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What a wonderful surprise this morning when DHL called and said they have a delivery!!! I am so happy to be here with him to receive this most wonderful of wonderful news....
CONGRATS!!!!!!!! chi
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I guess only modern 2000's type ppl think that kissing other women is ok.
i consider myself modern and it is NOT ok!!! never ever no way it is just plain wrong.
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I didnt not cheat I was looking for an external listener since no one want to listen to me , i was looking for friends since i dont have any friends, I didnt do anything, I have proves for that which the court will see it of course. And I will let you all know about it
and you just happened to pick a WOMAN to listen to you???
hey dude ya dont even DO THAT in Morocco how can you even consider it here in America---like i said---get out of the movies----this is real life.
ya gotta come up with sumtim better than that.
ya think you will be here long enough for court---er maybe the deportation one i guess.
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Huh?????
Dude I was giving you the benefit of the doubt by saying you shouldn't hang out alone with women if you don't want your wife to think you're cheating. I don't know if you were cheating or not but by having emotional relationships with women other than your wife it may be viewed that way. Maybe I'm a 60's person but if my husband started spending time alone with another female all kinds of warning bells would be going off. I don't think I'm alone in my thinking.
oh yeah...got that right and visa versa. you are not alone in thinking that for sure!!!!!!!!
married to each other ONLY!!!!
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FFFFFFFFFFFFFFF.............NOTHING justifies leaving a pregnant wife and cheating on her with another woman.
AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You know what, I was stupid to come and talk to some people that their mind still belong to 60's, I dont need to hear what you think or what you say, I was posting to just some growing up people that they use their mind before they talk,?
??? if you want me to list the 60's people I will starting from you moody
No, it was stupid of you to take your pee pee out of your pants and put it in another woman.
oh yep yep yep that is soooooooooooooo true!!!
60's like in the Beatles and Lawerence Welk!
gotta love the 'LOVE' generation dont ya?
chi
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Hi its me the BAD Moroccan, abuser, the cheater that this topic is all about, but Im replying hear to first response to Cherry, the way how you are thinking is what made your man leave you, you know because you are just thinking in one circle, so where was your bright thinking and genuis resolving for the issues when you went to Morocco, if you read so well and understand the whole things you will see that i left without a GC because i dont want to be told the same things you have said about your EX or whatever.
So who want to listen to the other side of the story? none ?
But here what I tell you all, It was my dream to have a kid was my dream to be a father, ok why did I leave then? I will answer, and am not regretting that I left
It all started when my brother needed money and i let him take some money from my account( which its my money, I pay the rent I pay the car loan, I my step daughter schooling fees), borrowed 18000 to get a new car, (on her name How stupid is that)......theres more..
will you let your mother swear at your husband and kick him out( was i married to that lady or was she paying my rent)
The only reason Am still staying in the US is to find what i can do to protect my kid and what will be my responsabilities, and Theres alots the court will decide and I cant wait for that,
From my experience i will tell alotof of you are a good wives by the way how you defend on your husband abscence!!! I was abused inside my house, and guess what my debit card and my money was all taking in the morning so i was left with anything,
JUST for you all to know Am a Arabic Moroccan Muslim that never get rid of his own ( my kid )
we know there are always 2 sides to a story but if you were truly sincere---you would have never come here and post all this about your wife. you would go and pray and ask Allah to help you and your wife.
you are on American soil dude and therefore your childs life will not be decided in your favor since you will be returning to Morocco. its just how it is done here. born in America with full American rights. here the mother has the say when the father is ABSENT. you can always choose to send money to support your child. that would be what a real father does. start by staying out of VJ and do the right thing. you want to make it look like you have every right to be with another women---get out of the movies---this is the REAL America!
chi
sorry OP for the disturbance
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You will have to forgive me, I dont know where taza is..I have no clue...
It's a city in Northern Morocco.
to be exact it is located bewteen the Rif and Atlas mountains. it is a short drive from Fes. its the oldest city in Africa.
chi
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I don't think all Moroccans get a bad rap but the article that was written and posted in VJ was in particular about Moroccans from Taza. Many of members seemed to agree based on what their husbands/fiance said about guys from Taza as well. I don't know how much truth there is to it, but the bottom line is that it has nothing to do with the country they are from. Its all about that persons intentions.
here ya go>>>
http://www.worldviewmagazine.com/issues/ar...43&issue=36
HOW ATLAS MEN MARRY
Chatting up single women all over the world
by Sharif Erik-Soussi
The Hajj and I generally keep our conversations limited to topics of health and weather because of either his disinterest or my poor Arabic. He may, on rare occasion, ask me if I worked that day, to which any response brings an “llyawn.” May God help you in your task. So it was of considerable surprise the day he asked me to teach him how to use the Internet. I couldn’t imagine that the Hajj, the grandfather of my hosting family, would have much use or much interest in the Internet. He has, on more than one occasion, seen me answering e-mail and asked me why there was no sound coming out of my “special television.”
I asked if he knew what the Internet was.
“No,” he replied. “But my wife is dead, and I know if you know how to use the Internet, you can marry a foreign bride.”
Taza, a city of about 200,000 nestled snugly in the only pass through the middle Atlas, has the blessing of a relatively high rate of education, the curse of higher unemployment and a glut of young people. The combination often forces its citizens to get creative to ensure a future. The easiest way is generally to leave, earn your money and then come back to take advantage of the low cost of living in Taza. But it’s not that easy in Morocco. People can’t just schlep off to the big city for a couple of years to earn their nest egg. Despite the western lifestyle available in Casablanca or Marrakech, getting even menial labor requires connections that most people in Taza just don’t have. Education and experience are often meaningless.
Given this, the emigration fever runs deeply. Indeed, one of the first things I noticed upon arriving here is that everyone wants to leave. Not that this is any different than other developing countries, but it’s more profound here in that the possibility is realistic enough to be tantalizing. Most younger Moroccans speak at least one European language fluently, and often several. You have only to go to Tangier to be able to see the coast of Spain. Every summer when Moroccans living in Europe have their holiday, they are welcomed back like conquering war heroes, the EU plates on their new cars a badge of honor. This is true everywhere in Morocco, but more so in Taza.
Following September 11, few in Taza could meet the more stringent U.S. immigration criteria, for example. Suddenly, just getting your diploma and applying for a visa to France or Belgium wasn’t a realistic option any more. Emigration became much more of a forbidden fruit. It didn’t take long for Moroccans to figure out that increasingly the most efficient way–often the only way–to get to a country with a currency worth earning is through marriage. But how to meet and marry a foreign woman? Enter: Internet chatting as the responsible career path for young jobless men.
From my understanding, it’s been about 10 years since the first Internet café sprung up in Taza, funded by a returned migrant from France looking for a low-maintenance low-risk investment for his European money. This is generally the story in Morocco. Most of the investment money is either old or foreign. Owners of cyber cafés are generally working-age men from wealthy families or returned migrants. Cyber cafés are popping up in Taza about once every couple of months, but demand still outweighs supply.
During the day, the cafés are generally quiet. The patrons may number no more than a few children playing generations-old video games while café employees pirate new music or movies for sale. But after the sun goes down and the town shakes off its afternoon siesta, the true character and purpose of the cyber café is revealed. What was in daylight a poorly ventilated room of 20 or 30 decade-old computers becomes the night-time hot spot of the town’s upwardly mobile younger class of males. There are always lines out the door.
Away from the oppressive heat of the town and 5 to 8 time zones ahead of the United States, these Internet Romeos try to catch women in the dregs of their workday who like to kill time before the end of the workday. Walk into any cyber café, and the scene is pretty much the same: Arabic pop blasting on an endless loop, children hawking single cigarettes and hard-boiled eggs, and a young man in sunglasses making kissy-face to a computer screen for the web cam. It looks like a Harrah’s casino with its bank of slot machines offering jackpots to lost souls. English classes are booming in popularity as the chatters, already fluent in French, look to tap into the enormous pool of singles in the United States. Those who already know their English find day work roaming cyber cafés helping chatters phrase a few romantic sentences. Groups of young Moroccan boys forego their movies and coffee shops to hang out with the café’s owner and discuss their prospects like fly fishermen in a tackle shop. Among the locals, the word “chat” is conjugated like an Arabic verb.
In small-town Morocco, the girls are frowned on if they leave the house for anything more than chores or visiting their relatives, especially in the evenings or where young men are at play in a cyber café. Women grow up under the greater prohibition against marrying a non-Muslim–it is religiously prohibited, culturally disgraceful and illegal. But women are now entering the cyber cafés, apparently frustrated with such a lifestyle. They tend to have less formal education and are, therefore, slower to adopt the chatting procedures. They enter wearing western clothes and makeup for the web cam. Generally, they do not appear to attach the same importance to acquiring a foreign spouse; they are more motivated by the social and entertainment value of the evening. Some, however, still hold out \the vague hope that they can find an immigrant Arab or Muslim somewhere in cyberspace for the sake of their families. Older women, and especially those who are no longer virgins, are more interested in a foreign spouse because they are less marriageable within the Muslim community. A woman who never marries does not live an enviable life in the Arab world.
The act of proposing to someone you have never met may sound ridiculous to many, but in Taza it happens. Inspired by the success stories of their friends or family, they are doing so in increasing numbers. Everyone I know knows someone that has married someone through the Internet. I’ve lived in Taza for a year and I know five men who have acquired internet brides.
In the Arab world, marriage has always been more of a contract than a joining of souls. There are certain things a man is supposed to do, certain things a woman is supposed to do, and if they can both do them successfully the deal is half done. They marry for the idea of what kind of life they will have with their spouse rather than how much they love one another. Love comes later, if at all. I had initially used this as a possible explanation for why people seemed, to my amazement, to be marrying carelessly fast. But a trip to the café with some friends revealed that it was more often the American on the other side of the screen that first raised the romantic intentions. What sounded initially like an orchestrated visa-centred manipulation turned out to be little more than taking advantage of a presented opportunity.
Living in a poor city does funny things to people. The desperation and frustration of it makes them believe in miracles, something from the outside world offering you a quick and permanent fix to a troubled existence. There is a well-known story of a poor Taza girl who was working on the assembly line of a local textile factory. She caught the eye of the factory owner, who had just flown in from Germany to see how the factory was doing. They married and now she occasionally visits her village in a Mercedes.
The folklore is not all encouraging. A young man who became engaged to what he thought was a 19-year-old rich girl quit his job, broke with his family and prepared for his one-way trip to the United States. To his shock and surprise, the woman he met at the airport was a 60-something woman recently widowed who had been chatting under her granddaughter’s profile. She had come to Morocco because her pension wasn’t enough to live on in the States. Embarrassed and without options he married the woman because she was the only meal ticket he had left. They now live a hermit-like existence, she unwilling to learn Arabic, he unwilling to face his former friends.
Many of the unions seem questionable at best. Call me insensitive, but I have a hard time believing that all the young men who are now commonly seen walking around Taza holding hands with women easily old enough to be their grandmothers would be doing so if there wasn’t a visa in the deal. I would sooner call them desperate measures for desperate times, and often did. But doing so ignores the larger truth that success stories are more common than marriages that end badly. More often than not, these young men make devoted and loving husbands and, increasingly, fathers. They work, they send money home to their parents and siblings, and they live their new life with some degree of success. It remains to be seen if they will ever return to this lovely little town in eastern Morocco, but having that choice certainly beats out living here bitterly.
Over a cup of mint tea, the owner of my local store told me about his best friend, Ali, who left for Florida to marry a woman he met through a chat program. Ali has done well with two businesses, a home furnishings store and selling large Allah-emblazoned pendants to hip hop fans in Los Angeles.
I met Ali when he came back to Taza for a visit.
We talked about his business, his new life in Florida, his youth in Taza. He said he was excited to get back to Florida.
“Worried about your business?” I asked.
“No” He replied. “I miss my wife.”
“Taza will always be dear to me, but it’s not home anymore. My home now is wherever she is.”
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Sharif Erik-Soussi is a Peace Corps volunteer working in small-business development in Taza, Morocco.
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I am so sorry for you, these guys are good at what they do,
he might have not really taken in how much change this would be for him. I have heard countless storeis like this, myself have my own nightmere. 
So at least his family is on your side, he is a ######, looks like he was looking for a green card. I have heard that in Morocco they all are at the cafes looking for american women. They find one and they are in love and ready for marriage, only to come here, and later send for their real muslim wife. If you feel like talking just throw me a line, you are doing the right thing by warning others, that this does happen alot. I also had the young men tell me that they look for women that american men would not take so they feel they are deopserate.I am feeling ya
Sherry
Hamdy sherry post a timeline or get your troll ### out of here. And I am not married to a Moroccan. I for one find your comments offensive about Moroccans and demeaning
ditto here---me too---it is not needed here. i AM married to a Moroccan, this is not the topic! this woman needs support not you opinions.
chi
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yikes major mess up---i thought you first posted you filed a K3.
i see you filed a K1---big difference.
K3 is for married couples only
K1 if for fiances only.
there is ALSO a big differenc in how these two separate petitions are handled. yours will be trashed since you are not married.
you need to get your senator---ummm your fiance needs to get her senator and congressman involved. they can make an inquiry as to the reason you were denied a visa. this is the first step she has to take. she will have to call them and fax over a release for them to get involved.
look i am sure you are hanging on to every word this attorney is telling you. ask him---has he ever dealt with a 221g letter stating the petition is being returned because the applicant is not eligible for a visa? ask. sees what he says. if you want the best attorny who has dealt with these types of problems i can put you in contact with him via his e mail. he posts here on VJ too.
chi
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thanks no worry i have deleted the number and my real name
yes i get your message thanks
what do i think i should do because as i said i don't want to mess things up
my lawyer said let's wait this week
you want the truth? your attorney is an idiot. your case has been RETURNED> meaning DENIED.
most attorneys know nothing in this area of immigration. please DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY MORE MONEY.
your friend DID NOT get the same 221 g letter as you did and receive a visa in 8 weeks. this not possible. you are not understanding what i am trying to tell you.
i told you there are TWO 221g letters given out.
his letter was the OTHER 221g letter for AP---security checks--then he gets a visa if he clears them.
your 221g letter is the one that has DENIED you a visa. you are NOT waiting on security checks like your friend was. your case is being returned to immigration saying you are ineligible for a visa.
send an email to the consulate and they will tell you to contact USCIS. dont go by 'what you hear'. this is the biggest problem in Morocco---everyone is talking and comparing their cases. bad idea. you need to understand exactly what your letter says and you do not.
maybe you can have your wife contact me and i can explain it to her or let her read what i wrote you. there is nothing more i can do for you until you understand exactly what has happened to you.
YOU HAVE BEEN DENIED A VISA AND YOUR THE PETITION YOUR WIFE FILED IS BEING SENT BACK TO BE REVOKED---meaning thrown in the garbage.
sorry these are just the facts.
when you want the best advice and help let me know.
ummm....someone else jump in here and help this poor fellow understand.
chi
little edit there---ineligible---it say so right on the letter!
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PS...this is what i do---find couples just like you and help them. this happened to me and my husband in 2003. you are in now what i call the immigration nightmare zone---a big black hole that is swallowing up innocent couples every day.
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thanks no worry i have deleted the number and my real name
yes i get your message thanks
what do i think i should do because as i said i don't want to mess things up
my lawyer said let's wait this week
you want the truth? your attorney is an idiot. your case has been RETURNED> meaning DENIED.
most attorneys know nothing in this area of immigration. please DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY MORE MONEY.
your friend DID NOT get the same 221 g letter as you did and receive a visa in 8 weeks. this not possible. you are not understanding what i am trying to tell you.
i told you there are TWO 221g letters given out.
his letter was the OTHER 221g letter for AP---security checks--then he gets a visa if he clears them.
your 221g letter is the one that has DENIED you a visa. you are NOT waiting on security checks like your friend was. your case is being returned to immigration saying you are eligible for a visa.
send an email to the consulate and they will tell you to contact USCIS. dont go by 'what you hear'. this is the biggest problem in Morocco---everyone is talking and comparing their cases. bad idea. you need to understand exactly what your letter says and you do not.
maybe you can have your wife contact me and i can explain it to her or let her read what i wrote you. there is nothing more i can do for you until you understand exactly what has happened to you.
YOU HAVE BEEN DENIED A VISA AND YOUR THE PETITION YOUR WIFE FILED IS BEING SENT BACK TO BE REVOKED---meaning thrown in the garbage.
sorry these are just the facts.
when you want the best advice and help let me know.
ummm....someone else jump in here and help this poor fellow understand.
chi
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salam to u all....hope everything is going well with everyone
does anyone know the website of the US embassy through which i type in my case number and i wd just follow my case and see in which stage i am??
its urgent ... thank u sooo much
geez louise why has no one answered this?
ok go to USCIS.GOV>>>>>>
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis
to find out about your case status go here>>>>
https://egov.uscis.gov/cris/jsps/index.jsp
sign up and you will be able to access your info
chi
These links are only for the petition, what about the case once it reaches Cairo and after the interview?
then one has to contact the consulate directly. thought that is what was asked...tracking the steps of the petition---me wrong---sorry
chi
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you should never post your personal information here! this is a public forum.
did you read my posts to you? did you get my e mail?
i am here to help you.
chi
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oh i am so sorry this has happened to you. i know you may hear this over and over and perhaps feel we cant possibly understand and while that my be true we can empathize with you and support you. you have a life growing in you. how wonderful is that? the father is the one who is going to end up losing, not you. you chose to keep your child despite the circumstances. i too cant get over---get rid of it. heartless. he doesnt deserve you sweetie.
you need to take care of yourself and your little one growing inside. try to elimiate as much stress as you can. i know, easier said than done. but you made one strong decision to keep your child you can take baby steps(no pun intened) each day to heal from the pain he has caused you and then remember what you do have. you did not cheat, he did. it is natrual to go through these feelings you are having after a break up. the best thing for you is to be good to you. do things that make you feel good. do what you have not done. go places--see people. do what brings a smile to your face even if it is just once a day. time to pamper YOU!
lol---this may sound weird--but bear with me. another wonderful 'treatment' so to speak is what i call MIRROR work. its sounds silly and if you really do it you will feel silly at first but then you will come to relize the truth of what you are saying. i learned this after my devastating divorce years ago. it was amazing how it helped me. i hope you try it to see if it helps you.
ok here it is>>>
you stand--sit whatever feels better to you---i always stood until i got brave enough to sit, look at yourself---really look at yourself. then start talking. say positive things. you are a wonderful person---say your YOUR name. your name are a beautiful person. like i said it can be difficult at first but keep going. do it each day. add as many positives about yourself---doesnt matter if you believe them just speak them to YOU.
if it helps then good. you will have a better day and there is another added benifit---you will have had your pep talk to set the tone for your day. you can add other stuff to this routine but this is the main thing---you build you back up!!
remember there are many here who will also do the same. when it gets tough give it to us!! my heartfelt prayers to you and your baby.
chi
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salam to u all....hope everything is going well with everyone
does anyone know the website of the US embassy through which i type in my case number and i wd just follow my case and see in which stage i am??
its urgent ... thank u sooo much
geez louise why has no one answered this?
ok go to USCIS.GOV>>>>>>
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis
to find out about your case status go here>>>>
https://egov.uscis.gov/cris/jsps/index.jsp
sign up and you will be able to access your info
chi
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thanks but did u experience this as well , and u said it back for more checking so it's not denied yet !!!!!!!
i am so sorry to inform you that you were DENIED a visa and your case has been sent back to USCIS for revocation. i posted a reply to your other thread and i think you did not read it. please read it.
there are TWO letters that are called 221g. i explained it all in that thread.
i have been through this process. read the thread about returned petitions. that is a start. also give this info to your wife (you are married?) if not then there is more you need to know about returned K1's. you will have to refile a new petition.
chi
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there are TWO 221g letters.
one is for AP.
there is absolutly nothing you can do to speed this process. so be happy and hang in there.
THEN there is the SECOND 221g letter that is a NIGHTMARE.
you need to know which one you have.
the SECOND one says your petiton is being returned to USCIS. this means you were DENIED a visa and the consulate is asking USCIS to REVOKE your petition.
have the letter scanned and read exactly what it says. it is so sad that no one here told you that there are TWO 221g letters that are given to applicants. i hope your is in AP.
feel free to ask any questions.
chi
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any time frame as to when you will have the answers?
chi
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To make it as clear as I can. Thank God, my case was not denied and I never claimed to know how to deal with that. But on the advise of my lawyer and all the investigations I tried to do on my own to figure out the best way to handle the immigration process I choose this path, which in turn cost me a job. I haven't shared all the hardships I've gone through, like some of you so you don't know my background and this might be one reason you don't respect the things I have learned throughout this hard process.
To respond to "most case are DECIDED for approval or denial PRIOR to the interview." ------------>I think you answered yourself. This is why I did it. From what I learned from the lawyer and research I wanted to show in my application our committment to the marriage. My biting the bullet to stay in Morocco as long as I did, even at the cost of losing my job with everything else we did, luckily resulted in my husband getting his visa.
Luckily financially I didn't require a co-sponser, but to be safe I had a second co-sponser, so my husband had two, one more of my many attempts to assure nothing I could've done was left undone. In short I believe those that do not do their homework and prepare to the best of there abilities have only themselves to blame, no matter which stage of the immigration they find themselves at. But we all know the cases in Morocco are not always done by the rules, or at least how we have read them. That is why I did everything humanly possible to prepare to make my husbands case go through as smoothly as possible.
Please do not think I am saying I know what to do if you are denied. And please do not take any insult in anything I say, if you have been denied, I am only trying to help. Think of it it this way, I am trying to be on your left shoulder trying to get you little ideals of different ways of looking at the process so you outside the known rules to succeed with your cases. That doesn't mean you don't have a long road in front of you, alot of homework to become an expert on the immigration rules and a lot of decisions on how to fix your cases as best you can.
Since I am only trying to help, please stop attacking me and just because my case wasn't denied doesn't mean I have nothing to offer you. That doesn't make since, why would you deny help just because I wasn't denied. If I was denied, I'd be seeking help from under every rock I could find and then I'd make rocks....
God Bless all of you and hope you are successful, but please stop attacking my attempt to help.
Paula
once again Paula you are wearing your emotions on your sleeves. i cannot see anyone attacting you. no one is insulting you either. actually you are doing the blaming>>>>
In short I believe those that do not do their homework and prepare to the best of there abilities have only themselves to blame, no matter which stage of the immigration they find themselves at.
quite a harsh statement---who is attacking who?
however...
if you want to share your difficult immigration experience on VJ that is a great idea!
many of us have found most immigration attorneys have no clue as to how to handle denied cases. yet we paid dearly for this help. many also "paid" for attorneys to file their petitions and were still denied. many couples paid dearly and got nothing. how is this NOT preparing?
like you stated no one knows the problems many have gone through regarding their case. you mention no one knows or understands how much you went through. i am sure Paula there are many of us who do understand. but this is not the issue here. the issue is how to deal with a 'denial'. how more simple can it me said? no one is discounting your experience at all. the problem is you have none when it comes to having your case denied----thank God for that too!
you certainly may offer up your ideas and suggestions but those of us who have been there and done it will come and offer up our experience based on such. the only thing i disagreed with you on is quiting ones job. bad suggestion. who is going to pay all the fees and costs relating to a denied case??? come on, let's have some common sense here.
chi
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Paula, I am sorry that you think I am attacking you because I am not. Your response just caught me off guard because it was stated initially as if that was the solution to the problems. We are just talking about a very serious issue and we are trying to guide them the best way for the long journey ahead of them, not some quick fix. I made some pretty drastic sacrifices that would also prove our relationship was real, but we were never even given the opportunity to show any of it to the interviewer, so in my mind once you are at this stage it is pretty futile to try to prove it to the consulate anything because they have already made up their mind. If I would have quit my job I would have just one more issue that I would have to deal with once the petition was re affirmed.
If I were an Immigration officer, and I saw that a woman quit her job for the soul reason to be with her husband immediately I would have to question that. In my mind a responsible person would not walk away from their responsibilities because they can't live without their husband. A mature person would hang in there play the game their way. I would want the petitioner to prove to me that they made a mature responsible choice when they got married, not one driven by an infatuation.
My husband was fed up with the immigration and actually tried to convince me to give up everything and move there. Okay, lets say I had done that. Where would we be now? We would have had our I-130 re affirmed, it would have gone to the consulate, and there it would have been denied because I no longer qualified as a sponsor. Not all of us have the luxury, nor would I have ever asked anyone to have sponsored my husband. I view it as my responsibility.
I am not saying that you don't have any good advice, but on the other hand your comments that some of us are "know it alls" were uncalled for. It sounded as if you were discounting Chi's experience as unviable. Chi was deeply affected by her denial, as was I. In fact, we have even ran into many lawyers that haven't got the slightest idea how to deal with returned case. This makes it even worse because they can actually guide you in the wrong direction and feel good about taking your money for it. I know because I had one. She filed a FOIA, charged me $500.00, and it turned out that she filed it to the USCIS not the Department of State. And on top of that she didn't know that they are not even allowed to give out the reason for denials. So wasted money on my part.
Please don't stop giving advice, just keep in mind that perhaps some of us have a little more knowledge in areas that you have never had to deal with.
Well you sure didn't understand what I was saying and how I was trying to help. You don't know my situation and I was not immature and infatuated so much I jumped into this. I did not quit my job, I was preapproved to go to Morocco by my employer, but I am not a fool I knew I might get burned. But in my case I had no choice or I still would've have even met my husband let alone marry. But I know now no matter how much I attempt to explain you will not be able to see no all cases are similiar.
I guess all I get for trying to help is being called immature and infaturated. For those who are needing help, just don't forget all cases are different, that you will have to prove your case, so do what is right from you and don't trust anyone as an export. Become your own export, and make your own decisions. If I had followed some of these peoples advice I would've been denied too and I don't wish that on anyone.
God Bless those trying to be with their love.
Plus please drop this train, get back to sharing ideals to help people, instead of saying you know better than someone else and that they are immature if you don't agree with them.
Back to the mission at hand, get these visas...................................
Paula
Paula please stop taking things said so personal. she never said you were immature and infatuated. somehow it appears you read into more than what is actually said. no one here is an expert. yet there are those of us who have been down the road of denial and therefore can offer suggestions as what the couple will be facing in their trip down this nightmare road. this is all we offer. we dont claim to know it all. i can only give my experience. where is yours? as sincere as your advice is--it is still not the wisest choice to make when faced with a denial.
everyone can glean suggestions from all of our experiences here on VJ. that why VJ is here. you can always give your experience and be helpful in many areas of the immigration process. however, denial is one road you have not been down so i can see why you may not understand why your advice in that area might not be helpful or even wise sometimes.
once it again you may need to look at why you take this particular subject so personal.
chi
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Wow you really do take things personally, so I won't even bother. You are right that no 2 cases are the same, and I don't believe I have ever said that, but yes, we owe it to do the research ourselves. You don't know our situations either, so keep that in mind as you try to bash those of us that have had denials. I did do my research, and obviously I did it well, as did Chi. We overcame our denials. Just don't discount our ideas to those that need guidance.
Nuf said..........
yes, it appears that way to me as well. one need not take all that is said and done to heart.
no offense meant to ANYONE.
chi
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you're an idiot. don't you have something useful to do???
there is plenty she can do. and get her man here too.
now what is it that US guys won't talk about?
you are a waste of human life IMHO.