The whole process is outrageous

[athena_ny 1]

you have support if your not insulting and attacking members left and right, if you want to insult and attack, then you wont find much support here

Ion, it was not me who lobbed the first dung ball.

Thanks, Rakkus.

No dung balls were thrown by anyone, though. Xanax was suggested and I said put up or shut up (go through the process and deal with it to do what you have to or go elsewhere, really) but your reaction was a far cry from the reaction of a well-adjusted individual who is willing to do what it takes to get their fiance/spouse permanent residency. Are any of us happy with the system? No. But it's much more effective for us to deal with it, educate whoever we can, then protest after the fact (our futures are at stake, after all) or while stuck in name check. My own father had no idea what it takes, and was shocked - I tell whoever will listen what some people are put through, because our journey was rather painless aside from the expenses.

The best thing you can do at the moment is educate yourself, read the guides, ask productive questions about where this goes or when this is done or this or that - the kind of dialog opened with featherB. Positive energy bears more positive energy, and negative energy just builds on existing negative energy.

[alaskaone 0]

Now you tell us you are rich & don't care about fees. One might not have to wonder too much why your first overseas marriage didn't work....

Ah, a lie and then a personal attack.

Relatively well off does not mean "rich" or "don't care about fees". Oh, and I'll insult INS any time they deserve it. As for not doing research, why yes... I'm just totally making everything up.

Anyway, thanks to the folks who've offered good advice. For those who wish to meekly submit to bureaucratic authoritarianism... well, good luck. It's certainly the path of least resistance.

Sorry for the hubbub, Cat lady.

I'm off to absorb more abuse from Joy.

[Mags 112]

Okay. I can't see this progressing any way but even further downhill so I'm going to lock it.

Thanks.