KT and Xyrena

for me, culture. and maybe for others due to "dont talk to strangers" rule.

Thank you! I did email both consulates now and Manila (the right one) forwarded my same request to Bangkok consulate. As long as they are both aware, I'd be glad for now. Will just wait for Bangkok consulate to advise me once they receive the file.

He's a d*head. While in the Phils, I hope he'll NEED to find his way to a Filipino doctor and they will do something about it.

He's a d*head. While in the Phils, I hope he'll NEED to find his way to a Filipino doctor and they will do something about it.

He's a d*head. While in the Phils, I hope he'll NEED to find his way to a Filipino doctor and they will do something about it.

oh! I remember, someone in this forum is a god and knows everything. "many doctors in the Philippines are quacks" that's like saying most of the Americans are a-hole. hmm reminds me of someone familiar.
Thanks to the quack doctors that learned through Philippine education system, for you can concur that your wife is a quack nurse.
It's amazing how you can see potholes about my country yet again you keep coming back.

Yes, I "heard", that's why I am checking.
You do know that your posts are always pointless. You should try to have some purpose in your life.
Please stop talking.

Eh.. I don't think there is any reason for that type of a response. The OP obviously had not familiarized himself with immigration laws and regulatiosn well enough before getting into this situation, but they have filed paperwork and hired a lawyer in attempt to be here legally. Yes, he should have been aware of the policies and procedures himself - but it doesn't seem to me that he purposly tried to go around the system and illegally or through deception gain a residence permit in the US.
Immigrating to the US would be a mess of bureaucracy with or without people who overstay, and I doubt the waiting times would really go down even if people suddenly entirely stopped overstaying their visas. It's not as if DHS, or USCIS for that matter, is spending their time running around the country chasing down people who have overstayed their welcome in the US, unless that particular person happens to be in some type of a "most wanted" - list as well.
I am not saying that overstaying a visa is a good thing, or necessarily "acceptable" - I am all for proper planning, reading instructions and guidelines and being aware of the responsibilities and limitations attached to any piece of legal paperwork. However,I don't think there is any reason to attack the OP on this issue. He came, he filed for a green card, he overstayed, now he is trying to figure out whether or not he can legally stay here.
According to my knowledge, no one here is an immigration judge. No need to get nasty.

If you're willing to put up triple the fees for a faster process, then that would be what it would take. Extra man power.
The people on VJ are only a very small percentage of the people filing/the cases that USCIS has to go through. Every case has to have the background checks, the evidence checks, has to be looked at carefully, etc.
From what I see, it's actually gotten better from what it used to be, so be thankful.
Actually, be thankful you have the opportunity to bring your loved one here. It would be just as easy for the Government to say "nope" to all cases like these. That's something to consider and something that would truly be UNACCEPTABLE.
There are bigger things to complain about, and there's always the option of you moving to your loved ones nation or trying to go elsewhere.

I'm not sure the Filipino culture of reciprocal support within the extended family is properly represented in this question often enough.
The moment it becomes one-sided it is no longer the Filipino cultural model.
The model is reciprocity. It is a mutual support network. Forget about Americanos for a moment. If a Filipino family is always giving labor and money to an Uncle's family and all the family gets in return is arrogance and ingratitude then that's a problem. That isn't the Filipino way.
Because there is an ocean between us, my wife can't have her sisters or cousins take care of our kids while we run off and play together. They'd be happy to do that for us but they can't. They are my work crew/bodyguards when I am over there, but they can't do that right now either.
So the Filipino model works better with us there because they can reciprocate in so many ways they can't with us in the USA.
If you do wish to help the family financially and if you live only in the USA I guess you are automatically in violation of the Filipino cultural model and there is danger of things going awry.
It is understandable why an americano would see this as "you support her family" instead of "families support each other". It's too bad. Because it isn't the Filipino way.

Wow, what a thread! I have to say, I agree with all of it!! When I proposed to my fiancee, I asked her to quit her job in Korea to move back to the PI for the visa process, but since she was sending money home for her family to live on, I felt it was my place to support her. So I have been sending money to her ever since. More than some, but I am sure not as much as others send. BLUF, I send it, neither she nor her family has EVER asked for it. And knowing them as I have come to, I doubt they ever WOULD ask for it, unless it was an emergency. And when she gets a job in the US, I am sure she will send some money to her family, but she will most likely never ask me to. And therein lies the difference... her family is poor but proud, and I think they would rather do without than beg or "expect" someone to support them.
It's Filipino culture to care for your family. Hell, it's LOTS of cultures that do it, not so much in America though. I knew that when I met my girl, and even though I offered to send her money, she does not like it, and I know she will go to school or work as soon as possible to make money and life better for she and I as well as her parents. If you marry a Filipina, you just have to understand that supporting Nanay and Tatay is normal. Not saying it should break your bank, but it's a cultural norm.
It's hard to say how best to handle the difference between you and your spouse, but I would encourage you to review all the changes she has made to be with you, how much she has accepted your culture, and see if you can find it in your heart to at least understand hers. Not saying you have to agree with all of it, but at least accept it as part of her genetic makeup. Their culture is not perfect, neither is ours. Your (both of you) willingness to find a happy middle ground is where it's at. Just as any other marital spat, there is no "he's right, she's wrong" in a situation like this.
If she insists on sending money home, and you can't see it as affordable now, then I strongly encourage her to find a job to help out. Then she has the added benefit of helping, plus feeling good that SHE did it, it's not a free-load deal.
At any rate, good luck working it out. Just remember how "worth it" she was when you were going thru the whole visa process... she is still the same person she was back then. Anything (or anyone) worth having is worth working for. And sometimes, work requires sacrifice...