he gets layd off. is he possible to get it?

I've moved here in september 2011 and got married 10 days later. My husband (usc) was working full time until this year when he got fired because he got sick and had no sick days left. He had the job for 3 years working a hard labor and when he got until july and he pulled his retirement funds out for us to be able to live. We applied for every possible job here since then and we got no response from anywhere. We live in a very small town with almost no job openings. We're running out of money and I don't know how much we'll be able to pay our rent and bills. I know he signed an affidavit of support but is there any way for him to get government assistance? I know I'm not allowed to but if he doesn't we'll end up living on the streets. We had no idea he was going to lose his job like this when he applied for K1 to bring me here. I have a conditional green card and I should renew it in july 2014. Will that affect it? Any advice would help

i absolutely hated here at first because i was coming from a big city into the middle of nowhere. took me over a year to adapt. i still hate this place more than anything, but i love my husband so i stay for him until we find a way to move. it seems to me like she never loved you. if she loved you she would learn to accept the new way of life. im sorry

put you in jail?????? for what reason? he cant put you in jail, dont give importance to that nonsense. you can always go home, but if you really wanna stay, you can apply for VAWA, the mental abuse is a little harder to prove but you can always try.

now lets be serious if she wants to stay its HER choice and hers only. i gave up everything i had in my country so going back would be suicidal without anything there. let's not judge this

im so sorry...i dont know you, but reading this brought tears to my eyes. i dont know how you can be so strong. if anything happened to my husband i would do something stupid. i hope you get the strenght to continue your life in a close to normal way, because i know theres no way to actually get over the passing of the person you love the most

felicitari! merita asteptarea

congratulations. wish the best to her

thanx guys. if anyone needs help with the process drop me a note. i'll be glad to share and help

ok this is a fake load of BS from a person who only wants to live in the states . my opinion, judge me if you want.

on topic.if this was to be true, that person doesnt love you like they should. i give you my marriage as an example. im born and raised christian orthodox. through my own studies about religion, i became a wiccan. one of the 3 branches anyway. still, after marriage, me and my husband, who's raised in another religion talked about it. i want to baptise my babies the same way i was baptised, leaving aside my wiccan faith. after telling my husband why i want that, he OFFERED to change to orthodox religion, that i also keep, no matter what i believe in. not because im a christian, but because i was raised like that. that's a way of showing love and respect, not what your wife was doing. you can never force someone to convert to any religion. if they wanna do it they will do it without being asked to.

religion is a topic that should never be discussed. it belongs to one's privacy and it only leads to arguments and fights

thank you <3 not as long as other people here on vj but i was blessed/or not with not a patient personality lol

after following tbone's advice and also spamming uscis with phone calls this week, they approved it and very very surprisingly, the aos was approved and greencard mailed on the SAME day. didnt know it was possible but got to see it myself. to everyone having trouble with uscis , dont't just stay there and wait. REMIND them, that you exist and their people get payd from YOUR money to do their job. thank you everyone <3 god bless

Please call to double check that USCIS has actually managed to update your address in their system. I figured that after performing no less than three steps to change our address (AR11, phone call, I-865), they would have managed to enter it into their system. But no, the ineptitude of USCIS never fails to surprise, as I accidentally discovered while talking to a tier 2 service rep last week. If you search the forums, it seems that this is not uncommon either (example).

By the way, I don't think your timeline is at all out of the ordinary given that you were transferred to the CSC. Bad yes, but not out of the ordinary (unfortunately).

i figured they have it in their system because when my husband called they wanted to talk to me to confirm it's actually me. asked for the adress as well and what i said was correct. ill call again at the end of the week to double check IF my aos doesnt get approved by then.

i know it's not uncommon. unfortunatelly ive seen many people with this problem. what's wrong about it is that many of them let it happen and dont fight for it. when uscis says processing times is 6 months then make it 6 months, if not, give them hell until they finish working on the case, like it's supposed to be. after all, their workers are payd from our money

You moved a couple of times since you filed?

i moved once shortly after aos started, now i moved again, this time settled down probably for 2 years, but i solved it with USCIS and changed the adress by phone and filled the AR 11 ( i think that what it was). that wasnt a problem with them

tbone thanx that make me giggle LOL. i dunno if i spoke to an immigtaion officer, i just told the representative to transfer me to a higher person.

imma mail that letter the senator asked for, but since i cant find my NOA1 it bugs me he won't do anything

jim webbs is a joke. he didnt even bother to reply. what a poor excuse for a senator that says he's there to serve virginia

leave me tell you somethings maybe can help you leave your wife us citizen take a apointement in nearast uscis building and go there and bring whit you everythings your pasport and your copy of everythings and explaine to theme and iam sure is theme they will send to the place where they processing your gren card a email and make sure they give you a recipt ask theme to they give you reciept they send email and they will anser you and they will tell you what happend and where is your green card i hope its can help you this way

i'm the wife aka aplicant. both me and my husband talked to them both times. where we live and with no car there's no way to get to charleston (7 hours drive) for that.

they had the guts to tell me that the forms are not processed in the received order as well. they said depending on the country of origin the ones with the easiest background check are processed first. i think that's BS.

i contacted the second senator for VA and he replied already. he needs the correspondence between me and USCIS. the thing is all i have is noa1 for my aos and between 2 movings i can't find it. i looked for it all day today